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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is the difference between swinging and casual sex. Lots on here seem to be proud to be 'swingers', yet down on casual sex (as practised by single guys in bars).

Basically they both involve shagging someone with no strings?

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By *oucaneerMan
over a year ago

London

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By *oucaneerMan
over a year ago

London

I think the swinging fraternity try's to take out the masogyny or userage out of the sexual relationship between the willing players.

Whereas singles at a bar in a pub/club dont realy discuss what they want/need sexualy or commitment wise before having sex.

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By *oucaneerMan
over a year ago

London


"I think the swinging fraternity try's to take out the masogyny or userage out of the sexual relationship between the willing players.

Whereas singles at a bar in a pub/club dont realy discuss what they want/need sexualy or commitment wise before having sex."
It's more of a blind, feel your way through approach regarding the latter.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Real genuine swingers base what they do on openness and honesty. And while it might be termed as 'no strings attached' if it works out it will often repeat and expand into a quality friendship. Swinging will also typically involve more than two, if it doesn't then its more like 'casual sex' between two.

The pickup in the bar/club is typically based on a guy telling a girl anything he thinks she might want to hear to try and get a shag for the night.

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

for me, if i was a single meeting other single ( even through a site like this ) then it's casual sex / nsa sex.

if i'm meeting couples, or when playing as a couple, or groups ( yum! ) then that's swinging.

only my personal definition and both have their merits and have brought me into contact with some amazing people xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seek sexy fun with like-minded single gents in safe environments such as FAB and swingers clubs.

Can't be arsed to trawl vannila bars and clubs for fun anymore, too much hard work, and it was never my scene in the first place.

So casual NSA sex for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo, I forgot to add, I do not go out seeking one-off quick shags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it's 1 on 1 there's very little difference between the two nowadays. Lots of confident women in the 'vanilla scene' are looking for NSA sex.

Groups are different and obviously much more common within swinging, having said that I've only had FFM's on the 'vanilla scene'.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Thats a really interesting point about ffms

I know a few guys that have said that they have also had ffms on the vanilla scene but struggle to find them from the swinging scene

I wonder why that is

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By *emjoCouple
over a year ago

Reading


"Thats a really interesting point about ffms

I know a few guys that have said that they have also had ffms on the vanilla scene but struggle to find them from the swinging scene

I wonder why that is "

Rare to find one willing single fem, nevermind two especially at the same time.

Strangely enough people who just have (pick-up in bar) casual sex frown on swinging as if it on a lower moral ground. Swinging, we feel, is more honest. There is not the false promise of a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo, I forgot to add, I do not go out seeking one-off quick shags. "

so it's repeaters only then Pearl?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Thats a really interesting point about ffms

I know a few guys that have said that they have also had ffms on the vanilla scene but struggle to find them from the swinging scene

I wonder why that is "

I think it probably has something to do with all 3 being there at the time... in some cases. Going with the flow ,so to speak. You can read the non-verbal signs. Pick up when two people are interested at the same time.... and play on that (in a positive way). They are all involved in the exploration of the idea together, knowing exacly who else is to be involved.... feeding from eachothers apprehension, excitement and getting caught in the moment.

And not forgetting in the real world, guys are on a much more even playing field.

When a guy contacts a single fem on here, it's usually 1-2-1 contact... an isolated conversation, so not only has he got to break the ice with her... he's got to introduce the idea of finding someone else.... without her going all huffy about "am I not enough".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mingers can be swingers and get a shag early in the evening. If you're a minger in a bar you have to wait & chance your luck at 10 to 2 when everyone has their beer goggles on. Thats why I started swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thats a really interesting point about ffms

I know a few guys that have said that they have also had ffms on the vanilla scene but struggle to find them from the swinging scene

I wonder why that is

I think it probably has something to do with all 3 being there at the time... in some cases. Going with the flow ,so to speak. You can read the non-verbal signs. Pick up when two people are interested at the same time.... and play on that (in a positive way). They are all involved in the exploration of the idea together, knowing exacly who else is to be involved.... feeding from eachothers apprehension, excitement and getting caught in the moment.

And not forgetting in the real world, guys are on a much more even playing field.

When a guy contacts a single fem on here, it's usually 1-2-1 contact... an isolated conversation, so not only has he got to break the ice with her... he's got to introduce the idea of finding someone else.... without her going all huffy about "am I not enough".

"

I think your spot on. Availability and impulse are often key factors, some women do plan it though. I just think that people in general are becoming more sexually liberated.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"Mingers can be swingers and get a shag early in the evening. If you're a minger in a bar you have to wait & chance your luck at 10 to 2 when everyone has their beer goggles on. Thats why I started swinging. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats a really interesting point about ffms

I know a few guys that have said that they have also had ffms on the vanilla scene but struggle to find them from the swinging scene

I wonder why that is

I think it probably has something to do with all 3 being there at the time... in some cases. Going with the flow ,so to speak. You can read the non-verbal signs. Pick up when two people are interested at the same time.... and play on that (in a positive way). They are all involved in the exploration of the idea together, knowing exacly who else is to be involved.... feeding from eachothers apprehension, excitement and getting caught in the moment.

And not forgetting in the real world, guys are on a much more even playing field.

When a guy contacts a single fem on here, it's usually 1-2-1 contact... an isolated conversation, so not only has he got to break the ice with her... he's got to introduce the idea of finding someone else.... without her going all huffy about "am I not enough".

I think your spot on. Availability and impulse are often key factors, some women do plan it though. I just think that people in general are becoming more sexually liberated. "

That was sort of my point. I don't see a huge amount of difference between a woman (or man) out on the pull and being on here. For couples, obviously, its different.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

can't see any difference really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant really see that much of a difference - just because we go under the title of "swingers", doesnt make us any more respectable or classier than those who pick up guys in bars etc - still shagging strangers, even those who have a select group of men they only swing with, its all the same, shagging strangers

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Hello, stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mingers can be swingers and get a shag early in the evening. If you're a minger in a bar you have to wait & chance your luck at 10 to 2 when everyone has their beer goggles on. Thats why I started swinging. "

go ugly early...avoid the rush

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