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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well this is something that has cropped up a few times.

Do men actually want to just meet to wine and dine? Or are they actually expecting sex at the end of it?

Ps before I get slated, I'm bored and a little lonely, so a no pressure social, making new friends sounds like fun, but the mention of cash I have declined.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbf I'd be more expecting sex at the end of a night out with my girlfriend (when I had one)

Than with a first date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect sex to be honest. I like meeting socially and getting to know someone new. Sex isn't the be all and end all. May be a swinging site but I like to make both sexual and social friends. Usually, it's go with the flow and whatever happens, happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been asked to meet socially with people I've been chatting to but from there pics I'm not physically attracted to them.

The mention of 'girlfriend experience' has cropped up and after googling it, it's something I think I'd enjoy, going out for dinner giving someone my full attention, attending functions but if at the end of the night I still had developed a connection I wouldn't be able to give then the attention they wanted in the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you must be on the wrong site !

Look up the definition of swinging , and tell me where the lifestyle is defined by not having sex .

Of course there will be the usual forum regulars who will say the social side is great , and it's not all about sex .

But , being honest , swinging isn't swinging without sex .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect sex to be honest. I like meeting socially and getting to know someone new. Sex isn't the be all and end all. May be a swinging site but I like to make both sexual and social friends. Usually, it's go with the flow and whatever happens, happens.

"

Sorry Popeye but to say sex isn't the be all and end all just doesn't cut it for me .

If you are looking for social friends , why look on a swinging site for them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on a few dates from fab and been wined and dined but not had sex either I'm too full or I don't fancy the guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always always have a social meet first and if the guys doesnt like it then tough! Sex on meeting should never be a given..

Also i dont think its fair the guy always pays either.. If you ask someone on a social meet etc then put your hand in your pocket atleast for a few drinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always always have a social meet first and if the guys doesnt like it then tough! Sex on meeting should never be a given..

Also i dont think its fair the guy always pays either.. If you ask someone on a social meet etc then put your hand in your pocket atleast for a few drinks "

A social meet first , indicating you are sussing out whether a second meet would be on the cards . This is very different to the op , who says a social meet is all she is looking for .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Step down of your high horse for a second....

I'm completely aware of what swinging is and I'm not as new as I may seem, I had a very successful profile before this new one.

I'm asking can someone I have been chatting to, like on a friend level, really be ok/ except dating/ companionship if meet on this site!!

For example, I've been asked to attend a award ceremony with a gentleman I've been chatting with, he says he understands I'm not physically attracted to him but would like someone on his arm when he attends the evening x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on a few dates from fab and been wined and dined but not had sex either I'm too full or I don't fancy the guys "

Perfectly acceptable , no one should have sex when their tummy is fit to burst , or if there is no attraction .

But would you still go on a date with someone from the site , knowing you weren't attracted to them before the date ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Step down of your high horse for a second....

I'm completely aware of what swinging is and I'm not as new as I may seem, I had a very successful profile before this new one.

I'm asking can someone I have been chatting to, like on a friend level, really be ok/ except dating/ companionship if meet on this site!!

For example, I've been asked to attend a award ceremony with a gentleman I've been chatting with, he says he understands I'm not physically attracted to him but would like someone on his arm when he attends the evening x"

First off , I am not on a high horse

Secondly , a free escort service isn't swinging .

But if you think it's ok , you only need to be true to yourself . It doesn't matter what I or anyone else thinks .

I am not trying to preach or criticise , and I think you know it's a bit of a conundrum . But be honest with yourself , and do what you are comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the site as you want to after all its your profile

Id go with him yea cos after all friendship is important is just as important as lovers xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Step down of your high horse for a second....

I'm completely aware of what swinging is and I'm not as new as I may seem, I had a very successful profile before this new one.

I'm asking can someone I have been chatting to, like on a friend level, really be ok/ except dating/ companionship if meet on this site!!

For example, I've been asked to attend a award ceremony with a gentleman I've been chatting with, he says he understands I'm not physically attracted to him but would like someone on his arm when he attends the evening x"

If you feel comfortable go with him at least it's a free meal and if you don't want sex that's your choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on a few dates from fab and been wined and dined but not had sex either I'm too full or I don't fancy the guys

Perfectly acceptable , no one should have sex when their tummy is fit to burst , or if there is no attraction .

But would you still go on a date with someone from the site , knowing you weren't attracted to them before the date ?"

I do it all the time people enjoy my company so what what if I get a free meal and drinks.

I've fucked loads of guys off this site and they have never bought me one drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect sex to be honest. I like meeting socially and getting to know someone new. Sex isn't the be all and end all. May be a swinging site but I like to make both sexual and social friends. Usually, it's go with the flow and whatever happens, happens.

Sorry Popeye but to say sex isn't the be all and end all just doesn't cut it for me .

If you are looking for social friends , why look on a swinging site for them ?

"

You see. The thing here is, without coming across rude. I can use the site however I want. I don't meet much off the site anyway and to a lot of people i'm not their cup of tea. However, I like making friends with those involved in the scene who share the same mentality/view point about sex as me.

In terms of sex, there's a few I meet outside of fab for that, so I don't need to be on this site looking for my next fuck.

I necessarily wouldn't agree with how you use the site. If sex is all you seek and it is the be all and end all for you - that's quite boring. For me it's about connection, getting to know someone and exploring. Hence, things like dogging, outdoor sex with strangers is not my cup of tea and I personally don't think that's what swinging is.

However, if that's what you enjoy and that's what you're here for. Then, go for it. Think the definition of swinging itself is quite broad. Yes, sex is involved but it's not like i'd be shagging everyone I speak to or meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect sex to be honest. I like meeting socially and getting to know someone new. Sex isn't the be all and end all. May be a swinging site but I like to make both sexual and social friends. Usually, it's go with the flow and whatever happens, happens.

Sorry Popeye but to say sex isn't the be all and end all just doesn't cut it for me .

If you are looking for social friends , why look on a swinging site for them ?

You see. The thing here is, without coming across rude. I can use the site however I want. I don't meet much off the site anyway and to a lot of people i'm not their cup of tea. However, I like making friends with those involved in the scene who share the same mentality/view point about sex as me.

In terms of sex, there's a few I meet outside of fab for that, so I don't need to be on this site looking for my next fuck.

I necessarily wouldn't agree with how you use the site. If sex is all you seek and it is the be all and end all for you - that's quite boring. For me it's about connection, getting to know someone and exploring. Hence, things like dogging, outdoor sex with strangers is not my cup of tea and I personally don't think that's what swinging is.

However, if that's what you enjoy and that's what you're here for. Then, go for it. Think the definition of swinging itself is quite broad. Yes, sex is involved but it's not like i'd be shagging everyone I speak to or meet.

"

Of course you can use the site as you wish to

And it makes sense to befriend those who share a similar view towards sex . I'm sorry you not everyone's cup of tea , and it's cool you get your sex elsewhere .

It doesn't bother me that you don't consider our style of swinging as swinging . That's your prerogative , and to be fair , there are plenty who agree with you . 95% of our meets are through prior arrangement on fab by the way , so we aren't doggers in the true sense of it , we can't accommodate so it makes sense for us . We also dislike the club scene where endless hours of chatting , socialising and drinking tend to get in the way of playing .

But what we do seem to agree on is that sex is involved in some way when we define swinging . And that was my point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My original question was can you really meet someone from here and them fully not expect sex.

He's seen me in clubs ( he was the friendly guy who put me at ease first time)

So he understands I play, but we have never hooked up and it's been very much friendly banter since on here and when we have bumped into each other, I just worry with being his + 1 will send him a mixed message.

Hopefully he'll read this and put my fears aside as I love the idea of making friends socially as well as some sexually x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't expect sex to be honest. I like meeting socially and getting to know someone new. Sex isn't the be all and end all. May be a swinging site but I like to make both sexual and social friends. Usually, it's go with the flow and whatever happens, happens.

Sorry Popeye but to say sex isn't the be all and end all just doesn't cut it for me .

If you are looking for social friends , why look on a swinging site for them ?

You see. The thing here is, without coming across rude. I can use the site however I want. I don't meet much off the site anyway and to a lot of people i'm not their cup of tea. However, I like making friends with those involved in the scene who share the same mentality/view point about sex as me.

In terms of sex, there's a few I meet outside of fab for that, so I don't need to be on this site looking for my next fuck.

I necessarily wouldn't agree with how you use the site. If sex is all you seek and it is the be all and end all for you - that's quite boring. For me it's about connection, getting to know someone and exploring. Hence, things like dogging, outdoor sex with strangers is not my cup of tea and I personally don't think that's what swinging is.

However, if that's what you enjoy and that's what you're here for. Then, go for it. Think the definition of swinging itself is quite broad. Yes, sex is involved but it's not like i'd be shagging everyone I speak to or meet.

Of course you can use the site as you wish to

And it makes sense to befriend those who share a similar view towards sex . I'm sorry you not everyone's cup of tea , and it's cool you get your sex elsewhere .

It doesn't bother me that you don't consider our style of swinging as swinging . That's your prerogative , and to be fair , there are plenty who agree with you . 95% of our meets are through prior arrangement on fab by the way , so we aren't doggers in the true sense of it , we can't accommodate so it makes sense for us . We also dislike the club scene where endless hours of chatting , socialising and drinking tend to get in the way of playing .

But what we do seem to agree on is that sex is involved in some way when we define swinging . And that was my point "

Definately. It won't be swinging without sex involved. Sex I think is what is mutual between each and every one of us but I think what makes someone a 'swinger' is that they are not reserved about their interests in sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you must be on the wrong site !

Look up the definition of swinging , and tell me where the lifestyle is defined by not having sex .

Of course there will be the usual forum regulars who will say the social side is great , and it's not all about sex .

But , being honest , swinging isn't swinging without sex .

"

I love you guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I don't want to have sex. That doesn't mean I'm providing a 'girlfriend experience' that just means sometimes I don't want to have sex.

And if anyone I met expected sex (meet or partner) and got funny if I decided I didn't want it, they'd be out the door pretty damn quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is to be open, if mutually sex is all that's required then so be it. Nothing wrong with a chat, getting to know each other first (be it over a coffee,a shared bottle and meal etc)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well this is something that has cropped up a few times.

Do men actually want to just meet to wine and dine? Or are they actually expecting sex at the end of it?

Ps before I get slated, I'm bored and a little lonely, so a no pressure social, making new friends sounds like fun, but the mention of cash I have declined. "

Lots of people will say that they don't expect sex at the end of a date but if they have made their contact with you via fab it will be on the minds of many of them. There are of course guys who want the girl friend experience but you open yourself up to changers in their pursuit.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"My original question was can you really meet someone from here and them fully not expect sex.

He's seen me in clubs ( he was the friendly guy who put me at ease first time)

So he understands I play, but we have never hooked up and it's been very much friendly banter since on here and when we have bumped into each other, I just worry with being his + 1 will send him a mixed message.

Hopefully he'll read this and put my fears aside as I love the idea of making friends socially as well as some sexually x"

He's the one you should be talking to here, hoping he'll read what you say is a bit of a long shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this is something that has cropped up a few times.

Do men actually want to just meet to wine and dine? Or are they actually expecting sex at the end of it?

Ps before I get slated, I'm bored and a little lonely, so a no pressure social, making new friends sounds like fun, but the mention of cash I have declined.

Lots of people will say that they don't expect sex at the end of a date but if they have made their contact with you via fab it will be on the minds of many of them. There are of course guys who want the girl friend experience but you open yourself up to changers in their pursuit."

And I'm welcome to change my mind during the course of a date. At any time anyone is welcome to say 'actually, I don't want to do that'. Even if you're at the point of having done foreplay and put a condom on, you can still say 'I don't want to do that anymore'.

Not accepting that is... well... let's not go there.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Just because you're on a swinging site doesn't mean that every question asked has to be about swinging, and you can use the site however YOU see fit.

In answer to your question, as long as both parties are aware and comfortable that it's a social relationship only, there's no problem

Hope you enjoy your evening

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Well this is something that has cropped up a few times.

Do men actually want to just meet to wine and dine? Or are they actually expecting sex at the end of it?

Ps before I get slated, I'm bored and a little lonely, so a no pressure social, making new friends sounds like fun, but the mention of cash I have declined.

Lots of people will say that they don't expect sex at the end of a date but if they have made their contact with you via fab it will be on the minds of many of them. There are of course guys who want the girl friend experience but you open yourself up to changers in their pursuit.

And I'm welcome to change my mind during the course of a date. At any time anyone is welcome to say 'actually, I don't want to do that'. Even if you're at the point of having done foreplay and put a condom on, you can still say 'I don't want to do that anymore'.

Not accepting that is... well... let's not go there."

Yes. I'm not saying that's wrong my kindle auto corrected chancers to changers. I'm just pointing out that this site being what it is, having read the expectations of many guys on here and seen the sycophantic fawning that is employed in pursuit of a meet its highly likely that a percentage of men who say they don't expect sex at the end of a date actually do......much like in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Step down of your high horse for a second....

I'm completely aware of what swinging is and I'm not as new as I may seem, I had a very successful profile before this new one.

I'm asking can someone I have been chatting to, like on a friend level, really be ok/ except dating/ companionship if meet on this site!!

For example, I've been asked to attend a award ceremony with a gentleman I've been chatting with, he says he understands I'm not physically attracted to him but would like someone on his arm when he attends the evening x"

Lol his name isnt Matt is it? About 29 from the wirral? If it is dont do it its a con!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Step down of your high horse for a second....

I'm completely aware of what swinging is and I'm not as new as I may seem, I had a very successful profile before this new one.

I'm asking can someone I have been chatting to, like on a friend level, really be ok/ except dating/ companionship if meet on this site!!

For example, I've been asked to attend a award ceremony with a gentleman I've been chatting with, he says he understands I'm not physically attracted to him but would like someone on his arm when he attends the evening x"

Why would he ask you and not one of his platonic friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Step down of your high horse for a second....

I'm completely aware of what swinging is and I'm not as new as I may seem, I had a very successful profile before this new one.

I'm asking can someone I have been chatting to, like on a friend level, really be ok/ except dating/ companionship if meet on this site!!

For example, I've been asked to attend a award ceremony with a gentleman I've been chatting with, he says he understands I'm not physically attracted to him but would like someone on his arm when he attends the evening x

Lol his name isnt Matt is it? About 29 from the wirral? If it is dont do it its a con!!! "

I'm shocked a guy on fab lying

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Step down of your high horse for a second....

I'm completely aware of what swinging is and I'm not as new as I may seem, I had a very successful profile before this new one.

I'm asking can someone I have been chatting to, like on a friend level, really be ok/ except dating/ companionship if meet on this site!!

For example, I've been asked to attend a award ceremony with a gentleman I've been chatting with, he says he understands I'm not physically attracted to him but would like someone on his arm when he attends the evening x

Lol his name isnt Matt is it? About 29 from the wirral? If it is dont do it its a con!!!

I'm shocked a guy on fab lying "

there must be some mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldnt get taken out or cooked for by a meet... I broke my own rule once and we have a couples profile... Meet for a social drink..... Yup.... Wined and dined... Nope...

Could you mmeet off here and no sex expected ... Then some would I guess.

Mr likes to take a meet out .. in that respect we are the total opposite but I'd only go out to dinner with him x

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We have friends, new and old, in our "real life" who more than satisfy our needs to socialise.

We don't kid ourselves that people with whom we chat on Fab are "friends" - the anonymity of the Internet allows these people to be, or pretend to be, whatever they want to be and so we never really know them.

So, for our "swinging life" we are simply looking for good sex with people for whom we have a physical attraction - and for this reason we almost entirely swing in clubs where we can see what we are actually getting, and also leave them behind at the end of the night without worrying about strings.

We would go to a different site if we wanted more friends. But clearly there are many on Fab who want to combine the social and the sexual. Good luck to them but let's hope they are aware of the problems with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very often meet socially prior to a meet, certainly without expecting sex at the end of it. Although once or twice it has happened. The sex that is, not the expectation!

However, the socials have all been a coffee or a drink, not a wine and dine. I tend to steer clear of profiles of ladies stating they would like to be wined and dined first. I think you know whether you will get on with someone over a drink as well as you would a meal. That's not to say I haven't taken someone out for a meal, bit usually after a few meets.

The question was about giving 'a girlfriend experience'. Without the sex. I have said before that fab is a diverse community and we are all here for our own reasons, so if the op and her friend are both aware of what they are entering into, then there is no problem with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think meeting for a social is a must we enjoy meeting new people with same interests as us dont think sex makes a great night out (can help) but its not the be all an end all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on a few dates from fab and been wined and dined but not had sex either I'm too full or I don't fancy the guys "

A few?

This sounds pretty dubious to me - as though you're using the guys to fund your social life!

Too full? - if I go for dinner with a guy from fab then I know the idea is to have amazing sex at the end of it if we get on - so I take that into account when I order my food and don't 'stuff myself'!

Secondly - if there's not enough of a connection during dinner for me to want to have sex with the guy - then I'll pay for my half of the meal - or at least offer to!

Not sure what other people think - but one of my major bug bears on fab and dating sites are 'ladies' who use guys to

Pay for everything! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on a few dates from fab and been wined and dined but not had sex either I'm too full or I don't fancy the guys

A few?

This sounds pretty dubious to me - as though you're using the guys to fund your social life!

Too full? - if I go for dinner with a guy from fab then I know the idea is to have amazing sex at the end of it if we get on - so I take that into account when I order my food and don't 'stuff myself'!

Secondly - if there's not enough of a connection during dinner for me to want to have sex with the guy - then I'll pay for my half of the meal - or at least offer to!

Not sure what other people think - but one of my major bug bears on fab and dating sites are 'ladies' who use guys to

Pay for everything! Xx"

But if the guys want to do that then up to them I guess.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Well this is something that has cropped up a few times.

Do men actually want to just meet to wine and dine? Or are they actually expecting sex at the end of it?

Ps before I get slated, I'm bored and a little lonely, so a no pressure social, making new friends sounds like fun, but the mention of cash I have declined. "

I don't *do* dates - although tbf, the last couple have ended in sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put i was offering GFE on my profile a while back, only one guy was interested i think, it's doesn't seem popular on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on a few dates from fab and been wined and dined but not had sex either I'm too full or I don't fancy the guys

A few?

This sounds pretty dubious to me - as though you're using the guys to fund your social life!

Too full? - if I go for dinner with a guy from fab then I know the idea is to have amazing sex at the end of it if we get on - so I take that into account when I order my food and don't 'stuff myself'!

Secondly - if there's not enough of a connection during dinner for me to want to have sex with the guy - then I'll pay for my half of the meal - or at least offer to!

Not sure what other people think - but one of my major bug bears on fab and dating sites are 'ladies' who use guys to

Pay for everything! Xx

But if the guys want to do that then up to them I guess. "

As long as they're not mislead in any way!

But if the excuse of 'too full' is used for not having sex at the end of a dinner - I would hope that the woman would arrange another meet (where the guy doesn't do all the paying) so they can 'get it on' then!

And a woman should always take enough money to pay her share of the bill in case the attraction isn't there on her part! That way the guy doesn't feel used and you can still be 'friends' if you see each other out and about!

Incidentally - I adore great food - but the 'getting it on' bit is definitely the best bit!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the responses to this post, I'd never wanna mislead or take advantage of anyone.

So maybe this is best left as a friendship on here and the odd occasion I bump into him in clubs.

To answer a question above why me and not a 'real world friend' I have no idea, maybe it's because im almost 15 years younger and he is hoping to get in my pants

We will never know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the responses to this post, I'd never wanna mislead or take advantage of anyone.

So maybe this is best left as a friendship on here and the odd occasion I bump into him in clubs.

To answer a question above why me and not a 'real world friend' I have no idea, maybe it's because im almost 15 years younger and he is hoping to get in my pants

We will never know x"

Hun! I have genuine friends on here with whom I socialise, have dinner etc! As long as you both know where you stand and neither of you feels used - then go for it!! I love the club and party scene - but occasionally I like dinner, the cinema, theatre etc too!!

My life isn't just about sex - even on fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this is something that has cropped up a few times.

Do men actually want to just meet to wine and dine? Or are they actually expecting sex at the end of it?

Ps before I get slated, I'm bored and a little lonely, so a no pressure social, making new friends sounds like fun, but the mention of cash I have declined. "

Me jason , would like to see the terminator film , but when I mention it to women, they say no as only interested in sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The gfe is more an escort term lol.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews


"Thanks for all the responses to this post, I'd never wanna mislead or take advantage of anyone.

So maybe this is best left as a friendship on here and the odd occasion I bump into him in clubs.

To answer a question above why me and not a 'real world friend' I have no idea, maybe it's because im almost 15 years younger and he is hoping to get in my pants

We will never know x

Hun! I have genuine friends on here with whom I socialise, have dinner etc! As long as you both know where you stand and neither of you feels used - then go for it!! I love the club and party scene - but occasionally I like dinner, the cinema, theatre etc too!!

My life isn't just about sex - even on fab! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on a few dates from fab and been wined and dined but not had sex either I'm too full or I don't fancy the guys

A few?

This sounds pretty dubious to me - as though you're using the guys to fund your social life!

Too full? - if I go for dinner with a guy from fab then I know the idea is to have amazing sex at the end of it if we get on - so I take that into account when I order my food and don't 'stuff myself'!

Secondly - if there's not enough of a connection during dinner for me to want to have sex with the guy - then I'll pay for my half of the meal - or at least offer to!

Not sure what other people think - but one of my major bug bears on fab and dating sites are 'ladies' who use guys to

Pay for everything! Xx"

I always pay for half even if I plan on having sex.

Shocking I know that people might enjoy that kind of equality!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

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Shocking I know that people might enjoy that kind of equality!"

It is that kind of thinking that has corrupted equality.

If it has been arranged beforehand that both parties pay fair enough.

But if a man invites a woman for a meal he should pay, if a woman invites a man for a meal she should pay.

If anyone invites anyone else for a meal it is up to the person giving the invitation to pay for the meal that is simple etiquette.

Anything else puts the person invited in an awkward position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Shocking I know that people might enjoy that kind of equality!

It is that kind of thinking that has corrupted equality.

If it has been arranged beforehand that both parties pay fair enough.

But if a man invites a woman for a meal he should pay, if a woman invites a man for a meal she should pay.

If anyone invites anyone else for a meal it is up to the person giving the invitation to pay for the meal that is simple etiquette.

Anything else puts the person invited in an awkward position.

"

Nah, I don't buy that.

I can't really afford to pay for a meal for two people. By that logic, I shouldn't ask any men if they'd like to grab a bite to eat?

I'd always pay half though - as is the decent thing to do.

I do so in long term partnerships too. Otherwise there is a burden of expectation on the person who hasn't paid.

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over a year ago


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And a woman should always take enough money to pay her share of the bill in case the attraction isn't there on her part! That way the guy doesn't feel used and you can still be 'friends' if you see each other out and about!

)"

Why would you only offer to pay if theres no attraction?

Am i the only person that even goes round for round taking turns to pay on 'real dates' never mind fab meets?

.... Im out to spend time with someone and get to know them , potentially more ... The exact same as the other person ... So why would i be expecting them to fund my half no matter how attractive they are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Shocking I know that people might enjoy that kind of equality!

It is that kind of thinking that has corrupted equality.

If it has been arranged beforehand that both parties pay fair enough.

But if a man invites a woman for a meal he should pay, if a woman invites a man for a meal she should pay.

If anyone invites anyone else for a meal it is up to the person giving the invitation to pay for the meal that is simple etiquette.

Anything else puts the person invited in an awkward position.

Nah, I don't buy that.

I can't really afford to pay for a meal for two people. By that logic, I shouldn't ask any men if they'd like to grab a bite to eat?

I'd always pay half though - as is the decent thing to do.

I do so in long term partnerships too. Otherwise there is a burden of expectation on the person who hasn't paid."

Yeah , this is how we see it too , halves is the best way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My original question was can you really meet someone from here and them fully not expect sex.

He's seen me in clubs ( he was the friendly guy who put me at ease first time)

So he understands I play, but we have never hooked up and it's been very much friendly banter since on here and when we have bumped into each other, I just worry with being his + 1 will send him a mixed message.

Hopefully he'll read this and put my fears aside as I love the idea of making friends socially as well as some sexually x"

If your such good friends why post a thread just talk to him yourself

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