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men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

a chap actually said that to me last night

and it made me think (after i blocked him ) that is it true for both sides

i have my partner for life and i adore him - and we have met and played with people that i wouldnt consider 'dating' - but fun was brilliant

perhaps he just said one of the things we know but said it in rather a crass way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got standards, they aren't very high, but they're mine

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

i wish point them my way if they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because they may be fact, some things are best left unsaid.

As the saying goes "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all".

There seems to be a lot of Alan Partridge type guys about who don't have a filter between thought and speech.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a degree of truth to it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its very true, I get messages from men who have passed me by on other 'dating sites' good enough to meet for sex but not for dating.

When they message on here after ignoring me on other sites (same pics and user name) they can actually get fairly shirty when I say no lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oh i probably deserved it after all i did decline his invitation

it wasnt the his rudeness that upset me - its the thought that actually men might do this - is it because the attraction of swinging is more than the attraction of going with someone?

i am not the most attractive of women but i do like to believe the people we have fun with actually fancy us/me

again - im not offended - and it was an interesting insight to some guys thought process it also made me think twice which at the moment hurts a little

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think its very true, I get messages from men who have passed me by on other 'dating sites' good enough to meet for sex but not for dating.

When they message on here after ignoring me on other sites (same pics and user name) they can actually get fairly shirty when I say no lol"

im actually gobsmacked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a man say this week ... people only on sites like this as hard up . and thats why men will shag woman thay would never would as its free sex. He was the one saying woman should pay him . lol I told him to get lost and i get 100s of offers not just on here. lol jo xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think men and women shag people who are different to their normal standards when swinging.

Variety is the spice of life.

I think using the word "below" suggests that they feel superior to that person and that's wrong in so many ways.

Dating someone means you have to fill the gaps between shags with other non-sex stuff and yes we'd probably pick someone else to do that with, in the meantime there's nothing wrong with shagging like-minded people, of all looks, ages, builds etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a chap actually said that to me last night

and it made me think (after i blocked him ) that is it true for both sides

i have my partner for life and i adore him - and we have met and played with people that i wouldnt consider 'dating' - but fun was brilliant

perhaps he just said one of the things we know but said it in rather a crass way "

we class ourselves as having fairly high standards and wouldnt meet anyone or a couple we didnt find attractive just to have fun!

we dont have as many meets as most and were fairly startled to learn in another thread that some forum users have 2/3 meets a week.

we must meet around 6/8 new couples a year but often meet a few of the people we have met before socially

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"a chap actually said that to me last night

and it made me think (after i blocked him ) that is it true for both sides

i have my partner for life and i adore him - and we have met and played with people that i wouldnt consider 'dating' - but fun was brilliant

perhaps he just said one of the things we know but said it in rather a crass way "

What do you think it really means when someone posts "There are fewer women on here, they can afford to be fussy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is an element to this for both sexes, whether just to have fun with people you don't normally go for etc.

However, i do think this way of life is a great way to keep us men grounded, certainly keeps the ego in check with all the rejections that you may not get in 'real life' lol.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

well in swinging..

a female could have a profile that says the following: x67%,lsk

and she would still get messages saying

'love your profile' 'you sound sexy'

she could sit on cam in the chat room with a bin liner on her head and last nights pizza stuck to her face..

and she would still get .... Hi XXX looking good, Hi XXX you look hot, you looking for fun ??.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"well in swinging..

a female could have a profile that says the following: x67%,lsk

and she would still get messages saying

'love your profile' 'you sound sexy'

she could sit on cam in the chat room with a bin liner on her head and last nights pizza stuck to her face..

and she would still get .... Hi XXX looking good, Hi XXX you look hot, you looking for fun ??.....

"

actually sounds like a giggle i might try it to see if your right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are men who feel thay are some sort of sex stud and when thay cant pull even on sites like this thay take it out saying all sorts and end up shagging woman thay really dont like. In there head thay have a pic of a woman thay would like and never get her ..... so thay feel let down maybe. jo xxx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"well in swinging..

a female could have a profile that says the following: x67%,lsk

and she would still get messages saying

'love your profile' 'you sound sexy'

she could sit on cam in the chat room with a bin liner on her head and last nights pizza stuck to her face..

and she would still get .... Hi XXX looking good, Hi XXX you look hot, you looking for fun ??.....

actually sounds like a giggle i might try it to see if your right "

enjoy xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women need a reason to have sex.....

Men just need a place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women need a reason to have sex.....

Men just need a place "
is that true ? dont thay care ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanted

Dirty, horny, slutty bitch

PM me please

I can't pull a posh totty so I'm lowering the bar a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well in swinging..

a female could have a profile that says the following: x67%,lsk

and she would still get messages saying

'love your profile' 'you sound sexy'

she could sit on cam in the chat room with a bin liner on her head and last nights pizza stuck to her face..

and she would still get .... Hi XXX looking good, Hi XXX you look hot, you looking for fun ??.....

"

Glad you've just said that, i was beginning to think the chat rooms were full of munters, must just be the bin liners and pizzas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wanted

Dirty, horny, slutty bitch

PM me please

I can't pull a posh totty so I'm lowering the bar a bit "
lol you can mmmmm would you not be put off licking if dirty , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well in swinging..

a female could have a profile that says the following: x67%,lsk

and she would still get messages saying

'love your profile' 'you sound sexy'

she could sit on cam in the chat room with a bin liner on her head and last nights pizza stuck to her face..

and she would still get .... Hi XXX looking good, Hi XXX you look hot, you looking for fun ??.....

actually sounds like a giggle i might try it to see if your right "

it works! I was getting msgs like that a few weeks ago after hiding my profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women need a reason to have sex.....

Men just need a place is that true ? dont thay care ?"

I think its not too inaccurate to say so

A stiff dick has no conscience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you are on to something there this last few weeks I have had countless emails from young guys 18,19 and 20 and I know for a fact they would'nt look at me or touch me in the real world so why email me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I only shag guys that i would shag that id met in the outside world. They can do what they like but im not dropping my standards. Only difference is i shag guys knowing i would never want a relationship with. One regular has ocd and would tidy me up in a cupboard and another moves everything in the bathroom. Id be killing them within a weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose not to drop my standards even if it means i dont get meets. I will meet people socially if they are nice people even if i don't find them attractive i can be friends with them. I wont have sex with people just for the sake of it.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Shoot me for saying it, but the title post is rather spot on.

I have my wife, I love her, i'm atracted to her I can chat to her and I enjoy just spending time with her. these are my requirmnts in a partner.

I have several female friend, i would happily shag them and can talk to them, but lik hell would i live or settle down or date them.. hence they are mates.

This is the same as pople we meet swinging, we have no intention of settling down with them, so requirmnts are alot less.

Do they attract us sexualy

Can we hold a conversation with them

if both yes the tada we are mor than likely going to play.

This is likely the case with people over looking others on a dating site yet contacting you here.. they think your atractive but belive you arn't a match in other aspects... but meh swing sites seem to just be turning into glorified dating services lately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

errrr if they come to shag in swinging that means they are not shagging elsewhere, so it follows that they have no "established" standard elsewhere. This means that those they shag on here will set their standard.

This person was talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams methinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

errrr if they come to shag in swinging that means they are not shagging elsewhere, so it follows that they have no "established" standard elsewhere. This means that those they shag on here will set their standard.

This person was talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams methinks."

That's incorrect though. I still go out with the lads and might pull a woman who isn't a swinger and sleep with her. So your totally wrong in what your saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

errrr if they come to shag in swinging that means they are not shagging elsewhere, so it follows that they have no "established" standard elsewhere. This means that those they shag on here will set their standard.

This person was talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams methinks.

That's incorrect though. I still go out with the lads and might pull a woman who isn't a swinger and sleep with her. So your totally wrong in what your saying. "

what if you are the exception that proves the rule?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

errrr if they come to shag in swinging that means they are not shagging elsewhere, so it follows that they have no "established" standard elsewhere. This means that those they shag on here will set their standard.

This person was talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams methinks.

That's incorrect though. I still go out with the lads and might pull a woman who isn't a swinger and sleep with her. So your totally wrong in what your saying.

what if you are the exception that proves the rule? "

What a croc! do you think all single male swingers on here only sleep with swingers? Its pretty obvious you have been a couple for a long long time.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

errrr if they come to shag in swinging that means they are not shagging elsewhere, so it follows that they have no "established" standard elsewhere. This means that those they shag on here will set their standard.

This person was talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams methinks.

That's incorrect though. I still go out with the lads and might pull a woman who isn't a swinger and sleep with her. So your totally wrong in what your saying.

what if you are the exception that proves the rule?

What a croc! do you think all single male swingers on here only sleep with swingers? Its pretty obvious you have been a couple for a long long time."

What's a croc sweetie?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP, men like the one that messaged you are not what i would consider to be true swingers, cos in my very limited experience, true swingers really like women, and would never be so disrespectful.

If they are just "vanilla's" that are 'chancing their arm' or just after straight no-strings sex, they seem to be more off-hand, and less mindful of the way they are perceived anyway.

So there is some truth in what they say, as in they believe they are punching below their weight (i think) but they trully aren't worth your tears, more your pity xx

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"I think its very true, I get messages from men who have passed me by on other 'dating sites' good enough to meet for sex but not for dating.

When they message on here after ignoring me on other sites (same pics and user name) they can actually get fairly shirty when I say no lol"

I have had the same thing...lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

errrr if they come to shag in swinging that means they are not shagging elsewhere, so it follows that they have no "established" standard elsewhere. This means that those they shag on here will set their standard.

This person was talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams methinks.

That's incorrect though. I still go out with the lads and might pull a woman who isn't a swinger and sleep with her. So your totally wrong in what your saying.

what if you are the exception that proves the rule?

What a croc! do you think all single male swingers on here only sleep with swingers? Its pretty obvious you have been a couple for a long long time.

What's a croc sweetie?"

Answer the rest of the question and i may enlighten you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

errrr if they come to shag in swinging that means they are not shagging elsewhere, so it follows that they have no "established" standard elsewhere. This means that those they shag on here will set their standard.

This person was talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams methinks.

That's incorrect though. I still go out with the lads and might pull a woman who isn't a swinger and sleep with her. So your totally wrong in what your saying. "

Agreed, just because a guys on here that certainly doesnt mean hes not getting it elsewhere, i like to have my mind stimulated, something u cant just walk up to a lass on the 'outside' and say 'ey up luv, what kinda sexual games do you like and il see if we're compatible'

croc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards

errrr if they come to shag in swinging that means they are not shagging elsewhere, so it follows that they have no "established" standard elsewhere. This means that those they shag on here will set their standard.

This person was talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams methinks."

That's a ridiculous thing to say, are you serious? If you believe that then your completely misguided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tactful he aint, but he probably meant something more like 'men shag women they would not date'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible. "

I get your point but your well of the mark if you think single guys only get sex from swingers. How many moan that they have no luck on here? There must be a lot and they are not all celibate. You will find a more than half the single males will be on other sites that are not swinging related but you can hook up on.

The gallant bit i get but hey you did say the guy was "talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams" that's not really gallant in any ones book is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible. "

Some men dont take rejection well, i no some of the guys ive met on here would look straight threw me in a pub or club.At the moment though who cares as long as they can sexually satisfy me im not complaining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible.

I get your point but your well of the mark if you think single guys only get sex from swingers. How many moan that they have no luck on here? There must be a lot and they are not all celibate. You will find a more than half the single males will be on other sites that are not swinging related but you can hook up on.

The gallant bit i get but hey you did say the guy was "talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams" that's not really gallant in any ones book is it? "

Aye but I am making a commment not actually saying it to HIM. Anyway what's a croc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible.

Some men dont take rejection well, i no some of the guys ive met on here would look straight threw me in a pub or club.At the moment though who cares as long as they can sexually satisfy me im not complaining. "

As a mature woman this is similar for me but I do think that softening criteria would be a much more "in the spirit of swinging" way to express things rather than "below standard". It's a bit horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible. "

Thankyou for the clarification and the slight retraction, I believe the only guys on here that only have sex with swingers are the married ones! Maybe a very small minority of singles.

I agree that the guy referred to by the Op showed little tact and should have behaved in a nicer way. But that was his honest opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible.

I get your point but your well of the mark if you think single guys only get sex from swingers. How many moan that they have no luck on here? There must be a lot and they are not all celibate. You will find a more than half the single males will be on other sites that are not swinging related but you can hook up on.

The gallant bit i get but hey you did say the guy was "talking a load of bull, cloud cuckoo land and in his dreams" that's not really gallant in any ones book is it?

Aye but I am making a commment not actually saying it to HIM. Anyway what's a croc?

"

Lol It is an expression i came across when in the forces when you disagreed with something. The full version i think is a crock of cr*p but they used croc for short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible.

Some men dont take rejection well, i no some of the guys ive met on here would look straight threw me in a pub or club.At the moment though who cares as long as they can sexually satisfy me im not complaining.

As a mature woman this is similar for me but I do think that softening criteria would be a much more "in the spirit of swinging" way to express things rather than "below standard". It's a bit horrible."

totally agree theres was no need for him to react by putting that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible.

Thankyou for the clarification and the slight retraction, I believe the only guys on here that only have sex with swingers are the married ones! Maybe a very small minority of singles.

I agree that the guy referred to by the Op showed little tact and should have behaved in a nicer way. But that was his honest opinion. "

That's a strange one. Why are they on here then if they are not going to have sex with swingers? (Confused of Kent)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok I re read, I got it. Blonde moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe I sounded a little harsh in saying they were not shagging elsewhere?

But to answer, no I don't think that all males on here only sleep with swingers (but probably most)and this is my opinion. When I met my partner I was not a swinger nor he.

I was addressing the example the OP gave and judging by the account she gave he sounds a little bitter, so was just guessing really and perhaps empathising a little also. Sometimes that is appreciated.

Life is too short to go around making peeps feel bad when you don't really need to and he should have kept his thoughts to himself, that would have been more gallant.

Much better to try and "be nice" where possible.

Thankyou for the clarification and the slight retraction, I believe the only guys on here that only have sex with swingers are the married ones! Maybe a very small minority of singles.

I agree that the guy referred to by the Op showed little tact and should have behaved in a nicer way. But that was his honest opinion.

That's a strange one. Why are they on here then if they are not going to have sex with swingers? (Confused of Kent)"

Why are you confused? Nobody has said they are not going to have sex with swingers. You said they ONLY have sex with swingers. For most that is a nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok I re read, I got it. Blonde moment. "

My Iphone is so slow tonight, I'm about 2 posts behind. I think your spot on about the guy though, he was hurt by the rejection and behaved horribly.

I think what's got to the Op though is that she's wondering whether or not it's true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think men and women shag people who are different to their normal standards when swinging.

Variety is the spice of life.

I think using the word "below" suggests that they feel superior to that person and that's wrong in so many ways.

Dating someone means you have to fill the gaps between shags with other non-sex stuff and yes we'd probably pick someone else to do that with, in the meantime there's nothing wrong with shagging like-minded people, of all looks, ages, builds etc."

Well said i was thinking just the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they do, they'll even do men too! its all a numbers game, they feel they have to prove they can meet someone and when the reality hits the drop in standards normally follow, and if they still struggle they’ll open other avenues and let other men suck them off, and claim they’re straighter than a straight thing, hey anything is better than nothing, and the following night they’ll be down the pub with their mates slagging of the 2 queers in the corner, or bragging about the old slapper he fucked in front of her husband the night before.

The moral of the story, not all men here are swingers and appreciate swingers, they’re here simply for a quick fix.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Of course they do, they'll even do men too! its all a numbers game, they feel they have to prove they can meet someone and when the reality hits the drop in standards normally follow, and if they still struggle they’ll open other avenues and let other men suck them off, and claim they’re straighter than a straight thing, hey anything is better than nothing, and the following night they’ll be down the pub with their mates slagging of the 2 queers in the corner, or bragging about the old slapper he fucked in front of her husband the night before.

The moral of the story, not all men here are swingers and appreciate swingers, they’re here simply for a quick fix.

"

yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you are on to something there this last few weeks I have had countless emails from young guys 18,19 and 20 and I know for a fact they would'nt look at me or touch me in the real world so why email me."

Same here hence my abhorence towards them, they are the ones that make nasty comments about me, wouldnt want to arrange to meet one from here, then have they make "remarks"

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Plenty of women will admit that swinging sites have given them the opportunity to have sex with guys they wouldn't normally get a look in with... often called 'punching above your weight'. It stands to reason if one is knocking it up a level, the other must be dropping it a level at least.

And if it means I get to enjoy the pleasure of fit, attractive, hot, horny guys.... long may the standard dropping continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Why are you confused? Nobody has said they are not going to have sex with swingers. You said they ONLY have sex with swingers. For most that is a nonsense. "

I'd agree with some of the fellas on here and say that I don't think men having sex with people who are 'below their normal standards' is something that is restricted to swinging but just an everyday fact of going out on the pull. If sex is on the cards then (to some) the standard is them having a pulse (I'm gonna exclude myself from that statement!).

I was also thinking the other day are most of the single fellas on here because they/we are too socially inept to pull in other circumstances? I'm also going to exclude myself from that statement...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

we dont have as many meets as most and were fairly startled to learn in another thread that some forum users have 2/3 meets a week.

we must meet around 6/8 new couples a year but often meet a few of the people we have met before socially "

What do you mean by this? Do you mean that people who have regular meets are lowering their standards to keep up with the influx of meets they have (as you stated you were startled by this fact) or do you mean that because you dont swing very often, you keep to the few couples that you have vetted and met before and so you feel you are not lowering your standards.

A lot of people prefer to have a few select regular swinging meets, and I guess this is safe in that you do fancy each other. For me its different as I like adventure and excitment. If I was to just have say 2 couples that we swing with, then it would become very samey and unoriginal for me and thats not what I get off on. Might as well be in a relationship with them. I like the unexpected. I, however, dont lower my standards to get that unexpected but then we are a couple, we have a vast array of choice. I can see the degree of truth in it for single men. If they get a return message off a woman, maybe they would swing with her as its the only message they've received.

I agree with what someone said earlier in that its not lowering our choices but choosing something different than your usual type - a nicer way to think about it I guess.

I get a fair amount of messages from younger men, why do they really want to swing with a woman like me - 18 or so years older than them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course they do, they'll even do men too! its all a numbers game, they feel they have to prove they can meet someone and when the reality hits the drop in standards normally follow, and if they still struggle they’ll open other avenues and let other men suck them off, and claim they’re straighter than a straight thing, hey anything is better than nothing, and the following night they’ll be down the pub with their mates slagging of the 2 queers in the corner, or bragging about the old slapper he fucked in front of her husband the night before.

The moral of the story, not all men here are swingers and appreciate swingers, they’re here simply for a quick fix.

"

Completely spot on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To the OP, men like the one that messaged you are not what i would consider to be true swingers, cos in my very limited experience, true swingers really like women, and would never be so disrespectful.

If they are just "vanilla's" that are 'chancing their arm' or just after straight no-strings sex, they seem to be more off-hand, and less mindful of the way they are perceived anyway.

So there is some truth in what they say, as in they believe they are punching below their weight (i think) but they trully aren't worth your tears, more your pity xx"
oh my darling xx no tears - just made me sit back and think a little xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been to a club, but I'd say that its definitely true in a lot of cases in real life.

Many people have a set of standards for who they'd have in a relationship and who they'd fuck and if you stretched that to 'who they can fuck without anyone else finding out' that'd be a whole different kind of standard.

Its sad, but its the reality - I imagine theres plenty of people who some wouldn't give a 2nd (or even 1st) look at in a social environment, but would happily shag if given half the chance.

This type of behaviour means that some who usually wouldn't get much attention at all are flooded with it and thus can reject people they generally wouldn't dare to in real life, etc, etc.

But hell, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never been to a club, but I'd say that its definitely true in a lot of cases in real life.

Many people have a set of standards for who they'd have in a relationship and who they'd fuck and if you stretched that to 'who they can fuck without anyone else finding out' that'd be a whole different kind of standard.

Its sad, but its the reality - I imagine theres plenty of people who some wouldn't give a 2nd (or even 1st) look at in a social environment, but would happily shag if given half the chance.

This type of behaviour means that some who usually wouldn't get much attention at all are flooded with it and thus can reject people they generally wouldn't dare to in real life, etc, etc.

But hell, each to their own."

This leads onto the people who moan about being ignored/rejected etc, because often they've tried their luck with someone they deemed 'below' what they usually aim for and being rejected from that person fills them with rage.

The 'How dare they, I've lowered my standards for them' complex, haha.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never been to a club, but I'd say that its definitely true in a lot of cases in real life.

Many people have a set of standards for who they'd have in a relationship and who they'd fuck and if you stretched that to 'who they can fuck without anyone else finding out' that'd be a whole different kind of standard.

Its sad, but its the reality - I imagine theres plenty of people who some wouldn't give a 2nd (or even 1st) look at in a social environment, but would happily shag if given half the chance.

This type of behaviour means that some who usually wouldn't get much attention at all are flooded with it and thus can reject people they generally wouldn't dare to in real life, etc, etc.

But hell, each to their own.

This leads onto the people who moan about being ignored/rejected etc, because often they've tried their luck with someone they deemed 'below' what they usually aim for and being rejected from that person fills them with rage.

The 'How dare they, I've lowered my standards for them' complex, haha."

so funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course they do, they'll even do men too! its all a numbers game, they feel they have to prove they can meet someone and when the reality hits the drop in standards normally follow, and if they still struggle they’ll open other avenues and let other men suck them off, and claim they’re straighter than a straight thing, hey anything is better than nothing, and the following night they’ll be down the pub with their mates slagging of the 2 queers in the corner, or bragging about the old slapper he fucked in front of her husband the night before.

The moral of the story, not all men here are swingers and appreciate swingers, they’re here simply for a quick fix.

"

Which is another reason we don't meet single guys and stick with long term couples.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do women do it also though.

I have played with guys that have been younger than me. One lovely man, the first ever MMF we were involved with was on my 43rd birthday and arranged by my lovely guy, cos he wanted me to have a young man on my birthday. The guy was 24 and whilst we didnt indulged in penetrative sex, he was absolutely gorgeous and so mature for his years. But... I know I wouldnt be interested in him in the real world, nor him me. I would like to think he wasnt lowering his standards and if he was, he was a bloody good actor cos he appeared completely enamoured (bless him) and he still looks at my profile daily. Id like to think he was experimenting and experiencing a desire to have an older woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Master kinda has a rule for me and that is I do not have to play with anyone that I would not consider going out with normally.

However that does not always work... sometimes I have had some fantastic meets with guys that I would maybe not have looked twice at in the real world.

We ideally like the younger single men, just because Master thinks that I deserve that. However, its not always possible because so many younger single guys are time wasters ( so we have found)

At moment we are doing well with mid 20s to early 30s. Yet some of our best meets have been with guys older than our limit.

I do judge on the photos someone sends me though, so if I dont like the first photo I am sent I will send a polite thanks but no thanks back.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I was also thinking the other day are most of the single fellas on here because they/we are too socially inept to pull in other circumstances? I'm also going to exclude myself from that statement... "

I think this is true of so many guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi everyone, first time on the forum threads, please be nice!!!

Seeing the "men shag women in swinging that are below their normal standards" reminded me of an expression a friend once used over 25 years ago.

He refered to a girl he had had sex with the previous weekend as a "moped"...........he went on to explain "A great ride, but you wouldn't want your mates to see you on it"

Perhaps (i've not seen him for 20 odd years) he could be the guy who got all upset!!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Hi everyone, first time on the forum threads, please be nice!!!

"

welcome to the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well in swinging..

a female could have a profile that says the following: x67%,lsk

and she would still get messages saying

'love your profile' 'you sound sexy'

she could sit on cam in the chat room with a bin liner on her head and last nights pizza stuck to her face..

and she would still get .... Hi XXX looking good, Hi XXX you look hot, you looking for fun ??.....

"

Now steady on. That's quite insulting. We are a couple who definitely do have high standards. We simply wouldn't go for any old pizza!!! It very much depends on the topping and whether it was a classical thin base. For example we get constant messages, winks and 'friends invites' from Papa John and Dom Ino asking when we're going to eatbut its always a thanks but no thanks

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"well in swinging..

a female could have a profile that says the following: x67%,lsk

and she would still get messages saying

'love your profile' 'you sound sexy'

she could sit on cam in the chat room with a bin liner on her head and last nights pizza stuck to her face..

and she would still get .... Hi XXX looking good, Hi XXX you look hot, you looking for fun ??.....

Now steady on. That's quite insulting. We are a couple who definitely do have high standards. We simply wouldn't go for any old pizza!!! It very much depends on the topping and whether it was a classical thin base. For example we get constant messages, winks and 'friends invites' from Papa John and Dom Ino asking when we're going to eatbut its always a thanks but no thanks "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women are just like men in a way i think. When we are horny and want sex standards go out the window! I have to like something about some one to meet/sleep with them. Weather its body or face! But if extreme hornyness not crept in. Generaly we chat to couples on here we find attractive meet for a drink and see where it goes. .

As for the single men on here theres a hell of alot a them so its really hard for them to find decent meets. So if it means sleeping with a person they wouldnt normally go for for what ever reason they not to bothered as they think they wil get verified genuine so that it puts them in with more of a chance for future meets as people prefere meeting with other verified cpls or singles.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I think peer pressure can come into it somewhere or another.

When a guy is out with his mates on the pull, many will have that little voice of fear in their head whispering “what will your mates think if you hit on her”. The voice tends to shut the fuck up after several pints and when there’s less than an hour left before closing.

It’s been brought up many times before in threads about large women… would the guys who shag big birds hit on large women if they were out with mates? Quite a lot wouldn’t because of the peer pressure… even if they do find the fullest of figures appealing.

May be some guys are dropping their standards… but dropping them from an elevated standard.

May be some guys are dropping their standards… because there are no mates around to take the piss.

May be some guys drop their standards… because it is a fair trade if they are to be free of all the bullshit lies and pretence they have to go though to get a shag elsewhere.

I am sure there are many more reasons.

The more important question is… is it such a bad thing if a guy does drop his standards? I don’t think it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polo's post is completely spot on.

My guy Chris has always been into bigger ladies. The slim long legged model type has never appealed to him as he loves breasts, hips, soft tummys and large round bottoms.

He often says that whilst in Uni and out with male friends, they would all leer at the popular slim looking girls and make comments, but in real life he was never turned on by these girls.

Now whilst browsing the forums, he never messages very slim women, swinging to him is about fantasy and bigger ladies are his fantasy. I can tell hes not just saying it to please me because Im a bigger girl, I can see by the way he runs his hands over their bottoms etc.

A lot of the guys we have met say exactly the same thing.

Well it proves it on here because I bet a lot of the curvier girls get lots of messages from men.

there will be the element from some guys of going with a woman just to get a verification or because its the only offer they have had, we all have to face that, but its certainly not true that bigger girls are only popular because they are easier to pull.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Sometimes it happens both ways on the same meet..

But then as we say in our profile it is now always looks that you an find sexually attractive.. But Jesus.. Well you know

It would interesting to see if the same held true in a dark room scenario or blindfold where you don't actually see the pretty boy or girl or not the case..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes it happens both ways on the same meet..

But then as we say in our profile it is now always looks that you an find sexually attractive.. But Jesus.. Well you know

It would interesting to see if the same held true in a dark room scenario or blindfold where you don't actually see the pretty boy or girl or not the case.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been on here long and have had only limited "success" but I still think I'd have the self respect to turn down someone who didn't appeal. A woman has to be sexually attractive to me for me to really consider going with her. Maybe that'll change but not for now.

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