FabSwingers.com forum: Definition of a 'social'

By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

A place, (pub, club, someone's from room) where people meet and chat, maybe have a drink or two and enjoy the company.

I've noticed in the forums that some people are very nervous of attending a social. Is it because they think it's some sort of orgy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people confuse a social (large event, usually at a club) with a social (meeting another person in a vanilla environment).

Back in the day large socials used the fetish term munch for larger events and I think there is some value in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers are scary. Filthy depraved sex maniacs that hump your leg if you so much as make eye contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers are scary. Filthy depraved sex maniacs that hump your leg if you so much as make eye contact.

Who needs eye contact to do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was nervous my first time because I thought everyone knew each other and I'd be stood there alone like an utter twat. Just like I would be nervous going to a party where I didn't know anyone, nothing to do with the fact it was a swinging social.

In reality, people were lovely and friendly.

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By *aven QueenWoman
over a year ago

Putney

"I was nervous my first time because I thought everyone knew each other and I'd be stood there alone like an utter twat. Just like I would be nervous going to a party where I didn't know anyone, nothing to do with the fact it was a swinging social.

In reality, people were lovely and friendly.

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple
over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

The first ever social we went to we were nervous, and the whole event was a disaster, we felt the we had gate crashed someone's birthday party

Then a very kind fellow forum user told us about another well planned social, the difference between the two events was miles apart, the second one we felt really welcome and even managed a few conversations with other swingers.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

My first ever social was a few weeks ago at Jaydees and I was nervous with the build up and all these fellow fabsters . I had no idea of etiquette, I had never been to a club, I was on my own. Then I managed to wangle an escort with a single man and a couple and I was totally at ease. Everyone made me feel welcome, I left there so happy I had made that move and still feeling the love now.

Socials rock!!!!

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By *ussexsocialMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

We organise a social event , and it's surprising how scary it can seem to people ( we've had messages from people sitting in the car park too afraid to come in and someone who made it through the door ordered a drink but didn't come over) we guess a large group of people can be off putting especially if you are own your own ( bit like the first day at school) but the key is to talk to the hosts first they will always get you chatting to the right people

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Swingers are scary. Filthy depraved sex maniacs that hump your leg if you so much as make eye contact.

Who needs eye contact to do that

and if they cross eyed they hump two peoples legs lol

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

I've tried to arrange a social (drink coffee or beer) before anything happens as personally I think I need to be attracted to a person to have the urge to pleasure them!! So a social is just that a meet to see how you both feel then see where it leads xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it seems all swinging is really is a social, a chat and a coffee lol what I heard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought everyone had their own little circles, their own group of friends they speak to and so forth. And sometimes that has rung true.

I'm someone who is a bit reserved at first though and sometimes think many hold an opinion of me before they've even spoken to me. Be it prejudice or preference or whatever you call it. Makes you a bit uncomfortable.

Think i've been lucky at the socials off the forum though. You guys are just nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually end up fixing or cleaning someone's car!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I think people confuse a social (large event, usually at a club) with a social (meeting another person in a vanilla environment).

Back in the day large socials used the fetish term munch for larger events and I think there is some value in that"

and what has also muddied the waters are the social/munches.... which were the large meets held in non play enviroments.... from the Club meets which called themselves "socials"

so people sometimes haven't get a clue what they were signing up for...which is why i was a fan of seperating them and advertising them is different places....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swingers are scary. Filthy depraved sex maniacs that hump your leg if you so much as make eye contact.

Awesome

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

To bring fair I attended must first pub social recently and it was daunting.

A. Single male not quite sure what the crack was and nervous to approach people.

B. I'm not good with large groups of strange people.

C. I didn't really know what to do with myself.

But then I said a mental fuck it and approached a group of similar age people and they very warm and welcoming.

Had a brilliant night

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

See, I've been to loads as a single woman (because I'm single) and I really don't know what the fuss is about. Surely it's just a bunch of people who happen to be swingers. We all talk the same, nobody is gong to rip your clothes of unless you want them to.

It's just a bunch of people chatting to a bunch of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went to a fab social a few months ago I had a few drinks and found myself people watching and mainly talking to single males, The only time I spoke to Women/couples was in the smoking area, I didn't undress or go to the play areas until I was accompanied by a Woman as I felt a little uncomfortable walking around on my own,

But it did end well

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I don't think it's a social event if there's a play area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably means No3. Where the play areas are closed until a certain time then the social night becomes a play if you wish night as well. If you stayed in the social area you'd never know what depravities you were missing lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it's a social event if there's a play area

It was called a fab social at Townhouse, The only people who attended were people from fab,

It was a chance to meet other fab users and just happened to be at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet in a neutral venue pub etc but if there not our type we can back door it

but if we click we may even have a bit of fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We like to meet in a neutral venue pub etc but if there not our type we can back door it

but if we click we may even have a bit of fun!"

I suppose it depends on the attitude of the people you meet, But if someone just left through the back door without saying anything it would really put me off having another social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it's a social event if there's a play area

I've seen a couple if events where it says strictly no play. The majority it's more like the primary focus is the social aspect but play can and will occur. Or that's how it appears to me.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I don't think it's a social event if there's a play area

I've seen a couple if events where it says strictly no play. The majority it's more like the primary focus is the social aspect but play can and will occur. Or that's how it appears to me."

thank you.....

and this is a perfect example of why the confusion occurs...

which is why i think they should be labelled differently so that people old and new are aware of what they are potentially walking into

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"I don't think it's a social event if there's a play area

I've seen a couple if events where it says strictly no play. The majority it's more like the primary focus is the social aspect but play can and will occur. Or that's how it appears to me.

thank you.....

and this is a perfect example of why the confusion occurs...

which is why i think they should be labelled differently so that people old and new are aware of what they are potentially walking into"

Agreed, I thought a social was just that and nothing more.

Obviously at a club I'd suspect play of happening but not at a pub social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials sound good to me....no idea how to find out where they are tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See, I've been to loads as a single woman (because I'm single) and I really don't know what the fuss is about. Surely it's just a bunch of people who happen to be swingers. We all talk the same, nobody is gong to rip your clothes of unless you want them to.

It's just a bunch of people chatting to a bunch of people. "

See to me, going up to ANY bunch of strangers alone and starting to talk to them is extremely intimidating, it's nothing even anything to do with swinging or sex.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"A place, (pub, club, someone's from room) where people meet and chat, maybe have a drink or two and enjoy the company.

I've noticed in the forums that some people are very nervous of attending a social. Is it because they think it's some sort of orgy?

Over to you..."

We really enjoy meeting new people and the social side of swinging but it's unlikely we would ever attend a large social. I'm just not one for large groups of people, makes me too uncomfortable. I'm far better & happier in smaller groups.

Plus a fair few are in clubs and that's not for us either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a bunch of people chatting to a bunch of people. "

This is exactly how we run the Bradford Social, we have a private room, no play is allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a bunch of people chatting to a bunch of people.

This is exactly how we run the Bradford Social, we have a private room, no play is allowed

It was your social that I was referring too but didn't want to name names

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

It's just a bunch of people chatting to a bunch of people.

See to me, going up to ANY bunch of strangers alone and starting to talk to them is extremely intimidating, it's nothing even anything to do with swinging or sex. "

That's what I was trying to say too, some are more confident than others regarding social situations.

Especially your first group social when you're not quite sure what to expect, or if you go alone.

Now I've had one I know it really is just people in a pub chatting and having a laugh so I'll be Ok from now on but it took braving one to get to that point.

Admittedly I'm still not sure about club socials, I have no interest in clubs at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it's a social event if there's a play area

Neither do I. A social for me would be in a non sexual environment,just to meet people. No,if you get on we can pop into a ply room or back to a hotel room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a bunch of people chatting to a bunch of people.

See to me, going up to ANY bunch of strangers alone and starting to talk to them is extremely intimidating, it's nothing even anything to do with swinging or sex. "

Yet so many men are told to man up because they don't want to go to a club alone. Why can't men be nervous or shy and still be men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 on 1 socials with someone with whom there's a mutual interest is fine. Group socials....not for me. Rather spend time with my friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a bunch of people chatting to a bunch of people.

See to me, going up to ANY bunch of strangers alone and starting to talk to them is extremely intimidating, it's nothing even anything to do with swinging or sex.

Yet so many men are told to man up because they don't want to go to a club alone. Why can't men be nervous or shy and still be men."

They can, I think it's totally understandable. I wouldn't want to go to a club alone either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a bunch of people chatting to a bunch of people.

See to me, going up to ANY bunch of strangers alone and starting to talk to them is extremely intimidating, it's nothing even anything to do with swinging or sex.

Yet so many men are told to man up because they don't want to go to a club alone. Why can't men be nervous or shy and still be men."

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