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Bi curious - shy, scared and confused

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, just to clear something up from the off....I don't fancy men lol.

However, I have recently been browsing on everyone who's online an a few really convincing tv/ts have caught my eye. I have also seen a few couple profiles where the woman is supper sexy, and can't help but wonder, what would happen if I had to meet her with her partner.

A lot of it stems from the fact that I'm completley submissive, and that I'd love for a woman to control me and do with me and have me do as she wanted. But these women are few and far between, hence iv been looking at couples profiles, and the odd tv/ts profile. I was asked by a woman a few weeks ago to wear some womens knickers ( obviously didn't have any of my own so had to borrow a pair ) and show her the pictures, which I really enjoyed, but I'm not sure if I enjoyed the being sub part or the being a little girl part.

I know it's just a label, and that they don really mean anything, but would you say I'm bi curious? Xx Caz xX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ps sorry the post is so long.... Thanks for reading. I'd love a chat if you have some time xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd say you were more bi-cubist rather than a traditional landscapey type of person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

I know it's just a label, and that they don really mean anything, but would you say I'm bi curious? Xx Caz xX

"

Probably. Would it be a disaster if you were?

Try it. If you don't like it, no harm done.

But if you do like it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with what feels good and worry about labels some other time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...

I know it's just a label, and that they don really mean anything, but would you say I'm bi curious? Xx Caz xX

Probably. Would it be a disaster if you were?

Try it. If you don't like it, no harm done.

But if you do like it.... "

You say try it, but I don't know what to try.... I don't fancy boys so it's not like I want to pop down town and meet up with one for a one night stand, I just wouldnt want to do that lol.

I think my biggest problem is that I'm not sure what I want and the thought of it makes me really nervous and scared...and because I'm a chicken (in that I'm scared to push my self, by my self) means I'm stuck.

Not sure if that makes sense xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi sweetie

I think you need a great couple (perhaps with a situationally bi guy) and see where it takes you. I'm not bi but in the heat of the moment a woman really excites me. I'd say, don't overthink it, don't label it, and just see where an experienced couples meet takes you x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What are you nervous about? Nerves is normal. You gotta try before you're bi. Google gay sauna in your area and let some dude suck your cock. You won't have to do anything except sit there and enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi sweetie

I think you need a great couple (perhaps with a situationally bi guy) and see where it takes you. I'm not bi but in the heat of the moment a woman really excites me. I'd say, don't overthink it, don't label it, and just see where an experienced couples meet takes you x"

Hi, thanks for replying yea that's probably a good idea. It's the overthinking that's causing the nervousness I think. It's the all the...what ifs?! That I can't answer before hand that makes me scared.I know I'm definitely sub, and would do anything for women, and really convincing domme tv/ts catch my attention...but not sure how or what I'd do with the boy in a couple lol.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi sweetie

I think you need a great couple (perhaps with a situationally bi guy) and see where it takes you. I'm not bi but in the heat of the moment a woman really excites me. I'd say, don't overthink it, don't label it, and just see where an experienced couples meet takes you x

Hi, thanks for replying yea that's probably a good idea. It's the overthinking that's causing the nervousness I think. It's the all the...what ifs?! That I can't answer before hand that makes me scared.I know I'm definitely sub, and would do anything for women, and really convincing domme tv/ts catch my attention...but not sure how or what I'd do with the boy in a couple lol.xx"

I have the same issues sometimes

Good luck and have fun experimenting! And if what you like doesn't have a label or isn't what you expect, who the fuck gives a shit!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi sweetie

I think you need a great couple (perhaps with a situationally bi guy) and see where it takes you. I'm not bi but in the heat of the moment a woman really excites me. I'd say, don't overthink it, don't label it, and just see where an experienced couples meet takes you x

Hi, thanks for replying yea that's probably a good idea. It's the overthinking that's causing the nervousness I think. It's the all the...what ifs?! That I can't answer before hand that makes me scared.I know I'm definitely sub, and would do anything for women, and really convincing domme tv/ts catch my attention...but not sure how or what I'd do with the boy in a couple lol.xx

I have the same issues sometimes

Good luck and have fun experimenting! And if what you like doesn't have a label or isn't what you expect, who the fuck gives a shit!! "

Hahaha really appreciate your comments thanks. Hopefully il let my self go one day...or some one will make me hahaha x

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By *my-blackTV/TS
over a year ago

Poole

it can be really confusing, daunting all sorts of emotions. I cant figure my own head out even - as i sit here i think naaah, i just wouldnt feel comfortable sucking a guy off, but if i got into role as amy then straight in there- tell me that isnt confused lol.

Find a couple maybe that are happy to meet up with someone who is a bit nervous and not sure and see how it goes, most couples, the guy will respect distance if you ask and maybe if the moment grabs you grab a feel of him during the fun, see how you feel about it.

Most of all, never feel awkward or embarassed about sex, its fun and amazing expecially if you have no hangups.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your quite young, none of where born knowing what we liked sexually, sexuality is a learning curve, its fun experimenting some times you will really enjoy something sometimes you may think no you wouldn't do that again, also I likes and dislikes change.

I think you just need to relax a bit more to opening yourself up to experiences whatever they are.

You could also become situational hetexible ( I just made that uo

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By *rYouthMan
over a year ago

Tipp

I remember a couple of months back watching porn and the likes that I found myself more and more interested in the male then the female. Don't get me wrong a female getting a facial is super sexy but there was always something about cock they got me horny and fantasising.

Move forward s couple of months I met a guy and had oral with him, both received and gave. I was so nervous, I had to have a cigarette or two just to settle my nerves but once he took off his pants, wow. I just couldn't help but get my lips around his cock.

I loved every bit, the foreplay, recieving, giving, getting cum on my face lol.

I'd say try find someone, have a chat and get as comfortable as possible. Go for a coffee or drink and take it slowly, you never know you might enjoy it

Btw, I still get nerves going for meets but it's also a mix with excitement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, just to clear something up from the off....I don't fancy men lol.

However, I have recently been browsing on everyone who's online an a few really convincing tv/ts have caught my eye. I have also seen a few couple profiles where the woman is supper sexy, and can't help but wonder, what would happen if I had to meet her with her partner.

A lot of it stems from the fact that I'm completley submissive, and that I'd love for a woman to control me and do with me and have me do as she wanted. But these women are few and far between, hence iv been looking at couples profiles, and the odd tv/ts profile. I was asked by a woman a few weeks ago to wear some womens knickers ( obviously didn't have any of my own so had to borrow a pair ) and show her the pictures, which I really enjoyed, but I'm not sure if I enjoyed the being sub part or the being a little girl part.

I know it's just a label, and that they don really mean anything, but would you say I'm bi curious? Xx Caz xX

"

Slave C, Step this way. Mistress S will fit time in my diary to so inspect and train your ....... continued on PMdont want to get banned for 48 hours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might be bi but you are not a swinger,you should try fab guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I watch alsorts of porn and although I enjoy it I would want to do it or have it done. As another said your age.... and its a discovery journey, your sexual journey. Take your time and discover. Try it once, if you dont like ot then you'll know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My age and experience, discovering new things are all true....it's just hard taking that step and experience things that's hard lol.xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think a night out and let the alcohol help might be the way forward lol.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never thought I'd be bi - or even bi-curious, but I found I enjoyed looking at cocks too when I met, watched some porn and then took the plunge of meeting a guy where we had oral fun. Now I'm happy to play with a cock and really like it, not taken a load of cum in my mouth - yet - that's my next boundary to push/break.

Just take small gentle steps...I get very nervous too..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never thought I'd be bi - or even bi-curious, but I found I enjoyed looking at cocks too when I met, watched some porn and then took the plunge of meeting a guy where we had oral fun. Now I'm happy to play with a cock and really like it, not taken a load of cum in my mouth - yet - that's my next boundary to push/break.

Just take small gentle steps...I get very nervous too.."

It's good to know that everyone seems to get nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I remember a couple of months back watching porn and the likes that I found myself more and more interested in the male then the female. Don't get me wrong a female getting a facial is super sexy but there was always something about cock they got me horny and fantasising.

Move forward s couple of months I met a guy and had oral with him, both received and gave. I was so nervous, I had to have a cigarette or two just to settle my nerves but once he took off his pants, wow. I just couldn't help but get my lips around his cock.

I loved every bit, the foreplay, recieving, giving, getting cum on my face lol.

I'd say try find someone, have a chat and get as comfortable as possible. Go for a coffee or drink and take it slowly, you never know you might enjoy it

Btw, I still get nerves going for meets but it's also a mix with excitement!"

Great post

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

They have all been good posts,really appreciate it xX Caz Xx

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

It's just another label - if you don;t like what you're doing or who you're doing it with,so do something else.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"It's just another label - if you don;t like what you're doing or who you're doing it with,so do something else.

"

* go do something..

ffs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's just another label - if you don;t like what you're doing or who you're doing it with,so do something else.

* go do something..

ffs"

Well said but much easier said than done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wanked infront of a boy in a strip club toilet on the weekend when I was very d*unk....it's a start I suppose lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, just to clear something up from the off....I don't fancy men lol.

However, I have recently been browsing on everyone who's online an a few really convincing tv/ts have caught my eye. I have also seen a few couple profiles where the woman is supper sexy, and can't help but wonder, what would happen if I had to meet her with her partner.

A lot of it stems from the fact that I'm completley submissive, and that I'd love for a woman to control me and do with me and have me do as she wanted. But these women are few and far between, hence iv been looking at couples profiles, and the odd tv/ts profile. I was asked by a woman a few weeks ago to wear some womens knickers ( obviously didn't have any of my own so had to borrow a pair ) and show her the pictures, which I really enjoyed, but I'm not sure if I enjoyed the being sub part or the being a little girl part.

I know it's just a label, and that they don really mean anything, but would you say I'm bi curious? Xx Caz xX

"

So you don't fancy men but you wear women's knickers.

No. That doesn't make you bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, just to clear something up from the off....I don't fancy men lol.

However, I have recently been browsing on everyone who's online an a few really convincing tv/ts have caught my eye. I have also seen a few couple profiles where the woman is supper sexy, and can't help but wonder, what would happen if I had to meet her with her partner.

A lot of it stems from the fact that I'm completley submissive, and that I'd love for a woman to control me and do with me and have me do as she wanted. But these women are few and far between, hence iv been looking at couples profiles, and the odd tv/ts profile. I was asked by a woman a few weeks ago to wear some womens knickers ( obviously didn't have any of my own so had to borrow a pair ) and show her the pictures, which I really enjoyed, but I'm not sure if I enjoyed the being sub part or the being a little girl part.

I know it's just a label, and that they don really mean anything, but would you say I'm bi curious? Xx Caz xX

So you don't fancy men but you wear women's knickers.

No. That doesn't make you bisexual."

Love the straight to the point honest opinion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one other thing as well, liking people who identify and come across as female isn't 'bi', unless you think that the definition of being a man is literally just 'a dick'.

Transgendered people rarely (there are exceptions!) see themselves as some sort of half way point between genders, and I know ladies who'd be very offended at the prospect of a guy treating her as a sort gay experiment, when being seen as 'a bloke' is sometimes the worse possible thing about their life. I think out of all the misrepresentation that's out there in porn, transgendered sexuality might well be towards the top of the list.

There's nothing wrong with the fantasy of an all-gendered partner, of course, just....uh, if it's something you pursue, tread lightly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just one other thing as well, liking people who identify and come across as female isn't 'bi', unless you think that the definition of being a man is literally just 'a dick'.

Transgendered people rarely (there are exceptions!) see themselves as some sort of half way point between genders, and I know ladies who'd be very offended at the prospect of a guy treating her as a sort gay experiment, when being seen as 'a bloke' is sometimes the worse possible thing about their life. I think out of all the misrepresentation that's out there in porn, transgendered sexuality might well be towards the top of the list.

There's nothing wrong with the fantasy of an all-gendered partner, of course, just....uh, if it's something you pursue, tread lightly."

Very true I suppose

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