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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The last few weeks I've had several messages from guys who think they recognise me, but are in fact mistaken.

I'm aware that I take that risk by having public face pics but I think it shows a total lack of discretion.

I've also had guys say they will approach me in public if they do see me .. Am I wrong in thinking that we should excercise discretion or is it time to hide face?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Men are arseholes - yes, exercise discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happenes to me all the time, might be due to the suit !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It happenes to me all the time, might be due to the suit ! "

No sorry I can't place you ..oh wait are you batmans buddy?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I, Mrs, exercise discretion ... Mr is a little more open on his single profile, but n here we both feel there is only the need to show our faces to people we want to meet. No problem at clubs and parties as we are all in the same place. You never know who is here or what they are doing, OP. If you are in the slightest but worried, exercise discretion ...

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By *ob4any1Man
over a year ago

gloucester

If you got it girl, you flaunt it. i have never been where you live but there is always someone that looks like someone else. i say ignore them

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By *northernsoulMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Exercising discretion goes without saying, I can't believe anyone would actually 'out' somebody like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some bullshit to get your attention and get you to talk to them. But yeah some are confused and say they've seen you when they haven't, and some have seen me and were correct.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Is Scotland still a place? Xx

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Been on and off the site for years, always withy face on show, never been recognised or if I have been they were respectful enough not to mention it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is a problem for you that other recognise you then hide. You cannot control the behaviour of others so assume the worst will happen and act accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably different for guys....im quite open so wouldn't bother me at all. Most friends and my work colleagues/directors know of my lifestyle.

I was in a local pub with a "meet" from here prior to going back to hers. Another couple I know from fab came in, said hi etc. I introduced everyone by there real names....the couple said yes.....you are (used her fab name) as they recognised her from her pictures.

Luckily she seemed fine with it....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Every time I've been told they know me, they have been mistaken but it is creepy that people think it's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of men don't realise how creepy it is to say they've seen you out and about, especially if they themselves are not identifiable (no pics).

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"If it is a problem for you that other recognise you then hide. You cannot control the behaviour of others so assume the worst will happen and act accordingly."

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"The last few weeks I've had several messages from guys who think they recognise me, but are in fact mistaken.

I'm aware that I take that risk by having public face pics but I think it shows a total lack of discretion.

I've also had guys say they will approach me in public if they do see me .. Am I wrong in thinking that we should excercise discretion or is it time to hide face?

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They are doing it to get your attention. I had someone mention which primary school I went to on a message.. I don't know why he thought that would be a good conversation starter! It's just creepy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only been recognised once...and he said he used to work with me...He said "eee I didn't realise you were like that"....like what? ...I like sex?! he wouldn't tell me who he was...then he blocked me! Tool! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happenes to me all the time, might be due to the suit !

No sorry I can't place you ..oh wait are you batmans buddy?"

Yes on every thrusday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of men don't realise how creepy it is to say they've seen you out and about, especially if they themselves are not identifiable (no pics)."

Why is it creepy? For example if I said something like I saw you today but was unable to say hello as I was off rushing somewhere. Genuine question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this about 18 months ago, someone swore blind it was me on the bus.... When describing me they said I had brown hair..... Couldn't have been me as I had purple hair at the time, do think that people just say stuff like that to start a conversation up

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Someone told us we had chatted to him at a club ... but we knew what we had done and where ... he claimed something else entirely ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine getting a text from an anonymous sender saying they know who you are and what you are doing. Creepy? That's what I thought. No different to a random message from someone here you don't know saying the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine getting a text from an anonymous sender saying they know who you are and what you are doing. Creepy? That's what I thought. No different to a random message from someone here you don't know saying the same thing. "

It is different in a sense because your not entirely anonymous. Notwithstanding a fake profile obviously. But I do see your point.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

We were in Chams, In the room with the swing, Mrs W was giving me a BJ when I felt a tap on the shoulder, it was a former work colleague who proceeded to use my real name and offered a handshake, which in pure reflex action,I accepted. It was surreal. We have had the "I know you " bullshit from guys who do it to get you to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of men don't realise how creepy it is to say they've seen you out and about, especially if they themselves are not identifiable (no pics).

Why is it creepy? For example if I said something like I saw you today but was unable to say hello as I was off rushing somewhere. Genuine question."

I don't know who they are. They're just a faceless anybody who says they have seen me and know who i am.

If i've chatted to them on here then it's not that bad, but to just come out with it when you don't know who they are and can't see anything of them, well it bothers me a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The last few weeks I've had several messages from guys who think they recognise me, but are in fact mistaken.

I'm aware that I take that risk by having public face pics but I think it shows a total lack of discretion.

I've also had guys say they will approach me in public if they do see me .. Am I wrong in thinking that we should excercise discretion or is it time to hide face?

"

N has had the same thing recently. A chap messaged and complimented N on how hot she looked in Tesco, and how he regretted not saying hi. We politely informed him we keep all contact to Fab, and would not be comfortable with people saying hi to us in public without us first having met. That sorted things out and the guy was apologetic. This is the risk we take with showing face pics occasionally, but for us it's worth it as it does garner better attention than just the rude pics in our experience.

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