FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

not just single guys

Jump to newest
 

By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I know single guys always think they have it tough, and they do, but I always like to reassure them it's not a cake walk for us couples either (although everyone knows it's easy for single women )

So we have been doing a bit of browsing today, looking at pics, reading profiles, finding the hidden "code" word in their profile, writing a well crafted message, attaching face pics, Not attaching cock pics, and still we get no response. Only messaging people within 30-40 miles, similar age as us, clicking we meet they age range too, only messaging couples looking for other couples etc, but not even a no thanks.

Just putting this up so people don't think it only happens to them. (It does happen to you guys too right? It's not just us is it? ?? )

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *quirell2015Man
over a year ago

somewhere nearby

There loss I say

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And it happens to single ladies too

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"And it happens to single ladies too "

Yep

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I know op that's why I hardly email anyone on the searches, same thing just another day lol.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP has it changed your view of the site/ single guys?

I think ALL couples and women should be forced to go looking at some point. I would love to see how it changes the way they spend their time on here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always thought it must be harder for couples them for single guys. With single guys. There only has to be chemistry between 2 people , With couples it's must be a nightmare to get 4 people who want to have sex with each other

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hidden "code" word?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"And it happens to single ladies too

Yep "

Lies, it's all lies, it's easy for single women! Is us poor couples and single blokes who deserve all the pity!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it happens to everyone , it's life . When you actively want something it's harder to get .

If we put a meet up we rarely get that many responses from suitable people .

When we aren't looking to meet , everyone and his wife message us asking if we can meet now !

So it's the law according to sod ......

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to happen too all us of men .women and couples

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"And it happens to single ladies too

Yep

Lies, it's all lies, it's easy for single women! Is us poor couples and single blokes who deserve all the pity! "

I actually have had messages deleted without reply! Its hard to believe I know.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Least its not just us !

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think the OP would find it a lot easier if they were looking for single guys too....... (I know I would be very happy)

I am surprised they get little back from other couples tho....stunning profile/pics....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I know that we should all take no reply as "no thanks" as part of the etiquette of this site, but it is nevertheless reassuring that it happens to couples and women as well as single guys...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always thought it must be harder for couples them for single guys. With single guys. There only has to be chemistry between 2 people , With couples it's must be a nightmare to get 4 people who want to have sex with each other "

Depends what the couple are looking for toshn , we happily meet single guys , TVs , single girls and couples

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"OP has it changed your view of the site/ single guys?

I think ALL couples and women should be forced to go looking at some point. I would love to see how it changes the way they spend their time on here."

No, it's been this way since we started, just posting it up so people don't think it just happens to them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I spent the weekend being proactive, looking for guys I liked, as I do struggle on here, only problem I had was I fell in lust with a guy only to find he is working abroad for another 4 weeks

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And it happens to single ladies too

Yep

Lies, it's all lies, it's easy for single women! Is us poor couples and single blokes who deserve all the pity! "

I had this when I was part of a couple and still happens now

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"I know single guys always think they have it tough, and they do, but I always like to reassure them it's not a cake walk for us couples either (although everyone knows it's easy for single women )

So we have been doing a bit of browsing today, looking at pics, reading profiles, finding the hidden "code" word in their profile, writing a well crafted message, attaching face pics, Not attaching cock pics, and still we get no response. Only messaging people within 30-40 miles, similar age as us, clicking we meet they age range too, only messaging couples looking for other couples etc, but not even a no thanks.

Just putting this up so people don't think it only happens to them. (It does happen to you guys too right? It's not just us is it? ?? )"

When I get no response.... I tell myself it's because I was out of their league...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have always thought it must be harder for couples them for single guys. With single guys. There only has to be chemistry between 2 people , With couples it's must be a nightmare to get 4 people who want to have sex with each other

Depends what the couple are looking for toshn , we happily meet single guys , TVs , single girls and couples "
aww I thought yer would never bleeding ask. What time do yer want me round ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op , it takes time to meet people. It's not instashag. You need to attend a few socials and clubs. Don't expect sex , just go looking for a chat and people will verify you. You can also go in the chat rooms and get more verifications on cam... Have some patience, it takes at least 6 months for any real action...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"hidden "code" word?"

You obviously haven't been reading people's profiles! People will often put near the bottom of their profile text something along the lines of "please put XXXXXX in the title of your message so we know that you've read our profile"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Op , it takes time to meet people. It's not instashag. You need to attend a few socials and clubs. Don't expect sex , just go looking for a chat and people will verify you. You can also go in the chat rooms and get more verifications on cam... Have some patience, it takes at least 6 months for any real action... "

Thanks! I'll ask Shag how long the waiting list is for couples these days

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And it happens to single ladies too

Yep

Lies, it's all lies, it's easy for single women! Is us poor couples and single blokes who deserve all the pity! "

Us completely average women may as well be single guys. Trust me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Think the OP would find it a lot easier if they were looking for single guys too....... (I know I would be very happy)

I am surprised they get little back from other couples tho....stunning profile/pics...."

Nobby do you know any decent single blokes if we did start looking for them?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And it happens to single ladies too

Yep

Lies, it's all lies, it's easy for single women! Is us poor couples and single blokes who deserve all the pity!

Us completely average women may as well be single guys. Trust me."
if you are a single guy you are a very convincing TV

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never happened to me. I send fancy a fuck messages if I ever feel the need to message first. Works for me.

Don't always underestimate the power of being straight to the point.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And it happens to single ladies too

Yep

Lies, it's all lies, it's easy for single women! Is us poor couples and single blokes who deserve all the pity!

Us completely average women may as well be single guys. Trust me. if you are a single guy you are a very convincing TV "

I'll take that at the moment

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And it happens to single ladies too

Yep

Lies, it's all lies, it's easy for single women! Is us poor couples and single blokes who deserve all the pity!

Us completely average women may as well be single guys. Trust me. if you are a single guy you are a very convincing TV

I'll take that at the moment "
shit that makes me Bi

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never happened to me. I send fancy a fuck messages if I ever feel the need to message first. Works for me.

Don't always underestimate the power of being straight to the point. "

I bet it works for you every time

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never happened to me. I send fancy a fuck messages if I ever feel the need to message first. Works for me.

Don't always underestimate the power of being straight to the point. "

Like I said, it works if you are attractive/young/not fussy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

As a single girl the wrong side if 35, responses aren't always positive if I get one at all. And you can pretty much guarantee that if there's someone I do message and it goes well that we never seem to be free at the same time. It took me eight or nine months to manage to meet one particular guy, for example. So patience is a requirement.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was rarely successful when messaging first. A few people did say that they thought I was a fake as single bi fems never send message first.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Interesting points of view I thought everyone apart from people like me had it easy. Just goes to show, eh?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never ever had a single reply from anybody I have messages first

Not even a no thanks

That's not a complain that's just me saying not all women find it easy on here

I'm sure some have guys rushing to mail them back but I certainly don't

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was rarely successful when messaging first. A few people did say that they thought I was a fake as single bi fems never send message first. "

It had to start sometime

You might have just started a trend

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op , it takes time to meet people. It's not instashag. You need to attend a few socials and clubs. Don't expect sex , just go looking for a chat and people will verify you. You can also go in the chat rooms and get more verifications on cam... Have some patience, it takes at least 6 months for any real action...

Thanks! I'll ask Shag how long the waiting list is for couples these days "

Think shag reckons it is up to about 3 years for guys now......?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op , it takes time to meet people. It's not instashag. You need to attend a few socials and clubs. Don't expect sex , just go looking for a chat and people will verify you. You can also go in the chat rooms and get more verifications on cam... Have some patience, it takes at least 6 months for any real action...

Thanks! I'll ask Shag how long the waiting list is for couples these days

Think shag reckons it is up to about 3 years for guys now......?"
Yes as more and more men joins the years increases so yes 3 years now is average lol.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"I have never ever had a single reply from anybody I have messages first

Not even a no thanks

That's not a complain that's just me saying not all women find it easy on here

I'm sure some have guys rushing to mail them back but I certainly don't "

You weren't messaging that guy with the George Clooney profile pic who said he was rich and hung like a horse were you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

I don't think anyone has an easy time arranging meets on this site.

My FB A single bi-fem (thats everyones rarest animal, that everyone craves) has had endless problems arranging meets, morons not reading profile, just looking at pics etc.

Thats why she and I don't really expect much from here except disappointments.

Even the MEET NOW's turn out to be "im not available (substitute any excuse) at the moment" just as its about to happen!

There are so many fantasist/dreamers bottlers. OK Everyone get nervous, just prior to a meet, but just accept its a normal emotion and carry it though (i.e feel the fear and do it anyway).

But it just doesn't happen in reality.

Does anyone know if any other site is any better?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never ever had a single reply from anybody I have messages first

Not even a no thanks

That's not a complain that's just me saying not all women find it easy on here

I'm sure some have guys rushing to mail them back but I certainly don't

You weren't messaging that guy with the George Clooney profile pic who said he was rich and hung like a horse were you "

Do you think he was a fake?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been stood up before, and although I rarely send the first message these days, often I don't get a reply. I did some winking earlier today at a few guys I liked the look of.... Couple of nice responses but one guy took great offence that I had dared to wink at him and sent me a long message explaining exactly how much he could never fancy me!!!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"I know single guys always think they have it tough, and they do, but I always like to reassure them it's not a cake walk for us couples either (although everyone knows it's easy for single women )

So we have been doing a bit of browsing today, looking at pics, reading profiles, finding the hidden "code" word in their profile, writing a well crafted message, attaching face pics, Not attaching cock pics, and still we get no response. Only messaging people within 30-40 miles, similar age as us, clicking we meet they age range too, only messaging couples looking for other couples etc, but not even a no thanks.

Just putting this up so people don't think it only happens to them. (It does happen to you guys too right? It's not just us is it? ?? )"

I know what your problem is.......The female half of the couples you're messaging aren't too happy about their males drooling over your pics

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"I have never ever had a single reply from anybody I have messages first

Not even a no thanks

That's not a complain that's just me saying not all women find it easy on here

I'm sure some have guys rushing to mail them back but I certainly don't

You weren't messaging that guy with the George Clooney profile pic who said he was rich and hung like a horse were you

Do you think he was a fake? "

From what I heard he was only 9 inches so lying s out that but the rest was true

I suspect you not being a Arabian rich lawyer has counted against you

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"I know single guys always think they have it tough, and they do, but I always like to reassure them it's not a cake walk for us couples either (although everyone knows it's easy for single women )

So we have been doing a bit of browsing today, looking at pics, reading profiles, finding the hidden "code" word in their profile, writing a well crafted message, attaching face pics, Not attaching cock pics, and still we get no response. Only messaging people within 30-40 miles, similar age as us, clicking we meet they age range too, only messaging couples looking for other couples etc, but not even a no thanks.

Just putting this up so people don't think it only happens to them. (It does happen to you guys too right? It's not just us is it? ?? )

I know what your problem is.......The female half of the couples you're messaging aren't too happy about their males drooling over your pics "

Thanks

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hidden "code" word?

You obviously haven't been reading people's profiles! People will often put near the bottom of their profile text something along the lines of "please put XXXXXX in the title of your message so we know that you've read our profile""

Oh! Yeah I do read profiles. I thought there was some secret thing going on haha

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending messages on here is a bit like cold calling . It is very rare that it leads to a positive outcome in my experience.

Although I enjoy the site for a bit of mild titillation if I were going to be proactive it would be by attending socials and clubs.

However as dogging is my first love I haven't got the time to do either.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i love the fact you posted this OP..thankyou..understanding breeds better understanding..that can only be a good thing...x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"i love the fact you posted this OP..thankyou..understanding breeds better understanding..that can only be a good thing...x"

Thanks

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top