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This side of our life we like to keep it private from friends but think we let it slip

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By *aneandpaul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cleveleys

None of our friends know about this side of our life but all chatting it got onto this subject of swinging we both said we dont thing there is any thing wrong with it if that what you want to do your not going behind each other. We got asked if we swung is that's why we go away a lot tried to laugh it of but they would not let it drop all afternoon has it happened to any one else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, two friends from our vanilla hobby guessed so we confessed. One (female) thinks it is great and treats us just the same. the other (male) asked if we could fix him up with a 25yr old horny blonde please! Needless to say he is still waiting!!!!

We don't think either of these friends will gossip - and even if they do we have decided that we will ignore any tittle tattle. We are too busy having fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been swinging for ten years now and only time I told people was a mistake, if people don't swing rhen they have a opinion that it is seedy ans dirty. Also I found the people I told, who were all a still are really good friends, couldn't wait to tell others. My advice is keep it to yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When previously on as a cpl , our friend mentioned a local swinging club and then caught us both looking at each other , we haven't been but defo knew about it. They then said that the fems half brother and wife go lol. Hence an awkward chat about swinging at the dinner table

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

10 years ago when Utopia club was still open I used to go and the Nwws of the World ran a story about it and was in pub for a SUnday drink with friends (all male) all chuckling about the pervs up the road etc, a few weeks later I confided in one of them that I did go there on occasion and, sure enough, he promptly told everyone I knew.PAssage of time means we are no longer in touch but yeah once bitten, twice shy etc

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By *hettoslutWoman
over a year ago

Brixton

im open about swinging makes life a lot easier...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We told one couple we know and they started saying they'd like to come, but heavily stressed that they wouldn't want to play with us. We told them that was fine cos we had no interest in them in that way. They dropped it once the alcohol wore off the next morning. They haven't mentioned it since.

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

We'd love to tell people, would explain our disappearing but younger sister already gets crap about a different boyfriend every week and sti danger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has someone they trust not to tell anyone

The problem i think is that person had someone they trust with anything, and that person does and so on and so on

So as much as you trust someone through no real bad intentions it can still circulate

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By *aneandpaul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cleveleys

thanks for all who as got back to me Jane

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

My very close friends know and none of them were surprised They are concerned for my safety though so I let them know when I have a meet.

One family member knows and doesn't judge but it's clear that she doesn't understand.

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By *canthearyouCouple
over a year ago

Gunnerside

As it happens, my neighbour asked me if we were on Fab Swingers. The fact that he just came out and asked us implies he already knows.

We've also met someone who we recognised when they arrived (friend of a friend).

It's kind of awkward, sure, but at the end of the day they're probably hinting because they either hope you are swingers, suspect you are swingers, or know you are swingers.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I had a long conversation with my Greek friend over a few bottles of vodka last year.

She asked me what I wanted to talk about and said, "Is this about you being bi?"

"No," says I, "That's the tip of the iceberg."

By 4 in the morning she was crying in my arms.

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By *aneandpaul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cleveleys

think none of our friends knowing adds to the excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None of our friends know about this side of our life but all chatting it got onto this subject of swinging we both said we dont thing there is any thing wrong with it if that what you want to do your not going behind each other. We got asked if we swung is that's why we go away a lot tried to laugh it of but they would not let it drop all afternoon has it happened to any one else "

Anyone who is a good enough friend to know anything about my sex life knows that I swing and go to BDSM clubs.

No point in trying to hide it. Being open encouraged some of my friends to be open and try it too.

I don't really care if people judge me for what I choose to do with my vagina. If they think badly of me then we're just not compatible friends. Not the end of the world - there are more people out there to be friends with.

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By *aneandpaul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Wasp Hunter each to there own but most people don't want this side of there life broadcasting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasp Hunter each to there own but most people don't want this side of there life broadcasting "

No, of course not.

I thought you were just asking what peoples experiences of being out or outed were?

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By *aneandpaul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cleveleys

thanks for all the private replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A view from the other side of the coin. I know 3 couples who swing personally. All 3 get talked about and not always nicely. A female friend is cheating on her fella in the vanilla world as it where. She is treated as just having a good time. Go figure.

Me personally. Only the lady who happens to be on here, is one of the 3 aforementioned couples and in fact suggested the site to me knows I'm on here.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm lucky that I've always had an outsider lifestyle and have always been very open and out but it must be tricky for couples, especially those with nippers to keep it from the curtain twitchers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A view from the other side of the coin. I know 3 couples who swing personally. All 3 get talked about and not always nicely. A female friend is cheating on her fella in the vanilla world as it where. She is treated as just having a good time. Go figure.

Me personally. Only the lady who happens to be on here, is one of the 3 aforementioned couples and in fact suggested the site to me knows I'm on here. "

I think that sounds like a great reason to change your friendship group. There's no place for intolerant gossipers in mine.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"None of our friends know about this side of our life but all chatting it got onto this subject of swinging we both said we dont thing there is any thing wrong with it if that what you want to do your not going behind each other. We got asked if we swung is that's why we go away a lot tried to laugh it of but they would not let it drop all afternoon has it happened to any one else "
. I always keep my private life private . Why would friends need to. know what you do in private ?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"None of our friends know about this side of our life but all chatting it got onto this subject of swinging we both said we dont thing there is any thing wrong with it if that what you want to do your not going behind each other. We got asked if we swung is that's why we go away a lot tried to laugh it of but they would not let it drop all afternoon has it happened to any one else

Anyone who is a good enough friend to know anything about my sex life knows that I swing and go to BDSM clubs.

No point in trying to hide it. Being open encouraged some of my friends to be open and try it too.

I don't really care if people judge me for what I choose to do with my vagina. If they think badly of me then we're just not compatible friends. Not the end of the world - there are more people out there to be friends with."

I totally agree, L

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't mind people knowing if it weren't for our sons finding out. Makes us laugh how some people say swinging is wrong and socially unacceptable but it's ok if you are having an affair behind your partners back. It also winds me up , Jez , when I hear guys or girls bad mouthing women who have one night stands a lot . So what it's there choice they aren't slags they are enjoying themselves.

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