FabSwingers.com forum: Women sub any want to be owned?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi I was wondering if any women were into being owned? It's a real turn on I think and would love to give it a go x

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

There is nothing I can positively add to this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this works I will be amazed

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Was going too but.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what does being 'owned' actually mean

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Luke, call yourself "51 shades" then you can tell people your one better.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Bless.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hi I was wondering if any women were into being owned? It's a real turn on I think and would love to give it a go x"

Those who are owned might not be allowed to tell you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Luke, call yourself "51 shades" then you can tell people your one better. "

What if someone comes out with 52

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would being owned by you mean for the sub?

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple
over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

What does being "owned" actually mean?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"What does being "owned" actually mean? "

We own a dog.

It means we're at her beck and call whenever she wants food, fuss, a walk on the beach, her shit picking up or when we have to wedge into a corner of the sofa so she can stretch out.

That's probably the kind of thing it means, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what does being 'owned' actually mean "

Owned: a phrase often used in online gaming.

*I owned him with a headshot with a Barrett .50 cal*

Typically followed up with * I shagged your mum*

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple
over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

"What does being "owned" actually mean?

We own a dog.

It means we're at her beck and call whenever she wants food, fuss, a walk on the beach, her shit picking up or when we have to wedge into a corner of the sofa so she can stretch out.

That's probably the kind of thing it means, surely?

Ah, so a bit like our cats then, we are their owners but they have us wrapped round their little paws

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hahaha and there it is again the infamous and discerning "any"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think?? If you have to ask, you've no idea what being owned really means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does being "owned" actually mean?

We own a dog.

It means we're at her beck and call whenever she wants food, fuss, a walk on the beach, her shit picking up or when we have to wedge into a corner of the sofa so she can stretch out.

That's probably the kind of thing it means, surely?

That sound kind of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I was wondering if any women were into being owned? It's a real turn on I think and would love to give it a go x"

Yeah but... it's not really something that you just give a go.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"What does being "owned" actually mean?

We own a dog.

It means we're at her beck and call whenever she wants food, fuss, a walk on the beach, her shit picking up or when we have to wedge into a corner of the sofa so she can stretch out.

That's probably the kind of thing it means, surely?

That sound kind of fun

I'm our bitch's bitch it seems!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I was wondering if any women were into being owned? It's a real turn on I think and would love to give it a go x"

Speak to someone directly. Figure it out together.

People always take the piss out of posts like this on here. Don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*Barks* come own me *pants*

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

http://www.lowbird.com/all/view/2010/05/bdsm

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By *anDare70Man
over a year ago

kirkby

Ok. Maybe too serious of me but I always thought the "ownership" was a working product of the BDSM scene. Ownership meant responsibility as well as control. The Dom/ Domme would filter and protect the sub in a club or in extreme give her/her to others to play if safe, sane and consensual.

On fab it seems to mean newly dating and either monogamous or couples only play.

A lot of women seem to use it as the new "going steady".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is nothing I can positively add to this"

You just did x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Appealing to be thought of as a guinea pig for someone "giving it a go"

I am submissive away from fab - my submission already gifted to someone. He is mine, and I am his, but we are both open to see others (but not in the DS sense) but I am not owned. I'm way to bratty to cope with that!

I'd suggest you find someone who is willing to explore the scene with you together, and work it out from there.

I've had 3 male dominants, and each relationship has been very different - because they were very different, and I was at different stages of my life too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does being "owned" actually mean?

We own a dog.

It means we're at her beck and call whenever she wants food, fuss, a walk on the beach, her shit picking up or when we have to wedge into a corner of the sofa so she can stretch out.

That's probably the kind of thing it means, surely?

Good to hear you are a shit picker, some lazy bastards don't!!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"There is nothing I can positively add to this

You just did x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a hat you can wear for a couple of hours, make sure it's what you want, do you want a slave or a sub, total power exchange (TPE) or just a bit of light bondage, ask people who are active in the community questions, read and digest factual books on bdsm, not cheap literature, would Mr grey have been as intresting if he was an order picker in a supermarket?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound's intriguing to me..............

..........dya think she wouldn't mind wearing wellies & banging in a few fence posts?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!

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By *isdirtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!"

Probably because it is a rather cheesy name that makes you sound inexperienced. Some people may get the impression that you have seen the movie / read the book and now think you know everything about DS relationships. I'm not having a go Luke just pointing out why people may have hijacked your posting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!"

Do you understand that most people see 50 shades as a bit lame?

And I'm talking normal people. On a sex site even more people see 50 shades as a bit lame.

Now you post a thread about owning someone. For those who live that lifestyle, I'm guessing here, but they'll see 50 shades as a bit of an embarrassment which misrepresented their lifestyle and created thousands of misinformed Mr Grey wannabees.

So, can you see why people may find it easy, or feel the need to take the piss instead of giving you genuine advice and answers?

Advice: read some proper books on thr subject.

Change your name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does being "owned" actually mean?

We own a dog.

It means we're at her beck and call whenever she wants food, fuss, a walk on the beach, her shit picking up or when we have to wedge into a corner of the sofa so she can stretch out.

That's probably the kind of thing it means, surely?

Ah, so a bit like our cats then, we are their owners but they have us wrapped round their little paws

Dogs have owners.

Cats have servants!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!"

See here's the thing to me a dom who gets flustered is a right turn off.

Calm, collected and always in control is definitely the way to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!

See here's the thing to me a dom who gets flustered is a right turn off.

Calm, collected and always in control is definitely the way to be."

Noone wants a Dom that can't control their temper, that's just dangerous.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!"

If you own someone, you might be telling them to change their fab name. I was giving you a chance to feel what it's like. Not too good?

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!

See here's the thing to me a dom who gets flustered is a right turn off.

Calm, collected and always in control is definitely the way to be."

I class myself as owned. Owned/collared is a commitment. It has different levels and collaring is serious shit in the BDSM thing.

I'm in a committed relationship vanilla and D/s wise and as we are still learning about each other, developing our fetishes with each other and in a training process, we class it as owned and collared to that level. Training.

Our relationship is total power exchange that has been agreed.

There is a swinging term of owned. My dom is a bull. He classes a regular cuckold couple he is keeping as owning them. And I agree with a post above that many use it instead of 'going steady' or having a regular.

I guess as always, it's down to individuals. If you type 'owned BDSM' you'll find some good blogs about it.

If the 50 Shades thing is your thing, then you will find some women on here that that will suit as it's their thing too. But you are using a quite strong word from BDSM with masses of commitment and responsibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently read a book that inspired me and changed how I see things, it made me realise there were other ways to achieve my goal, and get things done.

From this new understanding comes my new name.

I am now "Haynesmaintenancemanual1967fordcortina"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!

See here's the thing to me a dom who gets flustered is a right turn off.

Calm, collected and always in control is definitely the way to be."

This....

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Hi I was wondering if any women were into being owned? It's a real turn on I think and would love to give it a go x"

Owned???

Ah, I get it; you are one of 'em 50 shades of Masta' types; the dominant 'alpha' male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recently read a book that inspired me and changed how I see things, it made me realise there were other ways to achieve my goal, and get things done.

From this new understanding comes my new name.

I am now "Haynesmaintenancemanual1967fordcortina""

Should you not have picked up a manual for an old Alpha?

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By *isdirtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recently read a book that inspired me and changed how I see things, it made me realise there were other ways to achieve my goal, and get things done.

From this new understanding comes my new name.

I am now "Haynesmaintenancemanual1967fordcortina"

Should you not have picked up a manual for an old Alpha?

Ohhhhhhhh that's good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Calm, collected and always in control is definitely the way to be."

There is a certain hotness about unpredictable dominants who will fly off the handle and thrash you to within an inch of what you can handle though.

No?

Just me then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I was wondering if any women were into being owned? It's a real turn on I think and would love to give it a go x"

There will be some. However no one is going to give themselves to someone without knowing they have experience and its not really something you can just give a go...

What do you think it means...? What would you want...As you need some idea.. why do you want to give it a go?

Being owned will Mean something different to everyone , so you need to know what your looking for. It however is a big commitment or should be... ( have seen the Velcro owned etc in the past) it is a big investment of time.

Think of it a little like when your looking for a pet... Do you really have time to train and give them all the attention they would need.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

"Calm, collected and always in control is definitely the way to be.

There is a certain hotness about unpredictable dominants who will fly off the handle and thrash you to within an inch of what you can handle though.

No?

Just me then."

There a bit of a difference between that and someone with a daft name, cock shot avatar, out of their depth in the shallow end and having a minor hissy fit when things aren't going their way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!"

Because many in the bdsm world see any link to that God awful book as a sign that someone hasn't got a clue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone wants to 'own' my rent bill and my monthly credit card bill - I'm up for that??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recently read a book that inspired me and changed how I see things, it made me realise there were other ways to achieve my goal, and get things done.

From this new understanding comes my new name.

I am now "Haynesmaintenancemanual1967fordcortina"

Should you not have picked up a manual for an old Alpha?

Pretty sure the manual for an alpha just says "so once you have loaded it on to the barge you will need to find an archer to launch the fire arrow"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Calm, collected and always in control is definitely the way to be.

There is a certain hotness about unpredictable dominants who will fly off the handle and thrash you to within an inch of what you can handle though.

No?

Just me then."

So still in control then and within you limits.

If they're flying of the handle you won't be stopping an inch before you limits you'll be going well beyond them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what does being 'owned' actually mean

Owned: a phrase often used in online gaming.

*I owned him with a headshot with a Barrett .50 cal*

Typically followed up with * I shagged

your mum*

Don't know about your mum but can I your miss???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Calm, collected and always in control is definitely the way to be.

There is a certain hotness about unpredictable dominants who will fly off the handle and thrash you to within an inch of what you can handle though.

No?

Just me then.

So still in control then and within you limits.

If they're flying of the handle you won't be stopping an inch before you limits you'll be going well beyond them."

Also hot. With the right person.

(But then I'm into consensual non-consent).

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Just checking if there is interest

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

I couldn't cope owning someone. What if I went on holiday? It's hard enough finding someone to look after my dog..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I recently read a book that inspired me and changed how I see things, it made me realise there were other ways to achieve my goal, and get things done.

From this new understanding comes my new name.

I am now "Haynesmaintenancemanual1967fordcortina"

Should you not have picked up a manual for an old Alpha?

Pretty sure the manual for an alpha just says "so once you have loaded it on to the barge you will need to find an archer to launch the fire arrow""

Don't alphas just get recovered by the AA?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's going well then

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

I dare you to wear a 50 shades t-shirt to a munch!

I DOUBLE DOG DARE YOU.

Ps. Check out proper bdsm sites. The kink on offer here is very meh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh howay.

Get a grip.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I see this is going well...

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By *hiterabbit69Man
over a year ago

Romford

Lol the old "social experiment" excuse.

Thought you were a bit clueless, in a naive innocent sort of way- but you've shown you're a twat!

Well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol the old "social experiment" excuse.

Thought you were a bit clueless, in a naive innocent sort of way- but you've shown you're a twat!

Well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us have given you proper advice but this little outburst shows you in a bad way.

I would have given the same advice to anyone posting the same question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know you could get 50 shades of red mist!

*sits back with tea & bickies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no sorry why does it end up being my name that's been discussed ffs keep to the script!!!!

Do you understand that most people see 50 shades as a bit lame?

And I'm talking normal people. On a sex site even more people see 50 shades as a bit lame.

So, can you see why people may find it easy, or feel the need to take the piss instead of giving you genuine advice and answers?

Advice: read some proper books on thr subject.

Change your name. "

Cant give enough thumbs up for this comment ...!!!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Lol the old "social experiment" excuse."

Yeah haven't heard that one since Livejournal went down the pan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair to the OP, I thought his original question was valid. But you've got to love Fab right? (haven't you? maybe?) as usual 95% of the original responses were all about ripping the piss rather than answering what was, on the face of it, a reasonable question (albeit it could have been worded a little better) for a Swinging / sex site forum ...

The rest is inevitable ... behaviour breeds behaviour ...

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Lol the old "social experiment" excuse.

Yeah haven't heard that one since Livejournal went down the pan."

Ive removed posts and closing this now sorry

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