FabSwingers.com forum: Hardwork finding single guys

By *aidtobespanked OP Couple
over a year ago

Chester

A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't arrange to meet

Just go to club on a night that allows single guys

Bingo !! Take your pick.

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By *aidtobespanked OP Couple
over a year ago

Chester

That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We find it hard as well think that many talk Bull shit to you they can not meet just get the thrill of a tug chatting to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option "

V A is a great club.

I enjoy the MILF club they hold once a month on a Wednesday daytime.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

"That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option

V A is a great club.

I enjoy the MILF club they hold once a month on a Wednesday daytime.

I must arrange my shifts so I get a Wednesday off that coincides...

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By *oyuer99Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

I cannot believe couples have a problem attracting single guys given the amount who contact even me. Try getting to maturity and its almost impossible to find couples.

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By *aidtobespanked OP Couple
over a year ago

Chester

Getting messages isn't a problem, finding someone who is genuinely interested in meeting is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it impossible to understand you cannot find single guys...

surely looking at other couples/single womens profiles you can see many have met a single guy....

the simple approach works..

I'd say also...I tend not to chatchatchat..especially when I know its too much with the male half

I hear clubs as the suggestion, which is great..I love clubs too..

but then...we might end up seeing a post exclaiming the single guys were leering,wanking,chasing and sleazy...

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board. "

Quick question OP.

Are you responding to messages? Or sending them?

Those that have the least trouble finding suitable company tend to do the latter. If you seek out potential males rather than rely on your inbox then not only will you be able to focus on those you find interesting/attractive but you can aim for those with a good track record of recent veris - which should (theoretically) highlight those that actually do meet rather than engage in message ping pong for wank fodder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board.

Quick question OP.

Are you responding to messages? Or sending them?

Thanks Obi..

I do have to add...the wank fodder can come from both parties..the males..

all this, "so what u wanna do to my slut " etc etc..

Sometimes it gets to the point in arranging a meet and its "Whats your limits?"..."what u into?"....and even "lets wank about the wife"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally in my point of view. Being new to this and all, I would find the thought of performing comfortably with a couple hard, although the fantasy exhilarating. Maybe suggest a single meet or, a social meet and a supervised single meet (maybe with fella in another room for example) then maybe try the man walking in half way through to join in. Something along those lines would probably help trust and gain a physical bond beyond a group chat behind a phone or a computer screen?

Hopefully this is a good suggestion.

P.s Id love to meet a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting messages isn't a problem, finding someone who is genuinely interested in meeting is"

We feel your pain. We almost give up meeting guys outside pen clubs and tend to just pick at the clubs.

We sometimes want a few guys for hotel meets for his and sometimes other ladies or couples. Last time we had 6 confirmed, 2 we had met previously, and only one of the others was a newbie , the rest had lots of verifications... Not one turned up or even let us know x

many get off on the talk. So above sorting the meet and a briefb discussion on likes and dislikes we wont chat beyond that x and I (mrs) prefer to keep all communications to here and let Mr do the phone calls

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board.

Quick question OP.

Are you responding to messages? Or sending them?

Thanks Obi..

I do have to add...the wank fodder can come from both parties..the males..

all this, "so what u wanna do to my slut " etc etc..

Sometimes it gets to the point in arranging a meet and its "Whats your limits?"..."what u into?"....and even "lets wank about the wife""

Yep!

I remember those days well!!

*being the single guy - not suggesting fapping over pics of the Mrs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option "

Is VA a good place to go? It's relatively local to us and we had considered going, but have heard mixed reviews..x

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Personally in my point of view. Being new to this and all, I would find the thought of performing comfortably with a couple hard, although the fantasy exhilarating. Maybe suggest a single meet or, a social meet and a supervised single meet (maybe with fella in another room for example) then maybe try the man walking in half way through to join in. Something along those lines would probably help trust and gain a physical bond beyond a group chat behind a phone or a computer screen?

Hopefully this is a good suggestion.

P.s Id love to meet a couple

Sorry. Terrible idea.

If a couple wants to meet a single guy then unless there's a specific scenario involving the male half watching/being outside then the idea is for a threesome with all three involved.

If the single guy isn't comfortable meeting a couple then that is something he needs to get over before meeting one. There's plenty of guys more than comfortable in group scenarios and what puts a lot of couples off is when a guy gets stage fright and can't perform with the other male in the room. It can also be seen as an attempt to get to the female in a couple without the male being involved.

If a guy had ever suggested a solo meet or for me to wait in another room then he'd soon find himself joining our sizeable block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is entirely true. The amount of guys that are fake/rude or just undescribable on this site is beyond description.

So why do we stay! Lol

Because amidst the dross there are some decent guys!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it could be that you're expecting too much or something puts them off last minute. Or maybe you don't do enough to ensure that they are genuine. Swapping numbers and exchanging pictures is one way to build things up, but too much chat can often keep it too distant it seems. Plus, it is one person's perspective against a couple's view / demands sometimes.

Sure you'll find what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully this is a good suggestion.

P.s Id love to meet a couple

Sorry. Terrible idea.

If a couple wants to meet a single guy then unless there's a specific scenario involving the male half watching/being outside then the idea is for a threesome with all three involved.

If a guy had ever suggested a solo meet or for me to wait in another room then he'd soon find himself joining our sizeable block list.

Stage fright could be the main reason for some guys, personally I found it a massive plus. However I did go to a club for my very first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully this is a good suggestion.

P.s Id love to meet a couple

Sorry. Terrible idea.

If a couple wants to meet a single guy then unless there's a specific scenario involving the male half watching/being outside then the idea is for a threesome with all three involved.

If a guy had ever suggested a solo meet or for me to wait in another room then he'd soon find himself joining our sizeable block list.

Meet a couple as a couple. Sort to the new to this poster

...but please never suggest this to a couple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is entirely true. The amount of guys that are fake/rude or just undescribable on this site is beyond description.

So why do we stay! Lol

Because amidst the dross there are some decent guys!!"

Thank fuck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maidtobespankef, I have no idea why you have problems getting single males to actually meet because as a couple you look and sound fantastic.

As the others have said unfortunately there are some guys who get off on the naughty chat with no intention of ever meeting. It's those guys that block up the system for the rest of us genuine ones.

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

There is a good reason for this.

Single guys are targeted by ladies and couples who draw them in with a few messages, then state that they "only meet at clubs" and ask for a meet there.

They are actually working for the clubs themselves and are simply trying to get guys to attend the club, pay a huge joining and entrance fee, in order to boost the profits of the club, without any intention of actually playing.

Cynical, and a disgrace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others on.this thread, I am surprised you are unable to meet a decent single male.

As others have said, perhaps you should be more proactive in containing instead of waiting to be contacted by the gem in amongst the coal.

Have you tried suggesting a social before a playmeet? Might help to sort the wheat from the chaff, especially if times for playing are short. Although you may not have time for that either.

It always surprises me when I see men posting that they wouldn't stick their cock where another had been minutes before! Which believe it or not I have seen in these forums. Personally I much prefer meeting a couple, as to me this is what epitomises swinging.

Good luck to the op in their search. I hope it is fruitful.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Don't arrange to meet

Just go to club on a night that allows single guys

Bingo !! Take your pick. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That is what we tend to do. VA is our preferred option

Is VA a good place to go? It's relatively local to us and we had considered going, but have heard mixed reviews..x"

Been there twice on a Friday and we have loved it. No problems so far! Going again in September. Love to massive hot tub.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we had this, lots of great chats then no-shows or UNLOS, so now (apart from 1 or 2 we already know) clubs tick very box we have, plenty of choice for you too, good luck

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Maidtobespankef, I have no idea why you have problems getting single males to actually meet because as a couple you look and sound fantastic.

As the others have said unfortunately there are some guys who get off on the naughty chat with no intention of ever meeting. It's those guys that block up the system for the rest of us genuine ones."

No they don't.

What others do in no way affect you or anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We struggle too but i think its becuse we are looking for the illusive bi male

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"There is a good reason for this.

Single guys are targeted by ladies and couples who draw them in with a few messages, then state that they "only meet at clubs" and ask for a meet there.

Cynical, and a disgrace.

I doubt this happens anywhere as near as is often claimed.

And not being daft - but if someone suggests that to you is it not simple to just say no and block them so it doesn't happen twice?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

As a single female, I struggle as Well. Every time I think I may have found someone I am interested in they seem to disappear

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Ive found, as a single fem... single guys are not interested unless they can come to your home. I do not accom at all.

A few weekends ago i was free. I put i was looking for a meet. There place, hotel or club. 6 hours i was on the meet today and got 2 replys from guys who had not read my profile and said they could be at mine within 1 hour. They were asked to read my profile where i heard nothing else.

Later that evening i put something to the test. I posted a meet at mine. I wanted to prove my point...and my god was it proven. 11 replies in 50 mins.

Someone who was on my friends keeps asking me to meet. Then doesn't follow it up. He's asked me again this week where we made plans to go to a club tonight. He's cancelled now.. Possibly a valid reason of car being broke...but how was he within 7 miles of me at 3.30am this morning when he lives 15-20 miles away?

And some fellas wonder why they get a hard time lol

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By *ehind closed curtainsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

We don't go to clubs. As our profile says, we occasionally meet single guys. We get lot (& lots) of messages from single guys; when Emm does reply to one who has an interesting idea & can string a sentence together they usually disappear, want to meet with 5 minutes notice, want to meet Emm alone - or arrange to meet then close their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said this before, just because there are loads of single men on here it's not at all the joyfest that people think it is. Not if you have any standards anyway.

Had one who lives about 3 miles away from us, offered a social in between about 2 miles from us, a mile from him. He said it was too far lol, and he'd messaged us!

Although we have had some good quality meets on here from the men so it's not impossible, there's just a LOT of crap to wade through to get to the quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find that meeting single guys is a lot harder than we initially thought it would be. However, after our first few months, we have gotten far better at picking out the good ones.

We don't like to rely on clubs because, in my experience, I rarely see single men at clubs that I find attractive (picky, I know I know). But now that we have a few single guys that we like to meet regularly everything is great. I would just recommend against relying on meet posts. Look for the guys that you want and build a rapport. Don't talk endlessly and send pics because those are the types most likely to disappear. In my experience anyway

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can totally believe it's hard to find genuine guys on here. Most are time wasters and more are hidden behind couples or female profiles just to collect pictures to wank over. More chance of plattong sawdust in a wind tunnel.

Good luck in your quest and stick to clubs if easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be there in an hour

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"We find that meeting single guys is a lot harder than we initially thought it would be. However, after our first few months, we have gotten far better at picking out the good ones.

-Courtney"

Very wise words indeed.

Clubs may be the perfect answer for some but not for everybody by any means, and I'm constantly reading posts outlining the most atrocious male behaviour at some of them, though I do see how they work well and can be great fun.

I much prefer to cultivate some rapport and friendship before meeting up but not engage in endless banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully this is a good suggestion.

P.s Id love to meet a couple

Unless that is a specific fantasy why on earth would anyone be interested in that?

There are plenty of single men who have no issues so why should a couple pander to your insecurities?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board. "

From our experience, most of them wank over the pics, then their brains, along with their courage, tend to leak out of their dicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board. "

We have the same trouble - is a shame as we are sure there are some wonderful men out there we could really enjoy the company of

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"There is a good reason for this.

Single guys are targeted by ladies and couples who draw them in with a few messages, then state that they "only meet at clubs" and ask for a meet there.

Cynical, and a disgrace.

I suppose it does happen occasionally, but I doubt it is common practice.

We only meet in clubs, that is our preference but we have no affiliation with any club, and I'm sure many others on here are the same.

Cynical yes, but it is also very cynical to think that all, or even a majority, play tricks like this.

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By *irandslvtCouple
over a year ago

Braintree / essex

"I'll be there in an hour"

45mins will leave her clean for you lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Top tip.

If a guy wants to see pics of you and you're interested in progressing a conversation?

Send vanilla ones.

Nothing to wank over. You'll soon know if they still want to meet or were just looking for free porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on this account since January .

Our choice for play is outdoor only so that in itself is a stumbling block for many , although we will do the odd hotel meet .

And in 8 months we have met 180 single guys from fab and plenty more who aren't on here . Each and every one of them has been exactly what we have been looking for , not one bad meet .

Before the quality over quantity brigade wade Iin with standards etc..... This represents 10% of the offers we have had , so we are as discerning as anyone else .

We regularly message guys asking if they fancy meeting , happily meet newbies and are very up front and honest . We don't play games - a couple of messages are enough before a meet . We don't do socials but don't play if there's no connection .

It's really not hard to get great meets , too many people spend way too much time over thinking it instead of just getting on with it .

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By *egs1194Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board. "

There loss

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By *egs1194Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board. "

There loss

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"We have been on this account since January .

Our choice for play is outdoor only so that in itself is a stumbling block for many , although we will do the odd hotel meet .

And in 8 months we have met 180 single guys from fab and plenty more who aren't on here . Each and every one of them has been exactly what we have been looking for , not one bad meet .

Before the quality over quantity brigade wade Iin with standards etc..... This represents 10% of the offers we have had , so we are as discerning as anyone else .

It's really not hard to get great meets , too many people spend way too much time over thinking it instead of just getting on with it ."

You guys know what you want and how to get it. The old 'effort in = results out" equation still holds true whether you're looking to meet guys, women or couples.

Generally it's the reactive folk that struggle rather than the proactive - whatever you're enjoying - be it club meets, private meets or outdoor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am also on the site as a couple and we have found it relatively easy to attract single bi guys with a sub side which is my preference. Saying that we do find that there are not always many single sub men om the site so that can be tricky to find! The bi guy is easier. I do think that clubs are a great way to meet single men however. We

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By *ammykingMan
over a year ago

Lisburn

When looking for single guys though you gotta be careful not to pick one of the assholes, of which there are quite a few on this site unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Top tip.

If a guy wants to see pics of you and you're interested in progressing a conversation?

Send vanilla ones.

Nothing to wank over. You'll soon know if they still want to meet or were just looking for free porn.

Agree with this totally.

I don't ever remember asking for a photo. Usually the ones on a profile suffice.

If I'm lucky enough to be invited to a play meet, its usually after an exchange of messages via text, with a postcode, then me texting to say I have arrived, usually describing vehicle, so they can be sure I have, before texting their house number.

If its a social meet the a time and place are arranged, with a description of where I am standing/sitting, either via fab or text, if we have progressed that far.

This has always worked in every case, even if there have been no face pics on their profile.

Anyone asking for photos, especially non vanilla photos, that you haven't met, is probably asking for them for ulterior motives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is really hard for us guys not as many open minded swingers as I thought there'd be the sites disappointed me so far

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"It is really hard for us guys not as many open minded swingers as I thought there'd be the sites disappointed me so far "

Why? Because you're not knee deep in clunge?

The site is full of 'open minded swingers'. The question is - what are you doing to generate interest in your profile from them?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"It is really hard for us guys not as many open minded swingers as I thought there'd be the sites disappointed me so far "

Swingers are as open-minded as they need to be. It is your expectations that need adjusting....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it is I'm not demanding or rude I'm polite people just seem a bit judgmental on here from there past experience and who other than the inbetweeners calls it clunge

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

"Getting messages isn't a problem, finding someone who is genuinely interested in meeting is"

and getting them to turn up at a meet..to be honest we have given up trying , we arrange a meet somewhere we can enjoy the night out, if he turns up maybe a bonus thats if he looks like his photos and not sent his dad..lol..connie x

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By *ubicinchMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd

I tend to see a lot of whinging from couples about time wasting single males, when it appears that they aren't actually looking around for the good ones, rather more just sitting back and wading through the heaps of trash that the chancers are sending out. I can understand why that happens but try having a look around for decent profiles, and if you find one or two, actually try sending a message; it might just work out better that way.

You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying..

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I tend to see a lot of whinging from couples about time wasting single males, when it appears that they aren't actually looking around for the good ones, rather more just sitting back and wading through the heaps of trash that the chancers are sending out. I can understand why that happens but try having a look around for decent profiles, and if you find one or two, actually try sending a message; it might just work out better that way.

You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying.. "

Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile?

I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic!

So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been on this account since January .

Our choice for play is outdoor only so that in itself is a stumbling block for many , although we will do the odd hotel meet .

And in 8 months we have met 180 single guys from fab and plenty more who aren't on here . Each and every one of them has been exactly what we have been looking for , not one bad meet .

Before the quality over quantity brigade wade Iin with standards etc..... This represents 10% of the offers we have had , so we are as discerning as anyone else .

It's really not hard to get great meets , too many people spend way too much time over thinking it instead of just getting on with it ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have meet loads of nice single guys on here and elsewhere with the odd messer the best meets are where guys who are themselves the worse meets are the guys who have been told time and time again by the expert swingers that theres a code to follow you must do this or that they are so false that its no longer fun ....we avoid clubs if we can cause the men are charged silly amounts to get in then people wonder why they act like cattle once in..they want there moneys worth they have paid to get in so they want what they have paid for lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I would like to think of myself as a well-kept, gentlemanly single guy if anyone is interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board. "

Just my opinion but I think the club thing won't help. More guys will want to pre arrange meets away from a club. More a case of seeing what's what when you get there if going to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have meet loads of nice single guys on here and elsewhere with the odd messer the best meets are where guys who are themselves the worse meets are the guys who have been told time and time again by the expert swingers that theres a code to follow you must do this or that they are so false that its no longer fun ....we avoid clubs if we can cause the men are charged silly amounts to get in then people wonder why they act like cattle once in..they want there moneys worth they have paid to get in so they want what they have paid for lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying..

Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile?

I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic!

So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough

The definition of a decent profile is open to debate. I consider mine decent you may not. Interest in my profile has not been particularly high. Still think a lot of it is down to whether you are fanciable or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying..

Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile?

I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic!

So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough

It's down to what's considered a decent profile .

Whether they are interested in more than NSA .

Whet you are looking for compared to what they want .

The more hoops there are to jump through , the less appealing one will be .

I know what you're thinking now , why should I lower my standards or look for something I don't want . And the fact that you have been on the site for years means you are fully aware of how you want the site to work for you . But , and here's the thing , there may well be lots of suitable guys who would tick your boxes , but they may just feel you may be too much hard work . Once you meet you both may be surprised how you connect , but it's getting to that point first .

Why not try it ? Nothing to lose , everything to gain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is a good one, but personally- as a single guy - I wouldn't arrange to meet anyone in a club.

Would rather meet on civvy street

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i have always been a believer in that if you are after a specific type of person... you do the hunting!!! don'wait on the mountain to come to you!!!

you are either be reactive and sit on your arse... or you can be proactive and do!!!

the thing that couples dont always get or dont understand is that the popular guys who do get it and understand it aren't the ones having to do a lot of the chasing...

they have already gotten their names out there...

they are the ones who are also networking

if you would have to work to impress another couple or a single lass... they why do you think you shouldn't have to impress a single guy?

there may be more of them... but the good ones always find a way to stand out... and if you have noticing them standing out i bet others are probably doing the same... so why should they pick you over anyone else....

a lot of the time i think the mindset of people need to change... especially those who think they are "higher up the totem pole"...... not as high as you sometimes like to think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find it hard as well think that many talk Bull shit to you they can not meet just get the thrill of a tug chatting to you"

If it's any consolation it's not just couples who have problems getting meets with 'good' single males!

I had a great meet last night - but only after 3 guys 'bailed' on me in less than 48 hours!

I really wish that men - and women - wouldn't do that to people - as many of us have little child free time! Having your precious child-free time wasted is frustrating - and being 'dumped' time after time can be upsetting!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying..

Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile?

I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic!

So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough

It's down to what's considered a decent profile .

Whether they are interested in more than NSA .

Whet you are looking for compared to what they want .

The more hoops there are to jump through , the less appealing one will be .

Why not try it ? Nothing to lose , everything to gain

Like I said earlier, I would class a decent profile as something that tell me more than 'here for fun' and more than a bloody cock pic!

I am not attracted to a man by how his cock looks, and I tend to think if that is all you have on offer then you are obviously just a cock!

I like to know someone a bit other than having to do the Spanish inquisition and I also want to know what level of intelligence they are/have.

What I think couples don't understand is that they have each other to stimulate them, and an addition is just that, singles on the other hand (Or maybe just me) Want and need to know that they will enjoy the other persons company, whether it just be for sex or more. Oh and I don't have any hoops to be jumped through, all I ask for is respect, the one thing that pisses me off is the messages I get saying, 'I love your profile and pics' blah blah when they have nothing to offer in return, I really don't think I am asking for much am I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching this thread with keen interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have always been a believer in that if you are after a specific type of person... you do the hunting!!! don'wait on the mountain to come to you!!!

you are either be reactive and sit on your arse... or you can be proactive and do!!!

the thing that couples dont always get or dont understand is that the popular guys who do get it and understand it aren't the ones having to do a lot of the chasing...

they have already gotten their names out there...

they are the ones who are also networking

if you would have to work to impress another couple or a single lass... they why do you think you shouldn't have to impress a single guy?

a lot of the time i think the mindset of people need to change... especially those who think they are "higher up the totem pole"...... not as high as you sometimes like to think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying..

Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile?

I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic!

So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough

It's down to what's considered a decent profile .

Whether they are interested in more than NSA .

Whet you are looking for compared to what they want .

The more hoops there are to jump through , the less appealing one will be .

Why not try it ? Nothing to lose , everything to gain

Like I said earlier, I would class a decent profile as something that tell me more than 'here for fun' and more than a bloody cock pic!

I am not attracted to a man by how his cock looks, and I tend to think if that is all you have on offer then you are obviously just a cock!

I like to know someone a bit other than having to do the Spanish inquisition and I also want to know what level of intelligence they are/have.

You're not asking for too much at all , but the emphasis on social and friendship is going to deter so many guys who may well be happy with that once they meet you .

And we totally get where you are coming from with the difference between a couple and a single perspective . Neither of us would swing the way we do as if we didn't have each other . We would certainlylook for more than a quick session .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I can understand this. I've met a few guys for coffee from here, but they tend to have actually just been social meets that *might* turn into something else later.

If a guy doesn't want to do a social I always say I'm happy to meet at a club. Then they talk about how it's too expensive, how they don't want people to see them there, how they don't want to walk in alone... just a whole load of excuses.

Other guys want me to not tell my partners, say that we should do things in secret, that it's just for 'us' and not anyone else to know.

Some even just tell me I'm fake when I refuse to send naked pictures of myself to them on whatsapp or kik.

It's hard to meet single guys on here that I'm compatible with. Maybe I'm just looking for something that's not available. Mind you, I don't think 'bisexual, into a bit of kink, with a bit of intelligence and some personality' is really too extraordinary.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

You choose them, don't sit back and let them choose you. Just saying..

Have you tried looking for a 'decent' single male profile?

I'm lucky if they have a 1 liner which states here for fun and a bloody cock pic!

So it's not that easy to go a hunting as you think....believe me I've tried for long enough

It's down to what's considered a decent profile .

Whether they are interested in more than NSA .

Whet you are looking for compared to what they want .

The more hoops there are to jump through , the less appealing one will be .

Why not try it ? Nothing to lose , everything to gain

Like I said earlier, I would class a decent profile as something that tell me more than 'here for fun' and more than a bloody cock pic!

I am not attracted to a man by how his cock looks, and I tend to think if that is all you have on offer then you are obviously just a cock!

I like to know someone a bit other than having to do the Spanish inquisition and I also want to know what level of intelligence they are/have.

You're not asking for too much at all , but the emphasis on social and friendship is going to deter so many guys who may well be happy with that once they meet you .

I get what your saying and understand about the social/friendship part that I have in my profile, but to me it is just another filter to use as a single female. I am all for NSA sex and that is what I am here for, but if people can't understand that the two can actually work together (yes I have had clingy men in the past and presume men have had as well) then how people run their profile is up to them, my only gripe is people saying do your own hunting which I get I just wish it was possible in my area x

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By *luefish2009Couple
over a year ago

blandford forum

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board. "

I would say that one in three of our first contacts on here disappear before we get to meet them. One of those things we have come to except.

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By *aidtobespanked OP Couple
over a year ago

Chester

Wow! What a mixed response!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"A lot of single guys post about how hard it is to meet girls/couples. Personally, we find it just as hard try to find a suitable guy.

We are always happy to exchange numbers and create a whatsapp group message with all 3 of us added, with a view to arranging a meet at a club which is our preferences.

We are happy to discuss ideas on ways to 'enjoy' Lucy and even send pictures etc.

But before we even get to meet at the club, the guy disappears.

Then its back to the drawing board. "

It's difficult for all parties on here singles of both sexes and couples for different reasons.

Quantity of single guys doesn't necessarily mean it will be easier

When you do find what you're seeking though itmakes its worthwhile.

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By *lassyandadventurousMan
over a year ago

England and Wales

Well I've enjoyed meeting couple's on fab so it does work..

Be nice if a couple said hello to me sometime has I a verified and a genuine man

Marc

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