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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is there such a thing as been shallow? I got called this when I stated (in the politest way I could) that someone wasn't my type, but why on earth would we choose to meet someone who we didn't find attractive? It's not been shallow, U even get guys who just like fat woman (nothing wrong with that I like my curvy girls) but as they just go for that type under them rules this could be considered shallow but would never be stated that way, but i don't believe there is such a thing, just types that we like and others we don't, be nice to hear other people's insight on this subject

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm shallow. Why wouldn't I be when I'm in search of no strings sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm shallow. Why wouldn't I be when I'm in search of no strings sex? "

Haha yea that's pretty much the point why would we meet people we don't find attractive when it's predominantly fun related lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol."

??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have to be shallow or you drown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol."

shag some people really do need to fancy who they are shagging even if it's a one off, I'll give you five minutes to get your head round that concept

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol."

lol turn the lights out or use blindfolds as bags rip

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

shag some people really do need to fancy who they are shagging even if it's a one off, I'll give you five minutes to get your head round that concept "

Yea I didn't inderstand that either haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's just them protecting their self esteem by saying it's your fault they're not your type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

shag some people really do need to fancy who they are shagging even if it's a one off, I'll give you five minutes to get your head round that concept "
I know they do lol. I meant as a general thing tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iv been called far worse than shallow for saying no thanks on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing as been shallow? I got called this when I stated (in the politest way I could) that someone wasn't my type, but why on earth would we choose to meet someone who we didn't find attractive? It's not been shallow, U even get guys who just like fat woman (nothing wrong with that I like my curvy girls) but as they just go for that type under them rules this could be considered shallow but would never be stated that way, but i don't believe there is such a thing, just types that we like and others we don't, be nice to hear other people's insight on this subject "

I think because some men on here are so desperate, that couples and females tend to think we're all the same.

You can't say no to me. You're a single male. We get 300 messages per day from single men. Your lose.

Don't stress it , just move on

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By *unCoupleTXCouple
over a year ago

Longview

As long as you're not too specific... I once had a fella tell me he preferred petite women. To each his own; just don't even kind of suggest that I'm a chunk! Or old. Fat and old... Don't go there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its just bitterness and lack of self confidence on their part, ignore them. I'm sure they wouldn't entertain the idea of playing with someone they weren't attracted to.

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

I have to fancy someone a bit to have sex with them or I end up feeling a bit shitty about myself.

People do resort to insults when being rejected but thankfully it's not the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to fancy someone a bit to have sex with them or I end up feeling a bit shitty about myself.

People do resort to insults when being rejected but thankfully it's not the majority. "

turn the lights out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd consider it shallow to fuck someone you didn't fancy just to get your rocks off rather than the other way around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I'd consider it shallow to fuck someone you didn't fancy just to get your rocks off rather than the other way around.

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I think thatsca very good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a load of rubbish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh I've been told many a time that I'm shallow because I'll only consider having sex with someone that is very handsome, dark hair, over 5'10, good body and big cock and balls. I'll get oh but I'm 5'9 can't you consider me? No cos when I stick my high heels on i still want you to be taller than me. I'll get oh I'm not that handsome or in a good shape and I've got a small penis will you consider me? Ummm no! It's like me going to a shop to buy a tent to go camping but they try and sell me a chicken instead. I know what I need and what I want and nothing will sway that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very particular in our meets some call it shallow we call it quality control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i shallow fried a burger, it tasted yummy

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By *urvyemmaWoman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

A guy messaged me yesterday saying would I meet. I replied that I wasn't looking to meet at moment. He said why am I here then?

I explained that I like the forums and when I am ready I will meet.

He put oh that's just typical, all on your terms then?

Err...of course it's on my terms..wtf??

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

I would echo what most have said. You're attracted to what you're attracted to and in this environment it's predominately based on (in my opinion) looks, personality and physical chemistry in that order. I've turned down a guy who claimed had modelled, don't get me wrong he had a fit body, but his attitude was abysmal. When you're on the fence about someone a social always helps solidify your judgement towards them. So in a sense some are shallow at first, but like to dive deeper. Or am I the only one who approaches it like this?

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"Oooh I've been told many a time that I'm shallow because I'll only consider having sex with someone that is very handsome, dark hair, over 5'10, good body and big cock and balls. I'll get oh but I'm 5'9 can't you consider me? No cos when I stick my high heels on i still want you to be taller than me. I'll get oh I'm not that handsome or in a good shape and I've got a small penis will you consider me? Ummm no! It's like me going to a shop to buy a tent to go camping but they try and sell me a chicken instead. I know what I need and what I want and nothing will sway that. "

Haha! Chicken tent... love it

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Well if only choosing people that we fancy is shallow then so be it so am I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy messaged me yesterday saying would I meet. I replied that I wasn't looking to meet at moment. He said why am I here then?

I explained that I like the forums and when I am ready I will meet.

He put oh that's just typical, all on your terms then?

Err...of course it's on my terms..wtf?? "

that just personal terms, lots use the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol."

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?"
for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol."

Really though? It sounds like you'd be happy shagging one of those rubber fanny fleshlight things. You seriously would shag anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy messaged me yesterday saying would I meet. I replied that I wasn't looking to meet at moment. He said why am I here then?

I explained that I like the forums and when I am ready I will meet.

He put oh that's just typical, all on your terms then?

Err...of course it's on my terms..wtf?? "

If you delete everything off your 'looking for' list (men) it takes you off the searches and reduces mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm shallow. Why wouldn't I be when I'm in search of no strings sex? "

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I'm shallow. Why wouldn't I be when I'm in search of no strings sex? "

But you quite like some string or rope..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol.

Really though? It sounds like you'd be happy shagging one of those rubber fanny fleshlight things. You seriously would shag anyone?"
I don't need them and y am I not surprised you mentioned them lol and yes I would do anyone really x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol."

Quite right too - anything is better than a wank

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By *nFairnessMan
over a year ago

The Four Corners

Don't think I've ever initiated a pm conversation... The talks I have had have been great because there is no expectation to 'impress' or to compete against 300 other messages.. I already know they like my humor (from seeing me in the forums) or like what they see.

Being a single male isn't that bad to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol.

Quite right too - anything is better than a wank "
Yes and you are right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol.

Really though? It sounds like you'd be happy shagging one of those rubber fanny fleshlight things. You seriously would shag anyone?"

I shagged one of them fleshlights ... it gave me a rash and a crap veri so I won't be doing that again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol.

Quite right too - anything is better than a wank Yes and you are right there "

Guess we killed this thread huh Shag ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you call only wanting to meet guys I actually fancy shallow, then call me a puddle .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol.

Quite right too - anything is better than a wank Yes and you are right there

Guess we killed this thread huh Shag ? "
YEs I think so to we did there lol

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol."

Please tell me you're not serious?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

Please tell me you're not serious?! "
I would say yes and no to that one.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

Please tell me you're not serious?!

I would say yes and no to that one."

I think this may need a whole new thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

Please tell me you're not serious?!

I would say yes and no to that one.

I think this may need a whole new thread!

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Yes I think so to your right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is like a lovely buffet table, laid with every type of food you might fancy. I wouldn't chose food to enjoy that I didn't savour. You might like pasta, I really don't. That's fine though because there's plenty of other dishes for me to chose, and you! Am I shallow if I only like a certain dish? No! I'll only choose what I want. (Now I'm off to get a ginger biccy)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fab is like a lovely buffet table, laid with every type of food you might fancy. I wouldn't chose food to enjoy that I didn't savour. You might like pasta, I really don't. That's fine though because there's plenty of other dishes for me to chose, and you! Am I shallow if I only like a certain dish? No! I'll only choose what I want. (Now I'm off to get a ginger biccy) "

Nice metaphor!! I do love a ginger bicci though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmao. People shocked that a bloke will shag someone he doesn't fancy? Really??? We'd all prefer someone we fancy obviously but if I get on with the person that's enough for me. The fact that the lass I've met a few times off here is a hotty is just lucky for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Lmao. People shocked that a bloke will shag someone he doesn't fancy? Really??? We'd all prefer someone we fancy obviously but if I get on with the person that's enough for me. The fact that the lass I've met a few times off here is a hotty is just lucky for me."

Phew! Well saved there

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Is there such a thing as been shallow? I got called this when I stated (in the politest way I could) that someone wasn't my type, but why on earth would we choose to meet someone who we didn't find attractive? It's not been shallow, U even get guys who just like fat woman (nothing wrong with that I like my curvy girls) but as they just go for that type under them rules this could be considered shallow but would never be stated that way, but i don't believe there is such a thing, just types that we like and others we don't, be nice to hear other people's insight on this subject "

sympathy f**ks; charity begins at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With NSA you don't necessarily need to fancy them as its a one off lol.

There has to be a connection with the person you are meeting, even if it is either a physical attraction or you like their personality. If you don't have that, why meet?for me its just to get another bed notch pal lol.

Really though? It sounds like you'd be happy shagging one of those rubber fanny fleshlight things. You seriously would shag anyone?I don't need them and y am I not surprised you mentioned them lol and yes I would do anyone really x."

Shocking! Lol

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London

I Fi have to fancy them and enjoy the banter. It's just how I'm wired x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmao. People shocked that a bloke will shag someone he doesn't fancy? Really??? We'd all prefer someone we fancy obviously but if I get on with the person that's enough for me. The fact that the lass I've met a few times off here is a hotty is just lucky for me."
Well said there, couldn't have put it better myself there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing as been shallow? I got called this when I stated (in the politest way I could) that someone wasn't my type, but why on earth would we choose to meet someone who we didn't find attractive? It's not been shallow, U even get guys who just like fat woman (nothing wrong with that I like my curvy girls) but as they just go for that type under them rules this could be considered shallow but would never be stated that way, but i don't believe there is such a thing, just types that we like and others we don't, be nice to hear other people's insight on this subject

I think because some men on here are so desperate, that couples and females tend to think we're all the same.

You can't say no to me. You're a single male. We get 300 messages per day from single men. Your lose.

Don't stress it , just move on"

There is a (false) truth, almost universally accepted, that a man will shag anything, be it animal, vegetable or mineral. Some people, when shown that is certainly not the case, will take it personally. As if this makes them a hideous product of a diseased mind. They need to remember that EVERYONE has some standards and tastes, no matter how high, low or bizarre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people are a lot more shallow online because we can afford to be there's a whole lot more people online wanting sex

In a club you hit on people to find out what they are like. But online you have all that information so you can be more picky

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Lmao. People shocked that a bloke will shag someone he doesn't fancy? Really??? We'd all prefer someone we fancy obviously but if I get on with the person that's enough for me. The fact that the lass I've met a few times off here is a hotty is just lucky for me."

I'm not shocked by it... just surprised. I'd have trouble getting wet for someone I wasn't attracted to. I'd never fuck a bloke unless I fancied him but I suspect it's because women and men are built differently. I would assume it's trickier to get a hardon if someone doesn't turn you on but clearly I know nothing.

Personally I'd rather have a wank.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"iv been called far worse than shallow for saying no thanks on here!"

Me too

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Matlock

Need to be attracted to the person, male or female. I don't think it's shallow, just being honest. We are picky, but sex, even if no strings is still a very intimate thing, and if I'm going to suck a cock then I need to feel attracted to the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the women of fab arent used to being rejected. however nice you put it

saying that noone likes rejection. its how you handle it

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

"MAN WONT SHAG ANYTHING THAT MOVES SHOCK" Durex shares plummet ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing as been shallow? I got called this when I stated (in the politest way I could) that someone wasn't my type, but why on earth would we choose to meet someone who we didn't find attractive? It's not been shallow, U even get guys who just like fat woman (nothing wrong with that I like my curvy girls) but as they just go for that type under them rules this could be considered shallow but would never be stated that way, but i don't believe there is such a thing, just types that we like and others we don't, be nice to hear other people's insight on this subject "

I'm just wondering that why, as you're purporting to be a single guy you constantly refer to 'we'?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


""MAN WONT SHAG ANYTHING THAT MOVES SHOCK" Durex shares plummet ... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there such a thing as been shallow? I got called this when I stated (in the politest way I could) that someone wasn't my type, but why on earth would we choose to meet someone who we didn't find attractive? It's not been shallow, U even get guys who just like fat woman (nothing wrong with that I like my curvy girls) but as they just go for that type under them rules this could be considered shallow but would never be stated that way, but i don't believe there is such a thing, just types that we like and others we don't, be nice to hear other people's insight on this subject

I'm just wondering that why, as you're purporting to be a single guy you constantly refer to 'we'? "

I believe the op has a couples profile on here also.

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