FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

stop stop stop with this crazy fingerings craze!!

Jump to newest
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

I was wondering if I am the only woman who is tired of being fingered by men who seem to be on a mission to make me squirt. One technique. .fingers in and go mental on my insides with no let up!

I do not squirt! I do not want to squirt. I tell people I do not squirt.

There are other ways of being fingered! I like being fingered hard (sometimes) but maybe a bit of variation other than frantic mental power drill action

What happened to the fingering techniques of the 1990s..those were the days. Sigh. ..

Any women out there know what I am talking about?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Any women out there know what I am talking about? "

Yes, and its not nice. So painful, and not sexy at all. I do squirt, but in my own time.

If a guy at a club starts fingering my like he's trying to pump up an airbed I push him away and find someone less selfish.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree, I've done it before but can't say I enjoyed it! I've had a guy bruise me he was trying so hard! There are much much more enjoyable things x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If a guy at a club starts fingering my like he's trying to pump up an airbed I push him away and find someone less selfish."

Men will now be rushing out to buy airbeds to finger

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

[Removed by poster at 21/08/15 11:40:27]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Hate it. Asked a guy a couple of times to stop, which he did. He started at it again a few minutes later so I left.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

Definitely blame porn. .I met a few younger guys and seemed to be only move they knew!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton


"Yes. Hate it. Asked a guy a couple of times to stop, which he did. He started at it again a few minutes later so I left."

Yes this exactly. .I felt it was because he literally didn't have any other moves

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

Hiya Mickey here and kind of understand What you mean with the number of squirting threads

Minnie has never squirted and isn't that bothered whether she does or not as long as she has fun

From a male point of view as long as the lady I'm doing it to is enjoying what I'm doing that's good enough for me. If I can make her cum doing it even better 

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man, what is with that?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the problem is a lot of guys think gushing is an orgasum when it's not

So they are on a mission to make you squirt/gush to fill their ego because they don't feel you have cum unless they see fluid

I have never cum when I've gushed, I don't like gushing, I don't like the sensation of it because guys usually hurt me to get me to that point

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough


"I was wondering if I am the only woman who is tired of being fingered by men who seem to be on a mission to make me squirt. One technique. .fingers in and go mental on my insides with no let up!

I do not squirt! I do not want to squirt. I tell people I do not squirt.

There are other ways of being fingered! I like being fingered hard (sometimes) but maybe a bit of variation other than frantic mental power drill action

What happened to the fingering techniques of the 1990s..those were the days. Sigh. ..

Any women out there know what I am talking about? "

Agree!!!!

Sick of guys fingering away like they're on a mission to make me pee myself (yes yes I know that it's not all urine before anyone tries to bash me on that) OR attempting to fist me (after having 2 very natural births I have no wish for huge man hands to be shoved up me without at least a little warm up)

Guys, give it a rest, take it slow, if a woman wants you to go harder, faster, stronger we are very capable of letting you know... Wait for the tell tale signs, the hip movements, the sounds etc. do not just go for it, you would hate it if us women just started pulling on ya cocks like we're plunging a blocked toilet, so how about you treat us with the same level of respect.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely hate it!

Instant way to turn me off and get kicked out!!!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ushandkittyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I think some guys see making a woman squirt as a bit of a challenge and do it for their own ego boost rather than the pleasure of the woman. Rather see a woman have pleasure at her own pace rather than thrust upon her ( pun intended ) as it were.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton


"I was wondering if I am the only woman who is tired of being fingered by men who seem to be on a mission to make me squirt. One technique. .fingers in and go mental on my insides with no let up!

I do not squirt! I do not want to squirt. I tell people I do not squirt.

There are other ways of being fingered! I like being fingered hard (sometimes) but maybe a bit of variation other than frantic mental power drill action

What happened to the fingering techniques of the 1990s..those were the days. Sigh. ..

Any women out there know what I am talking about?

Agree!!!!

Sick of guys fingering away like they're on a mission to make me pee myself (yes yes I know that it's not all urine before anyone tries to bash me on that) OR attempting to fist me (after having 2 very natural births I have no wish for huge man hands to be shoved up me without at least a little warm up)

Guys, give it a rest, take it slow, if a woman wants you to go harder, faster, stronger we are very capable of letting you know... Wait for the tell tale signs, the hip movements, the sounds etc. do not just go for it, you would hate it if us women just started pulling on ya cocks like we're plunging a blocked toilet, so how about you treat us with the same level of respect.

"

Well explained. .slow build and let me tell you harder. .when I am ready..slow and teasey gets me so much wetter

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, know what you mean. I dont squirt and have told people that I dont and they still insist and ask me to do it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IME it's not hard, fast and deep that yields a nice squirt. A lighter touch is more effective and so much more fun to give

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the problem is many men say they know how to get a woman to squirt... Ramming around and trying to cause friction burns! I squirt mainly when using a toy on the outside, have no technique or control. Sometimes it happens, sometimes it doesn't . Very different feeling and enjoyable but do prefer a long and prolonged multi orgasm any day!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *owboy BebopMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

... Old Skool fingering .... Preferably on a sofa.... Takes me back to my teenage years ...happy days !!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No bruising with a tongue....just saying!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton


"... Old Skool fingering .... Preferably on a sofa.... Takes me back to my teenage years ...happy days !!! "

Yep this! Maybe with a snog tasting of slightly warm special brew!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a health hazard and I forbid anyone to do it now. I've been fortunate to have had a couple of men who use the correct technique of gentle strokes of the clitoris and soft penetration inside. I'd like to find the man who decided forcing a woman to piss herself was the ultimate in sexual pleasure and fuck his prostate with a toilet brush

That may have been a little rant there

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"No bruising with a tongue....just saying!!"

So few men do that these days.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Fuckin ell - You lot dont half go on

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... Old Skool fingering .... Preferably on a sofa.... Takes me back to my teenage years ...happy days !!!

Yep this! Maybe with a snog tasting of slightly warm special brew!"

Skol lager you mean

Ah,the days of the fingering snog in the tool shed

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I agree with all that's said above. I've seen guys at clubs going at a woman like they're clearing a blocked drain... I call it 'The Dynarod Method' and it looks awful and feels worse. Just stop it guys!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No bruising with a tongue....just saying!!

So few men do that these days."

It's the only thing I do well!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a health hazard and I forbid anyone to do it now. I've been fortunate to have had a couple of men who use the correct technique of gentle strokes of the clitoris and soft penetration inside. I'd like to find the man who decided forcing a woman to piss herself was the ultimate in sexual pleasure and fuck his prostate with a toilet brush

That may have been a little rant there "

Bloody genius!

Marry me, please?

Xxx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urely4funMan
over a year ago

london

Yeah I was talking about this .I never do it hard hard. I like to start soft and slow and touch ever part of the girls body at the same time. But I've never made a girl squirt, and this makes me think that I'm not doing it hard enough,that won't make me go harder though. I don't like to cause any pain besides cock going in too deep lol.

I'd love to caress a pussy with my mouth for as long as it took to make somebody capable of squirting squirt. x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rank_SimoneCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

I can make a woman squirt without fingering them.

I just drop my trousers and they piss themselves with laughter lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton


"Yeah I was talking about this .I never do it hard hard. I like to start soft and slow and touch ever part of the girls body at the same time. But I've never made a girl squirt, and this makes me think that I'm not doing it hard enough,that won't make me go harder though. I don't like to cause any pain besides cock going in too deep lol.

I'd love to caress a pussy with my mouth for as long as it took to make somebody capable of squirting squirt. x"

There are many many many women who don't want to squirt. ..they want to orgasm! You carry on just as you are!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I was talking about this .I never do it hard hard. I like to start soft and slow and touch ever part of the girls body at the same time. But I've never made a girl squirt, and this makes me think that I'm not doing it hard enough,that won't make me go harder though. I don't like to cause any pain besides cock going in too deep lol.

I'd love to caress a pussy with my mouth for as long as it took to make somebody capable of squirting squirt. x"

Forget about squirting altogether and focus on the pleasure you and her are getting. Do you feel like you orgasm when you pee? Neither do I

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a health hazard and I forbid anyone to do it now. I've been fortunate to have had a couple of men who use the correct technique of gentle strokes of the clitoris and soft penetration inside. I'd like to find the man who decided forcing a woman to piss herself was the ultimate in sexual pleasure and fuck his prostate with a toilet brush

That may have been a little rant there

Bloody genius!

Marry me, please?

Xxx"

Ok but I can't cook xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Everyone is different and likes to be played with in different ways. Over the course of a relationship you get to learn their likes and dislikes, but in the swinging world we are generally talking about one off encounters or just a few encounters.

If either men or women aren't enjoying what their partner is doing, why not say " I find it really sexy when you do it this way". Tell them, show them and everyone will have a great time

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As well as the squirting obsession, men tend to like their cocks rubbed hard, so assume this is the way to get a girl off too. I remember one ex stopping me and saying 'Paul, it's a pussy, what are you doing??' That got the message across...

Over time, I've learned that a single finger, rhythmically pushed in and out, varying medium pressure at different points on the outside and inside tends to get the best reactions

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree! In my experience it is the younger guys who get really excited by the whole squirting thing and... I HATE IT. I've squirted twice, both times it was sore, both times it was 'violent', neither time did I orgasm.

Soft, slow, some build up, please!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton


"As well as the squirting obsession, men tend to like their cocks rubbed hard, so assume this is the way to get a girl off too. I remember one ex stopping me and saying 'Paul, it's a pussy, what are you doing??' That got the message across...

Over time, I've learned that a single finger, rhythmically pushed in and out, varying medium pressure at different points on the outside and inside tends to get the best reactions "

Ok that's just turned me on a little bit. .lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am with the op and other ladies on this thread when they say guys just fingering roughly...

But its not just guys and women If you have nails please take extra care.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to say I don't do this! I find it quite awkward and much prefer clit stroking and actually getting a woman to enjoy it! Isn't that what sex is about? If a woman squirts, then so be it, but it's far from the be all and end all

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering if I am the only woman who is tired of being fingered by men who seem to be on a mission to make me squirt. One technique. .fingers in and go mental on my insides with no let up!

I do not squirt! I do not want to squirt. I tell people I do not squirt.

There are other ways of being fingered! I like being fingered hard (sometimes) but maybe a bit of variation other than frantic mental power drill action

What happened to the fingering techniques of the 1990s..those were the days. Sigh. ..

Any women out there know what I am talking about? "

I've never understood piledriving my fingers into a woman's sensitive area's as a pleasant experience, I'd rather stroke it and kiss it. Unless specifically asked for more or harder, I will continue to be as gentle as I can be

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As well as the squirting obsession, men tend to like their cocks rubbed hard, so assume this is the way to get a girl off too. I remember one ex stopping me and saying 'Paul, it's a pussy, what are you doing??' That got the message across...

well

Over time, I've learned that a single finger, rhythmically pushed in and out, varying medium pressure at different points on the outside and inside tends to get the best reactions "

not necessarily.. girls who think cocks have to be violently attached to make them go are not for me, they always end up pulling to far back, and that's just ouch!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree! In my experience it is the younger guys who get really excited by the whole squirting thing and... I HATE IT. I've squirted twice, both times it was sore, both times it was 'violent', neither time did I orgasm.

Soft, slow, some build up, please!"

In my experience it's any age. I think it's the ones who watch porn and talk about it with mates who think it has to be done.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely blame porn. .I met a few younger guys and seemed to be only move they knew!!"

Speaking as a younger couple who play in clubs. The furious finger blasting is something Mrsdpt hates, but loads of guys seem to focus on squirting more than anything else

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am with the op and other ladies on this thread when they say guys just fingering roughly...

But its not just guys and women If you have nails please take extra care.

"

Also, calloused fingers from guitar playing or hard labour can cause problems, I have to be very careful about mine, because even if I'm being gentle, I've had women say ouch and I've instantly changed technique

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

Its a real turn off for us...to forceful and not gentle enough...usually ends up with us both just playing together when this happens.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want my body to be adored and caressed,not abused.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you


"Yeah I was talking about this .I never do it hard hard. I like to start soft and slow and touch ever part of the girls body at the same time. But I've never made a girl squirt, and this makes me think that I'm not doing it hard enough,that won't make me go harder though. I don't like to cause any pain besides cock going in too deep lol.

I'd love to caress a pussy with my mouth for as long as it took to make somebody capable of squirting squirt. x"
At the same time n like a sexy octopus (sorry couldn't help it)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering if I am the only woman who is tired of being fingered by men who seem to be on a mission to make me squirt. One technique. .fingers in and go mental on my insides with no let up!

I do not squirt! I do not want to squirt. I tell people I do not squirt.

There are other ways of being fingered! I like being fingered hard (sometimes) but maybe a bit of variation other than frantic mental power drill action

What happened to the fingering techniques of the 1990s..those were the days. Sigh. ..

Any women out there know what I am talking about? "
yes indeedy, now its a finger with no care

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being brought up a Catholic in the 60s and 70s and of course being a good Catholic boy , albeit with raging testosterone overload, meant I leart the exquisite pleasure that fingering can bring along with a sexy erotic snog. For a number of years that was my only sexual contact with girls until with one girlfriend we plucked up the courage to pop each other's cherries so to speak. To this day it is still one of my favourite things to do sexually.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admin should make every guy on fabs read this post!

I long to meet a guy from here that knows how to caress a pussy properly ..not attempt to tickle my throat from my pussy upwards

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

For me soft, sensuous and erotic wins every time, and is far more likely to make me cum (without squirting). Anyone who is anything other than this won't get anywhere near me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm happy to say I don't do this! I find it quite awkward and much prefer clit stroking and actually getting a woman to enjoy it! Isn't that what sex is about? If a woman squirts, then so be it, but it's far from the be all and end all"

See I'm not keen on a random meet stroking my clit either . I just wish more guys would watch to see what the woman responds or doesn't respond to. I never suck a guys cock the same as I did the last guys x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a guy and before a meet I take the time and care needed to make sure my nails are trimed no sharp bits and I always take time when fingering a lady to take in her response to the attention im giving the gush or not is a bonus not a prize her ultimate pleasure is the prize

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you orgasm in your vagina. So by internal stimulation with vigorous fingers/cock/toy which is when you ladies squirt or by stimulating your clit? My good lady loves both but the former needs vigorous stimulation. Just tell chaps what you like. Some of us love that! Enjoy xxxxxx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

As someone who learned his craft long before the rise of internet porn, I do feel for you ladies. There seems to be an expectation for you to 'perform'.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yes, strong and slow and sensuous please guys - it's becoming a dying art!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The demise of the art of fingering

http://youtu.be/cjVSz_n-7TE

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want my body to be adored and caressed,not abused."

Amen sister. Anyone tries finger blasting my delicate flower I'll chop their frigging fingers off.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to delicately lick every part of a pussy, a little gentle play with fingers, but ultimately it is my tongue doing most of the work

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

an interesting and enlightening thread this, must admit I discovered my "gift" for making women squirt only recently, ie last 5 years, I never treat it as the be all and end all of the sexual experience and appreciate that the female orgasm however that is achieved is the primary enjoyable sensation. However I have to say I've received only positive responses, both during and after, from the ladies I've done it to so it's a surprise to learn of this universal loathing on here.

Whilst I acknowledge the prevalance of a particular genre of porn nowadays seems to "inspire" some men to re-enact this as though they were in front of the cameras there are plenty of women out there who do enjoy the rough with the smooth and it's not entirely a figment of the male porn viewer's imagination as this thread would have you believe.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

No, absolutely agree with you..as I say I do like it hard sometimes and think women on here do too . I think maybe the point we want to make is..start slow and let the woman give you some signals that she wants it harder/faster.

I think maybe I am just meaning guys in clubs and meets who just launch in and start pumping away with no build up or when you say gentle or slow down they stop for a min and then seem at a total loss as to what to do so go right back to crazy ass pumping again.

Time and a place and all that!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah I understand where you're coming from...........err, so to speak

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eovilcouple76Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

I'm going to go against the grain here. I like being fingered. I enjoy being fingered quite hard too. In fact, give me someone who spends ten minutes trying to make me squirt over someone who wants to spend all night licking me. Now that, I don't get. Does nothing for me and I can live without it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton


"I'm going to go against the grain here. I like being fingered. I enjoy being fingered quite hard too. In fact, give me someone who spends ten minutes trying to make me squirt over someone who wants to spend all night licking me. Now that, I don't get. Does nothing for me and I can live without it. "

Ha ha I can live without hours of oral too..am I coming across as hard to please??

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm going to go against the grain here. I like being fingered. I enjoy being fingered quite hard too. In fact, give me someone who spends ten minutes trying to make me squirt over someone who wants to spend all night licking me. Now that, I don't get. Does nothing for me and I can live without it. "

You know what I like? A bloke who takes the time to find out whether I want him to do the stuff he's about to do. I imagine men like the same from women too.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell, this is hard work today!

Hard finger, gentle lick... no lick and rough finger, slow then fast, squirt or not?

Its a wonder us men can keep up! Haha

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I'm going to go against the grain here. I like being fingered. I enjoy being fingered quite hard too. In fact, give me someone who spends ten minutes trying to make me squirt over someone who wants to spend all night licking me. Now that, I don't get. Does nothing for me and I can live without it.

You know what I like? A bloke who takes the time to find out whether I want him to do the stuff he's about to do. I imagine men like the same from women too. "

A man taking directions from a woman? Never happen!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"an interesting and enlightening thread this, must admit I discovered my "gift" for making women squirt only recently, ie last 5 years, I never treat it as the be all and end all of the sexual experience and appreciate that the female orgasm however that is achieved is the primary enjoyable sensation. However I have to say I've received only positive responses, both during and after, from the ladies I've done it to so it's a surprise to learn of this universal loathing on here.

Whilst I acknowledge the prevalance of a particular genre of porn nowadays seems to "inspire" some men to re-enact this as though they were in front of the cameras there are plenty of women out there who do enjoy the rough with the smooth and it's not entirely a figment of the male porn viewer's imagination as this thread would have you believe."

I think the universal loathing is aimed at men that think all women are the same and want fingers rammed in them to make them squirt.

The loathing isn't aimed at respectful men, or at squirting as a thing, or even at a nice bit of fingering.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I do think some guys go too rough

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought I was the only one who felt this way about it. Yes sometimes guys treat it as a challenge to make me gush/squirt whatever you call it, but actually I hate it! So from now on I'll not allow it. I like gentle, soft touching/fingering guys so take note my male friends!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"an interesting and enlightening thread this, must admit I discovered my "gift" for making women squirt only recently, ie last 5 years, I never treat it as the be all and end all of the sexual experience and appreciate that the female orgasm however that is achieved is the primary enjoyable sensation. However I have to say I've received only positive responses, both during and after, from the ladies I've done it to so it's a surprise to learn of this universal loathing on here.

Whilst I acknowledge the prevalance of a particular genre of porn nowadays seems to "inspire" some men to re-enact this as though they were in front of the cameras there are plenty of women out there who do enjoy the rough with the smooth and it's not entirely a figment of the male porn viewer's imagination as this thread would have you believe.

I think the universal loathing is aimed at men that think all women are the same and want fingers rammed in them to make them squirt.

The loathing isn't aimed at respectful men, or at squirting as a thing, or even at a nice bit of fingering. "

I read that last bit in the voice of Alan Bennett.......wrong, so very wrong

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ighly ProfessionalMan
over a year ago

peterborough

well i love to finger and make a lady squirt, I do not go hell for leather a nice gentle build up, fingering licking tesaing followed by more fingering. So far i have made 8 women squirt who had never squirted before and no pain was had by anyone in the process. Guys it can be done treat a lady like a lady not a toy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep we've had it too....and to the point were we just stop the meet and tell them to go

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dearly hope that squirting goes out of fashion as quickly as it came in. In the meantime, we're forced to give every guy we meet advance warning not to try.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering if I am the only woman who is tired of being fingered by men who seem to be on a mission to make me squirt. One technique. .fingers in and go mental on my insides with no let up!

I do not squirt! I do not want to squirt. I tell people I do not squirt.

There are other ways of being fingered! I like being fingered hard (sometimes) but maybe a bit of variation other than frantic mental power drill action

What happened to the fingering techniques of the 1990s..those were the days. Sigh. ..

Any women out there know what I am talking about?

Agree!!!!

Sick of guys fingering away like they're on a mission to make me pee myself (yes yes I know that it's not all urine before anyone tries to bash me on that) OR attempting to fist me (after having 2 very natural births I have no wish for huge man hands to be shoved up me without at least a little warm up)

Guys, give it a rest, take it slow, if a woman wants you to go harder, faster, stronger we are very capable of letting you know... Wait for the tell tale signs, the hip movements, the sounds etc. do not just go for it, you would hate it if us women just started pulling on ya cocks like we're plunging a blocked toilet, so how about you treat us with the same level of respect.

"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Squirting is a fashion? Really?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Squirting is a fashion? Really? "

Yep, really

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"an interesting and enlightening thread this, must admit I discovered my "gift" for making women squirt only recently, ie last 5 years, I never treat it as the be all and end all of the sexual experience and appreciate that the female orgasm however that is achieved is the primary enjoyable sensation. However I have to say I've received only positive responses, both during and after, from the ladies I've done it to so it's a surprise to learn of this universal loathing on here.

Whilst I acknowledge the prevalance of a particular genre of porn nowadays seems to "inspire" some men to re-enact this as though they were in front of the cameras there are plenty of women out there who do enjoy the rough with the smooth and it's not entirely a figment of the male porn viewer's imagination as this thread would have you believe."

The problem is that some men think they have a "gift" for making women squirt so they always want to try and do it.

Squirting doesn't feel very nice. I don't want anyone to try. At all. Ever.

Negotiate activities in rather than assuming people want to do things.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"an interesting and enlightening thread this, must admit I discovered my "gift" for making women squirt only recently, ie last 5 years, I never treat it as the be all and end all of the sexual experience and appreciate that the female orgasm however that is achieved is the primary enjoyable sensation. However I have to say I've received only positive responses, both during and after, from the ladies I've done it to so it's a surprise to learn of this universal loathing on here.

Whilst I acknowledge the prevalance of a particular genre of porn nowadays seems to "inspire" some men to re-enact this as though they were in front of the cameras there are plenty of women out there who do enjoy the rough with the smooth and it's not entirely a figment of the male porn viewer's imagination as this thread would have you believe.

The problem is that some men think they have a "gift" for making women squirt so they always want to try and do it.

Squirting doesn't feel very nice. I don't want anyone to try. At all. Ever.

Negotiate activities in rather than assuming people want to do things."

where have I said I assume the woman wants it, please don't put words in my mouth

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An all over fanny massage does the trick outside then inside gentle but firm drives my Mrs mental.She said I should open a walk in fanny massage parlor.I had to agree what a great job that would be

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Absolutely hate that, think men get the idea from porn, not real women!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont mind it a bit harder after I am warmed up.. but I have had some guys ( and girls) hurt me from the first few minutes.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As well as the squirting obsession, men tend to like their cocks rubbed hard, so assume this is the way to get a girl off too. I remember one ex stopping me and saying 'Paul, it's a pussy, what are you doing??' That got the message across...

Over time, I've learned that a single finger, rhythmically pushed in and out, varying medium pressure at different points on the outside and inside tends to get the best reactions

Ok that's just turned me on a little bit. .lol"

It feels even better in real life

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"an interesting and enlightening thread this, must admit I discovered my "gift" for making women squirt only recently, ie last 5 years, I never treat it as the be all and end all of the sexual experience and appreciate that the female orgasm however that is achieved is the primary enjoyable sensation. However I have to say I've received only positive responses, both during and after, from the ladies I've done it to so it's a surprise to learn of this universal loathing on here.

Whilst I acknowledge the prevalance of a particular genre of porn nowadays seems to "inspire" some men to re-enact this as though they were in front of the cameras there are plenty of women out there who do enjoy the rough with the smooth and it's not entirely a figment of the male porn viewer's imagination as this thread would have you believe.

The problem is that some men think they have a "gift" for making women squirt so they always want to try and do it.

Squirting doesn't feel very nice. I don't want anyone to try. At all. Ever.

Negotiate activities in rather than assuming people want to do things.

where have I said I assume the woman wants it, please don't put words in my mouth"

I never said you did. But I get a message every other day from guys saying they have a gift for making women squirt.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do guys think squirt = orgasm or something?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn "

Never been rough.....don't watch much porn, if it involves that kinda stuff it's a turn off to be fair!

I have, however had many ladies squirt/gush etc....and never any complaints. Ffs. How can bashing away and being rough get anywhere.....some guys...Jeez!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

No, but it is a visual sign of success to some. "Look what I have done to you".

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"an interesting and enlightening thread this, must admit I discovered my "gift" for making women squirt only recently, ie last 5 years, I never treat it as the be all and end all of the sexual experience and appreciate that the female orgasm however that is achieved is the primary enjoyable sensation. However I have to say I've received only positive responses, both during and after, from the ladies I've done it to so it's a surprise to learn of this universal loathing on here.

Whilst I acknowledge the prevalance of a particular genre of porn nowadays seems to "inspire" some men to re-enact this as though they were in front of the cameras there are plenty of women out there who do enjoy the rough with the smooth and it's not entirely a figment of the male porn viewer's imagination as this thread would have you believe.

The problem is that some men think they have a "gift" for making women squirt so they always want to try and do it.

Squirting doesn't feel very nice. I don't want anyone to try. At all. Ever.

Negotiate activities in rather than assuming people want to do things.

where have I said I assume the woman wants it, please don't put words in my mouth

I never said you did. But I get a message every other day from guys saying they have a gift for making women squirt."

I would never meet a guy who messaged me that

Guys fixated on making me gush do nothing for me at all

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Finger fucking is my most hated thing, I just don't get it. Each to their own but not for me. I've been in pain after meets before because of this

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton


"an interesting and enlightening thread this, must admit I discovered my "gift" for making women squirt only recently, ie last 5 years, I never treat it as the be all and end all of the sexual experience and appreciate that the female orgasm however that is achieved is the primary enjoyable sensation. However I have to say I've received only positive responses, both during and after, from the ladies I've done it to so it's a surprise to learn of this universal loathing on here.

Whilst I acknowledge the prevalance of a particular genre of porn nowadays seems to "inspire" some men to re-enact this as though they were in front of the cameras there are plenty of women out there who do enjoy the rough with the smooth and it's not entirely a figment of the male porn viewer's imagination as this thread would have you believe.

The problem is that some men think they have a "gift" for making women squirt so they always want to try and do it.

Squirting doesn't feel very nice. I don't want anyone to try. At all. Ever.

Negotiate activities in rather than assuming people want to do things.

where have I said I assume the woman wants it, please don't put words in my mouth

I never said you did. But I get a message every other day from guys saying they have a gift for making women squirt.

I would never meet a guy who messaged me that

Guys fixated on making me gush do nothing for me at all "

Nope instant turn off! If I read a profile that says 'I always make women squirt'..its a big fat nope from me!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If a guy wants me to piss on him, he should just ask.

Treating me roughly and hurting me is only going to lead to an abrupt end of play.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If a guy even asks me, when we're chatting, if I squirt, I instantly lose interest and decide I don't want to meet him.

I'm not a performing circus animal.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *mma_j_cdTV/TS
over a year ago

chester

Fingers, lips tongue and ears. Listen to the lady and judge by the sounds if you're hitting the spot for her

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon

Far too many men these days are obsessed with trying to make a girl squirt. By doing that they are missing those special little spots. Nice and gentlle all the way for me, with a little variation. It definitely works wonders and puts a smile on the girls face, each and every time

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fingers, lips tongue and ears. Listen to the lady and judge by the sounds if you're hitting the spot for her "

Ears are very good during sex more should use them

I swear though a lot of guys don't know the different between a wince in pain and a moan of pleasure

Not being sexist but I don't play with women so can't comment on their abilities

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish women would stop making me finger them...I'm not just a piece of finger..I'm a cock too as well as a tongue

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy even asks me, when we're chatting, if I squirt, I instantly lose interest and decide I don't want to meet him.

I'm not a performing circus animal."

My retort is I'm not Moby Dick

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think another question arises, why do some women seem to think that's OK? I've noticed a few posts saying men and women, but surely a woman would know how it feels

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn "

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol "

Ah me

I recon I could knock out some great realistic porn

Fanny farting, belly wobbling, you get the full package with me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol

Ah me

I recon I could knock out some great realistic porn

Fanny farting, belly wobbling, you get the full package with me "

Carry On Porno, shame Sid is no longer with us, would you like that, you and Sid,? ,lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol "

while not being a porn watcher myself , all i consider is..its a movie essentially..its edited to show the best bits..its OK for us enlightened swingers to all have a viewpoint..but most of us dont have the skills to be porn editors, producers,directors..and probably most importantly actors lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

As a lady who didn't want this, just say "Yeah, all guys can gush too. Let me stick 2 fingers up your ass and frig away like Billy oh until I am satisfied you may not be enjoying it...or you bleed. After that, fill your boots"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

If there was an applause emoticon OP I would be using it right now. Finesse, variety and you'll know you've got the technique right when I start wriggling and making the right noises. And by noises I mean vocally, not squelchily. A girl has to have some build up. And I don't squirt.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering if I am the only woman who is tired of being fingered by men who seem to be on a mission to make me squirt. One technique. .fingers in and go mental on my insides with no let up!

I do not squirt! I do not want to squirt. I tell people I do not squirt.

There are other ways of being fingered! I like being fingered hard (sometimes) but maybe a bit of variation other than frantic mental power drill action

What happened to the fingering techniques of the 1990s..those were the days. Sigh. ..

Any women out there know what I am talking about? "

Well you see here's a thing.

Up until now I have always been a gentle fingerer! As I am when making love.

However on a meet last year the guy made Jools squirt like a hosepipe.

We had absolutely no idea that she could do this or that it was a thing.

She wants me to be able to make her squirt.

Much to My annoyance it's yet to happen.

I have tried every way,soft hard,teasing, tickling,hard in and out.

Nowt.

Tbh I just prefer to use gentle erotic fingering as part of foreplay and more sensual than the pressure of having to make her squirt.

And am now convinced that it's more of a state of mind rather than hitting exactly the right spot.

So I am going to go back to being gentle but firm. Not obsessed with the squirt.

If it happens great if not oh well.

She always has a great orgasm so what's the difference apart from some very wet bedding?

Mr whatshisname a fan of fingering since the 80's

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol

while not being a porn watcher myself , all i consider is..its a movie essentially..its edited to show the best bits..its OK for us enlightened swingers to all have a viewpoint..but most of us dont have the skills to be porn editors, producers,directors..and probably most importantly actors lol"

Maybe the less contrived the better, homemade porn seems the best stuff.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol

while not being a porn watcher myself , all i consider is..its a movie essentially..its edited to show the best bits..its OK for us enlightened swingers to all have a viewpoint..but most of us dont have the skills to be porn editors, producers,directors..and probably most importantly actors lol"

Speaking of porn, I actually haven't watched any in ages. I prefer to perv fab now. Either way, while the harder stuff was OK for quick release, I actually originally watched porn to learn more about different ways of having sex, so I've watched a lot of different things, but the ones that stuck with me were the ones with plenty of foreplay and buildup because something in my brain decided that was more natural, plus, having been brought up from a background where sexual openness was not a thing, I see sex as creating a bond, and it has been very difficult to distinguish between love and sex, so, for me, it makes sense to worship the person I'm with, and be flexible to their needs, but that's kinda my personality anyway.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people who say that the ramming is down to porn, have they actually watched enough porn to say it is the cause? I think it may be an easy assumption. I would suggest the cause of heavy handedness is more likely to be down to experience and social bravado.

As someone who started as "slowhand" I have been surprised by the number of women that I have met since I started swinging two years ago who like: (a) to be handled hard; (b) who like as many fingers as possible; and (c) to squirt. Actually most of the women in category (c) have been proud of being able to squirt and measure a man's dexterity by his ability to make her orgasm by squirting.

However, (as this thread shows and as most reasonable people will know) being masturbated is an individual experience for both women and men and everyone has their preferences. It requires the toucher to be sensitive and for the person being touched providing the right feedback straight away. A forceful approach is just one one word in the dictionary of love. Sometimes yelling is right sometimes a whisper.

The simple answer is that if a toucher starts doing something uncomfortable give them immediate guidance. If a person cannot take guidance then stop the play.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol

while not being a porn watcher myself , all i consider is..its a movie essentially..its edited to show the best bits..its OK for us enlightened swingers to all have a viewpoint..but most of us dont have the skills to be porn editors, producers,directors..and probably most importantly actors lol

Maybe the less contrived the better, homemade porn seems the best stuff.

"

to the average guy who buys porn..do you think he's concerned if its contrived?

home made might be realistic etc..but at the end of it, most will want the quality of the production, which includes professional equipment and qualified people to operate..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago I was shown a video on a porn site that was an instructional video on how to make a woman squirt. It wasn't called that,I can't remember what it was called. The instructions were to insert fingers,curl them up,press on the abdomen with the palm of your other hand and move your fingers in and out vigorously. The woman sprayed everywhere and was bouncing around massage bed like a jumping bean,squealing like a little girl. Not long after that a man tried to do it with me,with no warning. Since then,more and more men started talking about it and on here it's almost every man who messages.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvyemma OP   Woman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton


"Years ago I was shown a video on a porn site that was an instructional video on how to make a woman squirt. It wasn't called that,I can't remember what it was called. The instructions were to insert fingers,curl them up,press on the abdomen with the palm of your other hand and move your fingers in and out vigorously. The woman sprayed everywhere and was bouncing around massage bed like a jumping bean,squealing like a little girl. Not long after that a man tried to do it with me,with no warning. Since then,more and more men started talking about it and on here it's almost every man who messages. "

Yup!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Years ago I was shown a video on a porn site that was an instructional video on how to make a woman squirt. It wasn't called that,I can't remember what it was called. The instructions were to insert fingers,curl them up,press on the abdomen with the palm of your other hand and move your fingers in and out vigorously. The woman sprayed everywhere and was bouncing around massage bed like a jumping bean,squealing like a little girl. Not long after that a man tried to do it with me,with no warning. Since then,more and more men started talking about it and on here it's almost every man who messages. "

I felt a bit unwell just reading that??

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Years ago I was shown a video on a porn site that was an instructional video on how to make a woman squirt. It wasn't called that,I can't remember what it was called. The instructions were to insert fingers,curl them up,press on the abdomen with the palm of your other hand and move your fingers in and out vigorously. The woman sprayed everywhere and was bouncing around massage bed like a jumping bean,squealing like a little girl. Not long after that a man tried to do it with me,with no warning. Since then,more and more men started talking about it and on here it's almost every man who messages.

I felt a bit unwell just reading that??"

Retarded phone, that wasn't a question lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol

while not being a porn watcher myself , all i consider is..its a movie essentially..its edited to show the best bits..its OK for us enlightened swingers to all have a viewpoint..but most of us dont have the skills to be porn editors, producers,directors..and probably most importantly actors lol

Maybe the less contrived the better, homemade porn seems the best stuff.

to the average guy who buys porn..do you think he's concerned if its contrived?

home made might be realistic etc..but at the end of it, most will want the quality of the production, which includes professional equipment and qualified people to operate.."

Not sure, homemade is quite big, but you have a point, it doesn't bring in the big bucks. It's young lads that seem the most affected by it, it sets them up with unrealistic ideals of sexual relationships, they don't get why their girlfriend isn't a " slut" or " whore", and doesn't give them a BJ at the drop of a hat.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Years ago I was shown a video on a porn site that was an instructional video on how to make a woman squirt. It wasn't called that,I can't remember what it was called. The instructions were to insert fingers,curl them up,press on the abdomen with the palm of your other hand and move your fingers in and out vigorously. The woman sprayed everywhere and was bouncing around massage bed like a jumping bean,squealing like a little girl. Not long after that a man tried to do it with me,with no warning. Since then,more and more men started talking about it and on here it's almost every man who messages.

Yup!! "

I also have the joy of eczema in some rather intimate places I don't meet unless it's all good but vigorous fingering can break the skin and cause me quite a lot of pain that lasts

Totally the opposite of what they think will happen and it's scary how many will listen to me when I explain why they shouldn't but still try to do it anyway!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was wondering if I am the only woman who is tired of being fingered by men who seem to be on a mission to make me squirt. One technique. .fingers in and go mental on my insides with no let up!

I do not squirt! I do not want to squirt. I tell people I do not squirt.

There are other ways of being fingered! I like being fingered hard (sometimes) but maybe a bit of variation other than frantic mental power drill action

What happened to the fingering techniques of the 1990s..those were the days. Sigh. ..

Any women out there know what I am talking about? "

I agree I'm not a squirter I end up in pain sometimes from a man trying to get me to do it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any women out there know what I am talking about?

Yes, and its not nice. So painful, and not sexy at all. I do squirt, but in my own time.

If a guy at a club starts fingering my like he's trying to pump up an airbed I push him away and find someone less selfish."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

The simple answer is that if a toucher starts doing something uncomfortable give them immediate guidance. If a person cannot take guidance then stop the play."

Women.... please!!! If they hurt you or do something you don't like, SPEAK UP!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

The simple answer is that if a toucher starts doing something uncomfortable give them immediate guidance. If a person cannot take guidance then stop the play.

Women.... please!!! If they hurt you or do something you don't like, SPEAK UP!! "

Totally agree, some people seem to think it's wrong to communicate with their partner.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"...

The simple answer is that if a toucher starts doing something uncomfortable give them immediate guidance. If a person cannot take guidance then stop the play.

Women.... please!!! If they hurt you or do something you don't like, SPEAK UP!! "

Always communicate. God or bad. Stand your ground. Sex is at least a 2 way Street.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she does or doesn't, I have no interest in squirting, It's the visual effect and sound that she makes that turns me on,

As for doing it hard, I would rather watch her doing it and judge by that how she likes it,

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol

while not being a porn watcher myself , all i consider is..its a movie essentially..its edited to show the best bits..its OK for us enlightened swingers to all have a viewpoint..but most of us dont have the skills to be porn editors, producers,directors..and probably most importantly actors lol

Maybe the less contrived the better, homemade porn seems the best stuff.

to the average guy who buys porn..do you think he's concerned if its contrived?

home made might be realistic etc..but at the end of it, most will want the quality of the production, which includes professional equipment and qualified people to operate..

Not sure, homemade is quite big, but you have a point, it doesn't bring in the big bucks. It's young lads that seem the most affected by it, it sets them up with unrealistic ideals of sexual relationships, they don't get why their girlfriend isn't a " slut" or " whore", and doesn't give them a BJ at the drop of a hat."

No,it really isn't only young men who are affected by it. I don't know how young you mean but men in their 30s, 40s and 50s are the same. I've met a lot of men under 30 who have no interest in making me squirt,or think women are their purely for their pleasure. You can't keep blaming inexperience or youth for everything.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that its also the difference between being 'fucked' and being 'made love to'.

Meeting someone new means taking a bit of time to get to know what makes them tick, their desires etc and how their body responds because this isn't one way is right, one is wrong.

Treat me as an idividual!!

And then when we have worked it out together we have a much more fulfilling experience!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

The simple answer is that if a toucher starts doing something uncomfortable give them immediate guidance. If a person cannot take guidance then stop the play.

Women.... please!!! If they hurt you or do something you don't like, SPEAK UP!! "

Some don't stop even when asked

I remember a guy once and I told him he would have to stop as he was hurting me and his answer to that was to lube his hand up and try to carry on

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

The simple answer is that if a toucher starts doing something uncomfortable give them immediate guidance. If a person cannot take guidance then stop the play.

Women.... please!!! If they hurt you or do something you don't like, SPEAK UP!!

Some don't stop even when asked

I remember a guy once and I told him he would have to stop as he was hurting me and his answer to that was to lube his hand up and try to carry on "

Why didn't you leave?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just commented about this on another thread

I know where your coming from

I hate finger ramming, love a nice gentle finger but guys seem to be so rough now days

I blame porn

I blame porn for a lot of things, seems as though it is setting a standard for people that is based on someone else's ideal, porn should be more real, the odd trip to the toilet, or sneaky trump, who wants to make a porn film, lol

while not being a porn watcher myself , all i consider is..its a movie essentially..its edited to show the best bits..its OK for us enlightened swingers to all have a viewpoint..but most of us dont have the skills to be porn editors, producers,directors..and probably most importantly actors lol

Maybe the less contrived the better, homemade porn seems the best stuff.

to the average guy who buys porn..do you think he's concerned if its contrived?

home made might be realistic etc..but at the end of it, most will want the quality of the production, which includes professional equipment and qualified people to operate..

Not sure, homemade is quite big, but you have a point, it doesn't bring in the big bucks. It's young lads that seem the most affected by it, it sets them up with unrealistic ideals of sexual relationships, they don't get why their girlfriend isn't a " slut" or " whore", and doesn't give them a BJ at the drop of a hat.

No,it really isn't only young men who are affected by it. I don't know how young you mean but men in their 30s, 40s and 50s are the same. I've met a lot of men under 30 who have no interest in making me squirt,or think women are their purely for their pleasure. You can't keep blaming inexperience or youth for everything. "

Thank you. I was very much at a loss for a response to that comment

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

The simple answer is that if a toucher starts doing something uncomfortable give them immediate guidance. If a person cannot take guidance then stop the play.

Women.... please!!! If they hurt you or do something you don't like, SPEAK UP!!

Some don't stop even when asked

I remember a guy once and I told him he would have to stop as he was hurting me and his answer to that was to lube his hand up and try to carry on "

That sounds like very dark territory. I'm glad that's nothing worse than tried, but horrified it's that far

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Do guys think squirt = orgasm or something? "

I think it's more a case of guys are aroused more visually than women so the fact the squirt/gush is a physical display makes them feel like they've achieved something but I'm with the majority on this I'd rather orgasm instead

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do guys think squirt = orgasm or something?

I think it's more a case of guys are aroused more visually than women so the fact the squirt/gush is a physical display makes them feel like they've achieved something but I'm with the majority on this I'd rather orgasm instead "

Think you've hit the nail on the head there

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to bring up porn again, but I had a thought on another thread, so I've copied what I posted for here

Agreed, especially after oral, someone has just done something amazing for you (well, not always) at least give them a kiss to show your appreciation and affection for what they've done (unless they say not to) which is another thing, you don't get people in porno saying "hey, wait a sec, let's not do that" because it's not scripted in... Preferences have already been taken into account before the camera starts rolling, except in public humiliation and bdsm I think, where they have the discussions at the beginning and end where it goes into more details, but that's not really mainstream

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inexperience? I love to tease her with my fingers, as we snog and I kiss her neck, gently rubbing her slit, wetting my finger ad tickling her clit, slowly easing one, then two fingers inside and cupping her clit in the palm of my hand as I gently explore her. It's all about gauging the reaction, if she responds I'll build up the momentum and force, then, as we snog, put my fingers between our lips so we can taste her. different want different things, some slow and gentle, some hard and rough in my experience. Happy to oblige either, as I love the feel of a hot wet pussy, almost as much as devouring one

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've Been told my fingers are amazing. But with each individual, it's totally different. Speed, pressure, angles, directions.

Obviously finger blasting ever woman until they fall off the bed isn't the best move.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No bruising with a tongue....just saying!!

So few men do that these days."

Really? Its one of my favourite hobbies!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *itch n KCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Completely with you on this x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I've been left bleeding because of guys fingering me too hard.

Slow and teasing is the way to go, and for gods sake give the clit some attention!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ertcamembertMan
over a year ago

Reading area


"Hiya Mickey here and kind of understand What you mean with the number of squirting threads

Minnie has never squirted and isn't that bothered whether she does or not as long as she has fun

From a male point of view as long as the lady I'm doing it to is enjoying what I'm doing that's good enough for me. If I can make her cum doing it even better "
Totally agree with your last paragraph, some guys cant seem to grasp that swinging is all about mutual

pleasure

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hiya Mickey here and kind of understand What you mean with the number of squirting threads

Minnie has never squirted and isn't that bothered whether she does or not as long as she has fun

From a male point of view as long as the lady I'm doing it to is enjoying what I'm doing that's good enough for me. If I can make her cum doing it even better Totally agree with your last paragraph, some guys cant seem to grasp that swinging is all about mutual

pleasure "

All sexual experiences should be about mutual pleasure

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top