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"FB has 2 profiles - one ours, the other secret (with another woman). Is this normal? Not 2 profiles but to keep secrets in order to have double the fun? ( he thinks neither of us knows ) Thoughts?" I thought swinging was about sharing and being open and honest x | |||
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"FB has 2 profiles - one ours, the other secret (with another woman). Is this normal? Not 2 profiles but to keep secrets in order to have double the fun? ( he thinks neither of us knows ) Thoughts?" If he can get away with it , why not ? If you know and presumably so does his other fb , it's not breaking any rules is it ? | |||
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"FB has 2 profiles - one ours, the other secret (with another woman). Is this normal? Not 2 profiles but to keep secrets in order to have double the fun? ( he thinks neither of us knows ) Thoughts?" Don't think it's a question of is it normal, more like, how does it make you feel? Deceit isn't good. | |||
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"FB has 2 profiles - one ours, the other secret (with another woman). Is this normal? Not 2 profiles but to keep secrets in order to have double the fun? ( he thinks neither of us knows ) Thoughts? If he can get away with it , why not ? If you know and presumably so does his other fb , it's not breaking any rules is it ? " | |||
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" I thought swinging was about sharing and being open and honest x" | |||
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"I think you 2 females should make a profile together and get rid of the ones you have with him "probably a good idea lol | |||
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"It makes me feel crappy. Personally, i believe in honesty and it feels like cheating when its done behind your back. " I dont think it's cheating as a fuck buddie has no ties to you to be able to cheat but that's why it's even more confusing as to why you would be dishonest about who you meet I wonder if its for bareback I have seen a few say they only go bare with long term fuck buddies so maybe they keep all their partners secret and tell them all they see nobody else in order to go bare with them all Just a thought | |||
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"It makes me feel crappy. Personally, i believe in honesty and it feels like cheating when its done behind your back. I dont think it's cheating as a fuck buddie has no ties to you to be able to cheat but that's why it's even more confusing as to why you would be dishonest about who you meet I wonder if its for bareback I have seen a few say they only go bare with long term fuck buddies so maybe they keep all their partners secret and tell them all they see nobody else in order to go bare with them all Just a thought " I think the crux of it is he knows neither of us would be happy if we knew about the other as he refers to me as his gf and presumably her too! I hear what your saying about being a fuck buddy and very true. I guess because he says it's more than a fb relationship it feels like cheating. | |||
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"It makes me feel crappy. Personally, i believe in honesty and it feels like cheating when its done behind your back. I dont think it's cheating as a fuck buddie has no ties to you to be able to cheat but that's why it's even more confusing as to why you would be dishonest about who you meet I wonder if its for bareback I have seen a few say they only go bare with long term fuck buddies so maybe they keep all their partners secret and tell them all they see nobody else in order to go bare with them all Just a thought I think the crux of it is he knows neither of us would be happy if we knew about the other as he refers to me as his gf and presumably her too! I hear what your saying about being a fuck buddy and very true. I guess because he says it's more than a fb relationship it feels like cheating." He tells you more than fab so you feel more secure in the relationship. But than he shouldn't be cheating. Arrange a pretend 3sum with the girl and let's see what he says when he sees both, lol. I've done that. Guy got so embarrassed he didn't know what to say. | |||
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"It makes me feel crappy. Personally, i believe in honesty and it feels like cheating when its done behind your back. I dont think it's cheating as a fuck buddie has no ties to you to be able to cheat but that's why it's even more affordable confusing as to why you would be dishonest about who you meet I wonder if its for bareback I have seen a few say they only go bare with long term fuck buddies so maybe they keep all their partners secret and tell them all they see nobody else in order to go bare with them all Just a thought I think the crux of it is he knows neither of us would be happy if we knew about the other as he refers to me as his gf and presumably her too! I hear what your saying about being a fuck buddy and very true. I guess because he says it's more than a fb relationship it feels like cheating." I'm confused. Are you both married to other people? Do they know about you both being on here? Sorry to hear you are feeling down but oh what a tangled Web. Hopefully you will sort it out to your satisfaction. | |||
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"It makes me feel crappy. Personally, i believe in honesty and it feels like cheating when its done behind your back. I dont think it's cheating as a fuck buddie has no ties to you to be able to cheat but that's why it's even more confusing as to why you would be dishonest about who you meet I wonder if its for bareback I have seen a few say they only go bare with long term fuck buddies so maybe they keep all their partners secret and tell them all they see nobody else in order to go bare with them all Just a thought I think the crux of it is he knows neither of us would be happy if we knew about the other as he refers to me as his gf and presumably her too! I hear what your saying about being a fuck buddy and very true. I guess because he says it's more than a fb relationship it feels like cheating. He tells you more than fab so you feel more secure in the relationship. But than he shouldn't be cheating. Arrange a pretend 3sum with the girl and let's see what he says when he sees both, lol. I've done that. Guy got so embarrassed he didn't know what to say. " That would be,perfect lol, but they'd only meet as a couple as he manages all correspondence on profile! Be fun to pair up with a friend and arrange a meet just to see his face like your guy  | |||
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"Won't he now know you know anyway if he shares your couples profile and checks the last thread link?" You beat me to it! | |||
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"Won't he now know you know anyway if he shares your couples profile and checks the last thread link?" He managers his other profile and I'm in charge of this one, although i tell him about all the messages we get. He doesn't look at the forums as far as I'm aware. | |||
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"Ha ha it's your fuck buddy not your boyfriend or husband. Unless you have taken exclusive fucking vows or something. If this was a man whining everyone would tell him to get over it. Carry on fucking him or find another FB. " Looking at your profile you've been members over a year and have not met anyone anyway so what does it matter? | |||
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"Ha ha it's your fuck buddy not your boyfriend or husband. Unless you have taken exclusive fucking vows or something. If this was a man whining everyone would tell him to get over it. Carry on fucking him or find another FB. " Lol. He said we were exclusive ! We are fb and friends - not trying to whine, just asking for thoughts | |||
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"Ha ha it's your fuck buddy not your boyfriend or husband. Unless you have taken exclusive fucking vows or something. If this was a man whining everyone would tell him to get over it. Carry on fucking him or find another FB. Looking at your profile you've been members over a year and have not met anyone anyway so what does it matter? " We've met a few people at clubs, but never chosen to take or give veris. | |||
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"Ha ha it's your fuck buddy not your boyfriend or husband. Unless you have taken exclusive fucking vows or something. If this was a man whining everyone would tell him to get over it. Carry on fucking him or find another FB. Looking at your profile you've been members over a year and have not met anyone anyway so what does it matter? We've met a few people at clubs, but never chosen to take or give veris." Fair enough. I'm just saying what I think tonight. | |||
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"If you're not happy with the situation, change it. Ditch his arse, you'd get more action as a single female. "She's not single. She's a married woman upset because her equally married lover is "cheating" on her. Oh what tangled webs we weave... | |||
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"If you're not happy with the situation, change it. Ditch his arse, you'd get more action as a single female.
She's not single. She's a married woman upset because her equally married lover is "cheating" on her. Oh what tangled webs we weave..."Twisted set of morals if you ask me. | |||
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"Ha ha it's your fuck buddy not your boyfriend or husband. Unless you have taken exclusive fucking vows or something. If this was a man whining everyone would tell him to get over it. Carry on fucking him or find another FB. Looking at your profile you've been members over a year and have not met anyone anyway so what does it matter? " Says the 'expert' unverified male who's been here two weeks and is ready to leave. 
Chuck him OP. He doesn't understand that just because he's a FWB/FB he can't treat you like shit. These sort of relationships still need honesty and respect. To tell you the truth it sounds like he's a bit of a knob and you could do much better. | |||
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"Hold on, let me get this straight: you and your fuck buddy are married to other people and cheating behind your spouses backs. Yet you are hurt and surprised he's "cheating" on you with someone else?!! That you thought you were "special" and meant more?!! My sympathy lies with your respective unsuspecting spouses who are being exposed to all sorts while you two selfish people meet all and sundry. You feel crappy?!! My heart bleeds...not! " | |||
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"Hold on, let me get this straight: you and your fuck buddy are married to other people and cheating behind your spouses backs. Yet you are hurt and surprised he's "cheating" on you with someone else?!! That you thought you were "special" and meant more?!! My sympathy lies with your respective unsuspecting spouses who are being exposed to all sorts while you two selfish people meet all and sundry. You feel crappy?!! My heart bleeds...not! " fuckin right on!
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"Am I missing the point here as you are fbs its not as if in relationship so what does it matter. " If course it matters.. as you still Need trust... He may not need her to like it if he wants to have a couples profile with someone else... But be honest about it. | |||
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" I thought swinging was about sharing and being open and honest x "This | |||
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"It makes me feel crappy. Personally, i believe in honesty and it feels like cheating when its done behind your back. " there's your answer. I'm with you, , there is far too much acceptance of dishonesty these dsys in the swings scene. It wasn't like that 10+ years ago when I started. People seem to think it's ok to cheat "what she/he doesn't know won't hurt them". well you are hurt and any human being is worth more than that. Move on. find someone who has some respect for you. | |||
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"Hold on, let me get this straight: you and your fuck buddy are married to other people and cheating behind your spouses backs. Yet you are hurt and surprised he's "cheating" on you with someone else?!! That you thought you were "special" and meant more?!! My sympathy lies with your respective unsuspecting spouses who are being exposed to all sorts while you two selfish people meet all and sundry. You feel crappy?!! My heart bleeds...not! " this! Scrap the message I wrote above. Except for the honest parts m | |||
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"I would be pissed off of a fuck buddie lied to me simple because there is no reason to, they can see who they like so why lie? It just shows lack of honestly and manners " | |||
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I thought this plot sounded familiar.
Gotta love the green arrow!
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"Fb means meeting up for sex when you both need it. More than a fb means feelings are getting involved which starts getting complicated.. I'm guessing if your partner started having feelings for someone else you would be rightly pissed off. I would move on.. sounds like it's going to end up messy." I still think that fb needs to include trust. If they have a rule that they tell each other about other meets then it's broken that regardless of any other circumstances | |||
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"I would be pissed off of a fuck buddie lied to me simple because there is no reason to, they can see who they like so why lie? It just shows lack of honestly and manners " | |||
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"Ah! So the mysterious 'couple' in yesterday's 'Dodgy Behaviour' thread was..................drum roll............ Yourselves!!!
I thought this plot sounded familiar.
Gotta love the green arrow!
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"Fb means meeting up for sex when you both need it. More than a fb means feelings are getting involved which starts getting complicated.. I'm guessing if your partner started having feelings for someone else you would be rightly pissed off. I would move on.. sounds like it's going to end up messy. I still think that fb needs to include trust. If they have a rule that they tell each other about other meets then it's broken that regardless of any other circumstances " Trust goes without saying really.. I wouldn't put my cock in anyone's mouth unless i trusted them | |||
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"Fb means meeting up for sex when you both need it. More than a fb means feelings are getting involved which starts getting complicated.. I'm guessing if your partner started having feelings for someone else you would be rightly pissed off. I would move on.. sounds like it's going to end up messy." Both being married and carrying on as they are, I can't see it going any other way to be honest. | |||
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"Very strange that you are quite happy for him to keep secrets from his wife...but not from you? And you are ok with him cheating on his wife....but not on you? Not knocking you if its working, but seems like double standards! Not sure how that works! You seem like you want your cake AND eat it! " | |||
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"If you're not happy with the situation, change it. Ditch his arse, you'd get more action as a single female.
She's not single. She's a married woman upset because her equally married lover is "cheating" on her. Oh yes what tangled webs we weave..."I thought and said similar last night. OP didn't seem to want to reply to my question. | |||
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"If you're not happy with the situation, change it. Ditch his arse, you'd get more action as a single female.
She's not single. She's a married woman upset because her equally married lover is "cheating" on her. Oh what tangled webs we weave..."I am aware that she's married and a cheeky part of my statement was directed at that as well. However, cheaters are going to cheat either way and nothing we say or do is going to change that so my answer is based purely on this situation. And I mean "single" as in a female/male meeting alone. I have learned not to trust everyone when they clain it is their marital/relationship status. | |||
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"He lies to get his leg over, you lie to get your leg over, he lies to you to get his leg over..... Hey, you are both getting your leg over. The whole married thing, you will reap what you sow. Oh wait, you are and don't like it. Good luck " | |||
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"We have been chatting to a couple - the guy manages the page and he's admitted he has 2 fuck buddies but neither know about the other! He seems to find it highly amusing having 2 different women as well as a gf at home. We thought swinging was all about honesty and trust, not secretive and shady behaviour. And incidentally, he refers to both as his gf too!!! "He sounds like a right catch! | |||
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"We asked him why he had 2 and he said he was greedy! Seems a very shallow bloke and emerges he has a single man profile too! He's using them all for different reasons when he feels like it " What's the issue? | |||
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"We asked him why he had 2 and he said he was greedy! Seems a very shallow bloke and emerges he has a single man profile too! He's using them all for different reasons when he feels like it What's the issue? " See thread above re secrecy, etc. | |||
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"We asked him why he had 2 and he said he was greedy! Seems a very shallow bloke and emerges he has a single man profile too! He's using them all for different reasons when he feels like it What's the issue? See thread above re secrecy, etc. " Both men and women do it.  | |||
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"We asked him why he had 2 and he said he was greedy! Seems a very shallow bloke and emerges he has a single man profile too! He's using them all for different reasons when he feels like it What's the issue? See thread above re secrecy, etc. Both men and women do it. "We know that, just saying its not very nice for the people they are hurting. It's very selfish behaviour. | |||
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"If you're not happy with the situation, change it. Ditch his arse, you'd get more action as a single female.
She's not single. She's a married woman upset because her equally married lover is "cheating" on her. Oh what tangled webs we weave...
Twisted set of morals if you ask me. "Another reason why I wouldn't look for a relationship on Fabs! Waaaay too many complications and double standards! | |||
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