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By *awandOrder OP   Couple
over a year ago

SW London

Is there such a thing as a stereotype male fantasy? Do women have a different set of fantasies? Is it to do with who is in dominant and gets more sexual partners? This comes from a different thread that brought up the debate about whether a specific act is something men or women fantasize about? The whole bi thing was not debated, so throw that into the mix too. Where do you think your fantasies stem from? I can't say anything succinctly, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My earliest fantasies involved men and women together. I was about 12.

I doubt that's a stereotypical fantasy for a guy. Perhaps it is for a bisexual though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Based on an outline knowledge of evolutionary psychology I would expect men and women (broadly) to have divergence in their most appealing fantasies.

However, within a group (i.e women) there will be significant individual differences. This means that some women will enjoy fantasies that are typically male dominated. Just like some women like football.

It's factually incorrect to assume those women are being brainwashed into liking said fantasies. That's not to say some men don't try to push their wives one way or another. But the difference is usually pretty easy to spot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I did it my fantasy was always to see two guys playing together, no idea why I just knew that I would like it and when it happened i wasn't wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thread !!! I will need time to think about it but very good thread

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By *awandOrder OP   Couple
over a year ago

SW London

Posted because I am intrigued to know what others think are traditional or stereotypical fantasies. Of course, there must be only a certain number of things to fantasise about ... when I am playing on my own, often its about other women ... without men watching or me even telling them about it afterwards. No man ever mentioned it to me and I had no idea that men liked this. I also have fantasies about men together and about watersports .... but as I have fulfilled those, waiting for the next one to kick in ... I might steal someone's from here, if there is a good one. :...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know if there's a stereotypical male fantasy but I think that some women believe there is and try to appeal to it....same goes for men too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Before I did it my fantasy was always to see two guys playing together, no idea why I just knew that I would like it and when it happened i wasn't wrong "

I'll happily play in either mode as you watch. I'm a bit of an exhibitionistic cow

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By *awandOrder OP   Couple
over a year ago

SW London


"I don't know if there's a stereotypical male fantasy but I think that some women believe there is and try to appeal to it....same goes for men too.

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So, what do people think the stereotypical male and female fantasies are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Domination/submission & 3sums with opposite sexes would guess are shared by men and women.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't know if there's a stereotypical male fantasy but I think that some women believe there is and try to appeal to it....same goes for men too.

So, what do people think the stereotypical male and female fantasies are?

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I think that some men think women fantasize about well endowed men who repeat and are heavy cummers, able to lick for hours.

I have no idea what other women fantasize about though.

Stereotypical male fantasy might be an ever ready nymphomaniac requiring little or no foreplay who loves giving oral.

I might add that I don't subscribe to stereotypes myself

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I don't believe that there are certain acts that are "male fantasies" and others that are "female fantasies" and that women shouldn't engage in the "male fantasy scenarios" and presumably men shouldn't engage in "female fantasy scenarios"

I don't like to see anyone denying other peoples fantasies and saying they are wrong to have them. I don't expect everyone to share the same fantasies, but being Sex Positive is all about respecting people's right to have fantasies and pursue what makes them sexually fulfilled. If you don't respect other peoples right to have fantasies and try to fulfil them, then don't expect anyone to support you when someone tries to take your rights away to live your life as you see fit.

I find it especially negative and misogynistic when it is a man, trying to deny or belittle a woman's fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know if there's a stereotypical male fantasy but I think that some women believe there is and try to appeal to it....same goes for men too.

So, what do people think the stereotypical male and female fantasies are?

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I think a look at the most popular porn categories is a good indicator of male fantasies. Porn for women is a sub catgeory that looks very different. Of course some women will enjoy mainstream porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't actually have any fantasies. If i do fantasize about something then it'll be something i did already and really enjoyed. Not sure if anyone else is like me?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't actually have any fantasies. If i do fantasize about something then it'll be something i did already and really enjoyed. Not sure if anyone else is like me?"

that's interesting. How did you know what you wanted to try out when you started having sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't actually have any fantasies. If i do fantasize about something then it'll be something i did already and really enjoyed. Not sure if anyone else is like me?

that's interesting. How did you know what you wanted to try out when you started having sex?"

I didn't.

I knew i wanted to have sex though, idk if this is weird but i really, really just wanted to see what it'd feel like to have a cock inside me. And that feeling had never gone away since...

I've ended up enjoying other guys fantasies though. My first boyfriend had a foot fetish, i do like them being worshipped now. My other ex was just 'normal' and we had normal sex, i didn't mind that. The boyfriend after that had was a CD, i'm into some things to do with this. And my last one had another fetish i enjoy now. I still don't fantasize about doing any of these things though, just what i've actually done i fantasize about. I have an idea this is a bit unusual.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't actually have any fantasies. If i do fantasize about something then it'll be something i did already and really enjoyed. Not sure if anyone else is like me?

that's interesting. How did you know what you wanted to try out when you started having sex?

I didn't.

I knew i wanted to have sex though, idk if this is weird but i really, really just wanted to see what it'd feel like to have a cock inside me. And that feeling had never gone away since...

I've ended up enjoying other guys fantasies though. My first boyfriend had a foot fetish, i do like them being worshipped now. My other ex was just 'normal' and we had normal sex, i didn't mind that. The boyfriend after that had was a CD, i'm into some things to do with this. And my last one had another fetish i enjoy now. I still don't fantasize about doing any of these things though, just what i've actually done i fantasize about. I have an idea this is a bit unusual."

I don't know if it is or not but if it's normal for you, it's normal. You know what you like and you do it.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't actually have fantasies, if I want to do it I just do it. But my first lady wants where about being with two bi guys don't know where the idea came from I was quite young didn't read porn and at the time didn't know any bi guys, in fact I can't remember hearing anything about bisexuality, yet I was experimenting with girls and fantasing about guys. I remember the first time I ever heard of someone being bisexual was David Bowie

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Is there such a thing as a stereotype male fantasy? Do women have a different set of fantasies? Is it to do with who is in dominant and gets more sexual partners? This comes from a different thread that brought up the debate about whether a specific act is something men or women fantasize about? The whole bi thing was not debated, so throw that into the mix too. Where do you think your fantasies stem from? I can't say anything succinctly, sorry"

Mine stem from naughty thoughts Oh, and from this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't actually have any fantasies. If i do fantasize about something then it'll be something i did already and really enjoyed. Not sure if anyone else is like me?

that's interesting. How did you know what you wanted to try out when you started having sex?

I didn't.

I knew i wanted to have sex though, idk if this is weird but i really, really just wanted to see what it'd feel like to have a cock inside me. And that feeling had never gone away since...

I've ended up enjoying other guys fantasies though. My first boyfriend had a foot fetish, i do like them being worshipped now. My other ex was just 'normal' and we had normal sex, i didn't mind that. The boyfriend after that had was a CD, i'm into some things to do with this. And my last one had another fetish i enjoy now. I still don't fantasize about doing any of these things though, just what i've actually done i fantasize about. I have an idea this is a bit unusual.

I don't know if it is or not but if it's normal for you, it's normal. You know what you like and you do it."

Yeah thanks. Sometimes i still like to find people like me though.

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By *awandOrder OP   Couple
over a year ago

SW London

I have developed fantasies with my partner as now I share some of his and he shares some of mine, but because ours is a partnership, I don't see this as being dominated by the fantasies of a male (especially as his involve him and men or TVs), they are not traditional male fantasies. I agree, though, we try them and then they remain something we refer to or return to, during the build up ... what is a stereotypical female fantasy? Or is that what fairy-tales are?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have developed fantasies with my partner as now I share some of his and he shares some of mine, but because ours is a partnership, I don't see this as being dominated by the fantasies of a male (especially as his involve him and men or TVs), they are not traditional male fantasies. I agree, though, we try them and then they remain something we refer to or return to, during the build up ... what is a stereotypical female fantasy? Or is that what fairy-tales are?"

I have no idea. Is it being whisked away by a muscly heart throb, is it being held on manly arms, is it being tied down and whipped, I honestly don't know what the stereotype is. Maybe that's the problem, women's fantasies have largely been ignored or taken second place to mens.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


" what is a stereotypical female fantasy? Or is that what fairy-tales are?

I have no idea. Is it being whisked away by a muscly heart throb, is it being held on manly arms, is it being tied down and whipped, I honestly don't know what the stereotype is. Maybe that's the problem, women's fantasies have largely been ignored or taken second place to mens."

But if you can't even think of a "female fantasy" wouldn't that seem to suggest that there arent gender based fantasies?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


" what is a stereotypical female fantasy? Or is that what fairy-tales are?

I have no idea. Is it being whisked away by a muscly heart throb, is it being held on manly arms, is it being tied down and whipped, I honestly don't know what the stereotype is. Maybe that's the problem, women's fantasies have largely been ignored or taken second place to mens.

But if you can't even think of a "female fantasy" wouldn't that seem to suggest that there arent gender based fantasies?"

It suggests that yes or as I said that they aren't discussed or covered in the media as widely as mens or possibly both.

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By *argaret JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Bromsgrove


" what is a stereotypical female fantasy? Or is that what fairy-tales are?

I have no idea. Is it being whisked away by a muscly heart throb, is it being held on manly arms, is it being tied down and whipped, I honestly don't know what the stereotype is. Maybe that's the problem, women's fantasies have largely been ignored or taken second place to mens.

Yes I'll take all them please and If you have any more please quote to do list

But if you can't even think of a "female fantasy" wouldn't that seem to suggest that there arent gender based fantasies?

It suggests that yes or as I said that they aren't discussed or covered in the media as widely as mens or possibly both."

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By *awandOrder OP   Couple
over a year ago

SW London

I think women's fantasies are supposed to be linked to mills and boon type bodice rippers, but if we dont have those, are we just rebelling in a predictable way?

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Maybe its just me, but i dislike the idea that all the women on here are just like performing seals trying to please a man. Do the women of this site really have no free will?

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By *nglishmalehereMan
over a year ago

Chorley

chatting to females i find that they are more extreme than a guys fantasies

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think women's fantasies are supposed to be linked to mills and boon type bodice rippers, but if we dont have those, are we just rebelling in a predictable way? "

I have no idea yet again . That's why I find these discussions interesting.

I was brought up in a traditional household and the expectation was that I would conform and parental and societal expectation can weigh heavy and be difficult to throw off. I don't know how much of what I do and think now is influenced by those expectations because much of it is unconscious influence. What I do know is that I've thought about it a lot and find that in my experience very few people are willing to allow women to just be how they want to be, if I express a desire sexual or otherwise that doesn't fit into what is thought of as "womanly" I am told I'm not natural by certain sections of society if I express a desire that fits into traditional mores another section will tell me I'm brainwashed. I'm moderately intelligent, I try and think openly and originally and I know what I like and want......why can't that be the accepted position for all women?

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

Ive had a mix of fantasies involving men women and transgender some of which have come true thanks to my bisexuality xxx There are others that are extreme and really only for me xxx Even ones involving hermaphrodites which i know will have to stay fantasies xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose it depends how much spare time you have as well? I think men might be slightly more likely to get spare time than women, and so have more time to fantasize?

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"Suppose it depends how much spare time you have as well? I think men might be slightly more likely to get spare time than women, and so have more time to fantasize?"

Wish that was so get little spare time apart from being off this week xxx Best ones appear in dreams to me xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suppose it depends how much spare time you have as well? I think men might be slightly more likely to get spare time than women, and so have more time to fantasize?

Wish that was so get little spare time apart from being off this week xxx Best ones appear in dreams to me xxx"

I haven't really dreamed for years either. Hmm might be getting closer to the answer here...if i can figure out why i stopped dreaming...

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"Suppose it depends how much spare time you have as well? I think men might be slightly more likely to get spare time than women, and so have more time to fantasize?

Wish that was so get little spare time apart from being off this week xxx Best ones appear in dreams to me xxx

I haven't really dreamed for years either. Hmm might be getting closer to the answer here...if i can figure out why i stopped dreaming..."

Hmm strange one as i wouldnt know what its like not to dream really xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suppose it depends how much spare time you have as well? I think men might be slightly more likely to get spare time than women, and so have more time to fantasize?

Wish that was so get little spare time apart from being off this week xxx Best ones appear in dreams to me xxx

I haven't really dreamed for years either. Hmm might be getting closer to the answer here...if i can figure out why i stopped dreaming...

Hmm strange one as i wouldnt know what its like not to dream really xxx"

Apparently everyone dreams but some of us can't remember them.

I've studied neurology, i should know the answer to this really but can't remember...ffs haha.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"Suppose it depends how much spare time you have as well? I think men might be slightly more likely to get spare time than women, and so have more time to fantasize?

Wish that was so get little spare time apart from being off this week xxx Best ones appear in dreams to me xxx

I haven't really dreamed for years either. Hmm might be getting closer to the answer here...if i can figure out why i stopped dreaming...

Hmm strange one as i wouldnt know what its like not to dream really xxx

Apparently everyone dreams but some of us can't remember them.

I've studied neurology, i should know the answer to this really but can't remember...ffs haha."

Lol cool almost mind reading lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suppose it depends how much spare time you have as well? I think men might be slightly more likely to get spare time than women, and so have more time to fantasize?

Wish that was so get little spare time apart from being off this week xxx Best ones appear in dreams to me xxx

I haven't really dreamed for years either. Hmm might be getting closer to the answer here...if i can figure out why i stopped dreaming...

Hmm strange one as i wouldnt know what its like not to dream really xxx

Apparently everyone dreams but some of us can't remember them.

I've studied neurology, i should know the answer to this really but can't remember...ffs haha.

Lol cool almost mind reading lol xxx"

Never looked at it that way but yes i guess it is. We all have predictability to some degree.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe


"Suppose it depends how much spare time you have as well? I think men might be slightly more likely to get spare time than women, and so have more time to fantasize?

Wish that was so get little spare time apart from being off this week xxx Best ones appear in dreams to me xxx

I haven't really dreamed for years either. Hmm might be getting closer to the answer here...if i can figure out why i stopped dreaming...

Hmm strange one as i wouldnt know what its like not to dream really xxx

Apparently everyone dreams but some of us can't remember them.

I've studied neurology, i should know the answer to this really but can't remember...ffs haha.

Lol cool almost mind reading lol xxx

Never looked at it that way but yes i guess it is. We all have predictability to some degree. "

Indeed hard to get your head round lol xxx

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I think women's fantasies are supposed to be linked to mills and boon type bodice rippers, but if we dont have those, are we just rebelling in a predictable way? "

My fantasies are not that tame

Wanna know more; lets meet again and I'll show you two

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