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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just started a new relationship (not from here). She's not aware of me being on site. I'm starting to get curious though because when we have sex she tends to 'guide me' if that's a good phrase to use, to do anal with her. I never try to push it on her and it's her choice, however when we do she always wants me to put fingers in her pussy as well and play at same time. I also found 3-way porn on her laptop history when I was using it. I've raised it in conversation slightly but she brushes it off and changes subject. I feel I can do 3-way with her if it will make her happy but I've no idea how to approach it now. Any help??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she brushes it off, that's a hint that maybe she's not into it.

Pushing the matter so early in a relationship is not cool

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's what I was thinking, but the sex is amazing and I always get feeling during sex she wants more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you don't need to be a 'swinger' to like bum play ... 3sum fun is also a massive fantasy for a lot of people but it's exactly that, a fantasy ... I would suggest bringing up the fact you're involved or have been involved with swinging ... and the conversation will start or she may run a mile, but if you don't ask you'll never know!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks. Worried she'll run a mile though as I really like her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's what I was thinking, but the sex is amazing and I always get feeling during sex she wants more"

What do you mean, wants more?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Just started a new relationship (not from here). She's not aware of me being on site. I'm starting to get curious though because when we have sex she tends to 'guide me' if that's a good phrase to use, to do anal with her. I never try to push it on her and it's her choice, however when we do she always wants me to put fingers in her pussy as well and play at same time. I also found 3-way porn on her laptop history when I was using it. I've raised it in conversation slightly but she brushes it off and changes subject. I feel I can do 3-way with her if it will make her happy but I've no idea how to approach it now. Any help??"

Raised what in conversation?

The porn? The anal? Or swinging?

Don't assume anything. She may as you suspect run a mile if you mention swinging, the fact you're on a site like this or if you haven't already told her - that you're bi.

Baby steps. Unless being on here is more important than a real life relationship.

A

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Just be man enough and speak with her. Lack of communication is one of the biggest downfalls in any relationship beside being broke.

If you're struggling to communicate, now would be the time to ask yourself WHY? a short but important question.

Discuss your sexual interests in light conversation, ask her what she likes and doesn't and though you have an idea through looking at her internet history ask if she would be interested in joining a casual dating site.

If she's not interested in joining a site such as this, walk away from here for now, if you want the relationship to go somewhere. Sexhibition is around the corner get a few tickets and see how it goes.

Hope this helps, good luck. -Mr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just started a new relationship (not from here). She's not aware of me being on site. I'm starting to get curious though because when we have sex she tends to 'guide me' if that's a good phrase to use, to do anal with her. I never try to push it on her and it's her choice, however when we do she always wants me to put fingers in her pussy as well and play at same time. I also found 3-way porn on her laptop history when I was using it. I've raised it in conversation slightly but she brushes it off and changes subject. I feel I can do 3-way with her if it will make her happy but I've no idea how to approach it now. Any help??"

You're just going to have to ask her. We can't guess what she wants or how she will respond. She might appreciate your openness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks folks. I was bi but I got this feeling that this could b 'that' relationship. I'd happily walk away from here for her if I kno she is 'the one' as they say. It's just tiny inklings in my head where she does certain things during sex that kind of, not shock me but I think wow that was unexpected and what else is she wanting. As I say I'd do anything for her I think.

The thing on computer was total accidental and she was sitting with me when it popped up and I could tell she was totally embarrassed.

It's strange as when u think in ur mind that it must be in your head then no one to talk to for advice. That's why raising the post for some advice

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