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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are new, and worry about first time awkwardness, how did you manage this, for instance when dogging if someone approaches who you dont want to play with how do you say no, without offence or conflict?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's your fun , and it won't be if you find it hard to say no . So just do it , and stick to your guns .

Offence may be taken , but so what , it's just like a club or a party - you don't have to do anything you don't want to do .

We have been dogging on and off for 4 years and never had any really bad moments when we have said no .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats helpful thanks would you let people know youre new from the start? How did you guys approach it first time? X

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We started our swinging in clubs, and now only swing in clubs. We have never had a problem saying no and no one has ever taken offence. Clubs offer a safe and supportive environment - certainly compared with dogging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are new, and worry about first time awkwardness, how did you manage this, for instance when dogging if someone approaches who you dont want to play with how do you say no, without offence or conflict?"

Just tell them plain & simple "sorry your not what we are looking for"..,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started our swinging in clubs, and now only swing in clubs. We have never had a problem saying no and no one has ever taken offence. Clubs offer a safe and supportive environment - certainly compared with dogging."

Sorry , but we beg to differ ...

Having spent 3 years using clubs too we find the safety the same . Especially if you use open / orgy rooms in clubs . And there seems to be sense of entitlement in clubs as guys have paid a small fortune to get in .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are new, and worry about first time awkwardness, how did you manage this, for instance when dogging if someone approaches who you dont want to play with how do you say no, without offence or conflict?"

You say "I'm incredibly sorry but I find you to be considerably visually offensive, seriously challenging to my sinus condition and intrusive to my car park space! Now would you please about turn 180 degrees and go fourth and multiply"

They should do the trick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That*

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"We started our swinging in clubs, and now only swing in clubs. We have never had a problem saying no and no one has ever taken offence. Clubs offer a safe and supportive environment - certainly compared with dogging.

Sorry , but we beg to differ ...

Having spent 3 years using clubs too we find the safety the same . Especially if you use open / orgy rooms in clubs . And there seems to be sense of entitlement in clubs as guys have paid a small fortune to get in . "

I guess this depends on both the club and the clientele on a particular night. We like playing with single men and so go on nights when there are plenty to choose from, but having said that we also play mainly in "invitation only" rooms - and so have control over who joins us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We started our swinging in clubs, and now only swing in clubs. We have never had a problem saying no and no one has ever taken offence. Clubs offer a safe and supportive environment - certainly compared with dogging.

Sorry , but we beg to differ ...

Having spent 3 years using clubs too we find the safety the same . Especially if you use open / orgy rooms in clubs . And there seems to be sense of entitlement in clubs as guys have paid a small fortune to get in .

I guess this depends on both the club and the clientele on a particular night. We like playing with single men and so go on nights when there are plenty to choose from, but having said that we also play mainly in "invitation only" rooms - and so have control over who joins us. "

That's how we played in clubs too after too many less than favourable experiences in open rooms .

its also how wedo dogging .... Iinvitation only

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