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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So it's a little frustrating when you try to approach people in different ways just to try and get a response ...

People want more than just a hello hi how's you ... But then jumping straight into telling someone what you want to do with them seems a bit weird and strange as I wouldn't approach some one in public that way lol

Seems a lose lose situation

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

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"So it's a little frustrating when you try to approach people in different ways just to try and get a response ...

Seems a lose lose situation

It is very weird and strange when someone messages out of the blue telling me what they want to do to me. Usually ends in a block. Can you not make some sort of conversation starter from the details in their profile? Something non sexual that is still more original than a 'Hi, how are you?' There are usually some clues there if you read the profiles. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So it's a little frustrating when you try to approach people in different ways just to try and get a response ...

Seems a lose lose situation

One thing is most people don't read your message they instead first click your name and read your profile.

Most then make thier kind up then and there if they're going to read your message and maybe give you a chance or delete it unopened.

So work on your profile first, it's way out of date given it days you're new to this but you've been here for over 2 years.

And ditch the legal warning.

Flesh out the profile with some good info about yourself and you'll find it helps people reply as they can read your profile hopefully find some ice breakers there and incorporate them into their reply that way it's not just the contents of your message that they have to go on.

In this place I've found the easier you are to start a conversation with the more people that will.

Being Happy, open and honest on here about myself has done more to improve my luck than any tricks or gimmicks or message tactics.

Relax and be yourself, try not to over think things.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We will always read a message and respond accordingly...reading the profile comes afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am also experiencing this problem and do not know what to do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks a lot for the response and ideas from you all

definitely helps to know other people's views and opinions and know what works and what doesn't .. I think your correct about the profile I never actually thought about it that way so thanks again !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am no expert in this but why not start the conversation as if you have just met them in a bar , talking about normal stuff . I always read their profile and try to include something from it

Also make sure your relaxed and have a laugh

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know what you mean but if you were to meet someone in a bar you have that option to compliment them ie stand out features, dress sense, etc and unless they just ignored you or turned away and walked off you would normally get some response where the conversation would extend.

Most of the profiles I read is a lot of what people don't want or what they like to do sexually so I find it difficult to start a message normally adding in something from there profile without sounding too forward or letting them know I enjoy doing it too.. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely message people out of the blue, so when I do i tell them why.

Nobody wants to be the next cut and paste.

Everybody is different and special. Work out why that person has caught your eye and tell them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I think that's where I'm going wrong actually letting someone know the reason to why I'm messaging and whats made me make the message ..

Thanks

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