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Why do you go to clubs?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There's been a fair amount of club discussion this evening and it's got me thinking. If people are having trouble with meets on fab they are often advised to go to clubs as an example. Some people will only meet in clubs. Now I kind of understand that one. Not wanting to meet at home.

What I'd like to know is what people like about the club scene. I get the social aspect. But what keeps you going back for more in regards to the thrill. Why might you prefer it to a 1 on 1 meet. Why might you prefer it to a hotel meet. Etc

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

If you don't connect with your meet you can both move on to another opportunity without wasting the evening. It's a safe environment for a lady. There's more variety. Plenty more reasons!

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West


"If you don't connect with your meet you can both move on to another opportunity without wasting the evening. It's a safe environment for a lady. There's more variety. Plenty more reasons! "

What she said

And to add that sometimes it is not just about the sex, but also about the sexy and/or party atmosphere.

A 1 to 1 meet is very intimate and as far as we are concerned we would rather meet the person first - and in a Club. We sometimes get complaints from guys that they don't go to clubs or clubs are too expensive.... well that's life unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like the randomness of the people u meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any other type of meet scares me as I'm very new and don't want to feel pressure to play. I do intend to broaden my horizons at some point but for now clubs seem the least intimidating for us. Plus gotta love a dungeon.

Rach x

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I agree with what the others have said, plus we rather enjoy playing with groups of people at the same time. This is loads easier than trying to get various other couples/singles to the same place at the same time on here.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots to watch at a club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great answers so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like the randomness of the people u meet xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a fair amount of club discussion this evening and it's got me thinking. If people are having trouble with meets on fab they are often advised to go to clubs as an example. Some people will only meet in clubs. Now I kind of understand that one. Not wanting to meet at home.

What I'd like to know is what people like about the club scene. I get the social aspect. But what keeps you going back for more in regards to the thrill. Why might you prefer it to a 1 on 1 meet. Why might you prefer it to a hotel meet. Etc

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To have sex while people watch, and to watch other people having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer one to one meets but there is something sexy about being watched in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like clubs cus they are safer, more choice, you can also just relax and chill out using the jacuzzis etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Watching and being watched is something that interests me as well. The recent zombie wankers and uninvited groper threads have kind of put me off a bit sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a good night out in a safe sexy environment.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

We don't go to clubs that often but have been to most around the North west over the years We like being watched and watching others....sometimes inviting others and joining in...but also like meeting others with no pressure to play for a chat and a laugh...we have met some great people at clubs who we click with and it doesn't matter if that's only at a friendship level if we don't fancy each other sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love the aura of a club - the sounds and banter around the bar - i few visits ago on a social evening we went to - it clicked with me that in a club we can be exactly who we are without having to watch what we say or do - we walked in - saw some friends had a huge sexy kiss off a lady friend we know - walk around in next to nothing (often nothing for me in the playrooms) - and be totally content -

we like to play at home with friends as we love that extra intimacy but it isnt always possible - and our last club visit was actually very intense and that was on the orgy bed (but just 4 of us) -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Watching and being watched is something that interests me as well. The recent zombie wankers and uninvited groper threads have kind of put me off a bit sadly."

It's not something I've experienced personally. Maybe I just look terrifying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a single guy I find getting a meet in the real world seems difficult enough, going to a club helps elevate the pressure as we are all there for the same reasons.

still takes some work but if your honest, polite and respect those there it does help.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Watching and being watched is something that interests me as well. The recent zombie wankers and uninvited groper threads have kind of put me off a bit sadly.

It's not something I've experienced personally. Maybe I just look terrifying."

Not to me, I'd love to watch you. Or have you watch me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Watching and being watched is something that interests me as well. The recent zombie wankers and uninvited groper threads have kind of put me off a bit sadly.

It's not something I've experienced personally. Maybe I just look terrifying."

Lmao. I don't Think that's the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't connect with your meet you can both move on to another opportunity without wasting the evening. It's a safe environment for a lady. There's more variety. Plenty more reasons!

What she said

And to add that sometimes it is not just about the sex, but also about the sexy and/or party atmosphere.

A 1 to 1 meet is very intimate and as far as we are concerned we would rather meet the person first - and in a Club. We sometimes get complaints from guys that they don't go to clubs or clubs are too expensive.... well that's life unfortunately."

Also clubs provide facilities which you don't have at home (jacuzzi/sauna) and if the meet does not turn up (90%) then one can enjoy the club in total

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the random thing of who gonna be there

Watching people and people watching me have sex big turn on for me

Social side and hot tub sauna and steam room.

Also cheap night out as you bring your own alcohol

If you don't like someone there is plenty to choose from and you get plenty of fucks well I do as being a single lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to few clubs. Just to expensive to go them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go mostly to chill... Use the facilities.. we rarely if ever go to a club with the intention of actually meeting others. Just enjoy company... Relax together and If something happens with others its a bonus...

If we go to someone's house we wouldn't get the chill in time we do at a club.. its also just laid back and if the person we did want to meet wasn't what we liked we could find others or just indulge each other x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Watching and being watched is something that interests me as well. The recent zombie wankers and uninvited groper threads have kind of put me off a bit sadly."

Have you been to any clubs?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Clubs provide things you can't generally get in a hotel/private meet situation.

How often do you find dungeons, hot tubs, porn cinemas, group playrooms, DJ's, bars, private playrooms etc all under one roof?

Add in the variety of people there, some you may know along with potential new acquaintances - all in an environment that is safe, secure, and in terms of not accidentally upsetting the general public - discreet?

I can't see why clubs could be perceived in any negative way. Some won't offer all facilities and you have no control over other attendees - but it's easy to arrange to meet others there.

Add in the social side and the many free or cheap events?

What's not to love?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Clubs provide things you can't generally get in a hotel/private meet situation.

How often do you find dungeons, hot tubs, porn cinemas, group playrooms, DJ's, bars, private playrooms etc all under one roof?

Add in the variety of people there, some you may know along with potential new acquaintances - all in an environment that is safe, secure, and in terms of not accidentally upsetting the general public - discreet?

I can't see why clubs could be perceived in any negative way. Some won't offer all facilities and you have no control over other attendees - but it's easy to arrange to meet others there.

Add in the social side and the many free or cheap events?

What's not to love?

A "

What he said!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Clubs provide things you can't generally get in a hotel/private meet situation.

How often do you find dungeons, hot tubs, porn cinemas, group playrooms, DJ's, bars, private playrooms etc all under one roof?

Add in the variety of people there, some you may know along with potential new acquaintances - all in an environment that is safe, secure, and in terms of not accidentally upsetting the general public - discreet?

I can't see why clubs could be perceived in any negative way. Some won't offer all facilities and you have no control over other attendees - but it's easy to arrange to meet others there.

Add in the social side and the many free or cheap events?

What's not to love?

A

What he said! "

I'm just waiting for the cost argument to be thrown up.

Always confuses me that many would happily pay for a hotel room for a meet that may last an hour or two but claim that clubs are overpriced - when generally they're cheaper than a travelodge for the night and come with waaaaay more benefits.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Options if we are feeling greedy

Atmosphere love getting naked and playing around others even if to put on a show.

Social atmosphere.

As for gropers and zombies. Been groped once by a skinny old man who once dealt with by me never even came in the same room as us again.

Zombies can watch all they want as far as we are concerned. If they crowd round watching its them that's going to be dissapointed when they don't get to play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Watching and being watched is something that interests me as well. The recent zombie wankers and uninvited groper threads have kind of put me off a bit sadly.

Have you been to any clubs?"

Nope. But I was curious to hear other people's viewpoints. My opinion doesn't matter here lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Clubs provide things you can't generally get in a hotel/private meet situation.

How often do you find dungeons, hot tubs, porn cinemas, group playrooms, DJ's, bars, private playrooms etc all under one roof?

Add in the variety of people there, some you may know along with potential new acquaintances - all in an environment that is safe, secure, and in terms of not accidentally upsetting the general public - discreet?

I can't see why clubs could be perceived in any negative way. Some won't offer all facilities and you have no control over other attendees - but it's easy to arrange to meet others there.

Add in the social side and the many free or cheap events?

What's not to love?

A

What he said!

I'm just waiting for the cost argument to be thrown up.

Always confuses me that many would happily pay for a hotel room for a meet that may last an hour or two but claim that clubs are overpriced - when generally they're cheaper than a travelodge for the night and come with waaaaay more benefits.

A"

I'm hoping it doesn't pop up. I wanted the thread to strictly be about the pros or indeed cons of the club environment itself not about the costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do get wankers in clubs but they just wank and watch you fuck they don't bother me

I don't like being followed room to room by single men that is a bit off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my close friends will tell you - I'm a socialite first - swinger second!

I go to clubs because it's a far better night out than a 'normal' pub or club - where you're only expected to chat to the people you're with/know!

I go to clubs to see existing friends, meet new friends, dance maybe, laugh, chat - and just maybe - if I really click with someone - have amazing sex!

What's not to like??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a fair amount of club discussion this evening and it's got me thinking. If people are having trouble with meets on fab they are often advised to go to clubs as an example. Some people will only meet in clubs. Now I kind of understand that one. Not wanting to meet at home.

What I'd like to know is what people like about the club scene. I get the social aspect. But what keeps you going back for more in regards to the thrill. Why might you prefer it to a 1 on 1 meet. Why might you prefer it to a hotel meet. Etc

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Iv been to 2 houses that do parties and 1 club so far.

The houses that do parties- were good, I really enjoyed them. Albeit you get some clicky crowds.

It's kind of cosy and a good laugh.

The club- was very nice and quiet to begin with. I didn't stay all night as I'd been there all day (won't do that again)

Iv yet to try out a club properly hopefully I will do one day in the future.

I think I like the idea of clubs and parties as it almost feels like a night out. And very different to how I meet at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great for socialising.

If you cant accomadate.

first meets safety side of things.

If you do not connect with a meet, you can both move on.

A wider chance of meeting new friends and having a laugh.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just go to clubs for socialising now and I'm not really interested in playing as way too much hassle. The whole watched/being watched isn't my thing nor are the facilities. So, for me, its just a night out now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Watching and being watched is something that interests me as well. The recent zombie wankers and uninvited groper threads have kind of put me off a bit sadly.

Have you been to any clubs?

Nope. But I was curious to hear other people's viewpoints. My opinion doesn't matter here lol"

Your opinion is as valid as anyone else's. I think it's good to hear from people who haven't been as your view will be different.

I was just wondering, sorry if my post came across as sarcy. x

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

I love the whole ambience of a club. Being around like minded people who more often than not are on my wavelength.

People wandering around wearing very sexy clothes, watching people playing, being watched playing. Threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes.

Its easier for a single guy to meet people in a club than it is on here. You stand by the bar and be sociable and make new friends, if they dont want to play they may introduce you to someone who does fancy you enough.

Ive made lots of good friends that ive met in clubs, some Ive plyed with and some I havent. But these friends know me more intimately, warts and all, than my vanilla friends ever will.

The social side of clubs is a lot more important to me than I ever thought it would be when I first started going. Now, playing is a bonus if it happens, a bloody good bonus but still a bonus. Many times I've been chatting with friends and before I know it its nearly time to go home and playing hasn't even entered my head

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Purely and simply we go to clubs for sex. We can have no strings sex with people we like the look of (and hopefully like the look of us) knowing that everyone is there for the same reason. I can have sex with as many men I like in an evening without going through lengthy arrangements and ultimate disappointment at no shows. We can indulge both our voyeuristic and exhibitionist fantasies in a safe and comfortable environment - and of course there is the social side should we need it. In other words it gives us everything we want from swinging whenever we want it.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

for me its the social side of clubs that keep me coming back... and then the sex is a bonus

it is being in the company of like-minded people and being able to let you hair down fully....

whether it is playing or watching, I know i am going to have a good time chatting with people

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By *agicfingerslovelyMan
over a year ago

Rugby

I love the sense of freedom and relaxation that going to a club brings - it's great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been a fair amount of club discussion this evening and it's got me thinking. If people are having trouble with meets on fab they are often advised to go to clubs as an example. Some people will only meet in clubs. Now I kind of understand that one. Not wanting to meet at home.

What I'd like to know is what people like about the club scene. I get the social aspect. But what keeps you going back for more in regards to the thrill. Why might you prefer it to a 1 on 1 meet. Why might you prefer it to a hotel meet. Etc

To have sex while people watch, and to watch other people having sex."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Purely and simply we go to clubs for sex. We can have no strings sex with people we like the look of (and hopefully like the look of us) knowing that everyone is there for the same reason. I can have sex with as many men I like in an evening without going through lengthy arrangements and ultimate disappointment at no shows. We can indulge both our voyeuristic and exhibitionist fantasies in a safe and comfortable environment - and of course there is the social side should we need it. In other words it gives us everything we want from swinging whenever we want it. "

This sums it up for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Watching and being watched is something that interests me as well. The recent zombie wankers and uninvited groper threads have kind of put me off a bit sadly.

Have you been to any clubs?

Nope. But I was curious to hear other people's viewpoints. My opinion doesn't matter here lol

Your opinion is as valid as anyone else's. I think it's good to hear from people who haven't been as your view will be different.

I was just wondering, sorry if my post came across as sarcy. x"

The trouble is I fall into the anti club camp without actually having been. That's based on the cost and horror stories that Ive heard. I want views off people who have been so my view is not relevant in my own thread in a sense. Hope that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we think its pretty much covered above , good night out ... watching others .... others watching us and if we get lucky and play with anyone then its a really good night out .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I can be a naughty girl without anyone frowning at me

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"for me its the social side of clubs that keep me coming back... and then the sex is a bonus

it is being in the company of like-minded people and being able to let you hair down fully....

whether it is playing or watching, I know i am going to have a good time chatting with people"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I love going to clubs (well, most clubs ), because I can chat to people, have a drink and a laugh, and hopefully get shagged to within an inch of my life. there's nothing better than lying down in a public room and being entertained by 4 or 5 men, all wanting to give me a good seeing to.

Its a good night out for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love going to clubs (well, most clubs ), because I can chat to people, have a drink and a laugh, and hopefully get shagged to within an inch of my life. there's nothing better than lying down in a public room and being entertained by 4 or 5 men, all wanting to give me a good seeing to.

Its a good night out for me. "

I like you lol

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

sauna, jacuzzi and pool for a tenner?

now if I could just get rid of all them swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I love the social aspect of club's and the chance to dress up in things I wouldn't wear in regular clubs,they're also good for meeting new people without all the messaging back and forth on here

I prefer the intimacy and privacy of a hotel meet but only arrange those with people I know I want to spend hours with,and are more than likely guys we have met previously

Both clubs and hotels have their good and bad points

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for me its the social side of clubs that keep me coming back... and then the sex is a bonus

it is being in the company of like-minded people and being able to let you hair down fully....

whether it is playing or watching, I know i am going to have a good time chatting with people "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Somebody on this thread as swung me in favour lol. Pardon the pun

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"There's been a fair amount of club discussion this evening and it's got me thinking. If people are having trouble with meets on fab they are often advised to go to clubs as an example. Some people will only meet in clubs. Now I kind of understand that one. Not wanting to meet at home.

What I'd like to know is what people like about the club scene. I get the social aspect. But what keeps you going back for more in regards to the thrill. Why might you prefer it to a 1 on 1 meet. Why might you prefer it to a hotel meet. Etc

"

We love to relax on the jacuzzi, sauna and steam room. The sex is always amazing & we get to shut the world out for a few hours....what's not to like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" It's a safe environment for a lady "

Yet we have numerous posts complaining about sexual assault right up to rape in clubs on here. ..

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull


"If you don't connect with your meet you can both move on to another opportunity without wasting the evening. It's a safe environment for a lady. There's more variety. Plenty more reasons! "

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