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Is young age a deterrent?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I've been messaging members on and off for about 7 weeks now - I haven't had any luck unfortunately!

I've written my profile in (decent enough) English, I have pics on the profile, friend only pics and private face pics.

So I'm thinking it's either my age or the intro messages I send.

What are your thoughts on 22 year old guys? or perhaps what kind of messages do you like to receive?

Thanks for the help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep at it, in time you will get your meets

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

You're right, your profile is wrote in quite a decent standard of English. However, it doesn't really say much does it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're right, your profile is wrote in quite a decent standard of English. However, it doesn't really say much does it? "

Care to give me some pointers? what sort of information would you be looking for?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a deterrent for me but I'm sure there will be others who have no problem with it at all.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

22 is too young for me, but I'm sure there are others that would be looking

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By *ofUs4UCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I have kids older than you so it would deter us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might not be your age. I was put off by your "any age any size any looks" comment. Really? Will any woman do?

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By *r and mrs willingCouple
over a year ago

SOUTH WEST & WALES

Too young for me but there is someone for everyone here if you are prepared to make an effort. Start by expanding your profile a bit and adding a few more interesting pics. Good luck ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It might not be your age. I was put off by your "any age any size any looks" comment. Really? Will any woman do?"

I didn't say any looks - just size / age, if I'm attracted then I'm attracted - I find different things sexy, it's my genuine opinion!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have kids older than you so it would deter us. "

I understand that completely, such a shame though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Too young for me but there is someone for everyone here if you are prepared to make an effort. Start by expanding your profile a bit and adding a few more interesting pics. Good luck ... "

Thanks for the tips! I'll have to check out some other profiles and see what kind of interesting pics

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i find it interesting that you hit on age being the issue.... because age is the one thing that you can't control and leaves you blameless....

to be honest, your profile saying nothing about you, and says nothing about the type of people you are after (besides anyone anywhere)

it is just a few phrases mashed together with soundbites which you think sounds good.... but is so generic it doesnt say anything....

but yep.. you keep thinking age is the only issue.....

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By *ango0505Woman
over a year ago

Dumfries

I'm deterred by young guys who call me cougar or milf likes it's a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is simply because you are male. Persevere. There are some weirdos on here and some great people too. But you have to persevere

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i find it interesting that you hit on age being the issue.... because age is the one thing that you can't control and leaves you blameless....

to be honest, your profile saying nothing about you, and says nothing about the type of people you are after (besides anyone anywhere)

it is just a few phrases mashed together with soundbites which you think sounds good.... but is so generic it doesnt say anything....

but yep.. you keep thinking age is the only issue....."

I appreciate the advice, I'm not thinking that's the only issue which is why I asked this; so I can improve which I will after reading the responses.

Though as you see the majority are age based lol

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By *azLilyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

You'll find some people reply some don't. It is age related most of the time but then you will find some ladies /guys (if you bat that way) enjoy a younger spirit to enjoy their time with.

To quote a Jedi master: Patience my young padawan

And to quote an Ent from LOTR: don't be hasty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm deterred by young guys who call me cougar or milf likes it's a compliment. "

I can imagine, I know there are those who like to be called it - but it's something that's got to be initiated by the one being called it isn't it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is simply because you are male. Persevere. There are some weirdos on here and some great people too. But you have to persevere"

Aye I guess so! Will keep at it, also get a lot of guys / TVs messaging me which gets frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You'll find some people reply some don't. It is age related most of the time but then you will find some ladies /guys (if you bat that way) enjoy a younger spirit to enjoy their time with.

To quote a Jedi master: Patience my young padawan

And to quote an Ent from LOTR: don't be hasty. "

Haha guess I will have to! I think also the first verification is (hopefully) the hardest to get? So maybe once I get that things will get slightly more active lol

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By *cotbbtopMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

There are a lot of folk on here who are not particularly serious about meeting, so I wouldn't worry about it. Chill and the genuine ones will find you.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"It is simply because you are male. Persevere. There are some weirdos on here and some great people too. But you have to persevere

Aye I guess so! Will keep at it, also get a lot of guys / TVs messaging me which gets frustrating "
Then use the filters and it will stop being so frustrating for you

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It is simply because you are male. Persevere. There are some weirdos on here and some great people too. But you have to persevere

Aye I guess so! Will keep at it, also get a lot of guys / TVs messaging me which gets frustrating Then use the filters and it will stop being so frustrating for you "

This.

And rather than doing a blanket search for profiles use the advanced search feature to ensure your age isn't outside their preferences.

And even then? Just because YOU think you match what they're looking for doesn't mean THEY will feel the same. There's no settings that guarantee interest and attraction - so don't ever expect a reply.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a younger couple (24) we've found a fair few profiles that we'd love to meet but our out of range on guess that's just their preference though! Sometimes we joke that we might have to wait a decade before the site really opens up for us haha! Just stick to it man, I was a single male on here and it worked for me, you just have to keep at it good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been on here since 21 and have never encountered being young as a problem.

On fab we've had people who's age range were outside of contact us, so not everyone's is set in stone.

Also going to clubs makes age become even less of a problem, when we've been in open rooms/beds there's never been a shortage of people joining in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience I have found that it is, and I quite like a more mature lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Also going to clubs makes age become even less of a problem, when we've been in open rooms/beds there's never been a shortage of people joining in

"

I definitely found this when I went to Chams, had a whale of a time, chatted with everyone and genuinely felt like age didn't matter!

Online is strange for everyone though I think, especially for something like this where personality is so important! It can be difficult to put that across over pixels and fonts..

Go to socials and group events, you won't be the only one there, you won't be the only 'first timer' and you absolutely won't regret it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Also going to clubs makes age become even less of a problem, when we've been in open rooms/beds there's never been a shortage of people joining in

I definitely found this when I went to Chams, had a whale of a time, chatted with everyone and genuinely felt like age didn't matter!

Online is strange for everyone though I think, especially for something like this where personality is so important! It can be difficult to put that across over pixels and fonts..

Go to socials and group events, you won't be the only one there, you won't be the only 'first timer' and you absolutely won't regret it! "

Thanks for the advice! I would imagine being at an event shows you're actually serious too - Gotta find a local one for me now then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a younger couple (24) we've found a fair few profiles that we'd love to meet but our out of range on guess that's just their preference though! Sometimes we joke that we might have to wait a decade before the site really opens up for us haha! Just stick to it man, I was a single male on here and it worked for me, you just have to keep at it good luck! "

Single male when you started - now look where you are! Did you meet through here? or just lucky enough to find someone similar outside of the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a younger couple (24) we've found a fair few profiles that we'd love to meet but our out of range on guess that's just their preference though! Sometimes we joke that we might have to wait a decade before the site really opens up for us haha! Just stick to it man, I was a single male on here and it worked for me, you just have to keep at it good luck!

Single male when you started - now look where you are! Did you meet through here? or just lucky enough to find someone similar outside of the site?"

(Lady here) We actually met properly on here! Lived locally and kind of known each other years, happened to bump into each other on here and well.. Hes proof that there are some intelligent, handsome, charismatic and caring single males on here worth meeting! So.. age matters not guys! Lengthy well worded messages, face pictures and a bit of patience go a long way! Although leaving me begging for more probably had alot to do with it

Gotta dig through the dirt to find the diamonds

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a younger couple (24) we've found a fair few profiles that we'd love to meet but our out of range on guess that's just their preference though! Sometimes we joke that we might have to wait a decade before the site really opens up for us haha! Just stick to it man, I was a single male on here and it worked for me, you just have to keep at it good luck!

Single male when you started - now look where you are! Did you meet through here? or just lucky enough to find someone similar outside of the site?

(Lady here) We actually met properly on here! Lived locally and kind of known each other years, happened to bump into each other on here and well.. Hes proof that there are some intelligent, handsome, charismatic and caring single males on here worth meeting! So.. age matters not guys! Lengthy well worded messages, face pictures and a bit of patience go a long way! Although leaving me begging for more probably had alot to do with it

Gotta dig through the dirt to find the diamonds

Xxx"

Haha amazing, thanks for your reply & best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I've been messaging members on and off for about 7 weeks now - I haven't had any luck unfortunately!

I've written my profile in (decent enough) English, I have pics on the profile, friend only pics and private face pics.

So I'm thinking it's either my age or the intro messages I send.

What are your thoughts on 22 year old guys? or perhaps what kind of messages do you like to receive?

Thanks for the help "

We're open to young guys, but we've found them to be unreliable. Maybe they expect people our age to not have wrinkles, or maybe they just don't know what they want, not sure. We've had lots of interest from young guys but never got to even the social stage yet, so we've upped our minimum age to 30 again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have kids older than you so it would deter us. "

Our eldest is 28, not sure what it has to do with anything, we're fine about sex with younger.

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

i always play with people younger than myself

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I have kids older than you so it would deter us. "

same for us

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Love younger

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By *helbeeCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

My preference i would not see a guy to have fun with younger than my son, who is over 18 an below 25 years old

its a personal thing i dont think its right for me an i wouldn't feel right some how

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you've updated it and I think it's pretty good now. The only thing I would say is take out the word "boring". It's not boring, it's interesting. For instance, I love hip hop too (yeah, it's been around a long time now). I hate to hear anyone denigrate themselves, be confident, be cool!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you've updated it and I think it's pretty good now. The only thing I would say is take out the word "boring". It's not boring, it's interesting. For instance, I love hip hop too (yeah, it's been around a long time now). I hate to hear anyone denigrate themselves, be confident, be cool! "

Thanks for taking the time to check it out I'll remove that now, I find it kind of awkward writing about myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most of us feel the same, but just put the facts clearly and let others make their own decisions. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is simply because you are male. Persevere. There are some weirdos on here and some great people too. But you have to persevere"

And for some of us his age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is simply because you are male. Persevere. There are some weirdos on here and some great people too. But you have to persevere"
That's right, it doesn't matter what age a woman are here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a deterrent for me but I'm sure there will be others who have no problem with it at all."
I wouldvt met someone so young

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