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A bit of bi in all of us?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, bit of a rambling question coming up!! Have set up a profile with my partner. I am new to this scene, he is not...he feels there is not a great deal of interest in our profile and is wondering is it because I am not bi-curious?! I have many lesbian friends and go to a local LGBT club with them where I feel very much at home....I have just never in all my years been even remotely attracted to another woman. I can recognise when a woman is beautiful and appreciate this...I've just never felt the urge to get into her knickers!!

So basically - and please be honest - is it the straight thing...or are we just not pretty enough and should we give up and take up a life of lights out, missionary, oh I suppose I had better as it's 10pm Saturday sex?!!!

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

You have a verification after a week. I'd say that's more interest than some get. I'm sure there are plenty of straight couples around and that you won't have any problems.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I can help put a bit of bi in anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can help put a bit of bi in anyone

"

Ha ha ha! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are who you are. Being a 100% straight couple will not stop you getting meets. Negative posts like thus won't help though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are who you are. Being a 100% straight couple will not stop you getting meets. Negative posts like thus won't help though."

Wasn't trying to be negative, just a genuine question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are who you are. Being a 100% straight couple will not stop you getting meets. Negative posts like thus won't help though.

Wasn't trying to be negative, just a genuine question. "

It sounds like your not confident in yourselves. Think positive be positive. I like your pics. They scare me in a good way. Your into slightly kinkier stuff. Very exciting. In time you'll do very well I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They suggest it at least

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are who you are. Being a 100% straight couple will not stop you getting meets. Negative posts like thus won't help though.

Wasn't trying to be negative, just a genuine question.

It sounds like your not confident in yourselves. Think positive be positive. I like your pics. They scare me in a good way. Your into slightly kinkier stuff. Very exciting. In time you'll do very well I think."

Thanks for your honesty! Much appreciated and tbh I'm probably not that confident at the moment as this is all new to me...but I am looking forward to expanding my horizons and am sure the confidence will come as I do! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is fine, dont worry about it. You will gain confidence as you go along. Plenty of choice here for everyone.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Get yourselves to a club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get yourselves to a club "

Went to Jaydees last sat night - it was fun!

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

It's unfortunate that people get so concerned about labels. It's a spectrum of feelings. It doesn't even stay uniform. Sometimes I really crave a cock to suck, other times I really can't be arsed with it. Just go with what makes you comfortable at the time and don't worry about it afterwards!

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By *psidaisiMan
over a year ago

Halifax

No bi in me so interest so not a bit in everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, bit of a rambling question coming up!! Have set up a profile with my partner. I am new to this scene, he is not...he feels there is not a great deal of interest in our profile and is wondering is it because I am not bi-curious?! I have many lesbian friends and go to a local LGBT club with them where I feel very much at home....I have just never in all my years been even remotely attracted to another woman. I can recognise when a woman is beautiful and appreciate this...I've just never felt the urge to get into her knickers!!

So basically - and please be honest - is it the straight thing...or are we just not pretty enough and should we give up and take up a life of lights out, missionary, oh I suppose I had better as it's 10pm Saturday sex?!!! "

Your profile name seems to refer to just one of you, but it's a couples profile.

I'm sure though that there are guys out there who want to have sex with you while your partner watches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly having read your profile, there nowt wrong with either your looks, desires and clear intentions - and i'm pretty sure you will have people banging at your door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, bit of a rambling question coming up!! Have set up a profile with my partner. I am new to this scene, he is not...he feels there is not a great deal of interest in our profile and is wondering is it because I am not bi-curious?! I have many lesbian friends and go to a local LGBT club with them where I feel very much at home....I have just never in all my years been even remotely attracted to another woman. I can recognise when a woman is beautiful and appreciate this...I've just never felt the urge to get into her knickers!!

So basically - and please be honest - is it the straight thing...or are we just not pretty enough and should we give up and take up a life of lights out, missionary, oh I suppose I had better as it's 10pm Saturday sex?!!! "

I wouldn't change from straight to Bi, just to get more meets. Plus it's false advertising and would probably piss my bi people off that you have lied.

I often change mine to bi as I have often thought about wanting to try the Bi experience. I wouldn't change it to bi if I had zero interest in women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You hit the nail on the head there. Thanks for a very interesting post!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

The Mrs would walk away with minutes if you pretended to be bi.

You can fake being hot for someone.

If we were into straight couples then we'd prefer some full body (not face) shots in a nice dress or sexy lingerie.

The cock shot and tied books straight up as the first pics would put us off. But may appeal to others, you can't please everyone.

But please don't fake being bi it will be just disappointing for all.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"The Mrs would walk away with minutes if you pretended to be bi.

You can't fake being hot for someone.

If we were into straight couples then we'd prefer some full body (not face) shots in a nice dress or sexy lingerie.

The cock shot and tied boobs coming straight up as the first pics would put us off. But may appeal to others, you can't please everyone.

But please don't fake being bi it will be just disappointing for all.

"

Damn autocorrect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, i told one of my closest friends something the other night, and ive never ever felt like this or thought about women like this

but theres a woman at work, only seen her 3 or 4 times, the first time i see her, i thought she was absolutely beautiful, havent mentioned it to anyone else, think about her when i know we are on the same shift together

but wouldnt know if i could ever go any further so im guessing its in there somewhere, the curious side? - im certinally a weird one lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience lol and lower your standards maibe.

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Your profile reads well, nice pictures, we are also on the kinky side the distance would stop us approaching you not the fact that you are not bi.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The Mrs would walk away with minutes if you pretended to be bi.

You can't fake being hot for someone.

If we were into straight couples then we'd prefer some full body (not face) shots in a nice dress or sexy lingerie.

The cock shot and tied boobs coming straight up as the first pics would put us off. But may appeal to others, you can't please everyone.

But please don't fake being bi it will be just disappointing for all.

Damn autocorrect. "

Oh I wouldn't be changing it - that could end up with me in a situation I wouldn't feel comfortable with. From my very limited experience in this scene if you go with what feels natural and right, then you end up finding that you push your boundaries a bit anyway and find new pleasures. I would never say never and possibly there is a woman out there to make me rethink things. But was just genuinely asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm straight, love the taste and feel of cock to much but when playing in the scene have played and kissed with another woman in couples, true swinging of partners, my point being you only do what you feel is right for you, not your partner or anyone else. life's about enjoying

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West


"Your profile reads well, nice pictures, we are also on the kinky side the distance would stop us approaching you not the fact that you are not bi.

"

This is exactly our reaction too.

As the M typing... I would!

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing worse for a bi woman to be with a lady who isnt but pretending to be - we can tell yanno

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Many couples just want to meet professed straight people only, so that's your target market, if you don't feel inclined towards any mixed fun.

Is there a bit of bi in all of us? Sexual orientation is a very complex thing. A lot that do enjoy some same gender play don't walk down the street fancying the same gender but have something innate that lets them enjoy the fun, as counter intuitive as that may seem.

If a guys cock is positioned next to another one, during DP etc, he will feel the sensations from it - and thus is getting pleasure from those sensations. He may not identify as in any way bicurious, and yet is fully able to and does get pleasure from sensations off another guy.

We're inherently somewhat physical animals, with an evolved brain, that doesn't always have control over our bodies. A guy telling his own cock to get hard may not have any response, because his body is doing what it wants, outside of his cognitive input. Likewise, he may enjoy some all hands on deck play, in a large group of writhing bodies, not knowing who is touching him and just where.

We can overthink things, sometimes to our detriment. Probably millions of people have felt intimidated, inhibited, shame and guilt over the years that bi and gay interests were severely frowned upon - some of that pressure still exists today. We can thus be unaware consciously of what our capabilities and interests are, such is the power of our minds to suppress such aspects of ourselves. We may never know and realise such things about ourselves.

This isn't to say that all people have bi abilities, just that there are many more ways of experiencing how we may be straight, bi or gay than just those 3 options.

As for op's interests and fab experience: just focus on what you're interested in exploring with others now. There is lots of potential around in the 'straight only' field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be because he isn't bi- curious, change his details first and see what response you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might be because he isn't bi- curious, change his details first and see what response you get"

good point - this topic is really about faking people - why bother its pretty darn obvious when you meet your not Bi if you been faking - I am openly bisexual and when I used to have fem FB partner in crime on here or when my ex and I used to swing, we had issues with fakers, so our rule was simple, we needed photo proof of them in bi action

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