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By *ason177 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her you are on here and enjoyed your first meet with a single girl, I'm sure that will get her interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't *make* her swing.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Well you've been here over a year, when are you going to ask her?

None of us know her like you do. None of those things you mention are necessarily indicators of anything, unless they are, which is impossible for anyone here to say.

Your girlfriend probably has a very good idea of what they mean, though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open and honest discussion is the only way forward.

Or show her how much fun your having with your single male profile

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By *oinMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"Tell her you are on here and enjoyed your first meet with a single girl, I'm sure that will get her interested "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?"

In fact why whilst fucking your girlfriend why don't you tell her your on fab as a single guy and have met a single girl then stick your fingers in her mouth, if she bites them off, that might give you some indication if she'd be interested

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

'make her' is where you will be going wrong

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By *abloversCouple
over a year ago

London


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?"

I would give it another year then ask everyone again in a forum.. or wait another 2 years to meet someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?

In fact why whilst fucking your girlfriend why don't you tell her your on fab as a single guy and have met a single girl then stick your fingers in her mouth, if she bites them off, that might give you some indication if she'd be interested "

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?"
Really op I'm

Surprised you've not made her swing yet, what with all those very clear indications she's given you

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By *atcherofmyballsMan
over a year ago

hereford

Take her down the park

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a nice tree with really strong branches. Tie some long firm rope to the thickest branch and then attach a sturdy stick or an old tyre to the other end of the rope and voila you have made your girlfriend her very own swing.

You're welcome. X

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I will give you an honest answer - talk to her, be open and honest as mentioned above. I would recommend podcasts like Life on the Swing Set, it will really help you learn about how to approach the subject. I recommend episode 200, and then any of the gangbang the Mailbag episodes where they answer questions from the listeners.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

If you don't know her well enough to be able to discuss this openly with her, you don't know her well enough to swing with her, in my opinion. Swinging without openness and total trust is a recipe for disaster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I onow where the Op is coming from !

One of my ex partners discovered the swinging lifestyle and intriduced me to it .but ive had partners that would be disgusted at the thought !

But Op u can't MAKE her !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?"

If it's the whole reason you're here why don't you make that clear in your profile? It would at least give people a clear idea of your motives.

If what you say about your girlfriend is true none of it is an indication that she would enjoy swinging but your post does say an awful lot about your attitude and level of respect towards her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aside from everyone jumping on him for being a single male who is not actually single (hardly surprising), it seems a lot of people are jumping on him for a poor choice of words. Of course he is not going to 'make her'.

OP, I would suggest you think hard about whether you ask her or not.

If you are going to approach her about it, don't approach the subject using the term 'swinging' but perhaps worded a bit better. Say you would like a third party in the bedroom. She might get turned on by it or she might freak out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't *make* her swing."

Agreed

You cant "make" her swing unless it is some kind of bullying coercive situation. And that is severely disturbing.

Talk to her about it and if that is a problem then you should consider getting out of the relationship.

If you are considering swinging with someone you cannot even have an honest discussion with then it is a pretty poor excuse for a relationship.

If you can talk and she says no then live with it because you love her anyway.

Or get out because you don't.

It is not actually that complicated.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Aside from everyone jumping on him for being a single male who is not actually single (hardly surprising), it seems a lot of people are jumping on him for a poor choice of words. Of course he is not going to 'make her'.

OP, I would suggest you think hard about whether you ask her or not.

If you are going to approach her about it, don't approach the subject using the term 'swinging' but perhaps worded a bit better. Say you would like a third party in the bedroom. She might get turned on by it or she might freak out. "

You say "of course he is not going to make her" and you are probably right but choice of words often betrays intent in my experience and I would say his intentions are not the most honourable I have come across here. Discussing her and her most private moments with strangers and asking them to infer from those moments if she is likely to agree to swing is pretty disrespectful in my opinion. I wonder how the lady in question would feel if she saw this thread.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Oh, just LOL.

I spy Op sitting in a tree

S-W-I-N-G-I-N-G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I saw the thread title I was thinking, well get a couple of chains of equal length, sling them over a branch and attach one end of each chain to one of her hands and the other end to her corresponding foot et voila, One girlfriend swing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aside from everyone jumping on him for being a single male who is not actually single (hardly surprising), it seems a lot of people are jumping on him for a poor choice of words. Of course he is not going to 'make her'.

OP, I would suggest you think hard about whether you ask her or not.

If you are going to approach her about it, don't approach the subject using the term 'swinging' but perhaps worded a bit better. Say you would like a third party in the bedroom. She might get turned on by it or she might freak out.

You say "of course he is not going to make her" and you are probably right but choice of words often betrays intent in my experience and I would say his intentions are not the most honourable I have come across here. Discussing her and her most private moments with strangers and asking them to infer from those moments if she is likely to agree to swing is pretty disrespectful in my opinion. I wonder how the lady in question would feel if she saw this thread. "

I'm sorry but I cannot agree. We cannot always be judged on how we word things, the world would be a bizarre place if we did.

I find it incredible how many people have opted to jump on his poor wording. I forgot we are all perfect

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm not sensing that the things op mentions are give-aways that she's about ready to start swinging.

I think the only thing to do is to communicate openly about your sexual desires, and see if there's overlap between you. Also, if the pic of op with a female isn't her, she might find it a little offputting - then again, if it is her, she may be even more put off.

Talk, watch porn and give her feelings of confidence that she can trust you, as she's less likely to venture into swinging with you, if she's not feeling she can trust you enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry but I cannot agree. We cannot always be judged on how we word things, the world would be a bizarre place if we did.

I find it incredible how many people have opted to jump on his poor wording. I forgot we are all perfect"

Say what you mean, mean what you say.

It's very simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't know her well enough to be able to discuss this openly with her, you don't know her well enough to swing with her, in my opinion. Swinging without openness and total trust is a recipe for disaster! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aside from everyone jumping on him for being a single male who is not actually single (hardly surprising), it seems a lot of people are jumping on him for a poor choice of words. Of course he is not going to 'make her'.

OP, I would suggest you think hard about whether you ask her or not.

If you are going to approach her about it, don't approach the subject using the term 'swinging' but perhaps worded a bit better. Say you would like a third party in the bedroom. She might get turned on by it or she might freak out.

You say "of course he is not going to make her" and you are probably right but choice of words often betrays intent in my experience and I would say his intentions are not the most honourable I have come across here. Discussing her and her most private moments with strangers and asking them to infer from those moments if she is likely to agree to swing is pretty disrespectful in my opinion. I wonder how the lady in question would feel if she saw this thread. "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


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I find it incredible how many people have opted to jump on his poor wording. I forgot we are all perfect"

I am far from perfect but in all my years in the swinging world, I certainly have met couples where one is in it because the other has 'strongly encouraged', bullied, blackmailed that they will cheat if they don't.

Not suggesting for one second this gentleman would, but 'pointing out' the use of the word may be more than just a genuine error.

good luck for whatever he/they decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will mention to your GF that you are interested in her swinging next time I see her in one of the clubs she frequents. She could teach you a thing or two once she gets going!

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By *atsnCorsetsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We LOVE posts like this. It makes adding cheats to our block list that much easier!

We NEVER play with anyone who admits to cheating or who we suspect of cheating.

You've made a decision to play away which is completely unfair on your gf. If you're showing her that little respect why would you be any different on a potential meet?

Harsh words but we do like to be brutally honest.

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By *oasted cheese sandwichMan
over a year ago

Nearby

Why don't u sit down one night with a bottle of wine, and bring it into conversation, if she doesn't freak out, u could explore a site together, just for fun , but be careful she might really like all the attention she will receive as the female in a 'new' couple .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well OP, these are indeed clear indications that she wants to swing. Your very nearly there. Just show her your profile, what could possibly go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am far from perfect but in all my years in the swinging world, I certainly have met couples where one is in it because the other has 'strongly encouraged', bullied, blackmailed that they will cheat if they don't.

Not suggesting for one second this gentleman would, but 'pointing out' the use of the word may be more than just a genuine error.

good luck for whatever he/they decide."

You're not suggesting that he would cheat, but the evidence is there. Meet verified single male profile, and now he's started a thread asking about how he might get his girlfriend into swinging.

My suggestion to the OP is 'try talking to her'. You know her far better than anyone here, though I suspect that your 'dilemma' has far more to do with you playing behind her back than it has to do with her involvement.

I also suspect that if you 'come clean' about your profile here etc, she might not be particularly impressed, to say the least.

'I've been shagging behind your back and now I want you to join in' never usually goes down well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I find it incredible how many people have opted to jump on his poor wording. I forgot we are all perfect

I am far from perfect but in all my years in the swinging world, I certainly have met couples where one is in it because the other has 'strongly encouraged', bullied, blackmailed that they will cheat if they don't.

Not suggesting for one second this gentleman would, but 'pointing out' the use of the word may be more than just a genuine error.

good luck for whatever he/they decide."

I don't disagree with you. I see too many couples where it is clear one is just attempting to please the other. Its quite sad

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Aside from everyone jumping on him for being a single male who is not actually single (hardly surprising), it seems a lot of people are jumping on him for a poor choice of words. Of course he is not going to 'make her'.

OP, I would suggest you think hard about whether you ask her or not.

If you are going to approach her about it, don't approach the subject using the term 'swinging' but perhaps worded a bit better. Say you would like a third party in the bedroom. She might get turned on by it or she might freak out.

You say "of course he is not going to make her" and you are probably right but choice of words often betrays intent in my experience and I would say his intentions are not the most honourable I have come across here. Discussing her and her most private moments with strangers and asking them to infer from those moments if she is likely to agree to swing is pretty disrespectful in my opinion. I wonder how the lady in question would feel if she saw this thread.

I'm sorry but I cannot agree. We cannot always be judged on how we word things, the world would be a bizarre place if we did.

I find it incredible how many people have opted to jump on his poor wording. I forgot we are all perfect"

No need to apologise because you don't agree with me. Since we are using words to communicate I don't understand how there is any other way we can decide on his intentions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?"

Give her a big push. Then maybe have a go on the slides

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aside from everyone jumping on him for being a single male who is not actually single (hardly surprising), it seems a lot of people are jumping on him for a poor choice of words. Of course he is not going to 'make her'.

OP, I would suggest you think hard about whether you ask her or not.

If you are going to approach her about it, don't approach the subject using the term 'swinging' but perhaps worded a bit better. Say you would like a third party in the bedroom. She might get turned on by it or she might freak out.

You say "of course he is not going to make her" and you are probably right but choice of words often betrays intent in my experience and I would say his intentions are not the most honourable I have come across here. Discussing her and her most private moments with strangers and asking them to infer from those moments if she is likely to agree to swing is pretty disrespectful in my opinion. I wonder how the lady in question would feel if she saw this thread.

I'm sorry but I cannot agree. We cannot always be judged on how we word things, the world would be a bizarre place if we did.

I find it incredible how many people have opted to jump on his poor wording. I forgot we are all perfect

No need to apologise because you don't agree with me. Since we are using words to communicate I don't understand how there is any other way we can decide on his intentions "

I get that, I would just hate to be judged so heavily on poor wording or a potential slip of the tongue. Don't get me wrong none of us know his intentions but to jump to the assumption he is going to physically force her to swing is illogical to me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Aside from everyone jumping on him for being a single male who is not actually single (hardly surprising), it seems a lot of people are jumping on him for a poor choice of words. Of course he is not going to 'make her'.

OP, I would suggest you think hard about whether you ask her or not.

If you are going to approach her about it, don't approach the subject using the term 'swinging' but perhaps worded a bit better. Say you would like a third party in the bedroom. She might get turned on by it or she might freak out.

You say "of course he is not going to make her" and you are probably right but choice of words often betrays intent in my experience and I would say his intentions are not the most honourable I have come across here. Discussing her and her most private moments with strangers and asking them to infer from those moments if she is likely to agree to swing is pretty disrespectful in my opinion. I wonder how the lady in question would feel if she saw this thread.

I'm sorry but I cannot agree. We cannot always be judged on how we word things, the world would be a bizarre place if we did.

I find it incredible how many people have opted to jump on his poor wording. I forgot we are all perfect

No need to apologise because you don't agree with me. Since we are using words to communicate I don't understand how there is any other way we can decide on his intentions

I get that, I would just hate to be judged so heavily on poor wording or a potential slip of the tongue. Don't get me wrong none of us know his intentions but to jump to the assumption he is going to physically force her to swing is illogical to me"

I'm not judging him on poor wording, I'm assessing his intent by his overall post and I'm pretty sure he isn't going to physically coerce her but emotional coercion exists as you acknowledged earlier. I could be entirely wrong in my assessment but if I saw that written about me I would be hurt, upset and terrifyingly angry. If a relationship is such that one or both partners feels it ok to discuss things like this with strangers and ask them what their partner might be feeling swinging isn't the first thing that needs discussing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope that's not her in your pic!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find a nice tree with really strong branches. Tie some long firm rope to the thickest branch and then attach a sturdy stick or an old tyre to the other end of the rope and voila you have made your girlfriend her very own swing.

You're welcome. X"

I had to come back to this.

I usually roll my eyes at this type of sarcastic response. I am just feeling mischievous today. Or maybe I've been hanging around the forums too long.

In response to the original question. Maybe mention something about it being a 3rd person instead next time she is sucking your fingers and see how she reacts.

I'm not getting into the cheating debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?

In fact why whilst fucking your girlfriend why don't you tell her your on fab as a single guy and have met a single girl then stick your fingers in her mouth, if she bites them off, that might give you some indication if she'd be interested "
classic response love it..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Open and honest discussion is the only way forward.

Or show her how much fun your having with your single male profile "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple instructions can be found in Ed Gein's manual on furniture making. I believe it follows on from "how to make a mother sofa"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know when you read a post title and think "ruh roh raggy" and you know exactly what you will find going on inside? This is that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let her come home to you hoovering and washing up; job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I solved this problem with kite string and a Running Bowline knot.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Wear a top hat and blacken your face and wear white gloves and dance about spookily and then say 'we're swingers now'

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Make!

I have met couples in the past where I sensed that the lady in question was being coerced or pressured into play.

I have refused to play on those occasions as to my mind it would be tantamount to rape.

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By *ason177 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge

Wow lot of hate going on. The verification reference is 2 years ago. The relationship only started a year ago. I only recently come back on here to hopefully ask mature experienced people a personal question about my situation. Yes I could of worded it better. I do not want to make her do anything she don't want to do.

I think I made a mistake posting this question in this forum.

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By *ason177 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Make!

I have met couples in the past where I sensed that the lady in question was being coerced or pressured into play.

I have refused to play on those occasions as to my mind it would be tantamount to rape. "
what the fuck are you on about "rape" clearly I didn't mean i wanted to make her.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Wow lot of hate going on. The verification reference is 2 years ago. The relationship only started a year ago. I only recently come back on here to hopefully ask mature experienced people a personal question about my situation. Yes I could of worded it better. I do not want to make her do anything she don't want to do.

I think I made a mistake posting this question in this forum."

I don't think you have to explain your length of time on here or the timeline of any verifications.

Many people are told to hide their profiles when they start a relationship, but we often forget that when single guys ( mostly ) mention they have a GF

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Wow lot of hate going on. The verification reference is 2 years ago. The relationship only started a year ago. I only recently come back on here to hopefully ask mature experienced people a personal question about my situation. Yes I could of worded it better. I do not want to make her do anything she don't want to do.

I think I made a mistake posting this question in this forum."

Do you feel it's mature to tell us all about your girlfriends personal intimate moments?

I'm mature and experienced and my advice would be talk to your partner, ask her what she would like, what her fantasies are and set about making both your sexual desires reality if possible. The way to do that is most definitely not to ask us to guess if she is game for it.

I hope that the outcome of all this is what's best for both of you.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"Make!

I have met couples in the past where I sensed that the lady in question was being coerced or pressured into play.

I have refused to play on those occasions as to my mind it would be tantamount to rape. what the fuck are you on about "rape" clearly I didn't mean i wanted to make her. "

'Clearly?'

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Make!

I have met couples in the past where I sensed that the lady in question was being coerced or pressured into play.

I have refused to play on those occasions as to my mind it would be tantamount to rape. what the fuck are you on about "rape" clearly I didn't mean i wanted to make her.

'Clearly?'"

that's the problem with words

you type "make" I read "make"...crazy isn't it

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Sucking fingers, asking to use a dildo, and watching porn are NOT indications that someone wants to start sharing their partner or shagging other blokes. I would reconsider your criteria for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm, you don't MAKE her do anything. Why don't you speak to her if you are both open about each other. I'm not here to judge, as to why you have a single guy profile on here when you have a girlfriend. That's your business.

Speak to her and go from there or wait for her to suggest something along those lines. Need to think about whether you want to maintain your current relationship or not.

Could be break it or make it the topic of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forum police!!!

As soon as anyone posts a question about a wife or girlfriend everyone can't wait to quickly check the profile to start throwing stones in there direction!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jason177 I wouldn't make too much of it... someone seems to ask this question every week. Us forumites can't always answer the exact same answers... it just gets tiring... so sometimes it goes well for the OP and sometimes it doesn't... largely depending on people's mood and the OP's choice of words. Try asking it better next week

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The forum police!!!

As soon as anyone posts a question about a wife or girlfriend everyone can't wait to quickly check the profile to start throwing stones in there direction! "

Everyone?!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"The forum police!!!

As soon as anyone posts a question about a wife or girlfriend everyone can't wait to quickly check the profile to start throwing stones in there direction! "

Possibly out of respect for the wife/girlfriend who has had her intimate details shared on a public forum and is unaware of the indiscretion of her partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why have you not just put the idea to her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her if she has any fantasies? if you're lucky maybe she'll bring up a threesome, if not and she asks you yours, then you can put the threesome idea to her, see if she responds well. few days later say you found a site and go from there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask her if she has any fantasies? if you're lucky maybe she'll bring up a threesome, if not and she asks you yours, then you can put the threesome idea to her, see if she responds well. few days later say you found a site and go from there x"
hopefully she won't see his profile! But great idea. Best hide the profile first though

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Simple speak to her about it , we did and look we are both here still together and happy even made our relationship better. Nothing is hidden we both login both know what is happening. If i didnt suggest and speak to her and her fantasies and mine then we wouldnt have the fun we have had. It might seem hard in your head how to say it but you'l find away. Its better her knowing and agreeing than not and finding out because it might end up the wrong way.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I had been with mr _d40 for about 4 months when he told me he used to swing in a previous relationship. I told him it was not happening for me.... 12 months later i expressed an interest & although we dont do as much as we would like too i have never looked back.

I will say that not once did my partner sign up for this site or mention it again. Our relationship is bigger than any swinging.

For the record i dont remember sucking his fingers during intercourse in the period leading up to my change of heart...his cock yes but not fingers

Mrs _d40

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op just buy a very good blindfold , ear plugs , and A pair of handcuffs.

Then invite a couple, girl , guy over. She will love it.....

Before you crucifie me... It's a joke , and someone did ask me to meet them only if I came into their flat with a blindfold and handcuffs on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the basis you are 'trying to make your girlfriend swing', then your girlfriend should find herself a new boyfriend who respects her mate

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"The forum police!!!

As soon as anyone posts a question about a wife or girlfriend everyone can't wait to quickly check the profile to start throwing stones in there direction! "

Usually they do a google image search too...often with interesting results!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"The forum police!!!

As soon as anyone posts a question about a wife or girlfriend everyone can't wait to quickly check the profile to start throwing stones in there direction!

Usually they do a google image search too...often with interesting results!"

Busted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't *make* her swing."

my reaction before i even read the post

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The forum police!!!

As soon as anyone posts a question about a wife or girlfriend everyone can't wait to quickly check the profile to start throwing stones in there direction!

Usually they do a google image search too...often with interesting results!

Busted!"

He's a member of Busted? Blimey you get all sorts on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sucking fingers, asking to use a dildo, and watching porn are NOT indications that someone wants to start sharing their partner or shagging other blokes. I would reconsider your criteria for that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be open and honest and suggest it ....obviously don't say let's jump right in with a meet...maybe start with voyeurism at clubs ...step by step..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our opinion a good healthy swinging relationship as a couple is built on communication, trust, honesty and being comfortable and open with each to discuss likes/dislikes, fantasies etc etc, without judging and being accepting of each other's limits.

From what you have written OP - none of the above applies to your relationship, and by your actions have blown some of them completely out of the water! Maybe when you have achieved that level of openness and honesty in your relationship, then you can have that discussion....

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By *AJANCouple
over a year ago

Lisbon

Do like Mr C did to me, first started throwing random questions like if I would be for mmf (always mmf never mff, her okeasure first)?

How open mind I was? Let's watch porn together. Maybe whiling watching and drinking suggest you like what they doing. Throw the hint " I would love to see you with another man". Many ways. But than again you know her best so therefore go for it. Stop cheating and maybe help her see the swinging world is more together than by yourself.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?"

Talk to her.

The more you do the more you will understand what she wants and the more she will understand what you want.

If you don't understand what she means by her different gestures you will never make her happy and risk losing her.

Communication is all.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

You cannot make her swing.

Communicate. Talk with each other about what you both want. Bring up the subject of a threesome, swap or club and see what she says. Encourage her to open up to you and likewise be open with her.

but if she is not up for it....you cannot make her swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst she's bent over in doggy tell hey your fantasy is to see her sucking cock/pussy from this angle... if she soaks your cock n cums instantly your in. If outraged it was just filth talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quality thread, some people just don't get the concept of open relationships.

Start cheating as the op has then decide after a couple of years, maybe I could 'make' my gf fuck around to cancel my guilt for being a lying cheating tw@t. Seriously, have a word with yourself and for the sake of your poor gf, let her find someone who is honest with her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she agrees to join fab with you, go about it gently...

When I joined fab as a couple we lasted a month before I finished with him...

He was beside himself to get with other women, I ended up feeling insecure about myself and finished things as he was trying to push me into things I wasnt ready for....

You need to make her feel every bit as wanted as much as you want the other women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all. I'm trying to get my gf to swing (the whole reason I'm on here.) I haven't asked her yet but have dropped subtle hints. I think she'd be into it. Often while we are fucking she'll grab my hand and start sucking my fingers. She's also commented saying she'd like me to fuck her while her dildo is in her ass. Also once I had found a link open on her laptop of a porno of a couple fucking with a stranger.

What should I make of all this? Should I suggest inviting another person in to the bedroom?"

Tell her you've been cheating for 2 years.

Should probably get her in bed with a different man quite quickly.

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