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"I discovered a new word the other day, Compersion. Its the total opposite of Jealousy. Where you love someone so much you just want them to be happy no matter what, and you extend that to the bedroom where they can have fun" Thank you, a new word for me too | |||
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"I could never share if I was in a relationship. I don't other people touching my shit." Would you let a single female watch tho ? Xx | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." Good luck meeting those couples you want to play with! | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." ..and yet you are looking for couples to play with you? It doesn't seem from your post that you understand what swinging is. Him | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. " I totally disgrace with this. We are a couple and enjoy fun with other people whether alone or together. Its fun for us both otherwise we wouldnt do it | |||
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"I could never be in a r/ship like that. " | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. I totally disgrace with this. We are a couple and enjoy fun with other people whether alone or together. Its fun for us both otherwise we wouldnt do it " Then why are you a couple and not single and playing with others? Having your cake and eating it. | |||
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"The only people who think there is anything wrong with having your cake and eating it is people who can't have their cake and eat it. "You're right. Interesting logic... Because those people are committed to who they are with. | |||
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"Giving pleasure to your wife is a major turn on. Feeling her cumming from something you have done, hearing the moans, her shuddering body, losing herself in the moment of ecstasy. Amazing. To be able to see that in the third person, see her enjoying fucking, her beautiful body rocking on a cock, feeling the waves of pleasure as he enters her. When we have sex she cums pretty much every time, so it's not that it's a substitute, it's an enhancement to our own sex life. Giving your wife sexual ecstasy is a great goal, even if sometimes the form of ecstasy you give her involves another guy. Of course this can only happen in a secure and safe relationship, which ours is. All one or the other of us has to say is 'veto' and there wouldn't be a second thought about casting anyone else aside." | |||
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"The only people who think there is anything wrong with having your cake and eating it is people who can't have their cake and eat it.
You're right. Interesting logic...
Because those people are committed to who they are with."If you are a fan of logic, perhaps you should have a go at spotting the logical fallacy in what you've just written. | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. I totally disgrace with this. We are a couple and enjoy fun with other people whether alone or together. Its fun for us both otherwise we wouldnt do it Then why are you a couple and not single and playing with others? Having your cake and eating it." Lol what's wrong with having your cake and eating it? We're a couple because we love each other and have a fantastic life together. We're on here because it's a fun thing to do together, it's just a small part of our lives. If I was single I probably wouldn't even be on here, I'd rather meet people in real life for sex, it's something I enjoy as a couple, think of it as our hobby  | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." There is no going off with others hubby likes watching but he joins in to. I don't go to get anything I'm missing as I am not missing anything I can assure you. And it wouldn't bother me if we decided not to do it again. I married the love of my life and my best friend nearly 20 years ago now. He likes the attention young guys give me knowing full well we always walk out together. Takes a really strong relationship to get it i suppose without any jealousy. And the only problem is that after playing the sex we have tends to go on so long that we completely miss sleeping lol but that's not a bad thing. And there is no guy out there that can give me what hubby can in the bedroom it's completely different. I don't understand guys that are happy to play with couples but then think they are not right or normal or even wrong in doing what they do..think that attitude is a real problem and we would never consider a guy with that attitude as it seems wrong to question a couple relationship and it's strength whilst wanting to meet couples. Each to their own. If you don't agree with it just don't do it. But don't question couples that do especially on a site like this where single guys for a bad enough rep as it is. | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." So your saying you wont truly commit until married? Hmmm good luck with that. If you truly love someone let them go....if they come back its meant to be... We love the whole excitement. Part of it is I do know I'm not enough for Mrs. Thats part of the fun the teasing the feeling of pride knowing how truly committed to each other we are and that he might be fuckin her but that is her toy! Her pleasure! Her lovehoney order lol. I get to wake up withmy beautiful sexy slightly slutty wife every day. No brainer really | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." We've upheld our vows just fine thank you very much. Adultery involves secrecy and betrayal. Swinging is open and honest fun. Wonder how many couples blocked you for your outburst lol | |||
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"The only people who think there is anything wrong with having your cake and eating it is people who can't have their cake and eat it.
You're right. Interesting logic...
Because those people are committed to who they are with."Some people get it, some don't. You don't. | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. I totally disgrace with this. We are a couple and enjoy fun with other people whether alone or together. Its fun for us both otherwise we wouldnt do it Then why are you a couple and not single and playing with others? Having your cake and eating it. Lol what's wrong with having your cake and eating it? We're a couple because we love each other and have a fantastic life together. We're on here because it's a fun thing to do together, it's just a small part of our lives. If I was single I probably wouldn't even be on here, I'd rather meet people in real life for sex, it's something I enjoy as a couple, think of it as our hobby "Same. I can't understand why singles that moan about couples that swing are even on here? Especially when they meet said couples. I doubt they'd be much fun in a threesome if they can't even grasp the basic dynamic of swinging. Why not just meet other singles? Sorted, no misunderstandings then | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." Well that's just classic insecurity right there. Try and imagine that you didn't feel like that. Many swingers don't believe we are naturally monogamous either... | |||
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"The only people who think there is anything wrong with having your cake and eating it is people who can't have their cake and eat it.
You're right. Interesting logic...
Because those people are committed to who they are with."I don't think it's a case of committed, you can be committed and a swinger I think it's more a case of what you are into some people just couldn't share their partner Sexually I don't think they are more committed than those who can | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. Well that's just classic insecurity right there. Try and imagine that you didn't feel like that. Many swingers don't believe we are naturally monogamous either..." No it's not. | |||
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"The only people who think there is anything wrong with having your cake and eating it is people who can't have their cake and eat it.
You're right. Interesting logic...
Because those people are committed to who they are with.
I don't think it's a case of committed, you can be committed and a swinger I think it's more a case of what you are into some people just couldn't share their partner Sexually I don't think they are more committed than those who can
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." And yet your on a swingers site looking for couples to play with  | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." What a complete hypocrite with double standards. Here looking to meet m/f couples yet judging the couples he is looking to meet? Perhaps, a dating site and not a swinging site would be better for him!' | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." I'm sorry i thought this was a swingers site .  | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage." Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." You really are on the wrong site ... No other man can do what Mr does... But we can't very easily have a cock in each hole or watch each other with another without involving others... I love to watch him too. | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. " I completely agree. | |||
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. It's like having a porn star for a girlfriend when she is in the zone. Lovely loud slurping noises are my favourite. It's when I know she is having a good suck on a huge cock. | |||
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"Well Mrs N is not my wife but hell yes I love watching and more specifically listening to her fuck . It's like having a porn star for a girlfriend when she is in the zone. Lovely loud slurping noises are my favourite. It's when I know she is having a good suck on a huge cock."Wow i need to meet up with her then | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. " My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been. | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." So you are not really a true swinger then?...swingers don't judge others but accept their kinks and differences... | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been. "What's a normal relationship? with the amount of couples using sites like this and clubs I'd say this is quickly becoming the norm | |||
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"I couldn't share a wife or girlfriend with another man. So to those men who can do this, I salute and thank you. " I have to be honest I wouldn't do this as a couple but I have my own personal reasons for that but I don't think those who do are lacking anything | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." I feel this way too xx | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been. "Normal? Normal just means 'usual'. What's your definition of 'normal'? What would you do if a beloved future spouse of yours wanted to swing? Wanted two cocks at once? | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. What a complete hypocrite with double standards. Here looking to meet m/f couples yet judging the couples he is looking to meet? Perhaps, a dating site and not a swinging site would be better for him!'" ^^^This^^^
Maybe he wants to meet couples then give them marriage counselling when he gets there
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy " Hit the nail on the head. | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been.
Normal? Normal just means 'usual'.
What's your definition of 'normal'?
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been.
Normal? Normal just means 'usual'.
What's your definition of 'normal'?
What would you do if a beloved future spouse of yours wanted to swing? Wanted two cocks at once?
Did you go to school?
And if my partner wanted that, they would be out the door."I have to say for somebody looking to meet couples on a swinging site your attitude towards the lifestyle of those you seek to meet is a little cynical to say the least | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been.
Normal? Normal just means 'usual'.
What's your definition of 'normal'?
What would you do if a beloved future spouse of yours wanted to swing? Wanted two cocks at once?
Did you go to school?
And if my partner wanted that, they would be out the door."Bless.... What's your definition of normal? | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp." I just don't see why anyone would be with someone and have sex with other people. 'Extras' or not. If a partner couldn't give me extra himself then I'd seriously consider what the hell I was doing with him. I have experienced 'love' and an emotional connection and if he'd told me he wanted to swing it would have ended there and then. | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy Hit the nail on the head. Well let's hope going foward all us couples take your lack of understanding of why we do it and bare it mind and not meet you which is why you are on here isn't it, maybe change your profile requirements to single girls only No no he don't mind helping fuck up your marriage and giving you what your husband can't but his Mrs would be above this
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been.
Normal? Normal just means 'usual'.
What's your definition of 'normal'?
What would you do if a beloved future spouse of yours wanted to swing? Wanted two cocks at once?
Did you go to school?
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp." Love, trust and commitment to the 1 you're with yup. Imagine explaining to others that as a couple you swing with others. Imagine how bizarre that would come across to most? People don't expect it because it's not normal in a relationship. Hardly setting a good example to any siblings you may have either is it? | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. I just don't see why anyone would be with someone and have sex with other people. 'Extras' or not. If a partner couldn't give me extra himself then I'd seriously consider what the hell I was doing with him. I have experienced 'love' and an emotional connection and if he'd told me he wanted to swing it would have ended there and then. " What if your bi and want someone of the same sex how can a partner of the opposite sex give you that? | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. Love, trust and commitment to the 1 you're with yup. Imagine explaining to others that as a couple you swing with others. Imagine how bizarre that would come across to most? People don't expect it because it's not normal in a relationship. Hardly setting a good example to any siblings you may have either is it?" why do you feel you need to tell others or your kids? | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. I just don't see why anyone would be with someone and have sex with other people. 'Extras' or not. If a partner couldn't give me extra himself then I'd seriously consider what the hell I was doing with him. I have experienced 'love' and an emotional connection and if he'd told me he wanted to swing it would have ended there and then. What if your bi and want someone of the same sex how can a partner of the opposite sex give you that?" If you're bi then I still believe regardless that you should be monogamous. If you want to fuck other people same sex or not then don't be in a relationship | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. Love, trust and commitment to the 1 you're with yup. Imagine explaining to others that as a couple you swing with others. Imagine how bizarre that would come across to most? People don't expect it because it's not normal in a relationship. Hardly setting a good example to any siblings you may have either is it?" We take it you soon will become unlos,as your arrogance towards people who have clearly explained it to you why they do it and still have a normal loving relationship will totally alienate you from couples on here | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. I just don't see why anyone would be with someone and have sex with other people. 'Extras' or not. If a partner couldn't give me extra himself then I'd seriously consider what the hell I was doing with him. I have experienced 'love' and an emotional connection and if he'd told me he wanted to swing it would have ended there and then. " Yup. Because you understand what a normal relationship is about. | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. Love, trust and commitment to the 1 you're with yup. Imagine explaining to others that as a couple you swing with others. Imagine how bizarre that would come across to most? People don't expect it because it's not normal in a relationship. Hardly setting a good example to any siblings you may have either is it?" haha I don't care what others think. My life's lived to suit me - not others expectations. Set an example to my siblings??? I'm 44 next month - and the youngest of four! Hardly think anything I do impacts on them  | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." security, honest and trust.. by the way a partner may well have a stronger orgasm with someone else and thats fine, they may well also do the same by themselves.. if your worried that you may 'lose them' then your at least being honest and accepting that as a couple it wouldn't be for you but it smacks of potential insecurity in yourself perhaps..? forgot to add to the above 3, communication.. | |||
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" Hardly setting a good example to any siblings you may have either is it?" hang on a minute your on here looking for random fucks when you have kids or if you already have are you going to tell them you used to go on sex sites for 3sums with couples? what the hell is setting an example for your kids got to do with anything? who talks about their sex life's with their kids or do you think all swinging sit their kids round to watch with a bucket of pop corn? how would their kids even know sorry but your being silly now | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. I just don't see why anyone would be with someone and have sex with other people. 'Extras' or not. If a partner couldn't give me extra himself then I'd seriously consider what the hell I was doing with him. I have experienced 'love' and an emotional connection and if he'd told me he wanted to swing it would have ended there and then. Yup. Because you understand what a normal relationship is about." so now its not 'normal'.. ffs get a grip.. | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. I just don't see why anyone would be with someone and have sex with other people. 'Extras' or not. If a partner couldn't give me extra himself then I'd seriously consider what the hell I was doing with him. I have experienced 'love' and an emotional connection and if he'd told me he wanted to swing it would have ended there and then. Yup. Because you understand what a normal relationship is about." for a single guy you seem to be quite the expert on relationship | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been. "What's normal, in that the majority of people do it is one thing. Not everyone craves normalcy. In fact to many, doing what 'everyone else does' is a real turn off. Where I think you go wrong is in 'guessing' why others decide to be different. The whole, 'really need something else but won't admit it' concept seems to only ever be suggested by people who are single. We swing because we like doing it, not because it's the closest thing we can get to what we really want. | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. Love, trust and commitment to the 1 you're with yup. Imagine explaining to others that as a couple you swing with others. Imagine how bizarre that would come across to most? People don't expect it because it's not normal in a relationship. Hardly setting a good example to any siblings you may have either is it?" your now just trolling.. your face is hidden which clearly indicates you value your privacy and thats fine.. do you explain intimate details of your personal life with 'others' then..? and your comment about siblings is confused, do you mean offspring ..? either is equally strange .. | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. " I'm here to fuck people. Simple. | |||
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" and your comment about siblings is confused, do you mean offspring ..? either is equally strange .." I took it he didn't know what sibling ment and ment children as I'm not here to set an example to my siblings | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. " Because clearly his cock tells him he should be on here but his head tells him he can understand why couples do what they do  | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. Because clearly his cock tells him he should be on here but his head tells him he can understand why couples do what they do "Can't understand | |||
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" and your comment about siblings is confused, do you mean offspring ..? either is equally strange .. I took it he didn't know what sibling ment and ment children as I'm not here to set an example to my siblings "He can't have got it wrong as he has already queried whether others 'went to school'. Surely no one would make such a remark and then get his words muddled in an uneducated way? That would just be too funny. | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. I'm here to fuck people. Simple. " So can you not pull in the 'normal 'world? | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. I'm here to fuck people. Simple. So can you not pull in the 'normal 'world?" Not for what I look specifically for no. Much harder in real life | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. I'm here to fuck people. Simple. " no 'emotional' attachment then with you when you do fuck other people..? | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. Because clearly his cock tells him he should be on here but his head tells him he can understand why couples do what they do Can't understand " This guy list cuckolding as his likes too, I'm confused at who he wants to cuckold and why if he is so against it lol | |||
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"If I was with someone I would question exactly why they wanted to fuck others. Surely of you really love each other the thought of anyone touching your other half would enrage you. I know it would for me. I think a little jealousy is healthy aww if only love was all that's needed.. Maybe they show their love for each other in many different ways. Like being there for each other all the time, through thick and thin? Not just there for sex? They only swing together then go home and make love? Making love and sex are very different. But I fully understand that if you've not experienced such an emotional connection, it's difficult to grasp. I just don't see why anyone would be with someone and have sex with other people. 'Extras' or not. If a partner couldn't give me extra himself then I'd seriously consider what the hell I was doing with him. I have experienced 'love' and an emotional connection and if he'd told me he wanted to swing it would have ended there and then. " so you have loved someone and wanted to see them truely happy.......unfortunate accident and he loses his ability to have sex whether mental or phisical. but wants you to continue to have sex or vice versa. you would leave this person that isnt true love to me. if my partner fancies meeting someone as long as I dont find them disagreeable its fine she comes home to me other times I may say you fancy going for a night out with ..... thats all good too we are still a cpl in love | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. I'm here to fuck people. Simple. no 'emotional' attachment then with you when you do fuck other people..?" Sometimes. Not in a relationship though. And of I was really emotionally involved I wouldn't fuck others | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." I think this is a bit judgemental tbh, and slightly hypocritical, give that you want to meet couples. I'm a single bi female (Unicorn!) & find it a real honour to be invited into a couples loving relationship, even tho its only a few hrs and it's just sex, I enjoy watching the couple interact and can many times feel the love/bond between them. It's different with each couple and quite different if the couple are FBs. I'm not sure I could be in a relationship like that, but I'd definitely give it a go. It's just sex! When there's an emotional connection, that's a whole different conversation. But I am beginning to understand much more, why couples invite others into their sex lives. Xx | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. I'm here to fuck people. Simple. no 'emotional' attachment then with you when you do fuck other people..? Sometimes. Not in a relationship though. And of I was really emotionally involved I wouldn't fuck others " Do struggle when people state what couples do isn't normal, then you read there profile and think "is that normal? " each to there own, don't try and understand why others do what they do , it doesn't affect anyone else's life | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." Not sure what it is about swinging that you don't get, but to us swinging is enjoying our sexual fantasies together - and as long as we are both happy with the play it's ok - if either of us are unhappy we simply don't do it. And we are both happy seeing the other get enjoyment when we play. | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. I'm here to fuck people. Simple. no 'emotional' attachment then with you when you do fuck other people..? Sometimes. Not in a relationship though. And of I was really emotionally involved I wouldn't fuck others Do struggle when people state what couples do isn't normal, then you read there profile and think "is that normal? " each to there own, don't try and understand why others do what they do , it doesn't affect anyone else's life " Im under no illusion that what I look for on here is normal. | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. I'm here to fuck people. Simple. no 'emotional' attachment then with you when you do fuck other people..?" With us our emotional attachment is to each other and we neither want nor need that attachment with people we fuck. It's playing out our fantasies together for sexual not emotional satisfaction. | |||
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"I've never been in a relationship where we have invited other people to join us. But I would like to find a fb who would enjoy watching me being fucked by other men (and/or joining in). I think once emotions come into it it gets a bit more complicated, for me anyway." It's the emotional complications that make it so exciting for many people though (but not all, by any means). Where this guy is having difficulty is that he has a set idea of how people should react emotionally to things, and is having trouble realising that everyone is not made to the same template as him. Vive le difference, as they say! | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is II don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage." So you judge others abnormal relationship whilst being fully committed to someone? Im guessing then they know you are on here and are happy with your infidelity buy have promised not to stray? I'm also guessing you tell all your friends how you are involved in all these other people's abnormal relationships and what wankers they are for not beingtrue to their vows (even ththough ours included reference to our lifestyle!) I think id rather be at peace in my loving truthful honest committed marriage than be normal | |||
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"I've never been in a relationship where we have invited other people to join us. But I would like to find a fb who would enjoy watching me being fucked by other men (and/or joining in). I think once emotions come into it it gets a bit more complicated, for me anyway. It's the emotional complications that make it so exciting for many people though (but not all, by any means). Where this guy is having difficulty is that he has a set idea of how people should react emotionally to things, and is having trouble realising that everyone is not made to the same template as him. Vive le difference, as they say! " Quite! The world would be a boring place if we were all the same | |||
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"I think id rather be at peace in my loving truthful honest committed marriage than be normal "
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Here's to us and all the other abnormal couples on here lol
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been. "Who says monogamy is the natural order of things.. socially and religiously human beings have been conditioned that one partner is the norm. But actually there is a lot of behavioural experts that would argue that we are not actually orginally a monogamous creature.. And when you look at how many people cheat then maybe there is truth behind it. | |||
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"All I'm saying people like I said is I don't understand the mindset / logic if in a proper TLC r/ship. Maybe most aren't? Don't know. And no I'm fully committed before Marriage. Thing is when you don't know or understand something but then go on to make negative assumptions or conjecture you shouldn't be too surprised if people find your views personally offensive. Not that causing offence is necessarily a problem. Unless you crave a lifestyle where you'd like others to welcome you into their world. Just hope that your views are not shared too widely as we find them quite repugnant. My views are normal though? And as someone said above, what you do is outside the norm. Against what humans naturally do. I'm not being offensive by saying I can't see the logic in doing something outside of what normal relationships do. Like I say, if it works for you, great. It's been Interesting to read what some of other people's take on it has been.
Who says monogamy is the natural order of things.. socially and religiously human beings have been conditioned that one partner is the norm. But actually there is a lot of behavioural experts that would argue that we are not actually orginally a monogamous creature..
And when you look at how many people cheat then maybe there is truth behind it.
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. " | |||
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"I think id rather be at peace in my loving truthful honest committed marriage than be normal
Here's to us and all the other abnormal couples on here lol
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"I'm saying I don't understand couples that can do it, not that I wouldn't play with couples as a singleton. And yes I do but rather play with other singletons." then dont comment about what others enjoy doing couples who are totally trusting of each other get immense pleasure from swinging | |||
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"I'm really struggling to see what some people are doing on a lifestyle site when they clearly don't understand the swing scene, bizzare. " | |||
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"I'm saying I don't understand couples that can do it, not that I wouldn't play with couples as a singleton. And yes I do but rather play with other singletons. " And you mentioned having your cake and eating it?? You have to be one of the most hypocritical people on here | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. Good luck meeting those couples you want to play with! " | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others. Good luck meeting those couples you want to play with! "you think if anyone reads his post on this forum he stands any chance of meeting a couple ? lol  | |||
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"The thrill and excitement of swinging with someone you truly love and are committed to us something you just couldn't find anywhere else. Something you've obviously never experienced and sadly for you probably won't with that mindset. It's fine to not understand it, but it's quite disrespectful to assume swinging couples don't have the same emotionally connection as non swingers. I think from my own experience it's the opposite, I couldn't have done this with previous partners because I didn't have that connection with them, I'd have felt slutty but in a bad way, and that was with people I'd been with for years and had children with. " | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. Surely if you love someone, then you really don't want them to go off with others, regardless of its what the other half wants, it's 'single' life when that happens. If they want to go off / play with others, they should be single. Like wanting your cake and eating it. Good for those that it works out for, and there must be massive trust, but regardless, I wouldn't want my GF/Wife playing with others. Intimacy is 1 of the bonuses of a r/ship that you share between you. Have you not thought that these 'extras' that the other half want might be a hint that you're truely not enough for them? They wanted to be with you so they shouldn't be wanting to seek extra from others." But you would fuck the next man's wife or girlfriend?....Are you for real mate  | |||
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"So many posts on here that sound like they are attempting to justify their relationships to a single guy who has no understanding of the dynamics of a swinging relationship. The only people I would criticise are the couples who would consider meeting a guy with such a jaundiced view of their relationship." I'm not going to criticise him for trying to explain his reasoning. I don't agree with him but it's a free world. Exactly, it's a free world and everyone is entitled to their opinion as long as it's not offensive and in this instance, the OP is just expressing his own thoughts and words on swinging and relationships. There is no law book or bible on the rules of swinging so when people are making out there is then you are wrong when you try to justify swinging rules and swingers beliefs in the privacy of your relationships on to others. We are all different. People should just live their own lives and do whatever makes them happy and stop attacking other people who just question their beliefs or lifestyles. | |||
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"Giving pleasure to your wife is a major turn on. Feeling her cumming from something you have done, hearing the moans, her shuddering body, losing herself in the moment of ecstasy. Amazing. To be able to see that in the third person, see her enjoying fucking, her beautiful body rocking on a cock, feeling the waves of pleasure as he enters her. When we have sex she cums pretty much every time, so it's not that it's a substitute, it's an enhancement to our own sex life. Giving your wife sexual ecstasy is a great goal, even if sometimes the form of ecstasy you give her involves another guy. Of course this can only happen in a secure and safe relationship, which ours is. All one or the other of us has to say is 'veto' and there wouldn't be a second thought about casting anyone else aside." | |||
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"Personally I don't care why. There are probably many different reasons. I just think "thanks guys....." And get in there!!" This ^ As long as blokes want blokes to fuck there wife's/gf then we're in with a shout | |||
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so that's how I get something I can't get at home. As for jealous it's not something that goes away it is something gyou get over because you are deeply in a relationship like most 'normal'people don't have. Also there are billions of reasons couples look for something else monogamy is new to humans and not natural. Love defined by 'normal' is not really love as it takes lots of different forms. Faithful is also not easy to define.
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"So many posts on here that sound like they are attempting to justify their relationships to a single guy who has no understanding of the dynamics of a swinging relationship. I'm not going to criticise him for trying to explain his reasoning. I don't agree with him but it's a free world. The only people I would criticise are the couples who would consider meeting a guy with such a jaundiced view of their relationship." Quite agree. And most people who have replied have totally missed the point of what I've already said which is I'm trying to understand why people do it. It's gone a bit further than that now because people have shot me down, so it's natural for me to reply with my opinion. Never once said I'm dead against the people that do it, like people have said I am. Each to their own and I would never ask people to stop doing what they like. Name calling is going a bit far, which I saw on one of the previous messages. No need for that. If you don't like reading other people's opinions, don't look at the forums. | |||
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"Some people can share, some people can't share...there is nothing wrong with either of those options. On the other side of the coin, I hope we have picked well in the past and never met someone who is fucking me while thinking " I wouldn't let my Mrs do this" as that is disrespectful." This | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. " We are married (by a civil not religious ceremony)and we follow our vows. Love is giving, to our best ability, the other what he/she wants. Honour my wife honours me by sharing me with other women and I by sharing her with other men. Obey we both obey by listening to the other and not meeting if the other objects. We have been married for 35 years and still as much in love today as the day we married and yes we have been swinging all through those years. | |||
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"I don't get the mindset and its worse if you're married. Vows. You committed to them. We are married (by a civil not religious ceremony)and we follow our vows. Love is giving, to our best ability, the other what he/she wants. Honour my wife honours me by sharing me with other women and I by sharing her with other men. Obey we both obey by listening to the other and not meeting if the other objects. We have been married for 35 years and still as much in love today as the day we married and yes we have been swinging all through those years." | |||
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"Wow some interesting views. Swingers who don't swing. Singles who mixup sex and love. Love has very little to do with sex. Some marriages have no sex. All relationships are different. But if you only love me for sex that seems a little too shallow for me. It wouldn't last and when the poor ladies libido drops due to menopause or child birth???? In terms of getting extras. Try as you may there is no way one person can simultaneously be a man and a wOman. Or two or more men. Or anything other than one person. Swingers are fantastic sex toys that you can also have as friends. Being a spouse takes a lot more than sex. " | |||
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) etc. I find this very similar to going into a gay bar and making homophobic comments. | |||
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"I find non swingers who join a swingers site and then don't understand or want to understand swinging and view us swingers as "unhappy in our relationships" not normal, previous victims of child abuse (Yes people have said this on the forums in the past ) etc. I find this very similar to going into a gay bar and making homophobic comments. "It sounds as though these non-swingers/wouldn't swingers, are the ones with unresolved issues, so they're projecting. They just come across as rather unhappy and unfulfilled. | |||
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"I find non swingers who join a swingers site and then don't understand or want to understand swinging and view us swingers as "unhappy in our relationships" not normal, previous victims of child abuse (Yes people have said this on the forums in the past ) etc. I find this very similar to going into a gay bar and making homophobic comments.
It sounds as though these non-swingers/wouldn't swingers, are the ones with unresolved issues, so they're projecting. They just come across as rather unhappy and unfulfilled. "Even worse if they say they don't agree with something...but then turn around and say they have done it and would do it though...#hypocrisyrules | |||
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"I find non swingers who join a swingers site and then don't understand or want to understand swinging and view us swingers as "unhappy in our relationships" not normal, previous victims of child abuse (Yes people have said this on the forums in the past ) etc. I find this very similar to going into a gay bar and making homophobic comments.
It sounds as though these non-swingers/wouldn't swingers, are the ones with unresolved issues, so they're projecting. They just come across as rather unhappy and unfulfilled.
Even worse if they say they don't agree with something...but then turn around and say they have done it and would do it though...#hypocrisyrules" | |||
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