FabSwingers.com forum: Why do ladies judge a book by its cover

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?"

I can't see you but I can hear you whinging. I count that as judging you by your personality.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

because they can...

viva la choice..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't!...I've got a face like a smacked arse but I still meet women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

like i've told people on another site....I started chatting to a guy through this site, never saw a face (or cock) pic and decided to meet him....we've met twice now and I consider him one of the best on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"like i've told people on another site....I started chatting to a guy through this site, never saw a face (or cock) pic and decided to meet him....we've met twice now and I consider him one of the best on here.

another thread that is!!!!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Because when I take a man to bed I don't want to read him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i was looking for a partner, then i am likely to be won over by their personality over time and fall for them as a person.

If i am looking for a shag, then i want someone who i fancy. However, this does not man i will shag an attractive person with a bad attitude, just that it is the looks that get my attention on the first place.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

You find it 'odd' that people base their decisions on looks? Why? I wouldn't meet any one I found unnattractive, couldn't shag a Quasimodo look alike even if he had the best personality in the world! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because when I take a man to bed I don't want to read him."

You want him to read YOU...all these threads make sense when you link 'em up

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By *nothercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"You find it 'odd' that people base their decisions on looks? Why? I wouldn't meet any one I found unnattractive, couldn't shag a Quasimodo look alike even if he had the best personality in the world! Z"

Damn!

lmao

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

When you get messages saying

"I want to fuck you. Call me on 07**********."

How are we supposed to judge personality???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

question to the op would you play with someone you didnt find attractive????

and dont forget the ladies on here have alot more choice than the guys, its a fact deal with it and make yourself special in some other way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people go on looks first as dont know you . If thay like the look then thay may mail. profiles with out pics or just cocks have to be a really really good read for me to mail back.... swinging most just looking for one thing SEX. I like to get to know people makes it alot more fun. Some dont have the time to know people dont wish too. jo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do love the smell of a good book lol. Mmmm tipping the velvet has a unique bouquet lol.

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By *y_funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

It all comes down to Market forces, Theres an abundance of Men so Women & Couples can take their pick.

If your going swinging then picking a partner to swing with is far different than compared with picking a Life partner. Attraction, like it or not, comes some way close to the top of the list. The way initial contact is made, looks, their Profile all come into play when making the choice to play or not to play. First impressions do last.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be eternally gratefull that there are so many ladies on here with bad eyesight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all comes down to Market forces, Theres an abundance of Men so Women & Couples can take their pick.

correct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my posts on here have earned us a few shags too,

Ladies have always said on here that if you make them laugh, you're nearly there. Well when I get me cock out, they fall out laughing uncontrollably. Then I pounce

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By *INKKKYMan
over a year ago

LIVERPOOL/ WIRRAL

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?"
YOUR A BRAVE MAN MATE!!

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

For MrsH there has to be some physical attraction first on here as you can not tell someones personality from a few short messages, then we go from there.

At socials or clubs where you can actually chat it is more often the personality that wins through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do go on looks and like younger men but if i tell the truth some of my best sex was with a man who was not that good looking he had a fab body and a nice person and did give me hours of fun. Just a lovely person I got to know him in the chat rooms .. just have to click with the person feel you can do everthing in bed no holding back really thats what make it good. jo xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's got to be some physical attraction but it's the personality for me that is the decider on whether or not i have sex with them.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Personality gets me through the door.

Looks keep me from getting thrown out the window.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why settle for a Munter with a great personality, when you can have an Adonis with an equally great personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its what catches the eye, and your lovely bum definitly catches mine

Personally:

1 a nice introductory message

2 good conversation

3 whilst checking out profile

4 checking pictures

5 arranging a meet

So possibly looks but in reality, if there is no face picture, conversation and having read my profile count for everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all comes down to Market forces, Theres an abundance of Men so Women & Couples can take their pick.

Nail on the head here I think. As single fellas on here we are in the majority and as such face 'stiff' competition. As much as one poster said they couldn't shag Quasimodo if they had the best personality in the world I'm sure the same could be said if someone was stunning but completely obnoxious with it. It's about the 'package' as a whole, how you present yourself AND how you look.

Now can I fit anymore willy related puns into this message...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of my posts on here have earned us a few shags too,

Ladies have always said on here that if you make them laugh, you're nearly there. Well when I get me cock out, they fall out laughing uncontrollably. Then I pounce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?"

Is that just on this site or life in general?

If I go out for a meal Im most likely going to choose the restaurant that looks good and is clean, when the food comes it's most likely gonna look appetising, it's only when I eat it that I'll know whether it's good or not. Only good food will end up bringing me back.

There's got to be an attraction to get to the personality, but at the end of the day it's the personality that matters (or amazing sex lol).

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By *lexavierWoman
over a year ago

north birmingham

I don't. In fact I specifically say I do not want to know what anyone looks like at all, and vice versa.

You wouldn't believe the amount of abuse I have had off men for saying I don't want a photo, then when they realise I am asking for a totally "blind" meet, despite my having stated it within my profile, they get even nastier! Love the block button.

So, I can tell you now, from someone who asks for exactly the opposite, the notion of NOT caring about looks is often totally hated.

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By *y_funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

"It all comes down to Market forces, Theres an abundance of Men so Women & Couples can take their pick.

Now can I fit anymore willy related puns into this message...?

Cock on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't. In fact I specifically say I do not want to know what anyone looks like at all, and vice versa.

So, I can tell you now, from someone who asks for exactly the opposite, the notion of NOT caring about looks is often totally hated."

I agree....and sometimes no pic is better than a handful of cock pics taken from every angle lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweeping generalisation much.

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By *lexavierWoman
over a year ago

north birmingham

"Sweeping generalisation much."

often difficult to avoid, sometimes you get so fed up with the same responses and messages, you wonder if you're the only one here at all and its all a computer program designed in the 80's on a loop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?"

thats because we are after sex not a relationship

If i meet someone i very rarely meet them again there for does their personality really matter?

Thats not to say that i will play with a total knob head lol its just that if its only sex surely looks matter more? if your looking for more than sex then personality is more important

I would never play with anyone i wasnt attracted to due to a good personality, in swinging pysical attraction matters more to me, for friends or if i was ever looking for more than just sex that looks wouldnt be so important

looks matter to everyone tho i dare say you wouldnt meet anyone without seeing a pic and if you didnt like the pic im sure you'd say no thanks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks matter to everyone tho i dare say you wouldnt meet anyone without seeing a pic and if you didnt like the pic im sure you'd say no thanks? "

I did just that....didn't have a clue til he sat next to me in the pub lol but I wasn't disappointed

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By *lexavierWoman
over a year ago

north birmingham

looks matter to everyone tho i dare say you wouldnt meet anyone without seeing a pic and if you didnt like the pic im sure you'd say no thanks? "

lol, ummmm..... you would be surprised at some of the fun I have had by refusing to exchange pictures!

But then, thats part of it, everyone is different, wish folks would accept that sometimes and not get caught up arguing a case with someone just because they are looking for something different to yourself!

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By *lexavierWoman
over a year ago

north birmingham

looks matter to everyone tho i dare say you wouldnt meet anyone without seeing a pic and if you didnt like the pic im sure you'd say no thanks?

I did just that....didn't have a clue til he sat next to me in the pub lol but I wasn't disappointed

here here!

lol, and I have had meets where if I had seen a photo I would have said... "nope, not for me" which, within 10 minutes of chatting have been explosively fantastic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've only ever met someone once without seeing pics and id never do it again, wasnt my best experience lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?"

For just sex then how you look is going to be the most important thing. They are not looking to get married after all.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?"

Sorry, I might be being thick here (feel free to correct me if I am!) But surely looks have to come into it, as that would attract you to want to meet in the first place? Personality also comes into it with me, as I like the social aspect as well, so must be able to hold a conversation if your going to spend an evening in someones company, but then I am fussy lol

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?

I have the same opinions, attraction has to be there first.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

people will make their own choices on who or why they wanna meet a person .

plus guys/cpls judge women by looks alone ..how meny times have there been posts from ladies saying guys/cpls have turned em down saying they were too big ,too skinny, too tall ect or after sending a face pic ! its personal perference .

persoanlly it doesnt matter how good looking a guy is if i cant click mentally with em then it aint gonna happen !! a persons personality can make them more attractive to you or a immediate turn off! ive spoken to some guys who fantastic looking in their pics and then talking to em their attitude ect works better then a bloody ice cold shower ! if i wanted pleasured with no conversation ive got a rampent rabbit for that !!!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

if your meeting people for sex.you dont always have time to read the book.you only get a look at the cover.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?"

Why?

I want to shag a man, not talk profound and interesting topics with him.

I have an attention span of about 1 hour with a meet. If we ain't shagging within that hour, I'm bored and he's out of the door!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh you've changed your name!

I still think it's a sweeping generalisation mind

As some others have said, when the ultimate aim of this site is to have sex, personality doesn't count an awful lot for many. You get one shot to impress and if you don't then there's generally no going back. It's really quite difficult to get your true personality across in a single message or even in several messages as the written word can often be misinterpreted.

Now, I know that you're a decent guy so keep at it and I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on this site a short while and find it odd that ladies judge you by your looks not you personality?"

That aint entirely true lol

If it was this ugly fucker wouldn't get any meets pmsl

And i have loads a good mates xx

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