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By *irtyGirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

So did we establish what the acceptable phrase was for a fuck buddy then?

I asked him if he minded that I referred to him as that and he said no.. that's what I call you!

So what are the alternatives?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Booty call....special friend....or just baby cos I can never remember his name?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmm booty call sounds good

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

play mate

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone


"play mate"

yep, play mate is my preferred phrase too

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By *y_funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

SHEFFIELD

Play mate sound better....

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I use playmate too

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I always think of booty call as a last thing at night attempt to get a shag as they have nothing better to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really dont like that word fuck buddie its cheep and nasty .. playmate so much nicer x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Just lately ive been calling them my sparring friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Don't really have friends with benefits... as I think being friends means they are not on my sexual menu.

I call the guys we meet either playmate's or toys.

Katie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about fun buddy?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I call them COD......Cock on demand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

play mate sounds good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"play mate

yep, play mate is my preferred phrase too "

Mine too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"play mate

yep, play mate is my preferred phrase too

Mine too!"
I like it as its saying two things play as in sex mate as in friend .. good word not cheep and nasty like fuck buddie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unanimously , playmate . It does not sound as cheap and sounds more respectful .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

playmate sounds good...

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The term ‘friends with benefits’ sends shudders down my spine.

To me it implies “we are friends first and foremost and if we happen to have sex at some point down the line it is a bonus”… it implies that because - that’s what I have seen so many people who use FWB describe it as… usually the same type of people who say “I value you too much as a friend to have sex with you and spoil it” *barfffffff*

Whilst they are only words, the order of the words is important as it changes the emphasis. If people don’t like the word ‘fuck’ they could have changed it to bed-buddies, bonking-buddies, bouncing-buddies… all imply the sexual element being the reason for the friendship… rather than the friendship being the priority and sex a possibility ‘benefit’ at some point.

On other sites I have found the term FWB used by people with underlying judgemental sex related hang-ups… often the type of person who still has the word ‘slag’ in their active vocabulary and many having lower self-confidence, limited social contact outside of family and basically revolving their life around the website.

Of course this is a generalisation as some people pick up the term thinking it’s just the phrase used around these parts and adopt it in order to fit in.

Thankfully this site hasn't been swamped by the use of it.

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By *oucaneerMan
over a year ago

London

Friends with benifits, around ten years ago I had loads of friend's with benifits.

Housing benitit, income support, sickness benifit, lol.

Happy to say all that's changed now.

I dont realy like the name, sounds like a job package.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lover. Much more sensual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lover. Much more sensual."

THat always to me implies more than sex. So I couldn't use it.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"Play mate sound better...."

i think that sounds like something Smashy and Nicey would use! lol

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By *irtyGirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Interesting... my friends are my friends. My friends with benefits are just that... people I fuck who I happen to be mates with too but the fucking came first.

The play mate expression is a bit too child like for me. I had play mates when I was at nursery.

I think I'll just keep being "cheap and nasty" and stick with my fuck buddy. He doesn't mind it and neither do I so I guess that's really all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting...

The play mate expression is a bit too child like for me. I had play mates when I was at nursery.

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thats all the resons i love the name play mates as its fun ... maybe not like i had as kid but fun all the same xxx

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