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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You thought about going to a swingers club or organised party could be way forward. Got to remember it's never going be easy on fab I dread to think how many blokes they are to women. Keep chin up and hope first meet comes soon for you

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great! "

You could start with looking at the hundreds of similar threads on this topic.

I imagine the confusion caused by saying you're straight when you're clearly not isn't helping...

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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great! "

People will often read profiles before opening a message.

Do you think yours draws in the eye in terms of pictures and interesting text and will have people choosing you over anyone else?

Or do you think three cock pics and a desire to meet larger/older women for potential outdoor/car fun is going to have Fabs single women rushing to say 'me, me, pick me!!!' ?

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You thought about going to a swingers club or organised party could be way forward. Got to remember it's never going be easy on fab I dread to think how many blokes they are to women. Keep chin up and hope first meet comes soon for you "

Yeah I have thought about swingers clubs. Someone else suggested being part of a gangbang first to try and get some veris, thanks for the non judgmental or attitude filled reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chanc

Ehats e, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

People will often read profiles before opening a message.

Do you think yours draws in the eye in terms of pictures and interesting text and will have people choosing you over anyone else?

Or do you think three cock pics and a desire to meet larger/older women for potential outdoor/car fun is going to have Fabs single women rushing to say 'me, me, pick me!!!' ?

A"

What would you suggest? I want to be to the point but I don't want to have a textless profile either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing with me I don't know how to express my self on a profile as this is all new to me well iv been on and off for a year still don't know what to put on it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The thing with me I don't know how to express my self on a profile as this is all new to me well iv been on and off for a year still don't know what to put on it lol"

Yep basically the same I've never done anything before so I just put what I thought was right

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Welcome to fab. Your problem is your age which you can do nothing about , your attitude to potential meets which you can adjust and your photos.

Have a look around, note what one or two or her profiles with lots of favourable verifications say and think about how you would want a good woman friend to be approached if she was on here.

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great! "

Your profile....

I am looking for some nsa or fwb fun with bigger and/or older women who just want to have some fun without worrying about any attachments or embarrassment.

Sounds like you want BBW or older lady as no strings, because it would be embarrassing being in a relationship with them?

I know you don't mean it that way. I'm hoping. But that's how I read it. I'm also not doing a great job of explaining in this post.

But your profile needs work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cool that's tho only thing u can do mate just put what u want on it as ur just being u and not something ur not

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"The thing with me I don't know how to express my self on a profile as this is all new to me well iv been on and off for a year still don't know what to put on it lol

Yep basically the same I've never done anything before so I just put what I thought was right "

We all do that.

You say you're 100% clean but willing to still use protection if your meet wants. I think you need to research STI s and the risks of pregnancy before you embark on your swinging career too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Welcome to fab. Your problem is your age which you can do nothing about , your attitude to potential meets which you can adjust and your photos.

Have a look around, note what one or two or her profiles with lots of favourable verifications say and think about how you would want a good woman friend to be approached if she was on here. "

My age :O no I can understand most "kids" my age aren't going to be genuine I get that. I think the photos I'm at a loss with, how can I remain slightly anonymous to the rest of the site and still put up a normal photo of myself /: yeah my profile seems to be the problem, thank you for replying

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

Your profile....

I am looking for some nsa or fwb fun with bigger and/or older women who just want to have some fun without worrying about any attachments or embarrassment.

Sounds like you want BBW or older lady as no strings, because it would be embarrassing being in a relationship with them?

I know you don't mean it that way. I'm hoping. But that's how I read it. I'm also not doing a great job of explaining in this post.

But your profile needs work. "

Wow :| I never read into it like that... No! that's not what it was supposed to mean lol I actually just like bigger women and the older woman thing is a bit of a turn on. I've found the route of the problem though it seems, thanks!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Welcome to fab. Your problem is your age which you can do nothing about , your attitude to potential meets which you can adjust and your photos.

Have a look around, note what one or two or her profiles with lots of favourable verifications say and think about how you would want a good woman friend to be approached if she was on here.

My age :O no I can understand most "kids" my age aren't going to be genuine I get that. I think the photos I'm at a loss with, how can I remain slightly anonymous to the rest of the site and still put up a normal photo of myself /: yeah my profile seems to be the problem, thank you for replying "

Most men your age are genuine but they often have a young mans attitude, which again isn't wrong but sometimes a better understanding of women comes with maturity....only sometimes .

With your photos all I mean is that this site isn't necessarily full of women just interested in your cock, it's size and ability although some are of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

You could start with looking at the hundreds of similar threads on this topic.

I imagine the confusion caused by saying you're straight when you're clearly not isn't helping..."

Not sure where you get the clearly not straight bit....unless profile has been reworded?

However OP talks about the size of his cock as seen in pics....but none on profile and he doesn't send cocky pics,....so more confusion there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK from the top and working Down;

That profile pic, it's awful any camera flash in the mirror picture is awful.

Get an interesting profile picture and learn to use your camera's timer function.

Then no pics, add in a selection of pics (try keeping a nice tight pair of boxers on) bums, torsos, and faces rate well.

The profile text is pretty poor first why would anyone be embarrassed?

Also what do you mean you can travel far and are up for out door or car fun (yours)?

Does that mean you don't have a car?

Maybe simplify that down to happy to travel.

For the rest it's mostly just meaningless so replace it with some stuff about you sexually and non sexually and an honest description of what you're looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Welcome to fab. Your problem is your age which you can do nothing about , your attitude to potential meets which you can adjust and your photos.

Have a look around, note what one or two or her profiles with lots of favourable verifications say and think about how you would want a good woman friend to be approached if she was on here.

My age :O no I can understand most "kids" my age aren't going to be genuine I get that. I think the photos I'm at a loss with, how can I remain slightly anonymous to the rest of the site and still put up a normal photo of myself /: yeah my profile seems to be the problem, thank you for replying

Most men your age are genuine but they often have a young mans attitude, which again isn't wrong but sometimes a better understanding of women comes with maturity....only sometimes .

With your photos all I mean is that this site isn't necessarily full of women just interested in your cock, it's size and ability although some are of course.

"

Yeah I know what you mean I have put the two obviously cock pics In private now lol it's my profile picture that I don't know what to have as

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Welcome to fab. Your problem is your age which you can do nothing about , your attitude to potential meets which you can adjust and your photos.

Have a look around, note what one or two or her profiles with lots of favourable verifications say and think about how you would want a good woman friend to be approached if she was on here.

My age :O no I can understand most "kids" my age aren't going to be genuine I get that. I think the photos I'm at a loss with, how can I remain slightly anonymous to the rest of the site and still put up a normal photo of myself /: yeah my profile seems to be the problem, thank you for replying

Most men your age are genuine but they often have a young mans attitude, which again isn't wrong but sometimes a better understanding of women comes with maturity....only sometimes .

With your photos all I mean is that this site isn't necessarily full of women just interested in your cock, it's size and ability although some are of course.

Yeah I know what you mean I have put the two obviously cock pics In private now lol it's my profile picture that I don't know what to have as "

Profile picture should be something that draws attention and looks interesting makes some want to click on your profile.

It should stand out, a cock pic does non of that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

You could start with looking at the hundreds of similar threads on this topic.

I imagine the confusion caused by saying you're straight when you're clearly not isn't helping...

Not sure where you get the clearly not straight bit....unless profile has been reworded?

However OP talks about the size of his cock as seen in pics....but none on profile and he doesn't send cocky pics,....so more confusion there!"

I was wondering that myself..

Ahh you see I've hidden the pics now at the behest of the good people here and have edited the profile text slightly, I'm doing it as I'm reading these lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

You could start with looking at the hundreds of similar threads on this topic.

I imagine the confusion caused by saying you're straight when you're clearly not isn't helping...

Not sure where you get the clearly not straight bit....unless profile has been reworded?

"I'm 23 looking for either sex.....""

Are you illiterate?

"I'm 23 looking for either sex or purely oral"

Is the full sentence which means he's looking for well sex or oral not "either sex"

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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

You could start with looking at the hundreds of similar threads on this topic.

I imagine the confusion caused by saying you're straight when you're clearly not isn't helping...

Not sure where you get the clearly not straight bit....unless profile has been reworded?

However OP talks about the size of his cock as seen in pics....but none on profile and he doesn't send cocky pics,....so more confusion there!

I was wondering that myself..

Ahh you see I've hidden the pics now at the behest of the good people here and have edited the profile text slightly, I'm doing it as I'm reading these lol. "

Make your profile pic one of you dressed as Big Bird from Sesame St standing on a pile of Argos catalogues.

Then just put "anyone fancy a shag" in as your profile text. You'll be knee deep in clunge in hours.

A

*Well you did say you were doing whatever was suggested on this thread!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

You could start with looking at the hundreds of similar threads on this topic.

I imagine the confusion caused by saying you're straight when you're clearly not isn't helping...

Not sure where you get the clearly not straight bit....unless profile has been reworded?

However OP talks about the size of his cock as seen in pics....but none on profile and he doesn't send cocky pics,....so more confusion there!

I was wondering that myself..

Ahh you see I've hidden the pics now at the behest of the good people here and have edited the profile text slightly, I'm doing it as I'm reading these lol.

Make your profile pic one of you dressed as Big Bird from Sesame St standing on a pile of Argos catalogues.

Then just put "anyone fancy a shag" in as your profile text. You'll be knee deep in clunge in hours.

A

*Well you did say you were doing whatever was suggested on this thread! "

At first I was thinking "I want what drugs they're on" but eventually it clicked. Hahaha well done

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've tried multiple times to get a first meet, such as NSA sex or a discreet oral meet.

I never get replies to my messages and I don't just send dick pics or 3 words, I send a face pic and I am polite and not too forward.

No one ever gives me a chance, you need "reviews" or past experiences just to get a first experience which doesn't make sense ha. someone wanna tell me where I'm going wrong or some beginners tips?

If anyone has the "fabswingers for dummies" sort of book that'd be great!

You could start with looking at the hundreds of similar threads on this topic.

I imagine the confusion caused by saying you're straight when you're clearly not isn't helping...

Not sure where you get the clearly not straight bit....unless profile has been reworded?

However OP talks about the size of his cock as seen in pics....but none on profile and he doesn't send cocky pics,....so more confusion there!

I was wondering that myself..

Ahh you see I've hidden the pics now at the behest of the good people here and have edited the profile text slightly, I'm doing it as I'm reading these lol.

Make your profile pic one of you dressed as Big Bird from Sesame St standing on a pile of Argos catalogues.

Then just put "anyone fancy a shag" in as your profile text. You'll be knee deep in clunge in hours.

A

*Well you did say you were doing whatever was suggested on this thread! "

*Giggles*

Op, seriously, if you take on board suggestions from strangers you'll end up with a generic or contradictory profile.

No one knows you better than you: if YOU can't write about YOU, sorry, to me you're then neither use nor ornament.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need patience lol

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