FabSwingers.com forum: Coming to terms with liking men?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering how long it took some guys to accept it or come to terms with it? Did any of you guys beat yourself up feel ashamed or feel dirty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots do. You're not alone. Chin up. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots do. You're not alone. Chin up. x"

-Courtney

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I distinctly remember the moment when it fell in to place.

I was about 17. Knew I like women AND men and this didn't make much sense to me. I'd never heard the term 'bisexual' before.

Anyway. I was in WHSmiths of all places and there was a glossy interiors mag, called Wallpaper, on the rack.

On the cover was a (suitably swish) bedroom with a large bed and a (handsome) young man staring back at camera. On either side of him were (also suitably fit) a man and a woman.

I remember staring at this for what seemed like forever before thinking, "That's it. That's what describes me."

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moment.

Essentially, OP, if yr curious, I advise you to have a go ASAP - it will either confirm or deny your ideas.

Don't beat yrself up - you are whoever you are. It's all part of life's rich tapestry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the support guys. It is the 21st century it shouldn't be a massive issues but that's was to say and once you've been there there no going back.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Sheryl Crow - If It Makes You Happy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dyihQtBes1I

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

The only person holding you back is you and nobody can help you but you.

Get over your misconceptions, in this day and age bisexuality and homosexuality are widely accepted by society.

I would maybe try a bi mmf and see if you like the bi part, if you're not comfortable then you'll know and can still enjoy the f part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My bro not long came out as gay and it was really hard for him tho it is the 21st centary. As are family are irish catholic and dont here of it so thats wot made it hard for him to actually believe in his self and that its ok lol think it depends on. Your up bringing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only person holding you back is you and nobody can help you but you.

Get over your misconceptions, in this day and age bisexuality and homosexuality are widely accepted by society.

I would maybe try a bi mmf and see if you like the bi part, if you're not comfortable then you'll know and can still enjoy the f part

That bit about the bi mmf is great advice!

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I distinctly remember the moment when it fell in to place.

I was about 17. Knew I like women AND men and this didn't make much sense to me. I'd never heard the term 'bisexual' before.

Anyway. I was in WHSmiths of all places and there was a glossy interiors mag, called Wallpaper, on the rack.

On the cover was a (suitably swish) bedroom with a large bed and a (handsome) young man staring back at camera. On either side of him were (also suitably fit) a man and a woman.

I remember staring at this for what seemed like forever before thinking, "That's it. That's what describes me."

Real

moment.

Essentially, OP, if yr curious, I advise you to have a go ASAP - it will either confirm or deny your ideas.

Don't beat yrself up - you are whoever you are. It's all part of life's rich tapestry. "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just wondering how long it took some guys to accept it or come to terms with it? Did any of you guys beat yourself up feel ashamed or feel dirty. "

I was straight for many years and after an mmf sort of became bi. Confused for a short time simply because it was something I'd never done or thought of. I don't do it much anyway but when I do I really like it so to all intend and purposes I'm bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy just grab my cock and start wanking me during a 4 sum. was a bit shocked at first but it felt good. wasnt ashamed next day but was shocked at myself. But slowely ive accepted i like bi fun with other cpls and my mrs enjoys watching. I dont seek single guys but love bi cpl fun as there far fewer limitations and to be honest our swinging life is far better bi than straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really thought about it to be honest. The first time I was with a guy wasn't planned. It just kind of happened. I enjoyed it and thought "onwards and upwards".

I've never really looked back.

I agree with other posters, try a mmf and see if you like it.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never thought I'd enjoy it but it turns out I do. Made a conscious effort to try though and had a male only meet so I wasn't "distracted" by the female to give me a false impression of liking it when maybe I didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering how long it took some guys to accept it or come to terms with it? Did any of you guys beat yourself up feel ashamed or feel dirty. "

Yes, I've always been bi from hitting my teens, realised I was turned on looking at men as much as women and that carried on throughout my adult life. For many years I've struggled with my sexuality, basically I was worried how I would be perceived and hid it throughout my teens and 20's meeting men for sexual fun in secret.

I remember my first time with a man vividly, touching him and tasting him, it was something I really wanted to try but straight after the event I remember sitting on the trains platform waiting to go home and was discusted with myself, felt physically sick and ashamed!

It was only as I hit my late 20's that I started to admit to myself that it is just who I am, obviously I'd progressed from that first try and by then thoroughly enjoyed sex with men, slowly discovering my preference for being a bottom along the way.

The biggest step was admitting to my mum that I was bi, she took it in her stride and told me, you must take after me then in that area

Where I am now I feel the luckiest guy alive, I confessed my sexuality from day one with RG who again just told me it's no big deal and perhaps we can explore it as a couple. Having that security means a lot, an awful lot and has meant the fun we've had together with men has meant it has been some of the best sex we've had. She obviously discovered things that she liked along the way too like watching two men fuck and being able to share a blowjob

Anyway I'm rambling on when I should be working! In a nutshell, if you have curiosities then you should go with them, our moto is you live one life, be true to yourself and who you are and sod what other people may think. I wished I thought that trough my teens and 20's as I may have come to terms with my sexuality a long time ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering how long it took some guys to accept it or come to terms with it? Did any of you guys beat yourself up feel ashamed or feel dirty. "

I have been swinging for years now and over time, in many "moresome" sessions, men touch men etc, I enjoyed the feeling, and happily let it happen, until one day I realised, I really liked the attention and my then first wife, used to get turned on by whole thing, one thing lead to another and hey presto, I am now bisexual and love both forms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember if you like men your at least bi- curious not straight lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 3 years ago was with a male and female having fun, he touched by mistake!

Female wanted to watch him do it again, in the heat of the moment we both gave her a show, my first time and not looked back since

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By *ringiton89Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

The amount of times I've been in mmf or group situations and the guy has started sucking my cock (most of the time it's cos the woman asks him to!) is unreal. A guy doesn't do anything for me in terms of making me horny, but I don't mind a guy getting involved with me if it turns the woman on, as long as she's proper horned and works me at the same time I'm cool.

Never had any feelings in any of the mmfs to want to touch the guy sexually, so if you do mate then I'd suggest you need to try it and see.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers guys somes great support and just general comments on here. Took your advice on board and I meet up with a guy I had previously spoke to last night.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

"Cheers guys somes great support and just general comments on here. Took your advice on board and I meet up with a guy I had previously spoke to last night. "

Good luck with it hope it goes well.

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By *ikerP1000Man
over a year ago

Durham

Well said ??

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Do we all like each other?

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

I like to think we are all born bi and upbringing and enviroment helps dictate orientation xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering how long it took some guys to accept it or come to terms with it? Did any of you guys beat yourself up feel ashamed or feel dirty. "

I think its great, the more "men into men" the better, all the more ladies for me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just wondering how long it took some guys to accept it or come to terms with it? Did any of you guys beat yourself up feel ashamed or feel dirty.

I think its great, the more "men into men" the better, all the more ladies for me

Bi men also like the ladies! And often have the lady and a man together

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