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Is the younger man under appreciated on this site?? Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hows it goin everyone?

Im relatively new to this site, i have made some "friends" but made no concrete plans as of yet.

It seems to me that younger men are often brushed off. Seen as time-wasters or outright ignored ha.

Im not overly bothered by this and can understand why, there are an abundance of young men on here and im sure plenty of them are time-wasters.

Does anyone have any thoughts/opinions or advice for the "lesser spotted young male swinger"? ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you only get ignored or dismissed by those that don't want to meet younger men (check for age criteria on profile).

just as older gents are ignored by women that don't want to meet men above a certain age.

horses for courses

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

some like younger guys, some don't.

only message people who express an interestin younger guys, that won't guarantee success but should minimise rejection.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The point about the age preference is a good one and well made by you two.

My question is more about "why" do people prefer the older man.

Are they:

Better?

Necessarily more mature?

Generally more reliable?

Is it a confidence issue some older women have?

etc...

Any more ideas would be welcome, and im just askin the question not accusing anyone, before someone picks a fight ha

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think some may have family and don't want to meet folks around the same age.

I personally don't think younger or older would make sex better... it's about more than just 'years on this earth'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The point about the age preference is a good one and well made by you two.

My question is more about "why" do people prefer the older man.

Are they:

Better?

Necessarily more mature?

Generally more reliable?

Is it a confidence issue some older women have?

etc...

Any more ideas would be welcome, and im just askin the question not accusing anyone, before someone picks a fight ha"

some would say all of that....but it really is a matter of personal choice.

like some younger men prefer older women as they believe they're more confident....i would argue that confidence comes with experience regardless of age

there's no right or wrong answer to this, merely personal opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

is this conversation too heavy for fabswingers? ha

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"is this conversation too heavy for fabswingers? ha"

Yeah, that's it, this is way too highbrow for me! Z Well, either that or it's just that it's been done to death? Z

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thats my problem, too high brow or crude as you like, wheres the middle ground.

im a man of extremes, i just need an extreme woman to have some fun with

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"is this conversation too heavy for fabswingers? ha"

Were you expecting more replies to it in the 25 or so minutes it has been posted for then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 28/11/10 17:33:50]"

it's a quiet time of the day...i'm sure you'll come under scrutiny at some point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The point about the age preference is a good one and well made by you two.

My question is more about "why" do people prefer the older man.

Are they:

Better?

Necessarily more mature?

Generally more reliable?

Is it a confidence issue some older women have?

etc...

Any more ideas would be welcome, and im just askin the question not accusing anyone, before someone picks a fight ha"

So...YOU can have age limits on YOUR profile, but question the choices made by others?!!

I have children 19, 23 and 27 therefore I, and many other ladies like me have NO wish to play with people younger than our children. This lifestyle also has a social element. I go for a drink/dinner with my playmates. I prefer my friends not to be asked for I'd before they can order my Peroni!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think that a lot of it stems down to the fact that young single males on this site sign up with the expectation that older women will fall at their feet, grateful for the change to sample some young firm flesh which in the real world they wouldnt have a hope in hell of attracting.

When said young males start sending out the mails and finding out that they dont get replies, it can be a big shock to the system.

If Im asked I always say that I am more attracted to a man older than me because I dont like to be portrayed as a Mrs Robinson type figure, a woman who corrupts young men sexually for her own deviant pleasure - but I have had a few meets with men younger than myself and all have been absolutely lovely I have to say - its not something I always go for though, nice middle aged businessmen seem to be my thing, I like the thought of the boardroom power lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame Alan Sugar isnt on here

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"The point about the age preference is a good one and well made by you two.

My question is more about "why" do people prefer the older man.

Are they:

Better?

Necessarily more mature?

Generally more reliable?

Is it a confidence issue some older women have?

etc...

Any more ideas would be welcome, and im just askin the question not accusing anyone, before someone picks a fight ha"

jesus.. here we go again.... young people complaining about not getting meets...

older people complaining about not getting meets...

look.... not everyone wants to play with someone old enough to be there mum or dad... the same as not everyone wants to play with someone your enough to be there son or daughter...

but to be honest this looks like it is a whinge and you have not been here very long...

as i said to you in the other thread... this doesn't tend to be "insta-shag"... and looking really impatient isn't one of those things that is going to endear people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im tryin to explore the issue sassymiss, there no need to take offence ha.

You dont have to answer if you dont want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The point about the age preference is a good one and well made by you two.

My question is more about "why" do people prefer the older man.

Are they:

Better?

Necessarily more mature?

Generally more reliable?

Is it a confidence issue some older women have?

etc...

Any more ideas would be welcome, and im just askin the question not accusing anyone, before someone picks a fight ha

jesus.. here we go again.... young people complaining about not getting meets...

older people complaining about not getting meets...

look.... not everyone wants to play with someone old enough to be there mum or dad... the same as not everyone wants to play with someone your enough to be there son or daughter...

but to be honest this looks like it is a whinge and you have not been here very long...

as i said to you in the other thread... this doesn't tend to be "insta-shag"... and looking really impatient isn't one of those things that is going to endear people "

i didn't read it as a whinge...and the lord knows i've seen some whingers on here!

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By *agman n angelCouple
over a year ago

benidorm

we can only speak for ourselves, but we only meet guys over 35 and under 55 nothing to do with reliabilty or maturity, but something we decided at the begining, and we stick to it unless someone is exceptional thn we may go a yr or two either way.

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By *enderbycoupleCouple
over a year ago

derbyshire or localish

young guys gettin meets,,,dont make us laugh

all last week we had a 19 yrs lad mail us,,saying he had many meets with couples,saying he was confident,saying he wouldnt be a let down,saying he was genuine...so we agreed to meet him today at 4pm..an hour before he messages....sorry to be a let down but i changed my mind ...no other reason as to why...what a dick...remember he messaged us telling us how good he was and all the other crap..and previous times when we have been let down its always been single guys who fuck us about...then they wonder why they get a hard time on here getting meets etc...couples have never messed us around,,,always single guys and for that reason we are now considering meets with couples only.

so the next time a single guy puts a whinging post on here about not getting meets well you only got yourselves to blame.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

well it is the 4th "why don't people like younger men" I have seen in the last 4 days... just like people complain....

am i too young?

am i too old?

am i too fat?

am i too thin?

black/white/straight/bi....

and the list goes on and on....

a preference is a preference is a preference....

if you are not to someones taste... move on.... thats the simple answer..

a preference doesn't need to be justified by anyone to anyone....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its funny, im gettin two types of reply:

People interested in conversation

&

People who obviously hold some sort of grudge against young men are are quite aggressive.

Less of the latter please

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"Its funny, im gettin two types of reply:

People interested in conversation

&

People who obviously hold some sort of grudge against young men are are quite aggressive.

Less of the latter please"

I must be missing the aggression in any of the replies so far anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well it is the 4th "why don't people like younger men" I have seen in the last 4 days... just like people complain....

am i too young?

am i too old?

am i too fat?

am i too thin?

black/white/straight/bi....

and the list goes on and on....

a preference is a preference is a preference....

if you are not to someones taste... move on.... thats the simple answer..

a preference doesn't need to be justified by anyone to anyone.... "

...and i agree, there are a lot of whingers.

the op seems to be questioning what peoples personal reasons are...folk can say "none of your business" or just move on.

and you're correct, it is personal preference...he's just asking what the basis of that preference is

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By *enderbycoupleCouple
over a year ago

derbyshire or localish

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Ah - I might have spotted it now!

Scrub my last post

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Damn, I so knew I should have quoted the post in my previous reply before it was removed!

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By *WLondonMixMan
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

As a young gent I don't see it as being a handicap or an advantage. You are what you are and people look for what they want. I have had no problems organising meets with couples and partys, but it is mainly down to right profile right time, and a few well written mails. When people put there preferences as young doesn't mean because your young you will definitly get a meet. Same applies to bbwn black or squirters etc.. Many people complain and many people reply the same messages. End of the day you could be absalutely perfect and still find it hard for a meet, but that is how the cookie crumbles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im tryin to explore the issue sassymiss, there no need to take offence ha.

You dont have to answer if you dont want to

"

Who's taking offense?!!

You asked a question as you seem surprised older women aren't falling at your feet and I'm pointing out some of us don't feel comfortable playing with people younger than our kids.

May I suggest if you don't want people to comment don't post on open forums, send pm to the older ladies that have caught your eye for their advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a young gent I don't see it as being a handicap or an advantage. You are what you are and people look for what they want. I have had no problems organising meets with couples and partys, but it is mainly down to right profile right time, and a few well written mails. When people put there preferences as young doesn't mean because your young you will definitly get a meet. Same applies to bbwn black or squirters etc.. Many people complain and many people reply the same messages. End of the day you could be absalutely perfect and still find it hard for a meet, but that is how the cookie crumbles. "

Well said...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well it is the 4th "why don't people like younger men" I have seen in the last 4 days... just like people complain....

am i too young?

am i too old?

am i too fat?

am i too thin?

black/white/straight/bi....

and the list goes on and on....

a preference is a preference is a preference....

if you are not to someones taste... move on.... thats the simple answer..

a preference doesn't need to be justified by anyone to anyone....

...and i agree, there are a lot of whingers.

the op seems to be questioning what peoples personal reasons are...folk can say "none of your business" or just move on.

and you're correct, it is personal preference...he's just asking what the basis of that preference is"

Who are we to question the preferences of others?!!

We are here to play with people that floats our own individual boat. Some like straight couples, some bi couples, petite, bbw, sub, domme...are we expected to justify our choices to every one who may feel excluded?!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Its funny, im gettin two types of reply:

People interested in conversation

&

People who obviously hold some sort of grudge against young men are are quite aggressive.

Less of the latter please"

okay.... lets ask you a question to see if you can understand where others are coming from...

you have a limit of 18 to 45 in your profile... why is that....

is that because you for example don't want to play with a women way above your age?

or is that because you don't find them as attractive....

or is it that you feel that you have no connection with those over that age..

or is it a million and one reasons that I haven't mentioned

the point is that you have that in place and people respect you for that... no one questioned why it was there (till now) people just assumed that was your....

wait for it...

key word coming....

preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Who are we to question the preferences of others?!!

We are here to play with people that floats our own individual boat. Some like straight couples, some bi couples, petite, bbw, sub, domme...are we expected to justify our choices to every one who may feel excluded?!! "

we can question that in the same way we can pose any other question that we post on the forum.

and...as always, the choice is yours as to whether you respond or not

....as you did

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"is this conversation too heavy for fabswingers? ha"

This was the daft comment that annoyed me more than the original post! We have had to block single guys due to the sheer number of messages and will put out 'feelers' for a single guy when we want to meet one, however, actually getting one to arrange to meet then actually turn up is extraordinarily difficult to do! Strange but true, (in our experience) Z

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

In my experience the ones that are younger than my 30 lower age limit(I am 39)go on about how mature they are and then during conversation when it is mentioned that I dont have any free time for at least another month and have a number of people I want to meet still that is then when they get winey and say something that shows just how mature they are not!

Thats why I stick to my lower limit as like to be able to hold a conversation aswell as have a good time sexually. If I am in a club then maybe not so much.

Daft comments will always show up a person at some point x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, it is personal preference.

Younger gents may have the physique of a Greek god, however, I often find they lack intellectual maturity that makes older gents more interesting.

When I meet and play with someone, it is not just about sex, it is about having some fun times with that gentleman, often involves in some stimulating conversations about life in general etc...

There aren't that many gents I find interesting below the age of 35. There are some notable exceptions, of course, however, I prefer gents closer to my own age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally, i just think its a shame you live too far away for me, i'd have ya

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Its funny, im gettin two types of reply:

People interested in conversation

&

People who obviously hold some sort of grudge against young men are are quite aggressive.

Less of the latter please"

a grudge ???? welllllll if you were mailed consistently by a people who obviously havent read your profile and clearly isnt what your looking for be it age , location ,being straight /bi ,accomm ect is it a shock when youre either ignored or a curt replie sent ?

also in SOME cases (not all) .if you send a polite "sorry but youre not what im looking for" you then get message back wanting a discussion on why you wont reconsider your criterior or aload of abuse .

just yesterday i was sent a very eliquent message from a 22 year old .... one line stating what hed like to do over my tits ! then when i knocked him back and advise he should actually read profiles and re_iew his approach i was treated to a torrent of abuse ! he said he had a gf (hmmmm shocker !!!! and profile was single guy so lier anyway lol!) and he stated he waqsnt interested anyway as i looked 70 and a skank !!! pmsl !!!! he kinda forgot HE messaged ME pmsl!! the point is this is behavior is all to common sadly . so try to put yourself in the womans or cpls shoes .. firstly if a guy hasnt even read profile thats certainly not a good reflection on them and if young guys tend to spit the dummy when they arent getting a meet ,would you want to meet them ???

i wish to make very clear as i said earlier ,its not ALL the young guys but the few idiots spoil the site for everyone not just the other single guys .

now to you this may seem a grudge and im def not tarring all the guys with the same brush but from my personal exsperience its too much hassle .plus my personal perference is for someone with same kinda life exsperience as me which a 22 year old ect just wont have .

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By *enderbycoupleCouple
over a year ago

derbyshire or localish

well said sensual....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its funny, im gettin two types of reply:

People interested in conversation

&

People who obviously hold some sort of grudge against young men are are quite aggressive.

Less of the latter please

I must be missing the aggression in any of the replies so far anyway! "

Actually if you read the comments again, you will find the aggression is in some of his comments as he, i think, doesnt like the responses he has got and they havent been quick enough either. Perhaps he forgets that some of us have a house to run, kids to organise etc etc, a life outside of Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me, it is personal preference.

Younger gents may have the physique of a Greek god, however, I often find they lack intellectual maturity that makes older gents more interesting.

When I meet and play with someone, it is not just about sex, it is about having some fun times with that gentleman, often involves in some stimulating conversations about life in general etc...

There aren't that many gents I find interesting below the age of 35. There are some notable exceptions, of course, however, I prefer gents closer to my own age.

"

Same here, and the imperfections of my age, would feel seriously uncomfortable with a fit six pack young lad, and what on earth would we talk about on the social meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hows it goin everyone?

Im relatively new to this site, i have made some "friends" but made no concrete plans as of yet.

It seems to me that younger men are often brushed off. Seen as time-wasters or outright ignored ha.

Im not overly bothered by this and can understand why, there are an abundance of young men on here and im sure plenty of them are time-wasters.

Does anyone have any thoughts/opinions or advice for the "lesser spotted young male swinger"? ha"

blimey is there only one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shame Alan Sugar isnt on here "
How do you know he isnt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think of myself as a cugar. I like my young men good -looking horny and fit to go all night with a brain well hung repeters and I am in heven. xx. jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this man is thats for sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this man is thats for sure."
yes i am sre he is xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this man is thats for sure. yes i am sre he is xxx"

way it goes.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"this man is thats for sure."

Can't see why! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this man is thats for sure.

Can't see why! Z"

there you go. too polite perhaps. gets walked over too often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this man is thats for sure.

Can't see why! Z

there you go. too polite perhaps. gets walked over too often.

"
well i think your lovely and on this site you get all sorts its just sorting them out and getting to know people. x jo

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Hows it goin everyone?

Im relatively new to this site, i have made some "friends" but made no concrete plans as of yet.

It seems to me that younger men are often brushed off. Seen as time-wasters or outright ignored ha.

Im not overly bothered by this and can understand why, there are an abundance of young men on here and im sure plenty of them are time-wasters.

Does anyone have any thoughts/opinions or advice for the "lesser spotted young male swinger"? ha"
i have a question...why are you pink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is a number - preference is choice.

Swinging should be for the open minded.

With no 'limits' or preferences people could think everyone is interested. Not the case even when within all those 'guidelines'

Email a pizza delivery 500 miles away and wait for it to arrive .. not gonna be too hot when arrives-if it does.Prob wont taste too good either not too mention that your email probably gets an instant delete but may be a with a sigh of bless em thee must be starving..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, EVERY younger guy I've ever met, both in swing-land and vanilla-land has been a complete let down.

The inexperience and immaturity I've experienced have well and truly put a stop to me wanting to meet guys who are younger than me.

I have made the odd exception to this rule in the past however every single time have In light of this I now stick to my preferences 100% of the time.

I know that the whole experience thing is a vicious circle really but I'm afraid nobody gets the benefit of the doubt now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience, EVERY younger guy I've ever met, both in swing-land and vanilla-land has been a complete let down.

The inexperience and immaturity I've experienced have well and truly put a stop to me wanting to meet guys who are younger than me.

I have made the odd exception to this rule in the past however every single time have In light of this I now stick to my preferences 100% of the time.

I know that the whole experience thing is a vicious circle really but I'm afraid nobody gets the benefit of the doubt now."

hmmm fascinating.

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By *WLondonMixMan
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

It is a shame that ignorant males have caused this outlook, I am not going to waste time saying its wrong to think like this because the opinion is on your personal experience. Everyone is unique yet there are a lot of similar people in life, more often then not with partners its a case of going through the 10bad apples to find that lush one, persistence can only go so far. Each time anyone has been let down its one more closer to getting that one (two if a couple or more if that's your Preference) who will put you on cloud 9. Life isn't measured in years but deeds and experience, but them years still count. Don't particularly know where I am going with this, and these poor metaphors but hopefully this will give hope to others to either let go and keep trying. No matter age colour or shoes, ill finish on another used and abused saying ' its what is on the inside that counts '. But that doesn't mean the outside don't matter.

-Just another young gent.

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By *ex.IncCouple
over a year ago

Castleford

Judging by a lot of the replies it does seem like the young let downs ruin it for the actual younger swingers like us who do try and make the effort and are never abusive regardless of reply and always read criteria. I mean we sent out nearly 70 hand typed messages and maybe got 10 of them back. Do we moan? No...we just press on knowing that our luck will change eventually. It paid off and has picked up slightly.

Everyone has their preferences and we understand that, but it is sad to see that a lot of the young end up tarring us all with the same brush.

Read peoples criteria like we do and then try it..the worst that can happen is 'delete' Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies,

Just like to say to the numerous accusations of whining:

I haven't been on the site long, and am brand new to the scene. Asking the question seemed like a reasonable way to go forward.

Why am I pink? ha well its just a bad picture, I have others feel free to ask for one.

Thanks again for your replies i feel like I've learned a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the replies,

Just like to say to the numerous accusations of whining:

I haven't been on the site long, and am brand new to the scene. Asking the question seemed like a reasonable way to go forward.

Why am I pink? ha well its just a bad picture, I have others feel free to ask for one.

Thanks again for your replies i feel like I've learned a lot.

"

Stick with it mate and for the record I did not think your OP was whiny, just a honest question. Unfortunately there are a few people on here who think they are some sort of swinging 'experts' and will have a go at you no matter what you ask. Listen to the good advice and ignore the negative and enjoy your time on fab

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By *LLSEXEDUPMan
over a year ago

Reading


"

It seems to me that younger men are often brushed off. Seen as time-wasters or outright ignored ha.

Im not overly bothered by this and can understand why, there are an abundance of young men on here and im sure plenty of them are time-wasters.

Does anyone have any thoughts/opinions or advice for the "lesser spotted young male swinger"? ha"

I will give you my opinion on this, I am 22 years old, quite young when you comapre with the majority of members on here, Do I think the younger guys are looked down upon? yup, but given a lot of the stories I have read I can see exactly why this might be the case and totally can see why that opinion has came up.

I have been here 2 months and from that time I have learnt a few things about people on here, you have more of a chance of going for someone around your age gap for sure, I have heard a lot of older females/couples talking about having kids older then some of us young chaps and its totally understandable as to why they want to meet younger guys, heck if I was in their situation I would do the same thing.

I am someone who is less spotted (to date I have not had a meet on here) does this bother me? not at all, I have outlined in my profile what it is I look for and I have not found many people who are interested but I also know that its early days for me on here and some people have had to wait up to six months for a meet or have to go to a club to draw up interest.

The reason I tell this is because I think a lot of people (not you the original poster, I actually think you are intelligent enough to know already) think that its going to be a quick shag or that a older lady will want you to help create your fantasy, in reality I think patience and persistance is the key and attention to details with each individulals profile is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It seems to me that younger men are often brushed off. Seen as time-wasters or outright ignored ha.

Im not overly bothered by this and can understand why, there are an abundance of young men on here and im sure plenty of them are time-wasters.

Does anyone have any thoughts/opinions or advice for the "lesser spotted young male swinger"? ha

I will give you my opinion on this, I am 22 years old, quite young when you comapre with the majority of members on here, Do I think the younger guys are looked down upon? yup, but given a lot of the stories I have read I can see exactly why this might be the case and totally can see why that opinion has came up.

I have been here 2 months and from that time I have learnt a few things about people on here, you have more of a chance of going for someone around your age gap for sure, I have heard a lot of older females/couples talking about having kids older then some of us young chaps and its totally understandable as to why they want to meet younger guys, heck if I was in their situation I would do the same thing.

I am someone who is less spotted (to date I have not had a meet on here) does this bother me? not at all, I have outlined in my profile what it is I look for and I have not found many people who are interested but I also know that its early days for me on here and some people have had to wait up to six months for a meet or have to go to a club to draw up interest.

The reason I tell this is because I think a lot of people (not you the original poster, I actually think you are intelligent enough to know already) think that its going to be a quick shag or that a older lady will want you to help create your fantasy, in reality I think patience and persistance is the key and attention to details with each individulals profile is key. "

Well said , that is realy good advice .To the OP, once you have had your first meet and you are verified you tend to find meeting others is easier, at least that what I found

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Who are we to question the preferences of others?!!

We are here to play with people that floats our own individual boat. Some like straight couples, some bi couples, petite, bbw, sub, domme...are we expected to justify our choices to every one who may feel excluded?!!

we can question that in the same way we can pose any other question that we post on the forum.

and...as always, the choice is yours as to whether you respond or not

....as you did"

Thanks for that, I didn't realise I had the choice on posting!

You learn something new on this site every day along with having to remember justify your own choices.

Phew! Hard work this swinging lark!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It seems to me that younger men are often brushed off. Seen as time-wasters or outright ignored ha.

Im not overly bothered by this and can understand why, there are an abundance of young men on here and im sure plenty of them are time-wasters.

Does anyone have any thoughts/opinions or advice for the "lesser spotted young male swinger"? ha

I will give you my opinion on this, I am 22 years old, quite young when you comapre with the majority of members on here, Do I think the younger guys are looked down upon? yup, but given a lot of the stories I have read I can see exactly why this might be the case and totally can see why that opinion has came up.

I have been here 2 months and from that time I have learnt a few things about people on here, you have more of a chance of going for someone around your age gap for sure, I have heard a lot of older females/couples talking about having kids older then some of us young chaps and its totally understandable as to why they want to meet younger guys, heck if I was in their situation I would do the same thing.

I am someone who is less spotted (to date I have not had a meet on here) does this bother me? not at all, I have outlined in my profile what it is I look for and I have not found many people who are interested but I also know that its early days for me on here and some people have had to wait up to six months for a meet or have to go to a club to draw up interest.

The reason I tell this is because I think a lot of people (not you the original poster, I actually think you are intelligent enough to know already) think that its going to be a quick shag or that a older lady will want you to help create your fantasy, in reality I think patience and persistance is the key and attention to details with each individulals profile is key. "

Very well said!

That's the point for most of us, not looking down our noses per se, but not wanting to play with people the same age as our children.

There's nothing wrong with a Mrs Robinson fantasy but it's pointless contacting a woman with a lower age range of 40 if you're 20!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The point about the age preference is a good one and well made by you two.

My question is more about "why" do people prefer the older man.

Are they:

Better?

Necessarily more mature?

Generally more reliable?

Is it a confidence issue some older women have?

etc...

Any more ideas would be welcome, and im just askin the question not accusing anyone, before someone picks a fight ha"

with age comes maturity its quite simple.

our son is 24, he likes facebook..music,women his own age.

we could never contemplate the thought of bedding a lad of his age

our lower age preferance is 31 but we really dont have any confidence issues,we do however get fed up of the countless messages from those under our limits or dissregarding our preferances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"this man is thats for sure.

Can't see why! Z"

I think they were being sarcastic or tongue in cheek and not serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It seems to me that younger men are often brushed off. Seen as time-wasters or outright ignored ha.

Im not overly bothered by this and can understand why, there are an abundance of young men on here and im sure plenty of them are time-wasters.

Does anyone have any thoughts/opinions or advice for the "lesser spotted young male swinger"? ha

I will give you my opinion on this, I am 22 years old, quite young when you comapre with the majority of members on here, Do I think the younger guys are looked down upon? yup, but given a lot of the stories I have read I can see exactly why this might be the case and totally can see why that opinion has came up.

I have been here 2 months and from that time I have learnt a few things about people on here, you have more of a chance of going for someone around your age gap for sure, I have heard a lot of older females/couples talking about having kids older then some of us young chaps and its totally understandable as to why they want to meet younger guys, heck if I was in their situation I would do the same thing.

I am someone who is less spotted (to date I have not had a meet on here) does this bother me? not at all, I have outlined in my profile what it is I look for and I have not found many people who are interested but I also know that its early days for me on here and some people have had to wait up to six months for a meet or have to go to a club to draw up interest.

The reason I tell this is because I think a lot of people (not you the original poster, I actually think you are intelligent enough to know already) think that its going to be a quick shag or that a older lady will want you to help create your fantasy, in reality I think patience and persistance is the key and attention to details with each individulals profile is key. "

Nice comment, definitely looks like you have learnt something, shows maturity, sadly lacking in some young lads on here, though i would have to disagree with you use of the word intelligent as judging by his rudeness, its not a word i would use

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It seems to me that younger men are often brushed off. Seen as time-wasters or outright ignored ha.

Im not overly bothered by this and can understand why, there are an abundance of young men on here and im sure plenty of them are time-wasters.

Does anyone have any thoughts/opinions or advice for the "lesser spotted young male swinger"? ha

I will give you my opinion on this, I am 22 years old, quite young when you comapre with the majority of members on here, Do I think the younger guys are looked down upon? yup, but given a lot of the stories I have read I can see exactly why this might be the case and totally can see why that opinion has came up.

I have been here 2 months and from that time I have learnt a few things about people on here, you have more of a chance of going for someone around your age gap for sure, I have heard a lot of older females/couples talking about having kids older then some of us young chaps and its totally understandable as to why they want to meet younger guys, heck if I was in their situation I would do the same thing.

I am someone who is less spotted (to date I have not had a meet on here) does this bother me? not at all, I have outlined in my profile what it is I look for and I have not found many people who are interested but I also know that its early days for me on here and some people have had to wait up to six months for a meet or have to go to a club to draw up interest.

The reason I tell this is because I think a lot of people (not you the original poster, I actually think you are intelligent enough to know already) think that its going to be a quick shag or that a older lady will want you to help create your fantasy, in reality I think patience and persistance is the key and attention to details with each individulals profile is key.

Nice comment, definitely looks like you have learnt something, shows maturity, sadly lacking in some young lads on here, though i would have to disagree with you use of the word intelligent as judging by his rudeness, its not a word i would use "

His rudeness!! I dont want to apear like iam sticking up for him for no reason, however when was he rude???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I will give you my opinion on this, I am 22 years old, quite young when you comapre with the majority of members on here, Do I think the younger guys are looked down upon? yup, but given a lot of the stories I have read I can see exactly why this might be the case and totally can see why that opinion has came up.

I have been here 2 months and from that time I have learnt a few things about people on here, you have more of a chance of going for someone around your age gap for sure, I have heard a lot of older females/couples talking about having kids older then some of us young chaps and its totally understandable as to why they want to meet younger guys, heck if I was in their situation I would do the same thing.

I am someone who is less spotted (to date I have not had a meet on here) does this bother me? not at all, I have outlined in my profile what it is I look for and I have not found many people who are interested but I also know that its early days for me on here and some people have had to wait up to six months for a meet or have to go to a club to draw up interest.

The reason I tell this is because I think a lot of people (not you the original poster, I actually think you are intelligent enough to know already) think that its going to be a quick shag or that a older lady will want you to help create your fantasy, in reality I think patience and persistance is the key and attention to details with each individulals profile is key. "

...and they say that young men don't understand what is required?!

My upper age limit is based on the fact that I have discovered that just because a man is older, it doesn't mean he has the intellect or charisma one would automatically (for some reason) assume of an older gent.

Personally, I've discovered that the younger guys are a lot more gentalmanly...they seem to feel they have more to prove in that area.

The messages I get that are "want to meet now" or worse are generally from chaps +40...or those that are on the site thinking it will provide a quick fix. I even had one chap in his 50's tell me that he only read my profile because he had to as it was expected of him and as such, the least I could do is respond.

I have never had a crappy message from anyone in my age criteria that is on this site for genuine meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, the younger gentleman is far more keen and willing to please. Not too mention, pretty and muscular and nice hair.....:drools:

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By *aughtyNurse999Woman
over a year ago

Fabville !!!


"The point about the age preference is a good one and well made by you two.

My question is more about "why" do people prefer the older man.

Are they:

Better?

Necessarily more mature?

Generally more reliable?

Is it a confidence issue some older women have?

etc...

Any more ideas would be welcome, and im just askin the question not accusing anyone, before someone picks a fight ha"

Some people only like to meet within a certain age range. I am sure that they are not just "brushing" single younger guys off.

Everyone has a preference. I would not for one minute consider meeting anyone that was same age or younger than my own kids .But that's a personnal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My question is more about "why" do people prefer the older man.

Are they:

Better?

Necessarily more mature?

Generally more reliable?

Is it a confidence issue some older women have?

etc..."

apologies in advance for the sweeping generalisation

I tend to avoid men in their 20s because of bad experiences in the past. I don't say that all young men are the same, and it is unfortunate for the good 'uns when the bad 'uns spoil it for everyone

However, I find that the majority of young men are proud of their six-pack, think their cock is God's gift to women, and when they don't get enough sex in Vanilla-land, they join a swingers site. This is in the mistaken belief that swingy-type females are sex-mad sluts who will drop their knickers for anyone with a cock. Young men tend to be focussed on sex, how quick they're gonna get it, and too often they make it obvious that "anyone with a pussy will do"! Older men, on the other hand, have learnt that this approach doesn't work!

Let's be honest, if all I wanted was a cock, I've got my vibrator for that. For real-life sex, I prefer charming, courteous gentlemen, with a sense of humour. The ability to mutually entertain each other OUT of bed is vital - and (sweeping generalisation again) younger men tend not to be able to offer this.

I must add that none of this is aimed at the OP - there are some guys in their 20s who have the necessary maturity (I've met 2 of them! LOL) and I hope the OP is another of them. His willingness to ask for and listen to advice is a good start.

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By *LLSEXEDUPMan
over a year ago

Reading


"

Nice comment, definitely looks like you have learnt something, shows maturity, sadly lacking in some young lads on here, though i would have to disagree with you use of the word intelligent as judging by his rudeness, its not a word i would use "

I think intelligent might have been the wrong word but if he uses some of the advice given then I am sure he will learn more about here when he reads around the forums.

I have learnt so much on here in such a short space of time that its almost unbelivable, got some great insider knowledge of the swinging scene from experienced swingers, I have got to read some great stories of peoples meets and over time I have been able to build my self confidance up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dnt think younger guys are apreciated most off the peoplr i msg they all say im to young lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some of us love young men x and thay add alot to this site . jo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Nice comment, definitely looks like you have learnt something, shows maturity, sadly lacking in some young lads on here, though i would have to disagree with you use of the word intelligent as judging by his rudeness, its not a word i would use

I think intelligent might have been the wrong word but if he uses some of the advice given then I am sure he will learn more about here when he reads around the forums.

I have learnt so much on here in such a short space of time that its almost unbelivable, got some great insider knowledge of the swinging scene from experienced swingers, I have got to read some great stories of peoples meets and over time I have been able to build my self confidance up "

I hope so too and would be nice if he spread that knowledge around, that way i wont get young lads sending me a message like "babe u into single guys" (aged 25 and in Exeter???)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dnt think younger guys are apreciated most off the peoplr i msg they all say im to young lol"

Its actually nothing to do with appreciation, its to do with preference and choice

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

And can you imagine having a conversation with someone who...

doesn't remember when Atari was a state of the art video game system;

never owned any cassettes;

hasn't worn fluorescent, neon clothing - especially odd coloured socks;

can't remember David Hasselhoff when he wore clothes and talked to his car;

hasn't heard of Cabbage Patch Dolls... nor Glo-worms;

doesn't remember Nena's hairy armpits;

hasn't got a clue what "Dealy Boppers" are;

doesn't know who Joey Deacon was;

Giant Haystacks and Big Daddy have never featured on their Saturday afternoon!

ps - I'm waiting for those who are a few years older than me to tell me that I'm just a mere whipper-snapper myself and provide similar examples

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By *eeandGeeMan
over a year ago

littlehampton

Couldnt agree more! We love younger guys and, thanks be, there are a lot who seem to like older people too! What is it we like? Its the smooth bodies, big production and rapid repeats! And... if you get one who is a little Bi - then wowee!

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By *eeandGeeMan
over a year ago

littlehampton


" some of us love young men x and thay add alot to this site . jo xx"

Oops - meant to include this reply to quote!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And can you imagine having a conversation with someone who...

doesn't remember when Atari was a state of the art video game system;

never owned any cassettes;

hasn't worn fluorescent, neon clothing - especially odd coloured socks;

can't remember David Hasselhoff when he wore clothes and talked to his car;

hasn't heard of Cabbage Patch Dolls... nor Glo-worms;

doesn't remember Nena's hairy armpits;

hasn't got a clue what "Dealy Boppers" are;

doesn't know who Joey Deacon was;

Giant Haystacks and Big Daddy have never featured on their Saturday afternoon!

ps - I'm waiting for those who are a few years older than me to tell me that I'm just a mere whipper-snapper myself and provide similar examples "

I would but i wouldnt want to embarrass myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

However, I find that the majority of young men are proud of their six-pack, think their cock is God's gift to women, and when they don't get enough sex in Vanilla-land, they join a swingers site. This is in the mistaken belief that swingy-type females are sex-mad sluts who will drop their knickers for anyone with a cock. Young men tend to be focussed on sex, how quick they're gonna get it, and too often they make it obvious that "anyone with a pussy will do"! Older men, on the other hand, have learnt that this approach doesn't work!

Let's be honest, if all I wanted was a cock, I've got my vibrator for that. For real-life sex, I prefer charming, courteous gentlemen, with a sense of humour. The ability to mutually entertain each other OUT of bed is vital - and (sweeping generalisation again) younger men tend not to be able to offer this.

I must add that none of this is aimed at the OP - there are some guys in their 20s who have the necessary maturity (I've met 2 of them! LOL) and I hope the OP is another of them. His willingness to ask for and listen to advice is a good start.

"

In total agreement with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And can you imagine having a conversation with someone who...

doesn't remember when Atari was a state of the art video game system;

never owned any cassettes;

hasn't worn fluorescent, neon clothing - especially odd coloured socks;

can't remember David Hasselhoff when he wore clothes and talked to his car;

hasn't heard of Cabbage Patch Dolls... nor Glo-worms;

doesn't remember Nena's hairy armpits;

hasn't got a clue what "Dealy Boppers" are;

doesn't know who Joey Deacon was;

Giant Haystacks and Big Daddy have never featured on their Saturday afternoon!

ps - I'm waiting for those who are a few years older than me to tell me that I'm just a mere whipper-snapper myself and provide similar examples "

I used to love watching the wrestling on a saturday afternoon and then have to be silent whilst my mum checked the football results for the pools....followed by a good dose of Pink Panther or Roadrunner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Younger guy here! Haven't had chance to read all the above posts... I tend to find you get dismissed straight off for being young. Obviously got to appreciate peoples own preferences but not so hasty haha.

ah well the search goes on...

oh and im 'a bit Bi' too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience, and several people I've met, younger guys are seen as unreliable at best, especially in the bi-scene. I've changed my profile & stopped responding to anyone under 30, as I find most are timewasters who don't show, then leave the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone sends me a no thanks I'm always sure to say thanks for at getting back to me.

I think an automated one click no thankyou button would help both sides of the argument.

Although if you don't want single guys I'm sure it's possible to block them.

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

i realy do prefer the older guy 40 plus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny really because ive been thinking just lately about trying out the 20's age group but not if they behave like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone sends me a no thanks I'm always sure to say thanks for at getting back to me.

I think an automated one click no thankyou button would help both sides of the argument.

Although if you don't want single guys I'm sure it's possible to block them.

"

One site I'm on is fantastic. Everyone outside your criteria that contacts you is automatically sent a "didn't you read the profile you don't meet it" type message. You can still contact them if you want: I've never wanted to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read this and not once do I think the OP is whinging, far from it. As far as the comment goes, is it too heavy, thats just his attempt at humour....lightening up the moment so to speak.

young guys v olde guys....pros and cons on both sides. but as already pointed out. younger guys dont seem to the with wisdom of maturity to take the rejection thats comes with bein on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to prefer younger myself, depends on the man, do like a light heart though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find younger guys are less likely to sport beer guts. Beer guts put me off.

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