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By *ndyanjo OP   Couple
over a year ago

port talbot

hubby introduced me to this world of real naughtyness,found out that im a bit of a sub...

when we tried the FMF it didnt work for me (im Not Bi)& seeing him with another woman makes me want to cry and run, i even felt physically sick! i have enjoyed MFM though and so has he. But my biggest turn off/concern is the thought of hubby if we DID do same room fun with another couple that he would take lead and go try and swap !! i know this would end it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like you need to have some serious discussion with you hubby.

Boundaries can make or break this lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you need to call yourself a swinger? If he's happy to only have other men join you then call yourselves what you want. As long as you're both in agreement and everybody is happy it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples who only meet single guys are fine so long as that's what you both want but by the sounds of it this isnt what you both want, if your hubby wants to play with women but you aren't allowing him to yet still want to play with men it will not work for you

It seems pretty unfair and selfish to me to be honest too

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

just meet with single blokes... there are a few on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive met cpls in the past and there always feels like an underlying current .

I always felt an outsider so dont meet cpls anymore !

I dont think your alone in your insecurities though OP i think it's quite common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hubby introduced me to this world of real naughtyness,found out that im a bit of a sub...

when we tried the FMF it didnt work for me (im Not Bi)& seeing him with another woman makes me want to cry and run, i even felt physically sick! i have enjoyed MFM though and so has he. But my biggest turn off/concern is the thought of hubby if we DID do same room fun with another couple that he would take lead and go try and swap !! i know this would end it for me "

you need to chat about your boundrys , we are the same, mildred don't like women and me touching women or women touching me, so were left with just guys, she likes mfm and likes watch be watched with cples, I would go a lot further if I could,

but I keep myself under control and we concentrate on what she likes, im happier doing this than ending up not doing anything at all,

as mildred does you have to trust your partner will stick to boundrys set by you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aw, i know how you feel a bit. i also love fucking other people but i wouldn't want to swap partners.

i like it to be everyone fucking at once and together.

i don't class myself as a swinger and i would tell your fella exactly how you feel. over time your feelings might change but you might mess up your relationship if you don't speak to him about how you feel right now (if you haven't told him already that is).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples who only meet single guys are fine so long as that's what you both want but by the sounds of it this isnt what you both want, if your hubby wants to play with women but you aren't allowing him to yet still want to play with men it will not work for you

It seems pretty unfair and selfish to me to be honest too"

I had two relationships like this, via fab..proper relationships I add.

You either swing or dont, but it shouldnt be one sided at all...I was happy to give up 'swapping' if they had been..

I suppose its control..or just insecurity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sure hubby would feel its double standards that you get sensitive if hes with a f, but you happily enjoy m.

as long as you're in agreement thats the main thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples who only meet single guys are fine so long as that's what you both want but by the sounds of it this isnt what you both want, if your hubby wants to play with women but you aren't allowing him to yet still want to play with men it will not work for you

It seems pretty unfair and selfish to me to be honest too"
totally agree with you this , this about give and take and sounds to me you want all the fun and not hubby

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"hubby introduced me to this world of real naughtyness,found out that im a bit of a sub...

when we tried the FMF it didnt work for me (im Not Bi)& seeing him with another woman makes me want to cry and run, i even felt physically sick! i have enjoyed MFM though and so has he. But my biggest turn off/concern is the thought of hubby if we DID do same room fun with another couple that he would take lead and go try and swap !! i know this would end it for me "

You can't help the way you feel. Discuss this with your husband and if he isn't happy to continue under these circumstances then swinging isn't for you two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples who only meet single guys are fine so long as that's what you both want but by the sounds of it this isnt what you both want, if your hubby wants to play with women but you aren't allowing him to yet still want to play with men it will not work for you

It seems pretty unfair and selfish to me to be honest too

I had two relationships like this, via fab..proper relationships I add.

You either swing or dont, but it shouldnt be one sided at all...I was happy to give up 'swapping' if they had been..

I suppose its control..or just insecurity"

Might be neither.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive met cpls in the past and there always feels like an underlying current .

I always felt an outsider so dont meet cpls anymore !

I dont think your alone in your insecurities though OP i think it's quite common "

Yes. Me too which is why I am now VERY fussy about the couples I . One couple didn't even see me to the door but were clearly bonking as I left. Felt cheap and used. Another, when I asked if she had a single profile on Fab , had never heard of Fab!!! Awkward !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is not an easy thing to do if you are in a committed relationship. You and your hubby really need to sit down and discuss what you both want from this lifestyle. Then set some ground rules. Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong way to swing. I think you may have it in your head that if you swing, you 'should' like certain things and 'ought' to be doing things a certain way. There is no 'proper' way as we are all different. Maybe have a break and sort things out in ur own head xx

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By *iPeopleMan
over a year ago

London

May be he gets off on seeing you with another guy.

And that's enough.

Or may be its not. May be he wants to suck a cock! How do we know ?!

Better you know direct from the horses mouth

Assumes he's willing to tell you but if you are willing to hear thats the most you can do.

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By *ndyanjo OP   Couple
over a year ago

port talbot

Thank you all for your views, i really appreciate it.

Hubby as i said get turned on by watching me with another guy, even when we talk about it.

I have been cheated on and my trust was broken.

Repairing that takes time and i feel sometimes im dragging my feet. I cant help that.

Your right we need to talk, talk, talk,

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