FabSwingers.com forum: Bi girl seeking similar

By *andk OP Couple
over a year ago

Wisbech

I am really struggling to meet a bi girl for one on one girl fun. My be is happy for me to play alone with girls but no one seems to bite. What I am I doing wrong? I've never had this problem on other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You live in the wrong place. We are all up North lol.

Seriously there are loads of us up here. We have just had a bi fem social in Manc. We will be having another in Sept but will have to restrict the numbers.

If you are serious about meeting bi fem ladies pm me and I will talk you through arranging something in your area. It doesn't happen overnight but put a bit of work in and it will all come toether.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are hardly any single bi fems in my area so I've had to travel to meet people I'm interested in. Not sure if travelling is an option for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am really struggling to meet a bi girl for one on one girl fun. My be is happy for me to play alone with girls but no one seems to bite. What I am I doing wrong? I've never had this problem on other sites"

If you're looking from a couples profile they may be suspicious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to only talk to women that have their own profile - I don't personally want their partner reading our conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to only talk to women that have their own profile - I don't personally want their partner reading our conversation."

Really pathetic attitude to have.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

After reading many threads on the same subject it seems some single bi females get put off when the fem of a couple says they are looking for 121 because it often ends in the fem saying... 'But my hubby will be there to watch'.

Im not in any way saying you are going to say this, but it is a regular occurance.

I hope you do find what your seeking tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to only talk to women that have their own profile - I don't personally want their partner reading our conversation.

Really pathetic attitude to have."

Why? Because I don't want a third party reading my potentially intimate conversation with someone I'm interested in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to only talk to women that have their own profile - I don't personally want their partner reading our conversation.

Really pathetic attitude to have.

Why? Because I don't want a third party reading my potentially intimate conversation with someone I'm interested in?"

That you covet your own pleasure so much you dislike the very idea of a womans partner being titillated by the exchange. Literally everything wrong with the bi women on fab in one forum post.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Thats got to be a record here.

Dissing a replier in 5 layers thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here bi fem??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to only talk to women that have their own profile - I don't personally want their partner reading our conversation.

Really pathetic attitude to have."

Why is someone running THEIR profile how best suits them having a 'pathetic attitude'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That you covet your own pleasure so much you dislike the very idea of a womans partner being titillated by the exchange. Literally everything wrong with the bi women on fab in one forum post."

That's a very strong accusation, to say that I'm everything wrong with bi women on fab.

I'm just not ok with a man using my sexuality as a wank-aid for himself. I'm very sensitive about my sexuality and won't play with other women while men watch because I'm very aware of the cultural context of the way many men view girl on girl sex.

I'm just not comfortable with that.

It's utter couple privilege to insist that your partner gets off on messages between you and another women. Some women are ok with that, I am not. It's ok, it just means that we are fundamentally incompatible because we have clearly very different views about sex. You don't have to be compatible with every woman on fab. That doesn't make them 'everything wrong with fab', it just means that they have a different outlook and perspective to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are into this for fun. Not politics. Each to their own though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's right as one said, all the horney girls live in north England, nothing is down south London, good luck.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I tend to only talk to women that have their own profile - I don't personally want their partner reading our conversation.

Really pathetic attitude to have."

How is it pathetic? If you're interested in a one on one meet with a woman why should you want to share that with a guy you have no interest in meeting or conversing with? Choosing not to chat to a couple when you are only interested in one party isn't pathetic in the slightest, it shows respect for their preferences whilst not compromising your own. I have no issue with chatting to couples where one or both meet individually at times but that is my choice. Chatting to a single woman who then turns out to be a couple was one of the major bugbears I had when joining this site. As is chatting to a couple where it turns out to be a single guy with an occasional fuck buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are into this for fun. Not politics. Each to their own though. "

I wonder if you would have felt the same if I was a gay woman that replied? Would you have more sympathy for a gay woman not wanting a man to read her sexual conversation with a woman she was looking to have sex with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to only talk to women that have their own profile - I don't personally want their partner reading our conversation.

Really pathetic attitude to have.

Why? Because I don't want a third party reading my potentially intimate conversation with someone I'm interested in?

That you covet your own pleasure so much you dislike the very idea of a womans partner being titillated by the exchange. Literally everything wrong with the bi women on fab in one forum post."

And literally everything wrong with couples on fab who have a sense of entitlement in one forum reply.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I meet other single bi females alone.

I do not meet half of a couple alone - I've found all too often a single female from a couple meeting alone suddenly gets nervous and her other half HAS to be there, or that its more hassle than it is worth.

If I want to meet couples (which I do) I like to get to know them both before a meet.

I would not chat to half of a couple with a mind to meeting one of them, thinking the other was getting off on our messages. I'm not here as a performing seal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to only talk to women that have their own profile - I don't personally want their partner reading our conversation.

Really pathetic attitude to have.

Why? Because I don't want a third party reading my potentially intimate conversation with someone I'm interested in?

That you covet your own pleasure so much you dislike the very idea of a womans partner being titillated by the exchange. Literally everything wrong with the bi women on fab in one forum post."

Bi women are not here to 'service' the needs of couples. We are here for our own fun. Those couples that understand that are successful. Those that don't come on the forum and complain about bi woman's attitudes.

Just like the single men you wouldn't touch with a barge pole the forum is a wonderful place to out the couples with the 'they are here as our toy" attitude.

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By *andk OP Couple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Blimey that's opened a can of worms, personally the minute I chat to a bi girl I switch to whatsapp or email but obviously I tell my partner where iam going and what's happened because he's my partner. Friend and lover. It's interesting to get others take on things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blimey that's opened a can of worms, personally the minute I chat to a bi girl I switch to whatsapp or email but obviously I tell my partner where iam going and what's happened because he's my partner. Friend and lover. It's interesting to get others take on things"

Yes exactly, I tell my partner I'm going out on a date or whatever. But if he asked to see my messages with a woman for titilation he'd be out of my life extremely quickly. I don't need men in my life who fetishise two women having a sexual relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats got to be a record here.

Dissing a replier in 5 layers thread."

And then going UNLOS lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I don't see sharing as making it about a fetish.. I would only play with a woman with my partner there because otherwise I'd get nothing out of it. Too be honest I would even go as far as to say I'd only play as a pair.

I'd also be pretty miffed if I was excluded from seeing conversations between sexual partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also be pretty miffed if I was excluded from seeing conversations between sexual partners. "

I completely respect your position there. However you didn't also suggest that anyone doing things differently to you are what's wrong with bi women on this site...

Everyone is entitled to feel differently.

If I am playing with a woman *and her partner is not going to be present* then I simply don't want her partner (male or female) reading my communication with her. That's private, between me and her. Just like our encounter.

If I was playing with a couple, such as you and your partner, then of course I'd want you to both be involved in the conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also be pretty miffed if I was excluded from seeing conversations between sexual partners.

I completely respect your position there. However you didn't also suggest that anyone doing things differently to you are what's wrong with bi women on this site...

Everyone is entitled to feel differently.

If I was playing with a couple, such as you and your partner, then of course I'd want you to both be involved in the conversation."

See I wouldn't meet a woman alone.. but if I was my partner would be 100% involved in seeing all that was discussed and same If he was meeting someone totally seperate from me.. I'd want to see it all too. As its part of the build up.

And no I wouldn't disrespect someone by saying how they do it is wrong as we all do things our own way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I wouldn't meet a woman alone.. but if I was my partner would be 100% involved in seeing all that was discussed and same If he was meeting someone totally seperate from me.. I'd want to see it all too. As its part of the build up."

I think that might be the difference - the perception of 'build up'. When I'm going to see one of my other partners it goes something along the lines of 'I'm seeing S on Sunday' and my housemate/partner goes 'ok, will you be back home?' and that's the extent of it. The sexual build up is between me and S, not me and the partner I live with. He doesn't get off from me seeing other people, and I don't get off from him seeing others. They're just our other partners, no different from seeing any other friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bi women are not here to 'service' the needs of couples. We are here for our own fun. Those couples that understand that are successful. Those that don't come on the forum and complain about bi woman's attitudes.

Just like the single men you wouldn't touch with a barge pole the forum is a wonderful place to out the couples with the 'they are here as our toy" attitude."

This is exactly what I needed to hear, had some couple messaging me basically implying I was here for them and it made me feel terrible! Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ladies we have met have been met so we could satisfy mutual urges and needs... One lady wanted to meet a couple and see how it felt to have two people lavish her with attention. We were happy to please.

As for meeting single women alone... We often get messages where that is actually what is wanted but it's not my thing as Iam here for sexual satisfaction... And everyone I think is here for their own gratification first.. that's why you find people looking for the same things..

We are both givers... So we tend to give more than we take x and ultimately love to share

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Surely, if you are only seeking girl/girl fun, you'd be better looking for gay ladies?

Cal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely, if you are only seeking girl/girl fun, you'd be better looking for gay ladies?

Cal."

Why?

Do you think that us bisexual women don't like having sex with women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ladies we have met have been met so we could satisfy mutual urges and needs... One lady wanted to meet a couple and see how it felt to have two people lavish her with attention. We were happy to please.

We are both givers... So we tend to give more than we take x and ultimately love to share "

We are the same , both very much more enjoying the giving rather than receiving .

No one we meet is meeting us to purely be our toy . It would be a very short lived meet if they were !

We don't see single bi women as any more or less than a single guy or a couple . Infact we turn down way more meets with couples and single females than we accept .

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Surely, if you are only seeking girl/girl fun, you'd be better looking for gay ladies?

Cal.

Why?

Do you think that us bisexual women don't like having sex with women?"

Sorry, I obviously didn't make my point well.. What I meant was: If a lady is looking for fun just with a lady, without the risk of said lady turning up with hubby in tow(as appears to be an issue) or the risk of being used as tittillation for some absent bloke, then wouldn't you improve the odds by taking the blokes out of the equation completely.

Bare in mind I am a bloke and mean no offence.

Cal

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I would only meet single fems alone and as soon as there is mention of a partner, I assume he will turn up at some point. that is what have my single profile for. Mr does not need to know any of the details or the conversations and he is okay with that, just as well, as that is the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely, if you are only seeking girl/girl fun, you'd be better looking for gay ladies?

Cal.

Why?

Do you think that us bisexual women don't like having sex with women?

Bare in mind I am a bloke and mean no offence.

Cal"

There are very few gay women looking for casual sex. Especially on sites like this.

(Speaking myself as a woman who is about 95% into women and about 5% into men.)

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"There are very few gay women looking for casual sex. Especially on sites like this.

(Speaking myself as a woman who is about 95% into women and about 5% into men.)"

Fair enough then, maybe that explains it.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'd be perfectly fine if Anita wanted to meet with ladies on her own... although I do much prefer to share

Cal

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Mostly gay, technically bi woman here.

Trying to find single bi or gay women for casual fun is like finding an earing in landfill. Hence why I've gone back to cock for a bit

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Mostly gay, technically bi woman here.

Trying to find single bi or gay women for casual fun is like finding an earing in landfill. Hence why I've gone back to cock for a bit "

And still almost every new swinging couple I've met, are first looking for "fem fun"... just with the hubby watching.

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