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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was speaking to a friend recently who is part of a couple and she told me that during a meet she had pre arranged non verbal signals to indicate to her partner that she was not comfortable with a situation . Never heard of this before. Is this common?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Yes or a code word

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I generally just run away if I'm not comfortable, they seem to get the hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use signals in meetings when a colleague is sharing the pitch. Better than talking over each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was speaking to a friend recently who is part of a couple and she told me that during a meet she had pre arranged non verbal signals to indicate to her partner that she was not comfortable with a situation . Never heard of this before. Is this common? "

Very common, yes.

We've never had to employ such tactics though, as we're scrupulous re: meet arranging

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

One couple we met told us what their code was, if she wasn't interested she'd ask "if he'd paid the gas bill", or the "electric bill" if she was. Kind of just slips into a conversation lol.

Have to say I know my other half well enough to know if he's interested and vice versa. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a 2 code words

1 make an excuse & leave.

2 one to invite for coffee lol.

Saves getting into an uncomfortable situation.

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

I think I've been on the receiving end of some of these verbal signals - I remember in particular being told to "Sod off"...!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I've been on the receiving end of some of these verbal signals - I remember in particular being told to "Sod off"...!"

Similar here except first word began with "f"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Was speaking to a friend recently who is part of a couple and she told me that during a meet she had pre arranged non verbal signals to indicate to her partner that she was not comfortable with a situation . Never heard of this before. Is this common? "

quite common and very sensible. We agreed after a disastrous and possibly dangerous mistake though that if either of us was uncomfortable to just say. A moments embarrassment is nothing.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Was speaking to a friend recently who is part of a couple and she told me that during a meet she had pre arranged non verbal signals to indicate to her partner that she was not comfortable with a situation . Never heard of this before. Is this common?

quite common and very sensible. We agreed after a disastrous and possibly dangerous mistake though that if either mof us was uncomfortable to just say.

A moments embarrassment is nothing.

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My code phrase is "the purple geese are flying in tonight".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine I'm going to be really paranoid if I ever meet a couple now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Was speaking to a friend recently who is part of a couple and she told me that during a meet she had pre arranged non verbal signals to indicate to her partner that she was not comfortable with a situation . Never heard of this before. Is this common?

quite common and very sensible. We agreed after a disastrous and possibly dangerous mistake though that if either mof us was uncomfortable to just say.

A moments embarrassment is nothing.

My code phrase is "the purple geese are flying in tonight". "

I know because you were shouting it a t the top of your voice when I sat next to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my ex used to have codes. He would stroke my thigh if intrested, my back if not. I'd always get them confused and would be like ....Wtf they are hot lol. Best to just pop to the bar and get them some drinks. Gives the other couple a chance to chat too.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Was speaking to a friend recently who is part of a couple and she told me that during a meet she had pre arranged non verbal signals to indicate to her partner that she was not comfortable with a situation . Never heard of this before. Is this common?

quite common and very sensible. We agreed after a disastrous and possibly dangerous mistake though that if either

mof us was uncomfortable to just say.

A moments embarrassment is nothing.

My code phrase is "the purple geese are flying in tonight".

I know because you were shouting it a t

the top of your voice when I sat next to

you "

It's a code phrase that means "grope my jeans beneath the table" however, it might have been the lady on the other side of me.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes we have agreed phrases that hint that we are not comfortable in a certain situation and that we need to leave.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Was speaking to a friend recently who is part of a couple and she told me that during a meet she had pre arranged non verbal signals to indicate to her partner that she was not comfortable with a situation . Never heard of this before. Is this common? "

We used them in the early days so as not to offend the people we were meeting, and to double-check we were both happy before one of us crossed a new line. But they are less important now as we become more experienced and frequently start with socials.

I may be ugly, but surely not too ugly to have a drink with?

(Although there was that one time.... )

Mr ddc

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