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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being a woman of a couple we've made sure there are photos of my male partner in our profile so the ladies can see what their potential playmate looks like (face excluded). I'm not interested in playing with the female of the potential couple so why on earth are there no pics of the male???? I like to wank/fantasize over images of naked men NOT women. We then have to ask for pics of the male, get a grip guys, couple means 2. Give me some pics now!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We so but understand your point that most couples tend to 'advertise' the woman. It's frustrating though because in our case, and many others, it's the wife's final decision who we play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will always send photos of both of us If approached.. but then we don't really have any photos of either of us on our public profile

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By *e ja vue 2Couple
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

So annoying when cpls just have full fem profiles , we skip them if they wink or message us, we dont do blind dates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos they are hiding the hubby in the closet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a couple with only pics of me, the female. It is the wish of both of us that this is so.

We don't make excuses to anyone about it. We aren't going to change our profile to suit anyone else, we don't care who doesn't contact us about it and those that don't like it needn't contact us. It's fairly simple.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

In our case only she plays but I always send my face pic with the first message as I will be present (profile explains). It's a conscious decision from us both with the focus being on her due to the way we play, we're deliberately attracting playmates who will focus on her as I do and it's working just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very frustrating. Especially when they're a full swap couple

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

As we have said before, profiles are how you advertise yourselves. If you don't like someone's advert just move on and find one that you do like - there are plenty to choose from, and it's more realistic than expecting someone to change their profile to suit you.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I agree with you Sue. I got a message from a couple asking to meet both but of 77 public pics not one was of Mr and no pic in the message either. Delete!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to ask for pics of the male, then found out why they were hidden. So now we don't ask any more as it's embarrassing to ask and then say 'no'.

Don't expect people to change their profile, if they want to do full swaps and not show what's on offer that's up to them, but for us it's a straight skip to the next.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree with those who have said it's their decision to run their profile how they want to. When people contacted us without pictures of the male we used to ask for them but found that it often meant the male didn't actually want to participate so now we just wish them well and move along, wondering for a fleeting moment why they bothered to contact us at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We used to ask for pics of the male, then found out why they were hidden. So now we don't ask any more as it's embarrassing to ask and then say 'no'.

Don't expect people to change their profile, if they want to do full swaps and not show what's on offer that's up to them, but for us it's a straight skip to the next."

Why be embarrassed? No-one finds everyone attractive. If they don't want to show pics the reason could be the person is unattractive (though not necessarily). They should just be adult about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There should be a category for browsers which days fit wives with munter hubbies. Perhaps that would suffice?

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Also why do people put straight on their profile when the text says they play with the same sex ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Why be embarrassed? No-one finds everyone attractive. If they don't want to show pics the reason could be the person is unattractive (though not necessarily). They should just be adult about it.

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Maybe embarrassed is the wrong word. Just not nice to say hey your wife is fit but you're too ugly lol.

End of the day people get over it. We don't give it a second thought if we message someone and they don't reply...but even so we're gonna stick with skipping by those with no pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Why be embarrassed? No-one finds everyone attractive. If they don't want to show pics the reason could be the person is unattractive (though not necessarily). They should just be adult about it.

Maybe embarrassed is the wrong word. Just not nice to say hey your wife is fit but you're too ugly lol.

End of the day people get over it. We don't give it a second thought if we message someone and they don't reply...but even so we're gonna stick with skipping by those with no pics."

I wasn't saying you're wrong doing what you do. Sorry if it came across that way.

There's other ways of saying you don't want to meet people after seeing their pic. No need to say someone is ugly, even if that's what you think.

"Sorry but having discussed it we don't think it would work for us so we won't be meeting you. Have fun."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know couples where the male was hidden and he was more attractive than his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There have been a few couples where i've been interested until i see no pics of the man. I tend to find when there's only pics of the one partner, the other partner is the one i don't want to meet. So now if i see a couples profile with only the even if she's my type. It's annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ugh i deleted part of a sentence *Now if i see a profile where i'm interested in the girl but there's no guy pics, i don't bother messaging at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can appreciate the wish to see the man in a couple's profile for women single or in a couple. It makes sense. I prefer to see the couple and not just one half.

I find it even more amusing when the only photos are of the woman but only the man is ever online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my biggest dislikes! If I play with a couple I NEED to be attracted to both before meeting so I need to see photos of them both. Simple as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys simply use their partners as a crutch, to help them meet the kind of women they never could as single males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys simply use their partners as a crotch, to help them meet the kind of women they never could as single males."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it depends who they're trying to meet. If they would like to meet women then yes I'd imagine they need good photos of the man as well. If they only want to meet straight men, let's face it, a lot of those men are not going to give a shit what the male of the couple looks like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys simply use their partners as a crotch, to help them meet the kind of women they never could as single males. "

lol...crotch...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys simply use their partners as a crotch, to help them meet the kind of women they never could as single males. "

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We have both of us in each photo but no real face pics as such ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasn't saying you're wrong doing what you do. Sorry if it came across that way.

There's other ways of saying you don't want to meet people after seeing their pic. No need to say someone is ugly, even if that's what you think.

"Sorry but having discussed it we don't think it would work for us so we won't be meeting you. Have fun."

"

Your post came across fine

Yeh we tend to just say that he's not Julia's 'type' and that's all there is to it. If there's no attraction there's no point wasting each other's time further. If someone doesn't find us attractive we'd rather hear it sooner better than later.

If someone fancies us we like to hear that too!

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Funnily enough... I was just having a grumble to myself about this very thing this morning...

Why, as a couple, is there no pic of the guy so very often?

If you play as a couple, post pics as a couple?

The odd psychology of men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being a woman of a couple we've made sure there are photos of my male partner in our profile so the ladies can see what their potential playmate looks like (face excluded). I'm not interested in playing with the female of the potential couple so why on earth are there no pics of the male???? I like to wank/fantasize over images of naked men NOT women. We then have to ask for pics of the male, get a grip guys, couple means 2. Give me some pics now!!!! "

I was going to post this up too. I think if you are on here as a couple you should advertise both with pictures together. As a single male I onviously want to see the female, but seeing the male half you are going to be partering up with is important.

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By *indandfireCouple
over a year ago

ashbourne


"Some guys simply use their partners as a crutch, to help them meet the kind of women they never could as single males."

Absolutely!!!!! But often the bait (wife) doesn't play anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple with only pics of me, the female. It is the wish of both of us that this is so.

We don't make excuses to anyone about it. We aren't going to change our profile to suit anyone else, we don't care who doesn't contact us about it and those that don't like it needn't contact us. It's fairly simple. "

we have our reasons to show our profile the way we do - we have plenty pics of both for friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we have pictures up its normally of mrs as the only pictures mr is happy to have up is cock ones and no one wants those publicly. We have face ones of the two of us but obviously those are to send out via email. We don't aim for just ladies to meet though our wants are couples and men and well if we're emailing a couple we'll share pictures but men can deal with ones of just mrs in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple with only pics of me, the female. It is the wish of both of us that this is so.

We don't make excuses to anyone about it. We aren't going to change our profile to suit anyone else, we don't care who doesn't contact us about it and those that don't like it needn't contact us. It's fairly simple. "

Likewise for us, another picture of a penis on a site where there's 1000's of cock shots, what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you just ask for a picture of both of them?

That's what I do ...

Sorted

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By *ly foxMan
over a year ago

berkshire

I agree very important to see pics of the male, especially when full swap, not nice to be in a situation when you feel pressured to play after arranging a meet and the guy is ugly and you wouldn't normally look at him twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if you are playing as a couple its standard practice to add photos of you both.

I agree and find it off putting when there are no pictures of the guy.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"We are a couple with only pics of me, the female. It is the wish of both of us that this is so.

We don't make excuses to anyone about it. We aren't going to change our profile to suit anyone else, we don't care who doesn't contact us about it and those that don't like it needn't contact us. It's fairly simple.

we have our reasons to show our profile the way we do - we have plenty pics of both for friends "

Totally!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a couple with only pics of me, the female. It is the wish of both of us that this is so.

We don't make excuses to anyone about it. We aren't going to change our profile to suit anyone else, we don't care who doesn't contact us about it and those that don't like it needn't contact us. It's fairly simple.

we have our reasons to show our profile the way we do - we have plenty pics of both for friends

Totally!! "

if you don't like something on someone's profile,don't contact them.simple really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely if you are playing as a couple its standard practice to add photos of you both.

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Standard practice?

Again if you arent happy with another profile,move on to someone's you are happy with.but don't tell others how they should conduct their profile,unless of course they ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a long time we were only looking for single guysand Clarence is straight so there was no need to have pics of him on here.....once we were interested in meeting couples we added 1 or 2 of him xx

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts


"In our case only she plays but I always send my face pic with the first message as I will be present (profile explains). It's a conscious decision from us both with the focus being on her due to the way we play, we're deliberately attracting playmates who will focus on her as I do and it's working just fine.

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exactly this, same for us, she plays, he don't so why put pics of him on if he don't play ???

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Surely if you are playing as a couple its standard practice to add photos of you both.

I agree and find it off putting when there are no pictures of the guy. "

Same here! We both like looking at the women, but my main interest is the guys and it is so rare that couples and even single guys let me see anything of them! Usually I have a strong influence on the people we will like and it makes it really hard to know if you don't see half the couple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In our case only she plays but I always send my face pic with the first message as I will be present (profile explains). It's a conscious decision from us both with the focus being on her due to the way we play, we're deliberately attracting playmates who will focus on her as I do and it's working just fine.

exactly this, same for us, she plays, he don't so why put pics of him on if he don't play ???"

Of course I agree no need to put up pictures of the guy if he doesn't play and it's stated on your profile that he doesn't play. I'm talking about couples that both play and both meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just assume the guy isn't attractive. Hence no pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree very important to see pics of the male, especially when full swap, not nice to be in a situation when you feel pressured to play after arranging a meet and the guy is ugly and you wouldn't normally look at him twice "

should never feel pressured to play -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In our case only she plays but I always send my face pic with the first message as I will be present (profile explains). It's a conscious decision from us both with the focus being on her due to the way we play, we're deliberately attracting playmates who will focus on her as I do and it's working just fine.

exactly this, same for us, she plays, he don't so why put pics of him on if he don't play ???

Of course I agree no need to put up pictures of the guy if he doesn't play and it's stated on your profile that he doesn't play. I'm talking about couples that both play and both meet. "

If both meet and play but no pics of him then it means there's something wrong with him.

I ignore those profiles and find someone else who does have pics of both.

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