FabSwingers.com forum: "Looks/ age unimportant"

By *lgernon OP Man
over a year ago

cupar

I read this in peoples profiles fairly often. Nearly always single guys. The poor buggers have a hard enough time without telling everyone "I'm desperate and have no standards." Ya. Hot stuff mate....keep talking dirty to me.

WHY????????????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read this in peoples profiles fairly often. Nearly always single guys. The poor buggers have a hard enough time without telling everyone "I'm desperate and have no standards." Ya. Hot stuff mate....keep talking dirty to me.

WHY????????????????"

Think you answered your own question there.....desperate and no standards! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY????????????????"

don't mention the f word.

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Don't know about looks, but age unimportant surely doesn't mean 'no standards'.

Quite a lot of couples profiles also state a wide range of ages (and we've met as young as 21 and as old as 62 ourselves), but that doesn't mean we are desperate, thank you very much!

Far from it, we still choose who we meet based on whether we fancy them or not, it simply means age is just a number from our perspective.

xxxx

j&r

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this question was with regards to what’s important in a playmate, we’d hedge a bet personality would be up near the top of the list, yet when looks and age are not as important to some people they are then called desperate.

So we’ve come to the conclusion that’s there’s only three ways to describe swingers, desperate or shallow, which most of us will fit into, then we’re left with the minority that are too far up their own arses to notice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be wide of the mark, but i thought the idea was 'friends and fun'. i've never let looks or age dictate who i have as a friend before, and don't see why i'd start now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I may be wide of the mark, but i thought the idea was 'friends and fun'. i've never let looks or age dictate who i have as a friend before, and don't see why i'd start now."

your on your hols...and your still on here????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks with regards playmates are important..you have to be attracted to them. Although personailty does it everytime. Sometimes your not instantly attracted to the person with regards looks but get to know..and well.

Age again not that important, although do have my preferences.

These views only apply to playmates, friends well...they are your friends regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sat on the m25, so i'm making the most of mobile internet before i hit roaming charges

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

WHY????????????????"

I suppose it depends if the people you sleep with are your friends or just warm slabs of flesh for the night.

That and an open mind and non judgemental personality about covers it.

oh and finally 30 today 50 before you turn around then 60 ...and there is nothing you can do to stop it, your clock is running mate ...but when you get older the same warm exciting sexy person is in there surely...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,we do go for looks.That's what the initial attraction comes down to.

However,if they don't have a nice personality it's going nowhere.

Also,contrary to what sometimes seems popular belief on the forums,unatractive people haven't cornered the market in nice personalities,quite the opposite in many cases.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes,we do go for looks.That's what the initial attraction comes down to.

However,if they don't have a nice personality it's going nowhere.

Also,contrary to what sometimes seems popular belief on the forums,unatractive people haven't cornered the market in nice personalities,quite the opposite in many cases.

XXXX"
My sentiments exactly. Each to their own though, each to their own.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have said open minded and that i dont mind race or coulor , im a single guy and my reasons for it are that i do have standards but i dont want to discount someone until i met them to be honest , for me i prefer the social side of things if i get on with someone im happy , coulor wise i dnt think it should ever be an issue in the first place, if this translates as im desperate or have no standards then so be it thats up to the person reading the profile to make their own judgements on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

srry meant to say race or size lmao silly me not the brightest of people sometimes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have said open minded and that i dont mind race or coulor , im a single guy and my reasons for it are that i do have standards but i dont want to discount someone until i met them to be honest , for me i prefer the social side of things if i get on with someone im happy , coulor wise i dnt think it should ever be an issue in the first place, if this translates as im desperate or have no standards then so be it thats up to the person reading the profile to make their own judgements on "
But if you put age, race, size etc. unimportant on profile, surely you would never be off the pc cos you'd get so many messages to read?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lmao maybe for some people but with all the tsigmas attached to single guys i def dnt need to worry about lol , think if its a woman need to word it all carefuly or as you say they may get swamped with replies , but lets face it prob going to happen anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lmao maybe for some people but with all the tsigmas attached to single guys i def dnt need to worry about lol , think if its a woman need to word it all carefuly or as you say they may get swamped with replies , but lets face it prob going to happen anyway lol "
True. I state prferences on mine but still get loads of messages, many of which are from ugly guys with small dicks pmsl

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

WHY????????????????"

Because there will always be those who seem to think that 'any holes a goal' and those who are sooooo desperate to prove they can still pull, they will literally, shag anything that moves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"WHY????????????????

Because there will always be those who seem to think that 'any holes a goal' and those who are sooooo desperate to prove they can still pull, they will literally, shag anything that moves.

Moves?? Some people really are bloody fussy......

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"WHY????????????????

Because there will always be those who seem to think that 'any holes a goal' and those who are sooooo desperate to prove they can still pull, they will literally, shag anything that moves.

Moves?? Some people really are bloody fussy...... "

Sorry Notts. I forgot you like your women to lay their like a sack of spuds while you huff and puff your way to orgasm!

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WHY????????????????

Because there will always be those who seem to think that 'any holes a goal' and those who are sooooo desperate to prove they can still pull, they will literally, shag anything that moves.

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But there will always be some women who will be extremely grateful that some guys feel that way.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i doubt anyone would really meet anyone at all despite their age and looks, when i read things like that i usually take it as they are saying they don't really have a type as such and will consider anyone but if they dont like you i'm sure they would still say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its mainly men who put this on their profiles.

I as a single fem dont.

Ok so im out of the bracket of "suits all"

But then swinging isnt that kind of thing.

I prefer to meet before making my mind up, and if single fellas did the same maybe they wouldnt be so closeted or so anal retentive

as in "gotta look like jorden, gotta be slim , gotta be this and that etc,

Drives me nuts

But then im ok with what i get

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By *lgernon OP Man
over a year ago

cupar

"Its mainly men who put this on their profiles.

I as a single fem dont.

Ok so im out of the bracket of "suits all"

But then swinging isnt that kind of thing.

I prefer to meet before making my mind up, and if single fellas did the same maybe they wouldnt be so closeted or so anal retentive

as in "gotta look like jorden, gotta be slim , gotta be this and that etc,

Drives me nuts

But then im ok with what i get

I'm not really fussy about size or supermodel looks.

I have fairly wide age preferences, but also limits for the sake of convenience . Why wade through a category of people - 60+ in my case- that I'm very unlikely to be able to relate to. I do have personal subjective prefences regarding looks. I Like chiseled in guys, mousy in ladies in androgeny in both.

That isnt to say I dont find a great many other people outwith these preferences attractive....just that "age, size, looks" are certainly not a mute point for me.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

WHY????????????????

Because there will always be those who seem to think that 'any holes a goal' and those who are sooooo desperate to prove they can still pull, they will literally, shag anything that moves.

But there will always be some women who will be extremely grateful that some guys feel that way."

I know hun.

It's normally those women who are the wrong side of 50 with a husband that looks like a cross between Fred West and Herman Munster!

hahahhahahahhahahahhahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh yuck,

i actually met "fred west" ya know

prior to him bieng caught.

was at mcvities when he was "doing a job" with others.

strange and eerie and dont wanna meet his ilk here thank you,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say what I feel is true - I'm 40 and know that that I'm attracted to women that are sexy, some will be more "classically" attractive than others but I like a woman with a bit of an attitude who can flaunt it and that just makes her sexy. In that regard I usually find women who are older than me carry that off more. I also have to say that I find some younger women attractive but really at 40 am I reasonably going to find a 25 year old girl who's going to be interested in me who isn't just interested in my money (no I haven't got that much before you ask lol)? So, in my profile I honestly wrote that age isn't an issue coz it isn't. That doesn't mean I don't have standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha, I just read that back - I said 40 too many times didn't I. Maybe I'm having a crisis, it's not an issue - honest it's not! Least I didn't buy a sports car.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"oh yuck,

i actually met "fred west" ya know

prior to him bieng caught.

was at mcvities when he was "doing a job" with others.

strange and eerie and dont wanna meet his ilk here thank you, "

Actually, I thought I'd seen him once in Chameleons.

The bloke was the spitting image, only about 10st heavier.

Soon got banned from there for being a creep who smelt worse than a rotting 3 week old corpse and trundling around without his equally smelly wifey on a Saturday night trying to get in on couple on couple action.

Just thought I'd tell you all that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

age,sex,looks,race,religion,size,personality unimportant.

now THATS desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh shite !!!

no chance for me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually not just single men who put that. have messaged lots of couples who have put age/looks unimportant, and then they reply 'youre not what we're looking for'... WTF,dont put it if you dont mean it FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is no point in meeting someone if you dont fancy them.

just because you swing in our book it doesnt mean we will meet just anyone.

everyone has to be happy with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

every one has standards and there are some shallow people around who go on looks!but there are some very sexy older ladies on here so cudos for them!at the end of the day its about physical attraction and not age or looks in my oppinion!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Age-wise, for me age is nothing but a number (although some peoples may be larger than others)

Look-wise, again doesn't mean a great deal to me and I am more attracted to personality than looks...and nothing is sexier than brains, intellect and personality

I know that lot about doesn't really give much away, but it doesn't also mean that age/looks unimportant... it just means that I don't really have a type and therefore open to suggestion/corrupting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"every one has standards and there are some shallow people around who go on looks!but there are some very sexy older ladies on here so cudos for them!at the end of the day its about physical attraction and not age or looks in my oppinion!!"

i dont think that people who go on looks are shallow,it just down to personal choice.

there has to be some sort of attraction know matter what it is,its different for all people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive met a few single men who have put ' dont mail me if you are over a size 12 ' etc and then got mail from larger women telling them off for it.

How can looks not be important on a sex site? I find it an instant turn off if a guy will hump anything and i always tell them so lol. Wicked little me..

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By *ibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Cupar

I find it an instant turn off if a guy will hump anything and i always tell them so lol. Wicked little me.."

Precisely my original point. Moreover you dont know where he's been...or you can guess and it ain't good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive met a few single men who have put ' dont mail me if you are over a size 12 ' etc and then got mail from larger women telling them off for it.

How can looks not be important on a sex site? I find it an instant turn off if a guy will hump anything and i always tell them so lol. Wicked little me.."

Thats the same as women who say "dont contact me unless your cock is 10" or "black guys only". Its their preference, but I bet they dont get told off by people!

Also someone mentioned about people saying looks/age etc unimportant then get told "you're not my type" , I am with you on that one!! Why put looks etc unimportant then act like they are?! pffft !

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By *ibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Cupar

Thats the same as women who say "dont contact me unless your cock is 10" or "black guys only". Its their preference, but I bet they dont get told off by people!

I personally think everyone has tastes and preferences. Some people choose to assert them more than others. However - foregoing them entirely to get a hole to fuck does not speak well of the person. To me it says they probably are sufficiently lacking somehow to be utterly desperate. I just dont believe your average horny single guy with "looks/ age unimportant" would really not care wether he met an 80 year old Helga or 18 year old Lolita.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hit the nail on the head there methinks!

would be nice if people were totally honest with their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hit the nail on the head there methinks!

would be nice if people were totally honest with their profile. "
I don't see any point in being anything other than honest - it will come out at some point along the line if you haven't been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But surely physical attraction is judged by looks?

Do they look physically attractive or not?

If your saying your not bothered about facial attraction but are more interested in physical attraction, it still comes down to looks.

XXXX

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

As the thread states, its mostly single men that list this. I think it is not being desperate, we single men have the shortest straw when it comes to swinging parties / sites.

This is just casting the net wider and further,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So do you think people lower thier standards, just to get laid?

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By *ibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Cupar

"So do you think people lower thier standards, just to get laid?"

Ummmmmmmmmm........YES?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree ppl do lower their standards just to get laid.

when i was younger there was a saying,

"you dont look at the mantel piece when your poking the fire"

maybe this is what alot of men think

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By *resh freddieMan
over a year ago

Penistone

I think its all relative. What are your standards? Do you have an age, weight, wrinkle line you draw and people out side that you discount.

Personally I wouldn’t lower my standards but I think my standard is not a hard and fast line. If someone has a pretty face but is a little heavy then its all relative. There is a film called Shallow Hal which puts things into perspective.

What I wouldn’t do it demean my self or shag someone who I had personality issues just to get a shag. If you don’t like someone or find that you cringe a little then personally I’d rather not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is all true there has to be some connection there no point trying to have fun if u dont like the person your with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its all relative. What are your standards? Do you have an age, weight, wrinkle line you draw and people out side that you discount.

What I wouldn’t do it demean my self or shag someone who I had personality issues just to get a shag. If you don’t like someone or find that you cringe a little then personally I’d rather not.

yeah dont you hate it when they are a little heavy and have a pretty face...really fucks it up!

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

it is not uncommon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its because fat birds look healthy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from the neck up!

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"from the neck up!"

I disagree !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we big girls are health because we know how to treat ourselves well.

That means in every way and we know what we like more than most women as we strong women.

I have standards love n.s.a sex but have to connect with the guy in some way. One he has to make me feel that he is interested in more than my body two make me laugh three look different from my hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with hippies i have to connect with the guy in some way. One he has to make me feel that he is interested in more than my body two make me laugh.

men should read profiles rather than just look at the pictures. the amount of me that email me and tell me things they want to do then they see my pic and oh no ur not my type

its a case of read the profile if shes a bbw then shes not a size zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"from the neck up!

I disagree !"

I was actually extracting the michael being a big girl myself and going off the back of a post a friend made.

Oh and that is a big girl, who doesnt give two figs who likes it and who doesnt as I like me.

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"i agree with hippies i have to connect with the guy in some way. One he has to make me feel that he is interested in more than my body two make me laugh.

men should read profiles rather than just look at the pictures. the amount of me that email me and tell me things they want to do then they see my pic and oh no ur not my type

its a case of read the profile if shes a bbw then shes not a size zero "

Running off to check your profile..

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"from the neck up!

I disagree !

I was actually extracting the michael being a big girl myself and going off the back of a post a friend made.

Oh and that is a big girl, who doesnt give two figs who likes it and who doesnt as I like me.

you aint that big ...you can be cut down a peg or two ...put em up ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"from the neck up!

I disagree !

I was actually extracting the michael being a big girl myself and going off the back of a post a friend made.

Oh and that is a big girl, who doesnt give two figs who likes it and who doesnt as I like me.

you aint that big ...you can be cut down a peg or two ...put em up ....

and Im not that small either...bring it on fella.

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