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Is it ok to be nervous???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I used to be in a couple and go to clubs regularly but never been alone.... Keep thinking ok I will go to this even or that event but feel nervous going alone... I'm a straight guy so females and couples are my thing, I'm really open minded and genuine, anyone want to chat inbox me please. Xx

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Of course it's ok to be nervous. Just don't let it stop you from going. If I was in your position, I would book a room near to a your club of choice to create a commitment to get yourself there. Then I would set myself a challenge of trying to talk to at least ten different ladies or couples whilst you are there.

Don't go with thoughts of getting laid or fulfilling any fantasies, just make it your aim to be a part of the atmosphere for the night. I'm sure your nerves will soon disappear and you'll find no problems in having an enjoyable night.

Good Luck.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go for it im sure you will get lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone gets nervous, like a first day in a new job, but then we all settle in

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I still get nervous 10 years on! Lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Of course it's OK to be nervous. I don't get butterflies, I have a herd of elephants whenever we meet anyone, even those we already know.

I can't see that ever changing, its all part of the excitement and build up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go on my own and I'm an utter wussybag! Give it a go...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou for your replies, just need to take that jump, pardon the pun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just please don't do what the majority of single males do...stare or follow, but never actually say hello! Just because it's a swingers club doesn't mean that you can't socialise with people without any expectations from either side.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be fine hardest part will be walking through the door. If you've been as a couple before you will know how it's works. Just behave as you would expect others to have behaved to you when you went with your partner.

Have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be in a couple and go to clubs regularly but never been alone.... Keep thinking ok I will go to this even or that event but feel nervous going alone... I'm a straight guy so females and couples are my thing, I'm really open minded and genuine, anyone want to chat inbox me please. Xx "

Wish I was single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even attending any event as a couple I find I get really nervous in the lead up. But its a nervous anticipation and that's a good thing surely. I guess its a case where once u are in there its only then that the nerves will lessen.

Take the step and it all gets easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just please don't do what the majority of single males do...stare or follow, but never actually say hello! Just because it's a swingers club doesn't mean that you can't socialise with people without any expectations from either side.

Have fun. "

The majority! Lol it's a tiny minority we think probably 1 in 10 and easily rectified by just saying hello to them! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the reason I don't go to parties to nervous to go alone so I've started going to group social meets and getting to know people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being nervous is good, I'm always nervous going to the club alone, but a cup of tea and jacuzzi is what I go for usually, and good conversations usually follow, sometimes also hot sweaty fun with nice people

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Nervous is good .. Just try not to be too shy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just please don't do what the majority of single males do...stare or follow, but never actually say hello! Just because it's a swingers club doesn't mean that you can't socialise with people without any expectations from either side.

Have fun. "

I have been before as a couple but we split last year.... It's the social side I really miss xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to be in a couple and go to clubs regularly but never been alone.... Keep thinking ok I will go to this even or that event but feel nervous going alone... I'm a straight guy so females and couples are my thing, I'm really open minded and genuine, anyone want to chat inbox me please. Xx

Why?xx

Wish I was single "

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

The nerves make it extra fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be in a couple and go to clubs regularly but never been alone.... Keep thinking ok I will go to this even or that event but feel nervous going alone... I'm a straight guy so females and couples are my thing, I'm really open minded and genuine, anyone want to chat inbox me please. Xx "

After 3 years of going to fet and swinging events as 1 half of a couple I went to a fet event on Sunday as a single male. Granted I knew friends were going but I was till nervous. It;ls diferent going alone but it's neither better nor worse than going as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we love the butterflies effect - if we ever lose that probably stop playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't be normal not to be a little nervous, all part of the excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm not bit nervous I don't enjoy it as much .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been to one at all yet because I'm too nervous, hoping to find someone to go with, ideally a woman who can help with my makeup first! Lol

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Nerves add to the excitement x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nerves add to the excitement x "

Im always nervous of playing with new people, but when I get going I lose all inhibitions and just go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fun turning the butterflies into horny little devil's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it's OK to be nervous. I don't get butterflies, I have a herd of elephants whenever we meet anyone, even those we already know.

I can't see that ever changing, its all part of the excitement and build up.

"

Know that feeling lol

Butterflies followed by elephants before the meet, but then pleasure when I leave

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By *ristolgent84Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Yep I'm too nervous go to bristol one keep putting it off

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