FabSwingers.com forum: Need advice...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys,

Ive been talking to my tattooist and sending urm photos and videos if you get me. Sucked him off and planning to meet him next saturday.

One problem tho he has a fiancee and baby...am what i am doing wrong or is it a case of what she dunt know dunt hurt her.

To be honest i dont see the harm long as she never knows. She already has a problem with me due to a arguement over something already.

Help guys!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's unethical in my book. If his fiancée knew and was okay with the situation, that would be fine. But she doesn't and not only does her fiancé not care about how this would upset her if she found out, but you don't care either.

Yes, I think it's wrong... but then, it depends on whether you are ethical about sex or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You may regret asking that question Op...JUST PREPARE ..crash helmets and protective clothing is on the left..to the right is very broad shoulders and a huge dose of salt....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you be ok if it was your partner and you were at home looking after his baby while he was having fun with another woman? Totally wrong in my book but we are all different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See how i see it she must not be that good in the sack otherwise he wunt be looking else where. How i see cheating is a person wunt do it if they were truely happy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is already issues, I'd walk away

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

Some of us have morals, other do not.......I'm sure that whatever is said here will make no difference either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How old is their baby?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How old is their baby?"

Like 9 months or something x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See how i see it she must not be that good in the sack otherwise he wunt be looking else where. How i see cheating is a person wunt do it if they were truely happy...

Not necessarily true. I had a workmate who was in a great relationship sexually, he knew I was on here and we often chatted about their experiences in swinging clubs but he cheated on her, it certainly wasn't because she was a shit shag or not interested sexually. There are many reasons someone might do it, the other person going for their advances might be one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know it wont ever be more than sex well unless he falls to deep and he has to decide. Been talking the last year like this. Just really dont know what to do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know it wont ever be more than sex well unless he falls to deep and he has to decide. Been talking the last year like this. Just really dont know what to do..."

Leave him alone, he's someone else's partner and a dad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To be honest how i see it, his problem not mine. I might be a bad person for thinking that but oh well...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do realise that even if he did leave her for you, they will always have a bond as they have a child together?

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

"To be honest how i see it, his problem not mine. I might be a bad person for thinking that but oh well..."

As I already said. Some of us have morals, others do not.......what is said here will make no difference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest how i see it, his problem not mine. I might be a bad person for thinking that but oh well..."

Crack on then, who cares if his family falls apart, its his problem!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You do realise that even if he did leave her for you, they will always have a bond as they have a child together?"

Fully aware x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can dress it up however you like but as far I can see, you are quite happy to potentially rip a family apart just so you can get fucked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Shes one of these psycho woman who would stop him seeing his kid anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shes one of these psycho woman who would stop him seeing his kid anyway"

Then you are both fools and need to stop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shes one of these psycho woman who would stop him seeing his kid anyway"

And how do you know that? He told you? He's clearly lying to the person he claims to love so he'd have no problem lying to you.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

"Shes one of these psycho woman who would stop him seeing his kid anyway"

And you're ready to enable that happening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shes one of these psycho woman who would stop him seeing his kid anyway"

You will come up with anything to justify it, almost sounds like you want her to find out as you are already fighting with her.

This isn't hollyoaks... It's real life.

Stop trying to fuck over someone else's life and get your kicks elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shes one of these psycho woman who would stop him seeing his kid anyway"

Which constitutes child abuse - denying a child a relationship with it's Dad.

Having been through a long and tough legal dispute, I speak from experience and wouldn't wish that on anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shes one of these psycho woman who would stop him seeing his kid anyway

You will come up with anything to justify it, almost sounds like you want her to find out as you are already fighting with her.

This isn't hollyoaks... It's real life.

Stop trying to fuck over someone else's life and get your kicks elsewhere "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I can't stand drama or a stressful life so I wouldn't go there. You already know that morally it's the wrong thing to do otherwise you wouldn't be asking the question. We all make decisions in this life. It is the better person that can make a totally unselfish decision now and again.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"Shes one of these psycho woman who would stop him seeing his kid anyway

You will come up with anything to justify it, almost sounds like you want her to find out as you are already fighting with her.

This isn't hollyoaks... It's real life.

Stop trying to fuck over someone else's life and get your kicks elsewhere "

Couldn't agree more, I think OP just likes drama and is justifying her actions by demonising this other woman.

It's easier to look at the mother as some evil monster withholding sex against our noble father who is forced into the arms of another woman than to accept the likelihood he's got it good and he knows it. Family at home and a bit on the side to mix it up.

Oh and that's what you are OP, you're a bit on the side and nothing more.

He's not going to leave his family for someone who knowingly gets involved with attached people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in this situation myself, married with a new born, got close to someone and spent a lot of time together, both of us were unhappy in our relationship and toying with the idea of an affair. In the end I couldn't cheat and potentially cause a shit storm so I left the wife. My "friend" said she would do the same "when the time was right". Well so far she has kicked him out numours times and he keeps coming back, more of a lodger as they have a teenager. Anyway I now don't trust her and she was I thought my closest and most valued friend and someone I could be with. In a nut shell if you start fucking him while he's still at home and he eventually leaves to be with you. A, he will do the same to you if he receives what he believes to be a better offer. B, you'll never trust each other as your relationship is based on a lie. C, do you really wanna be named in divorce proceedings?.

If he's really as unhappy as he says he'll leave her without you fucking him.

You'll do as you please as we all do but I'd advise you to tell him to leave before anything happens or forget it all together because an affair not only effects the 3 people involved there's kids that get hurt and massive family fallouts occur. Good luck lass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't sound like you want advice, but mine, for what it's worth, would be to walk away. You say it's not going to be serious unless he wants it, sounds like you want it, him, not so much. You say it's been going on about a yr, and baby 9months ish old, so he started messing about with you, when his gf was quite heavily pregnant, do you not think you are just filling the gap while his gf has a low sex drive/is tired etc? All because she was carrying/is looking after HIS child?

He's risking not being able to see his child if she is the type to block contact, and he's happy to cheat on his preg gf, is that really the kind of guy you want to be with? Could you then trust him to be faithful to you?

He sounds like a dickhead to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there are always underlying issues there with his other half way make it any more complicated. Also if it goes horribly wrong then you loose your tattooist to boot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me what you have done and planning to do is wrong if she knew it would blow her world apart bit it sounds to me like your fine with possibly ruining someones life and have justified it to your self

Also if he ever did leave her for you it would create a vacancey as in you become his partner so he'll be looking for a new bit on the side

Just remember if you play with fire your gonna get burned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you know about the situation, and know it is causing pain....then you already have your answer.

Having said that we all know that very many of the "single" guys on here are anything but..... And plenty ladies on here play with them, often in the full knowledge of this.

At the end of the day it isn't your choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ask jeremy kyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you know about the situation, and know it is causing pain....then you already have your answer.

Having said that we all know that very many of the "single" guys on here are anything but..... And plenty ladies on here play with them, often in the full knowledge of this.

At the end of the day it isn't your choice!"

What isn't her choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See how i see it she must not be that good in the sack otherwise he wunt be looking else where. How i see cheating is a person wunt do it if they were truely happy...

WOW...got to step in here..*ahem...

you mention they have a 'baby' well if you have kids you shouldn't need this bit explaining, but for 9 months her body has gone through some incredible ups and downs to create a life that 'he' helped make, part of those changes is probably NOT feeling her usual self and as appealingor as sexy, so there may have been dips, these dips may have continued afterwords as she's adjusting to the amazing achievement of bringing a child into the world, so 'being good in the sack' is probably not as important as the wellbeing of this new little life,

now sounds like the man is resorting to what he knows best and reverting back to being a selfish child that feels all neglected...so he treats himself to a blowjob whilst she may be treating herself to another messy nappy...so whilst you enjoy that attention that he's focusing on you, try to imagine how you'd 'actually' feel and then ask yourself that question again. Either way, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just got my popcorn for this show, thats already started to kick off.

keep it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See this i don't get...he's obviously a tosser but as a woman you have the choice to find someone who isn't committed to someone else. Particularly being on a site like Fab.

No advice can help someone like you, if you don't realise how low what your both doing is now, you'll never know.

What's next? A thread asking us if you should accept the wedding invitation from them???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ask jeremy kyle."

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Don't get your name and his tattooed in a loveheart .. I'd walk away ..

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