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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

so many judgemental ppl in a supposed free spirited world ...baffles us..wat happened to "each to there own" .m.n.m

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

People make judgements constantly. The problem lies within the paradigms of the information they are in receipt of in order to make those judgements, thus, more often than not, they are erroneous when applied to people on here.

Take a leaf from my book. Tell 'em to do one.

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By *unDeeCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"so many judgemental ppl in a supposed free spirited world ...baffles us..wat happened to "each to there own" .m.n.m "

Hi - just done very similar thread!!!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you - but do it first"

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We all judge. If we didn't we would trust everyone absolutely and never be suspicious of motives. That would not be healthy .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

vanity (sorry if spelt wrong) is the problem ..ppl who think they are better than others think they got a right to judge .if sumet pops up u dont like then jus move on ..lifes to short ..trust me i kno this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who say they don't judge others are often the worst I've found!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

sorry if sounds preachy but it jus not this world we play in is ment to be...in our opinion xm.n.m x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"vanity (sorry if spelt wrong) is the problem ..ppl who think they are better than others think they got a right to judge .if sumet pops up u dont like then jus move on ..lifes to short ..trust me i kno this "

Aren't you judging those that judge you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Those who say they don't judge others are often the worst I've found! "

well not us we very open minded about wat we do and who we do x

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We all judge and make assumptions... just some people do it more often than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those who say they don't judge others are often the worst I've found!

well not us we very open minded about wat we do and who we do x"

You just did it above

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We all judge and make assumptions... just some people do it more often than others.

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supose ur right ...maybe its that ppl shud jus be nice n move on ..thats the point ...its nice to be important but its more important to be nice ..if we get hammered on here for thinkin like that then so be it xm.n.m x

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"vanity (sorry if spelt wrong) is the problem ..ppl who think they are better than others think they got a right to judge .if sumet pops up u dont like then jus move on ..lifes to short ..trust me i kno this

Aren't you judging those that judge you? "

Exactly!

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

Its human nature to judge , we all do it , even the ones that say they are not judgemental, we cant help it , its part of our subconscious survival instinct, its how we choose our partners , our friends .we will always aline ourselves with thoughs we percieve as having the same veiws as ourselves . We may all be on this site and others like it for similar reasons to start with but on reality everyones reason may be quite different, thus people judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so many judgemental ppl in a supposed free spirited world ...baffles us..wat happened to "each to there own" .m.n.m "

Don't worry about it , there's plenty of non judgemental people on here . Concentrate your efforts on them and ignore the haters .

We get it all the time as we don't do socials and prefer to meet at dogging locations .

It doesn't stop us from having plenty of fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"so many judgemental ppl in a supposed free spirited world ...baffles us..wat happened to "each to there own" .m.n.m

Don't worry about it , there's plenty of non judgemental people on here . Concentrate your efforts on them and ignore the haters .

We get it all the time as we don't do socials and prefer to meet at dogging locations .

It doesn't stop us from having plenty of fun "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its human nature to judge , we all do it , even the ones that say they are not judgemental, we cant help it , its part of our subconscious survival instinct, its how we choose our partners , our friends .we will always aline ourselves with thoughs we percieve as having the same veiws as ourselves . We may all be on this site and others like it for similar reasons to start with but on reality everyones reason may be quite different, thus people judge"

Judging is fine but expressing your judgment in a hostile manner when your opinion is not asked is wrong.

As a ludicrous example if someone on here asks how to paint wall. The OP will be flamed for wanting to painting the wall, or being unable to paint a wall, or told real swingers paint a wall in particular way or dont paint walls, or painting walls are no guarantee of a meet as they only meet people with wall paper

I was brought up that if I did not have something polite to say don't say it.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow


"Its human nature to judge , we all do it , even the ones that say they are not judgemental, we cant help it , its part of our subconscious survival instinct, its how we choose our partners , our friends .we will always aline ourselves with thoughs we percieve as having the same veiws as ourselves . We may all be on this site and others like it for similar reasons to start with but on reality everyones reason may be quite different, thus people judge

Judging is fine but expressing your judgment in a hostile manner when your opinion is not asked is wrong.

As a ludicrous example if someone on here asks how to paint wall. The OP will be flamed for wanting to painting the wall, or being unable to paint a wall, or told real swingers paint a wall in particular way or dont paint walls, or painting walls are no guarantee of a meet as they only meet people with wall paper

I was brought up that if I did not have something polite to say don't say it.

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also true but to post something and to expect everyone to agree with you is nieve, being trolled for your view is wrong , but we live in a world where the computer screen makes many braver than they might be face to face , not justifying it just pointing out human behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its human nature to judge , we all do it , even the ones that say they are not judgemental, we cant help it , its part of our subconscious survival instinct, its how we choose our partners , our friends .we will always aline ourselves with thoughs we percieve as having the same veiws as ourselves . We may all be on this site and others like it for similar reasons to start with but on reality everyones reason may be quite different, thus people judge

Judging is fine but expressing your judgment in a hostile manner when your opinion is not asked is wrong.

As a ludicrous example if someone on here asks how to paint wall. The OP will be flamed for wanting to painting the wall, or being unable to paint a wall, or told real swingers paint a wall in particular way or dont paint walls, or painting walls are no guarantee of a meet as they only meet people with wall paper

I was brought up that if I did not have something polite to say don't say it.

also true but to post something and to expect everyone to agree with you is nieve, being trolled for your view is wrong , but we live in a world where the computer screen makes many braver than they might be face to face , not justifying it just pointing out human behaviour "

I don't disagree with you but people could disapprove without being mean spirited as OP says. But I get the feeling some people like to spit vitriol. But as you say its human nature.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its human nature to judge , we all do it , even the ones that say they are not judgemental, we cant help it , its part of our subconscious survival instinct, its how we choose our partners , our friends .we will always aline ourselves with thoughs we percieve as having the same veiws as ourselves . We may all be on this site and others like it for similar reasons to start with but on reality everyones reason may be quite different, thus people judge

Judging is fine but expressing your judgment in a hostile manner when your opinion is not asked is wrong.

As a ludicrous example if someone on here asks how to paint wall. The OP will be flamed for wanting to painting the wall, or being unable to paint a wall, or told real swingers paint a wall in particular way or dont paint walls, or painting walls are no guarantee of a meet as they only meet people with wall paper

I was brought up that if I did not have something polite to say don't say it.

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we have paper and paint ...duz that count

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By *nlymee19Man
over a year ago

purfleet


"so many judgemental ppl in a supposed free spirited world ...baffles us..wat happened to "each to there own" .m.n.m "

I couldn't agree more. Well said

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I'm afraid you can't and shouldn't stop people judging. It's an integral part of any primate society. How would we get hierarchy and grouping. Without it anarchy. Everyone needs to know their place and that is done by judging those around you to get a bearing.

However it would be a good idea for a lot of people to keep their judgements to themselves.

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow


"Its human nature to judge , we all do it , even the ones that say they are not judgemental, we cant help it , its part of our subconscious survival instinct, its how we choose our partners , our friends .we will always aline ourselves with thoughs we percieve as having the same veiws as ourselves . We may all be on this site and others like it for similar reasons to start with but on reality everyones reason may be quite different, thus people judge

Judging is fine but expressing your judgment in a hostile manner when your opinion is not asked is wrong.

As a ludicrous example if someone on here asks how to paint wall. The OP will be flamed for wanting to painting the wall, or being unable to paint a wall, or told real swingers paint a wall in particular way or dont paint walls, or painting walls are no guarantee of a meet as they only meet people with wall paper

I was brought up that if I did not have something polite to say don't say it.

we have paper and paint ...duz that count "

IF you were real swingers you'd know that you need to get a gang who wil do it dareback led by a Bull to who's married but his wife doesn't know, he's painting behind her back.but first you have to post your intentions for approval, before getting trolled for trying to get attention and doing it all wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those who say they don't judge others are often the worst I've found! "
I've found this too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all judge. If we didn't we would trust everyone absolutely and never be suspicious of motives. That would not be healthy ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are people so bothered about being judged? Do you really care what other people think of you that much?

Surely you know the truth so it doesn't matter what other people think.

Do the people that get offended by being judged have really low self esteem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"vanity (sorry if spelt wrong) is the problem ..ppl who think they are better than others think they got a right to judge .if sumet pops up u dont like then jus move on ..lifes to short ..trust me i kno this "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking of judgement ? Thoughts on the first attempt profile write up? Good bad ugly ha

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

So is it only bad judgements you don't like or if somebody uses their judgement to decide that you're great people that's bad too?

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