FabSwingers.com forum: Preparing to be spotted with playmate by colleagues/family friends...

By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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I will be going to a non lifestyle Festival with a playmate and I've just found out that some of my colleagues you are also family friends will be there too. As it's a fairly small festival we will definitely see each other. I'm considering being honest with them about the situation so they don't think I'm having an affair.

My partner knows I'm going with a playmate and he is completely supportive of the choices we make together and has no problem with it.

I'm just not sure what the best thing is to do as I want to enjoy the festival and not worry too much about their opinion but I wouldn't like them to think that I was being dishonest to my partner. They will see me with this playmate and probably ask me who I'm camping with excetera.

I'm not sure there is a way to deal with this situation and maybe I will just be upfront and I hope they don't judge me as far as I know they are not in the lifestyle. This will potentially out me to my profession but as they are open minded I hope that they won't feel that that is anything of anybody else's business.

If anybody has any good suggestions I'd love to hear them.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can they be your brother or sister? Or cousin or bestie etc? Or will you be intimate in public?

There are many people you could be going to the festival with on a 'platonic' basis that you don't necessarily need to divulge your full lifestyle choices ..

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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They know me well enough to know that they aren't a very close family relative, they could be a cousin or something like that.

They may see as being intimate too I'm not really sure, as we are naturally very affectionate to each other. If I said it was a cousin and they saw something that didn't support it being a family member, they may be upset that I had lied to them, still think I'm having an affair or even think there was something more untoward going on with a family member. It's a little bit of an awkward situation.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Tell them you are having an affair, they won't believe you.

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Tell them you are having an affair, they won't believe you.

That's pretty funny actually, they know how very honest I am so I do believe they wouldn't believe me but the whole situation would confuse them no end...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume they are friends with your partner too? You could ask your partner to talk about or mention it with them casually? Or on Facebook or similar? Make it clean that they know who you're going with and that it's cool.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Tell them you are having an affair, they won't believe you.

That's pretty funny actually, they know how very honest I am so I do believe they wouldn't believe me but the whole situation would confuse them no end..."

Odd how some people choose not to believe the truth.

(Cough cough) A friend used to take his friend to his local pub and tell everyone they were having and affair - worked perfectly, until another friend found out about the friend and the friendship ended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not just tell them it's a friend? Can't you control yourself and not be 'intimate' in public?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Why not just tell them it's a friend? Can't you control yourself and not be 'intimate' in public?"

Conforming to others beliefs.... interesting thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what you do for a living but I think a lot of vanilla people would have an easier time understanding an affair than swinging. Statistically speaking 60-70% of them do it at some point in their marriage anyway...

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By *parklesglitzWoman
over a year ago

Mancs

Why lie

Say he/shes a friend nothing more to explain.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Why lie

Say he/shes a friend nothing more to explain. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can your friend pull of camp very well? The go with a gay mate from work and of they see you being touchy feely at some point will not think to much of it.

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

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Thank you... Some great ideas there that I will use.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Can your friend pull of camp very well? The go with a gay mate from work and of they see you being touchy feely at some point will not think to much of it. "

He doesn't need to "pull off camp" not all gay men act that way. It's a great idea though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't put myself in that situation, go somewhere where you won't have the problem, it can't be that vital that you just have to take your playmate to that particular festival.

People will judge you regardless of what you say, opens up a whole can of worms that is so easy to not open.

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By *es-sMan
over a year ago

Rugby

Tell them not to tell hubby but this is my fuck buddy you'll find out who you can rely on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your partner to go and.enjoy it too..problem sorted. Unless.theyre unavailable and thats why youre going with somone else. Good luck..bit.of a tricky one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt feel comfortable in the situation you've described so I wouldn't go.

If you want to confess all to these people then you'll have to be prepared to be judged by them too.

Based on the conversations we have at work about lifestyle events / holidays there is no way on earth I'd be telling my colleagues, that's for sure.

I hope you find a solution that works for you. x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

People will judge whatever you do, if you tell them the truth or a lie it won't matter. It boils down to how comfortable you and your partner would be with people knowing and how much you care about what they think.

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