FabSwingers.com forum: How do you take compliments ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It was recently pointed out to me by a friend that whenever someone compliments me I accept the compliment but I also add something to put myself down.

An example of this would be for instance somebody telling me my hair looks nice and me saying that its only because I just washed it rather than just thanking them.

Are you good at taking compliments ? Do you like to receive them or does it make you feel awkward ?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I read in a magazine once that British women are very bad at taking compliments, and that its rude to say 'thanks but...'. Ever since then I just say 'thank you' and smile. Whether I believe it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like complements to, loads at work sais how big my muscles are and asking for advice on training

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Badly if someone compliments me my brain instantly goes "they're clearly lying so what are they after"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A female friend said to me that I looked pretty today ...I smiled and thanked her ...but inside I was thinking ..Omg do I look like a minger on other days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to.do the same as you op add something to put myself down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take them graciously as any lady would.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

But the person giving the compliment meant it. Much better just to say thank you and accept it in the manner it was meant.

I do end up giving them a compliment a back though.

My mum is the worse. Tell her you like her top and she tells you how much it was and where she got it from. Just say thank you. (Makes the other person feel good as well)

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Never been able to take compliments...doubt it will change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't accept or believe them..particularly on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beautifully, I crave compliments like a bee craves nectar, pour that honey on me ladies, fire up my heart, sparkle my spirit and energise my soul.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm similar to you OP. I can only really accept one without doubting it if it's something that I totally agree with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some confidence issues ( i know thats strange considering I am on here) and find it difficult to believe any compliment I might get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow this thread is the best OP I really like what you have done here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I think there are a lot of people in the same boat and sometimes when receiving a compliment it can make people feel slightly uncomfortable to and more self aware.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm awful at taking compliments. I get really uncomfortable when someone compliments me on here or in real life. I automatically assume they're lying and then I find a way to point out something negative about me.

Issues here, clearly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm awful at taking compliments. I get really uncomfortable when someone compliments me on here or in real life. I automatically assume they're lying and then I find a way to point out something negative about me.

Issues here, clearly!

Sounds perfectly normal to me

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Wow this thread is the best OP I really like what you have done here

I agree Crafty

Also your post is ever so good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Issues here, clearly!

Fuck that.....when you get to my age you take em where you can get em and show gratitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am terrible at getting compliments. I usually blush , look down and maybe giggle a little bit. I never say thank you in person, it seems too cocky so I don't. On here I usually just say thanks and then reply with what's attractive about the sender . X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow this thread is the best OP I really like what you have done here

I agree Crafty

Also your post is ever so good. "

Errr Hmmm errr ok thanks gtg bye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say "Yes, I know

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Awkward, it is nice to have and give them but that is how I feel

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By *te tMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

With manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take compliments very well, I usually skim over the fact that someone had paid me 1 because I just get embarrassed by it. From experience and the replies on the thread I think most are the same and this is quite normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a cup of strong tea and sugar. Helps me to recover after fainting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't accept or believe them..particularly on here

Me either lol even less so when I have seen them give the same line to the last few women in a club or on chat lol x

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By *ristolcream69Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Awkward but always nice to have them

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By *ristolcream69Man
over a year ago

Bristol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thank them then make a joke of it to hide my embarrassment. I've tried to just say thanks, but feel like a twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In an awkward way, but nice to have them.

Her

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin

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By *lfieWoman
over a year ago

South Dublin

"I say "Yes, I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say "thank you" and try and find something to compliment the other person back with.

Its nice to be nice

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

Love to have them and give them back xxx

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By *lackgrapeMan
over a year ago

Purley

Nicely said DaytimezNW no need to be complex just keep it simple and appreciate the compliment , you're damn right its nice to be nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems most of us are our own worst critics then.

I'm going to try and accept more graciously from now on but its hard to break the habit of a lifetime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who is paying the compliment & if it's genuine ~ I'm old enough to spot a fake one

For example if a women was to say that my hair looked lovely I would justify the compliment by saying why I thought it did, just washed / hairdressers etc....

If a man was to pay the same compliment I would simply reply with a thank you.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm not sure, I can't remember the last compliment I had

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who says it.

OP do you give compliments to other people? See how they react. Then use that to help you accept compliments from other people- you will be able to tell when they are complimenting you for real or not. Hope that makes sense. x

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Words are cheap

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I am good at taking compliments because my brain is wired up differently. If I think I look good and someone tells me that I will say 'yes I know'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not good at taking compliments either x the other half goes mad at me when he says something nice and i either shrug it off or tell him hes been silly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Badly if someone compliments me my brain instantly goes "they're clearly lying so what are they after""

Well I wont compliment you again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a smile. They are normally meant well even if I don't always believe them!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've got salt,pepper, red sauce and brown sauce on a tiny picnic table with a little umbrella on

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Compliments of the house.

Or did they say condiments?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We're not the best, we get very embarrassed especially Mrs.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

With a glass of fine wine and a Cohiba

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Totally rubbish at taking compliments, I get all embarrassed and mumbly. Not used to it, lol

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Meh!

I stick 'em on the pile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm complimented by someone other than the people I'm really close to, I think are they being sarcastic? For what purpose have they done it? I genuinely don't believe them.

If it's said by someone I love or care for I find it incredibly awkward. I change the subject quickly. I just don't seem to be able to accept it and say thank you.

I'm weird, I must be!

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