FabSwingers.com forum: How long is it before !!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am know I am not alone here, but you see someone you like look of and "friend" each other here and visa versa - you exchange a few nice messages, but they never seem to be able to meet etc -

1. Do you "un friend" them ?

2. How long would you wait to do that?

3. Do you send/accept FR before you meet

J x

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

The friend feature on here is not if great importance to me. It does give you access to their private pictures though and you see their status updates. I see no reason to take anyone off the list unless I really don't like them anymore.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The friend feature on here is not if great importance to me. It does give you access to their private pictures though and you see their status updates. I see no reason to take anyone off the list unless I really don't like them anymore.

Cal "

that's cool and I fully understand - in the scenario, I tried to pain, it when exchanges on messages and talk of meeting, but then they never happen - if that makes more sense ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually send a friend request with my first introduction msg.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use my friend list as the next step up from my hot list after I have made contact and had a positive response.

If a "friend" reads my messages and deletes them later without replying, they aren't worth keeping on the list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i enjoy chatting to them then i continue doing so and don't expect a meet (it would just be a bonus).

Do it at your own pace and what you feel happy doing. It wouldn't bother me if they didn't send a friends request. If you want to unfriend them then do that, use this site in a way that makes you happy and works for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I become friends with some one, if the chat stops and don't hear from them for a while then I take them off, clearly state it on my profile too, friends should chat regularly even if to say hello, no point otherwise

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over a year ago

It's generally me that takes ages to be able to meet and I make that clear so if people knock me off their friends list then I'm not too bothered

I do the same myself if I feel like it's a one way effort to arrange something,I get bored and move on,there's no specific time frame it's just a feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only send friend request if response to the message is positive and potential meet/social is on the cards. Otherwise no interest in seeing their private pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely add people and if they don't speak or only speak when they have no one better to talk to then I delete ....takes me a while but get fed up in the end

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for responses so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people seem to think the friends list is some kind of commitment to meet within a certain timeframe. It certainly isn't for us. Being on our list means we've met you, or we might fancy meeting you at some stage. That's all, nothing more, nothing less.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I rarely add people,my friends list v small.If i do add and we dont meet or keep in touch ,i delete pretty quickly.Some just want to look at pics but not kep in touch.

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

I only add people as friends that I have already met

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people seem to think the friends list is some kind of commitment to meet within a certain timeframe. It certainly isn't for us. Being on our list means we've met you, or we might fancy meeting you at some stage. That's all, nothing more, nothing less."

Totally agree, but if the messages you then exchange all lead you to think they/she/he want to meet up, but never commit, its that I am eluding to - I like my friends list and have no objections to keeping people there as long as they are polite and make contact every now and then - but get frustrated if "its all talk no action"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair enough, you must do things the way you see fit. The thing is, there is no standard way of using this site. For some, messaging and chat is important, for others (like us) it really isn't. We'll chat when we're making an arrangement but otherwise we just don't want to. Consequently, people can sit on our friends list for ages without hearing a thing from us, then out of the blue we'll mail them asking if they want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only send or accept friend requests after I have actually met the person, knowing they are the real deal helps immensely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I become friends with some one, if the chat stops and don't hear from them for a while then I take them off, clearly state it on my profile too, friends should chat regularly even if to say hello, no point otherwise "

Yup we do it this way too.

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