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Weekend meets..are they really that difficult for some?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We work during the week so really only play at weekends. Our profile says so too. So why do so many single guys message us for 'mid-week daytime fun'? We're pretty non-judgemental and try to avoid categorising folk as 'time-wasters' but seriously guys, two or three messages in before you say you can't do weekends? A tad frustrating.

Any other weekend fabbers have this happening? Never seems to be an issue with couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be the mid week daytime requests come from those playing away from home. Or work shifts ?

Or play whilst the children are at school ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single Dad, half of my weekends are spent with my children.

On the weekends that I don't see them, I occasionally can be found DJing - but not usually throughout the whole weekend.

It would therefore be fair to say that the weekends are my busiest times.

Sometimes I might not know if i'm going to be required for DJing services until during the week beforehand, so sometimes difficult to plan something - for fear of being in a position of having to cancel.

I therefore prefer to wait until I know if i'm free before posting up a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a couple , and find it impossible to get a sitter for weekends . So we only play week nights . Lots of single guys have their kids at weekends and this could explain their predicament ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a genuine single bloke, who works shifts!, I don't see how weekends would be impossible, I don't get many off but the ones I do could be freed up for playtime. That is unless I had a missus who worked a 9-5. Oh but the majority of my time off is mid week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much easier for me to meet midweek evenings. If I'm playing alone I like to keep my weekends for family time. If I'm meeting with hubby we only meet weekends but that requires a babysitter and military planning, so yes. For some it really is difficult to meet weekends....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

......unless this is a badly disguised "all single guys are time wasting married cheating bastards" type thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea weekends are a nightmare with kids, shifts and normal life coming first

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I work shifts so free weekends are also taken up with friends from real life

Makes things harder because I only like to play at weekends to so patience is required to plan them around work and friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"......unless this is a badly disguised "all single guys are time wasting married cheating bastards" type thread "

Ha ha no not at all. We just don't ever receive similar messages from couples or single women. The responses here are encouraging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......unless this is a badly disguised "all single guys are time wasting married cheating bastards" type thread

Ha ha no not at all. We just don't ever receive similar messages from couples or single women. The responses here are encouraging. "

u get responses off single women? amazin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we meet most of time weekdays as we have two teenaged kids in skool ..weekends is hard aa busy wiv kids etc ..we find as we meet alot of single guys that alot meet daytime to ..not interested why coz we not judgmental ..its none of our buisness ..m.n.m

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some it will be shift work? Others maybe have kids they see at weekends?

Also suspect a large number will be what you probably also suspect.......married n playing away when wife at work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't work weekends so I can meet then I work Mon to Friday 9 to 5pm

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Weekday daytimes only says quicky during lunch break and the wife will never know to me.

The daytime part is the main thing that says it.

Not meeting weekends I can understand like some have said you may have kids, social plans etc.

But if you can't meet weekday evenings, ever. I would wager the likelihood is not being able to explain your absence to your partner.

Unless you work nights of course.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"We work during the week so really only play at weekends. Our profile says so too. So why do so many single guys message us for 'mid-week daytime fun'? We're pretty non-judgemental and try to avoid categorising folk as 'time-wasters' but seriously guys, two or three messages in before you say you can't do weekends? A tad frustrating.

Any other weekend fabbers have this happening? Never seems to be an issue with couples. "

it can happen to all people... i'll give you an example...

"Our weekend of Fab fun fell foul of a flaky sitter and a flippin work deadline"

wonder where i got that from...... ahem....

i use to work shifts all the time.... not everyone doesn't monday to friday, a lot of people have kids at weekends, events ect.... so it can take planning.... and even then an example like the above can happen.....

if you had been on the receiving end of the example, would you like to have been called a timewaster..... just wondered....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we carnt accom evening for the same reasons we hav kids ..n yes there sumtimes out but they cud come bk n catch us...n try explainin that one to ur innocent children ...untill they move out we only really meet weekdays ..i imagine thats same for all folk be it they couple single or watever .maybe not kids but other stuff work hobbies etc etc..like we say none of our buisness ..if they carnt meet u at ur times then simple dont meet em xx

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Some of us have kids

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

We are only free at weekends too. Also state this on our profile and still get messaged regarding meeting in the week.

Its just that whoever is asking, clearly doesn't read our profile.

That counts for probably 8 out of 10 messages unfortunately...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this the other day..

Usual " wanna meet now? kids all in bed??"

Replied "sorry, not available"

Only to get "why are you online now then??"

EXCUSE ME!!?"

Get messaged all the time until when we put a meet up ... Then its tumble

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We work during the week so really only play at weekends. Our profile says so too. So why do so many single guys message us for 'mid-week daytime fun'? We're pretty non-judgemental and try to avoid categorising folk as 'time-wasters' but seriously guys, two or three messages in before you say you can't do weekends? A tad frustrating.

Any other weekend fabbers have this happening? Never seems to be an issue with couples.

it can happen to all people... i'll give you an example...

"Our weekend of Fab fun fell foul of a flaky sitter and a flippin work deadline"

wonder where i got that from...... ahem....

i use to work shifts all the time.... not everyone doesn't monday to friday, a lot of people have kids at weekends, events ect.... so it can take planning.... and even then an example like the above can happen.....

if you had been on the receiving end of the example, would you like to have been called a timewaster..... just wondered...."

We don't have issues with cancellations. Life happens. Our status demonstrates this.

Our issue was the disproportionate amount of single guys wanting day meets but only making that clear after several messages (our profile says weekend meets etc.) However, responses here do give us a clearer understanding of why this may happen.

Thanks all for the replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your profile says only weekend meets then its that old chestnut they don't read your profile, its not unusual in these parts

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By *asyukMan
over a year ago

West London

I am a cheating bastard but not a time waster. I'd never pretend that I could meet ona wweekend but if we get on I'd want to know if I was worth a day off for a daytime rendezvous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We work during the week so really only play at weekends. Our profile says so too. So why do so many single guys message us for 'mid-week daytime fun'? We're pretty non-judgemental and try to avoid categorising folk as 'time-wasters' but seriously guys, two or three messages in before you say you can't do weekends? A tad frustrating.

Any other weekend fabbers have this happening? Never seems to be an issue with couples. "

Cause their wives wonder where they are on the weekends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

24 -7 - for me

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