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What do you like about being sub?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like being able to assume a different role to that of my everyday life, to release the pressures and responsibilities that work brings. I like that She knows me well enough to tick just the right boxes when dominating me. I love that what we do together doesn't meet everyone's expectations of what is normal in a D/s relationship; we're not Lifestyle, neither are we 50 Shades disciples and that individuality gets us off every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just who I am with certain people.

There's nothing I like or dislike about it particularly, it's just what I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's about letting someone else take charge, make the decisions and I just relax and get used with no inhibitions.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like taking turns.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does it depend on how good the Dom/me is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love been submissive to balance out the everyday pressures of been in charge at work.dont think it's about how good the dom is.everyone has different ideas and limits.as long as both parties are consenting then all is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it depend on how good the Dom/me is?"

I am quite new to the sub/dom experience - have dabbled with a few scenarios, combinations and equipment. The best experiences so far are ones where we take time to build up the tension/power games.It is not dependant on how good the Dom or Sub is - it is essential that the two can communicate about their role, it is the interplay bewteen the dom/sub that makes them good together. You could have a Dom recommended to you as being really good (or selling themselves big style as being every Sub's dream - lol!) then when you Sub with it just doesn't flow. All skills can be learnt but skills used with imagination and intuition will inspire both Dom and Sub to create very special experience. Patience and time to allow for the build up of trust and desire, communication and willingness to play power/control games are important factors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the feeling of not being in control. I like being told what to do and used as a sex slave. There are so many areas that I would like to explore like being in chastity and so on.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

You tell me, Ma'am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does it depend on how good the Dom/me is?

I am quite new to the sub/dom experience - have dabbled with a few scenarios, combinations and equipment. The best experiences so far are ones where we take time to build up the tension/power games.It is not dependant on how good the Dom or Sub is - it is essential that the two can communicate about their role, it is the interplay bewteen the dom/sub that makes them good together. You could have a Dom recommended to you as being really good (or selling themselves big style as being every Sub's dream - lol!) then when you Sub with it just doesn't flow. All skills can be learnt but skills used with imagination and intuition will inspire both Dom and Sub to create very special experience. Patience and time to allow for the build up of trust and desire, communication and willingness to play power/control games are important factors. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I messed up my OP. Should have given more info but didn't want to sway the answers.

I'm interested if subs do it for their own gratification and pleasure... or if they do it because it pleases them to please their Dom/me. If that makes sense...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it because it's how I am with a dominant person. I'm away with the fairies very quickly and have been asked after by people who've watched if I was hypnotised. I think it must be a bit like that. I get tunnel vision and hearing and everyone but my domme seems miles away.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I do it because it's how I am with a dominant person. I'm away with the fairies very quickly and have been asked after by people who've watched if I was hypnotised. I think it must be a bit like that. I get tunnel vision and hearing and everyone but my domme seems miles away.

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The hypnosis effect comes from fractionation, if applied correctly, which can be achieved at many levels.....

(cough cough)....so I've been told.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

In my life I have to be in control and have many responsibilities for other people's well bring....To be able to relinquish all control and to be able to totally trust is intoxicating and a massive turn on for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do it because it's how I am with a dominant person. I'm away with the fairies very quickly and have been asked after by people who've watched if I was hypnotised. I think it must be a bit like that. I get tunnel vision and hearing and everyone but my domme seems miles away.

The hypnosis effect comes from fractionation, if applied correctly, which can be achieved at many levels.....

(cough cough)....so I've been told. "

Wow. I hadn't heard of that before. Just had a Google.

It's certainly very powerful. And addictive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love the feeling of not being in control. I like being told what to do and used as a sex slave. There are so many areas that I would like to explore like being in chastity and so on.

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this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I messed up my OP. Should have given more info but didn't want to sway the answers.

I'm interested if subs do it for their own gratification and pleasure... or if they do it because it pleases them to please their Dom/me. If that makes sense...?

"

I do it because it gives me a thrill like nothing else does - it sends electric shivers down my body just thinking about the dom/sub situations that might arise. My hubby is not a natural dom at all, but he likes to watching others dom me then he picks up a bit of the mannerisms - we are both natural sub I think. m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being in control and being used to satisfy others. The degradation and humiliation can be a huge turn on and of course the physical feeling is great too...

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I really enjoy being used!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I messed up my OP. Should have given more info but didn't want to sway the answers.

I'm interested if subs do it for their own gratification and pleasure... or if they do it because it pleases them to please their Dom/me. If that makes sense...?

"

I used to do it for my personal reasons. The peace it gives me and the sense of achievement as well as the intensity. (Previous Master).

Now I try my hardest for my Dom. I want him to have the best experience. It's taken it to a whole new level since I've now got a Dom I'm so proud to have. He's my very best friend and it makes a huge difference in the emotions involved.

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By *panker53Man
over a year ago

leeds


"I messed up my OP. Should have given more info but didn't want to sway the answers.

I'm interested if subs do it for their own gratification and pleasure... or if they do it because it pleases them to please their Dom/me. If that makes sense...?

maybe I could give you some dom play sometime

I do it because it gives me a thrill like nothing else does - it sends electric shivers down my body just thinking about the dom/sub situations that might arise. My hubby is not a natural dom at all, but he likes to watching others dom me then he picks up a bit of the mannerisms - we are both natural sub I think. m x"

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