FabSwingers.com forum: Relationship question

By *arawayman OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

If you meet somebody in 'real life ' would you tell them about your past, alter ego or whatever on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did do and it ended not long after

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Depends on the guy. I usually have a sixth sense about whether they'd understand. However there would be no lasting relationship with someone who was judgemental of my lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you meet somebody in 'real life ' would you tell them about your past, alter ego or whatever on here?"

Its a good question. I'd like to think that if I ever found 'the one' i'd be able to share everything with them, including my past. Everyone is entitled to a sex life after all, and in some ways this lifestyle is more honest than just going out and 'pulling' someone in a bar. i know this is probably a bit naive, but i like to be honest and up front and would want to be accepted for being me....warts and all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did do, admitted it all and said if we are to make a go of things this is who I am, we can explore together but i can't change who I am.

We are now on our fourth year togther and absolutely rock solid because of the honesty. Luckily she also enjoys the extra attention the lifestyle offers. Happy days!

Be true to yourself and others and life is a much easier ride.

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By *yronutMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"Did do, admitted it all and said if we are to make a go of things this is who I am, we can explore together but i can't change who I am.

We are now on our fourth year togther and absolutely rock solid because of the honesty. Luckily she also enjoys the extra attention the lifestyle offers. Happy days!

Rock on Tommy.... You're a lucky Guy!!

Be true to yourself and others and life is a much easier ride."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Always.

The right person will not give a shit about your past. If they do, they're not the right person for you.

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By *ammykingMan
over a year ago

Lisburn

Never met anyone since I joined so I dunno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can someone in fab be judgemental of another fab member, if you want to meet a person, an you believe the person to be the right person.

why would you want to change them, why would you want to meet a swinger and be shocked at there level of experience.

You'd think the more experience one has, the better the sex would be.. I'm sure the occassion change, is far better than the occassional break if you wish a relationship to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty is the best policy, the alternative is living a lie and if you grow to love them, or worse still, them you, morally it's going to be tough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've told people ive dated. Some get it. Some don't. Some find themselves on here not long after. My experience is they don't want to be with me because its weird that I've slept with more people than them and they get a bit funny about it. Oh well

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"If you meet somebody in 'real life ' would you tell them about your past, alter ego or whatever on here?"

Probably not on the first date.... and I'd maybe not go into too much detail, just keep it vague.

Cal

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Honesty is the best policy, the alternative is living a lie and if you grow to love them, or worse still, them you, morally it's going to be tough"

There's a difference between not telling someone everything and "Living a Lie".

If you'd shop-lifted a bag of sweets when you were seven, would you feel the need to let your potential mate know? What about if you'd "experimented with drugs" as a teenager, or experimented with your sexuality before quickly deciding "yuk"?

Surely many things are just an episode in your life and don't warrant a chapter in your biography. Certainly some things are not significant enough to "need" mentioning, or hiding. They'd just pop up in conversation if the topic came up.

Cal

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I have never mentioned I have swung in past relationships as it's never come up, but nowadays, meeting online is a given. I have been single for that long I doubt if asked it would really be much of a problem

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

"Did do and it ended not long after

Lost both our best friends from this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honesty is the best policy, the alternative is living a lie and if you grow to love them, or worse still, them you, morally it's going to be tough"

Why would it be tough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always told new partners early on in a relationship. It's only ever caused a problem with one of them.

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