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By *indandfire OP   Couple
over a year ago

ashbourne

How does everyone handle this? I often have a great laugh and a joke with couples but then after a couple of hours it feels very uncomfortable to play and it feels false. Discussing kids and families etc makes play strange whereas in a playroom in a club there is no awkwardness at all.

What do you all think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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How does everyone handle this? I often have a great laugh and a joke with couples but then after a couple of hours it feels very uncomfortable to play and it feels false. Discussing kids and families etc makes play strange whereas in a playroom in a club there is no awkwardness at all.

What do you all think?"

That's a good point.

There becomes an awkward point where you've had a good laugh, got to know each other and now for the sex.

Who is going to make the first move.

It happens nearly every time with us despite the "let's just get on with this time " agreement between us two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh!.

Two of the same thread in different places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We limit the chit chat to 40 mins-ish then I ususally say wow- am feeling horny, lets go kiss and have some fun - sometimes the jacuzzi or sauna is a good place to start - hotel /home meets seem to lack a bit of atmosphere unless we already know eachother very well. Never had any real problems getting the action started but if we did have I think I would offer a massage to help change the pace, m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

How does everyone handle this? I often have a great laugh and a joke with couples but then after a couple of hours it feels very uncomfortable to play and it feels false. Discussing kids and families etc makes play strange whereas in a playroom in a club there is no awkwardness at all.

What do you all think?"

We quickly realised that the socialising ( overdoing it ) kills the play .

So we dont do socials , of course it's good to have a bit of a chat first , but play is why we are on here .

If there's no attraction either way we happily say thanks but no thanks early on to save wasting both our time .

Works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This was one of the reasons we decided to only do club meets.

Can't imagine rocking up to someones house for a chat and a shag. Very awkward for first time meets

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

I've found that meeting in a pub for a bit of a chat and a flirt works brilliantly as a prelude to going to one or others home and having sex. Of course it does depend on chemistry and clicking with the other person/people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is one of the reasons I enjoyed dogging as a single female some years ago now. Looking back it was great because there was no expectation as such, not much small talk, no one to impress and nothing planned.

I think looking back it was this that made it work for me at that time.

However, now I do like more of a connection, although every now and then I might see someone I find attractive and in my head I am thinking, mmmm i would so do you te he. (Bit of man mentality I guess).

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By *indandfire OP   Couple
over a year ago

ashbourne

Do you find flirting actually happens? Often it is a cup of coffee and the ins and outs of family life which doesn't lead to exciting fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I flirt shit loads lol, i carnt help myself, but I do need to have got to know them before hand now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirt is my middle name!

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By *indandfire OP   Couple
over a year ago

ashbourne


"Flirt is my middle name! "

Mine too... But some people can damp it out of me. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think for some people a social aspect is part of the fun. You meet new people who become friends. Sometimes you will play with them and sometimes you don't.

We are attending our first social next week, not just to find playmates but also to meet people and get advice etc as we are new to this.

I know that my Mrs would not just jump into bed with someone without knowing them a little first and feeling comfortable with them

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