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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Amongst all the profile advice and what am I doing wrong threads etc. There is one thing that to me sticks out more than anything else. Its the suggestion that said people should get to socials or go to clubs. Im just wondering why this is the case. There's an argument to say that they are all intrinsically linked with the so called scene or hobby if you prefer. They do complement each other it's true. The counter argument to that is that they are all separate avenues which a person may take to get to shall we say a certain end result. Clubs are for some and not for others. Some people are social creatures others are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although it may not be for everybody it is a place where you can meet genuine people. There are a lot if time wasters on the site and at least at these you stand a better chance of meeting like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amongst all the profile advice and what am I doing wrong threads etc. There is one thing that to me sticks out more than anything else. Its the suggestion that said people should get to socials or go to clubs. Im just wondering why this is the case. There's an argument to say that they are all intrinsically linked with the so called scene or hobby if you prefer. They do complement each other it's true. The counter argument to that is that they are all separate avenues which a person may take to get to shall we say a certain end result. Clubs are for some and not for others. Some people are social creatures others are not."

Very good points , couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's because meeting people in real life is very different to trying to arrange meets on here. Face to face you *may* stand a better chance of people talking to you.

I'd agree that clubs etc aren't for everyone though.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

More and more, when we are chatting to people on here they say they don't want to go to a club or social because they are shy so I guess that's why they are online instead? That being said we wonder how these shy people will get on if they do arrange a meet and then find themselves getting naked with complete strangers.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It's because you will have a higher 'hit rate'. Like going to a networking event for work for instance. Getting out there, chatting to people oflb real life and interacting properly with people.

Yes clubs aren't for everyone bit going to socials and clubs etc are the beat way of getting noticed. If it's not for you then you have to accept it being a bit harder to make the connections you want on here.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Generally, the "got to clubs/socials" comments are aimed at those who keep saying that they cant get a meet because they're not verified.

It's certainly an easy way to get a veri.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More and more, when we are chatting to people on here they say they don't want to go to a club or social because they are shy so I guess that's why they are online instead? That being said we wonder how these shy people will get on if they do arrange a meet and then find themselves getting naked with complete strangers."

Meeting a couple is very different to meeting a room full of people at a social.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Amongst all the profile advice and what am I doing wrong threads etc. There is one thing that to me sticks out more than anything else. Its the suggestion that said people should get to socials or go to clubs. Im just wondering why this is the case. There's an argument to say that they are all intrinsically linked with the so called scene or hobby if you prefer. They do complement each other it's true. The counter argument to that is that they are all separate avenues which a person may take to get to shall we say a certain end result. Clubs are for some and not for others. Some people are social creatures others are not."

all of that is true.... however i am not as believer in closing avenues which may be positive without trying them at least....

the one thing going to socials and going to clubs does is give you a chance to stand out... it gives people who may not have considered people from a profile the chance to see how people act in what i like to call "the real world".....

some people like to think of them as seperate avenues, and thats okay for them... for me all of those is parts of one big swinging jigsaw to help me get the most out of the scene for me.... and it wouldn't work as well if i didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply put, it's mainly advice I've seen given to people who aren't getting the success they anticipated. It's a great way to interact in person and meeting people, in the real world, as Fabio says.

If people want fun, they can go to a club to put themselves in a situation to socialise with a view to having fun. And due to time wasters it's a great way to ensure that one person/ couple doesn't severely affect your night or plans.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"More and more, when we are chatting to people on here they say they don't want to go to a club or social because they are shy so I guess that's why they are online instead? That being said we wonder how these shy people will get on if they do arrange a meet and then find themselves getting naked with complete strangers."

We're naturally shy people but do build up the courage as it's what we want to happen, the nerves soon go but tbh the nerves due to the shyness are a little bit of a turn on also.

The issue I see and I maybe wrong here but the socials tend to be few and spread around the country, was expecting a lot more of them and more frequent.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amongst all the profile advice and what am I doing wrong threads etc. There is one thing that to me sticks out more than anything else. Its the suggestion that said people should get to socials or go to clubs. Im just wondering why this is the case. There's an argument to say that they are all intrinsically linked with the so called scene or hobby if you prefer. They do complement each other it's true. The counter argument to that is that they are all separate avenues which a person may take to get to shall we say a certain end result. Clubs are for some and not for others. Some people are social creatures others are not."

op you need to do what you think is right if people who have been doing this for years tell you how to be successful and you decide it's a load of Crap what can anyone say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More and more, when we are chatting to people on here they say they don't want to go to a club or social because they are shy so I guess that's why they are online instead? That being said we wonder how these shy people will get on if they do arrange a meet and then find themselves getting naked with complete strangers.

We're naturally shy people but do build up the courage as it's what we want to happen, the nerves soon go but tbh the nerves due to the shyness are a little bit of a turn on also.

The issue I see and I maybe wrong here but the socials tend to be few and spread around the country, was expecting a lot more of them and more frequent.

Him"

We live in a city and have to travel to Bournemouth or Salisbury

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"More and more, when we are chatting to people on here they say they don't want to go to a club or social because they are shy so I guess that's why they are online instead? That being said we wonder how these shy people will get on if they do arrange a meet and then find themselves getting naked with complete strangers.

We're naturally shy people but do build up the courage as it's what we want to happen, the nerves soon go but tbh the nerves due to the shyness are a little bit of a turn on also.

The issue I see and I maybe wrong here but the socials tend to be few and spread around the country, was expecting a lot more of them and more frequent.

Him"

If agree with that. I've got one coming this week. First one within reasonable distance of me. Looking forward to it but do wish there were more.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"It's because you will have a higher 'hit rate'. Like going to a networking event for work for instance. Getting out there, chatting to people oflb real life and interacting properly with people.

Yes clubs aren't for everyone bit going to socials and clubs etc are the beat way of getting noticed. If it's not for you then you have to accept it being a bit harder to make the connections you want on here. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Amongst all the profile advice and what am I doing wrong threads etc. There is one thing that to me sticks out more than anything else. Its the suggestion that said people should get to socials or go to clubs. Im just wondering why this is the case. There's an argument to say that they are all intrinsically linked with the so called scene or hobby if you prefer. They do complement each other it's true. The counter argument to that is that they are all separate avenues which a person may take to get to shall we say a certain end result. Clubs are for some and not for others. Some people are social creatures others are not.

op you need to do what you think is right if people who have been doing this for years tell you how to be successful and you decide it's a load of Crap what can anyone say

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You misunderstand. I have never once asked for profile advice. I have never once said it's a load of crap either. I always do what I think is right. Not saying it is always right lol. My thread was to provoke discussion on the pros and cons of doing things in different ways and the different ways people prefer to go about their business. As _abio stated closing off avenues reduces your chances. As I pointed out some avenues are not open to all for differing reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you've just got to realise what kind of person you are and then use that insight to help yourself. As you say, the advice to go to clubs and socials isn't always the best advice.

I gave clubs a good try and have been to many across the country, but in the end decided that I only want to use them for socials rather than meeting people for play.

As a bi fem many think that it's easy to get meets on here, but that isn't always the case. As always, effort in = effort out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The issue I see and I maybe wrong here but the socials tend to be few and spread around the country, was expecting a lot more of them and more frequent.

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Well we went to our first social last night and had a great time meeting some likeminded couples and guys. It was us also our first organizing a social. That's the thing is it is ordinary people who are arranging them so if you don't think there's 1 close enough or not frequent enough just have to put a post up and see who else is interested as that's all we did. You get more out of this site the more proactive you are.

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