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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ??

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Tell em to feck off lol

wants his cake and eat it

plus keeping you in reserve incase the relationship dsnt work

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By *ringiton89Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'd be cool with that since that's what you always were - nsa fuck buddies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tell em to feck off lol

wants his cake and eat it

plus keeping you in reserve incase the relationship dsnt work

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Thank you I needed advise

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ?? "

How do YOU feel about it...

if it bothers you you have the right to be annoyed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But we have a very close friendship too and spend time together out of swinging

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By *ringiton89Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"But we have a very close friendship too and spend time together out of swinging "

Do you want a relationship with him though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ??

How do YOU feel about it...

if it bothers you you have the right to be annoyed "

Confused as think I have feelings for him and he knows that

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

If it bothers you you should say something... purely because its you that will have the headfuck

whiles he us merily fucking two guys non the wiser

N do you deserve to get a headfuck over it

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By *aughty Wigan CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

Also agree with his cake and eat it. Different if he was being straight with the person wanting the relationship with but not if its behind someones back.

Similar thing just happened to me, so called FWB. We had no problems with who each other met, or what we got up to when not seeing each other but he not been able to meet for a while due to other things going on in his life, but find out earlier in week he had a couples profile on here with someone else and the nights he cancelled on me was because he was meeting via that profile! Wondered why he never displayed any verifications I left him or why he didnt do me any, now I know

Oh well, his loss, and think you really need to think just how much you want this person as a FB or if it is time to move on.

Good luck and hope you get it sorted.

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Never short change yourself just so you dnt lose him...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ?? "

Outrage! I'm no-one's sneaky second fiddle on the side, my self-respect would make me walk away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone I am meeting with him later to talk about it . Just needed to talk with people in this circle . No the other girl no nothing about me or the real him

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By *ringiton89Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Thanks everyone I am meeting with him later to talk about it . Just needed to talk with people in this circle . No the other girl no nothing about me or the real him "

You're in a relationship tho? With a couples profile? So he's you're bit on the side but you don't want to end up being his? What?

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Oh he wants a relationship with a girl I assumed it was another bloke...

hmm yea sounds like he needs a good talking to.

Dnt compromise yourself for his benifit when you have a chat

N b honest best you can

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks everyone I am meeting with him later to talk about it . Just needed to talk with people in this circle . No the other girl no nothing about me or the real him

You're in a relationship tho? With a couples profile? So he's you're bit on the side but you don't want to end up being his? What? "

He is the other half of the couple neither of us are in a relationship just very close friends with him

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By *ringiton89Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Understand now

Either admit that it was fun while it lasted but it has to stop now he wants to see someone or you need to be happy in yourself for being the bit on the side. My advice would be the first one though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Understand now

Either admit that it was fun while it lasted but it has to stop now he wants to see someone or you need to be happy in yourself for being the bit on the side. My advice would be the first one though."

The girl he wants to be with know nothing about this side of him or that he like guys too

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Tbh honest if you have feelings for him you need to be honest

dnt give part of you coz in the long run you defo will get hurt

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By *ringiton89Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


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The girl he wants to be with know nothing about this side of him or that he like guys too "

Life's a bitch. I've been with ppl in the past with partners who nothing about this side of them but that's really between him and his new girl.

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


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The girl he wants to be with know nothing about this side of him or that he like guys too

Life's a bitch. I've been with ppl in the past with partners who nothing about this side of them but that's really between him and his new girl."

Think he's more pissed off that he is denying that he is bi or gay

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Individual choice, but with a fuck buddy there is that freedom. Now I would say that swinging is about ethical non-monogamy and everyone knows the situation and can then make an informed decision about if thats what they want in a relationship. If we consider it from the perspective of the other person they will think are in a regular vanilla relationship, who knows it might go well and they end up getting married and having kids, if he has also had a FB on the side then that could cause major fallout.

However a younger me might have come to a different conclusion on the situation. So in the end its down to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Individual choice, but with a fuck buddy there is that freedom. Now I would say that swinging is about ethical non-monogamy and everyone knows the situation and can then make an informed decision about if thats what they want in a relationship. If we consider it from the perspective of the other person they will think are in a regular vanilla relationship, who knows it might go well and they end up getting married and having kids, if he has also had a FB on the side then that could cause major fallout.

However a younger me might have come to a different conclusion on the situation. So in the end its down to you."

Is he being selfish though as he knows how I feel and this other girl has not long come out of a bad relationship and has an 8 month old baby . His last relationship failed as he couldn't deal with that girls kids . ?

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

If you want him

get him I'd say

if he dsnt wanna give you what you want

walk away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your replies I'm in a bit of shock as knew nothing about this until he text me when was in work this morning I burst in to tears and had to come home . I don't want to lose him but can't be the other woman guess I have a lot to think about

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Individual choice, but with a fuck buddy there is that freedom. Now I would say that swinging is about ethical non-monogamy and everyone knows the situation and can then make an informed decision about if thats what they want in a relationship. If we consider it from the perspective of the other person they will think are in a regular vanilla relationship, who knows it might go well and they end up getting married and having kids, if he has also had a FB on the side then that could cause major fallout.

However a younger me might have come to a different conclusion on the situation. So in the end its down to you.

Is he being selfish though as he knows how I feel and this other girl has not long come out of a bad relationship and has an 8 month old baby . His last relationship failed as he couldn't deal with that girls kids . ?"

In swinging I don't see things like this as being selfish. It is obviously something that he wants to do, and he is telling you what he wants. Open expression of desires is kind of what we are looking for in swinging isn't it? So once he has expressed his desires, its then up to you if you want to help him to achieve his desires, or if its not something for you, then you can pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ?? "

I'd be a little annoyed that he told me we were exclusive when obviously we were not

Wouldnt bother me if a fuck buddie saw other people it does bother me when people lie about things they really have no need to lie about

So for that reason I'd be out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least he was up front , you are fuck buddies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ??

I'd be a little annoyed that he told me we were exclusive when obviously we were not

Wouldnt bother me if a fuck buddie saw other people it does bother me when people lie about things they really have no need to lie about

So for that reason I'd be out "

This.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"If you had a fuck buddy for over a year and were exclusive to each other apart from swing together who then tells you he wants to start a relationship with someone but keep you as a fuck buddy /swinging partner behind that persons back what would your reaction be ??

I'd be a little annoyed that he told me we were exclusive when obviously we were not

Wouldnt bother me if a fuck buddie saw other people it does bother me when people lie about things they really have no need to lie about

So for that reason I'd be out "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody looking for a fuck buudy x

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