FabSwingers.com forum: Jumping through hoops (for a meet)

By *laction man OP Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I was talking to a couple on here a while back and they said before we meet we would have to:

Chat on Fabs, if that went well

Chat on Kik, if that went well

Chat on Skype, if that went well

Chat on the phone, if that went well

Then I would book a hotel close to them which I would pay for.

I wasn't happy with it but they said it's the normal procedure.

I know couples have to be safe and they have their pick of guys but am I the only one who thinks this is a bit too much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was talking to a couple on here a while back and they said before we meet we would have to:

Chat on Fabs, if that went well

Chat on Kik, if that went well

Chat on Skype, if that went well

Chat on the phone, if that went well

Then I would book a hotel close to them which I would pay for.

I wasn't happy with it but they said it's the normal procedure.

I know couples have to be safe and they have their pick of guys but am I the only one who thinks this is a bit too much? "

That's an absolute joke !

Normal procedure for some maybe , but bollocks to all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I feel it's a tad overboard but if it's suits them & not you then I would move on, plenty more couples to choose from.

and unless you are staying in the room overnight regardless and they're just visiting then the part about you paying for the room is taking the piss.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We do chat on here, sometimes chat on kik, decide we like each other and arrange to meet, if it's at a hotel we would pay half - normal practice for us

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Quick text, maybe a phone call, is all that is needed. I do hope you told them to get lost OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is very over fussy and sounds like they don't actually want to go through with it. Making it almost impossible to get through the defences.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We wouldn't want to do all that but we understand that everyone has an approach and way that works for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was talking to a couple on here a while back and they said before we meet we would have to:

Chat on Fabs, if that went well

Chat on Kik, if that went well

Chat on Skype, if that went well

Chat on the phone, if that went well

Then I would book a hotel close to them which I would pay for.

I wasn't happy with it but they said it's the normal procedure.

I know couples have to be safe and they have their pick of guys but am I the only one who thinks this is a bit too much? "

fuck that

message cam chat throgh the chatroom veri the person by phone and meet

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By *orkieLassCouple
over a year ago

York

Awww I thinking of hooler hoops!!

Contenderrrr READYYY!!

Winner gets a rough stuffing

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

There is no way I would do all of that and I certainly would be booking and paying for hotel either! Move on to the next profile

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"There is no way I would do all of that and I certainly would be booking and paying for hotel either! Move on to the next profile

*not

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

sounds crazy to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why can't they pay half for the hotel?

And why does it have to be near them?

Tell them to sod off.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Did you do it then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't they pay half for the hotel?

And why does it have to be near them?

Tell them to sod off."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just had a similar thing!

Chat on here, then on KIK, provide pictures!

And low and behold as soon as I did, they're not interested and have blocked me!

So now i'm expecting some guy to be using my pictures to claim as his own....Great!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Seems a bit ott!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (her) think that's taking the mick, to be polite. I wouldn't have done it on my single profile either. We chat on here a bit but would arrange a social first or to meet at a club. If we get on the arrangements depend on availability and distances not on what someone will do for us.

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By *helsea 22Woman
over a year ago

barnsley

"Why can't they pay half for the hotel?

And why does it have to be near them?

Tell them to sod off."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey thats abit OTT

We all have a hoop or two to jump through mines simple chat here and turn up at a party I'm at, see how we get on no obligation

even if local sod all that arrange to meet at cafe through chatting here, not into kik calls webcam, as don't happen often I prefer that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt they were holding a gun to your head.if they want someone to go to such lengths to meet them,then good luck to them,but no one is forced to meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its way to much, all it takes really is 5 msgs then a shag lol

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Way to OTT. Chat in here, via phone or cam if both agree meet up for a drink or more.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I just had a similar thing!

Chat on here, then on KIK, provide pictures!

And low and behold as soon as I did, they're not interested and have blocked me!

So now i'm expecting some guy to be using my pictures to claim as his own....Great! "

It's more likely that on getting the picture they decided that you weren't right for them

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By *um N CockCouple
over a year ago

Whitchurch

Too much, I think it's there way of keeping you hanging on and if you are willing to do what they say, if you are then u will do as they say in the room.

We message, possible tex and or phoe then meet, if it happens it happens but nothing like that.

Some people take the piss.

Xxx

Happy swinging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just had a similar thing!

Chat on here, then on KIK, provide pictures!

And low and behold as soon as I did, they're not interested and have blocked me!

So now i'm expecting some guy to be using my pictures to claim as his own....Great!

It's more likely that on getting the picture they decided that you weren't right for them

I hope that's the case, but just don't know why they immediately blocked me. Just makes me suspicious as a while ago I found my pictures had been used elsewhere, so stopped sending them.

Lets hope i'm just over thinking it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming they were genuine from the start. I'd say here is my number. 0121 do one. My hand comes free and with less hastle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I feel it's a tad overboard but if it's suits them & not you then I would move on, plenty more couples to choose from.

and unless you are staying in the room overnight regardless and they're just visiting then the part about you paying for the room is taking the piss."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's way over the top.

I'd have told them to jog on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its not for you OP and you feel your jumping through hoops then move on...no ones forcing you to meet them.We all have are own ways of meeting people, getting to know them, what's good for one may not be for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be surprised that they get any.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Quick text, maybe a phone call, is all that is needed. I do hope you told them to get lost OP."

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I am surprised you didn't block said couple much earlier; if you went ahead with all those requirements, I am afraid it says a lot about your good self

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

no one ever holds a gun to your head making you do this or that....

if someones procedures are something you are happy with..... walk! simple as...

people can only get away with what people will put up with....

if your self respect is worth a leg over... thats on no one else but yourself......

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Hoops to jump through are only an issue to those wiling to jump.

If you think any 'hoop' is unreasonable?

Don't jump.

Life will go on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was talking to a couple on here a while back and they said before we meet we would have to:

Chat on Fabs, if that went well

Chat on Kik, if that went well

Chat on Skype, if that went well

Chat on the phone, if that went well

Then I would book a hotel close to them which I would pay for.

I wasn't happy with it but they said it's the normal procedure.

I know couples have to be safe and they have their pick of guys but am I the only one who thinks this is a bit too much? "

they've forgotten the bit were you also pay for drinks and a meal

haha

Some people demand way too much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought we were picky (chat for a while on here) then social meet, that just seems ott. I thought you split the cost of the room unless we are staying over night. Also if we are the invitees we would probably pay. Good luck and hope things get easier for you

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Each to their own. If they feel they need all that it's really up to them.

I would have just said no thanks.

The whole I'm here for my fun and not yours goes both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I feel it's a tad overboard but if it's suits them & not you then I would move on, plenty more couples to choose from.

and unless you are staying in the room overnight regardless and they're just visiting then the part about you paying for the room is taking the piss."

This.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Well get this, yesterday we were asked to send a video audition before a meet!

The person had already seen both of us playing on cam in the chat rooms, but because we were actually fucking on the bit that she saw she wanted us to email her a video

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

*weren't actually fucking

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Too much. I'd have lost interest long before that...

I prefer my chunks, I'll not fight for scraps.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"Why can't they pay half for the hotel?

And why does it have to be near them?

Tell them to sod off."

This is the kind of crap a lot of single guys go through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A chat is a chat - don't need to chat on every system going!

We ask the guys to book the hotel to eliminate time wasters, but we always pay half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not that fussy compared to a lot of couples insane requirements....

'looking for a tall but short guy, a slight leg length discrepancy, hairy but bald, an earing in the left ear of the queens face, a tattoo on his ankle of a beheaded racoon and who is willing to be stabbed frequently during foreplay.....'

You'd think most worked for the MI5 ffs!

Never part with money for a shag though dude, that's not really swinging is it.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol that is way over the top! We swap face pics to check everyone is attracted to each other and then skype just for quick chat to prove who we all say we are. Arrange a meet when we are all free and if a hotel is needed then would always split the bill or if we intended to stay for the rest of the night pay our selves. I know every one different but sorry their demands are ridiculous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol that is way over the top! We swap face pics to check everyone is attracted to each other and then skype just for quick chat to prove who we all say we are. Arrange a meet when we are all free and if a hotel is needed then would always split the bill or if we intended to stay for the rest of the night pay our selves. I know every one different but sorry their demands are ridiculous! "

That's more like it!

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Surely tho if someone is that overly demanding then they are only going to end up with those people who are utterly desperate for a meet...... And therefore probably not the quality end of the marketplace....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't want to meet me, I don't want to meet them, and if they expect me to pay, they are out of luck, happy to put myself out for the right lady, but it has to be a two way thing. I'm randy, not desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clowns...

Why not start uploading CVs...fish4fucks.com

This site to 'many' is a sex site, arrange a meet with likeminded people,

Meet up

Fuck good!

Move on with mutual respect...

SO many people take it WAY too seriously...i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Write back NEXT

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat on here exchange face pics then meet up for social drink.

If I really fancy them while we are at the social drink and we click and get on then it's back to mine for a shag then move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Write back NEXT

Her"

Hahah, include a detailed Itinerary of the nights events...

7pm: I knock on your door with a medium weight tap.

7:01pm you answer the door

7:02 after a polite and discreet hello, I enter your premises...

Pah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was talking to a couple on here a while back and they said before we meet we would have to:

Chat on Fabs, if that went well

Chat on Kik, if that went well

Chat on Skype, if that went well

Chat on the phone, if that went well

Then I would book a hotel close to them which I would pay for.

I wasn't happy with it but they said it's the normal procedure.

I know couples have to be safe and they have their pick of guys but am I the only one who thinks this is a bit too much? "

This is why we have one rule regarding when/where/how we meet.

We only meet at Eureka and that's our only stipulation. If either party decides they don't like the other then it's easy to move on and still have a good time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely tho if someone is that overly demanding then they are only going to end up with those people who are utterly desperate for a meet...... And therefore probably not the quality end of the marketplace.... "

Great point!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Write back NEXT

Her

Hahah, include a detailed Itinerary of the nights events...

7pm: I knock on your door with a medium weight tap.

7:01pm you answer the door

7:02 after a polite and discreet hello, I enter your premises...

Pah!"

Class lol

Her

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Sounds like too much faff...

I tend to double book anyway - you never know yr luck

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

You have a choice

Don't do what you don't wanna do

Simples

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

My choice, I have stopped meeting anyone off fab; unless its folk I have met before, no more hoop jumping for me !

But it happens, a lot !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My choice, I have stopped meeting anyone off fab; unless its folk I have met before, no more hoop jumping for me !

But it happens, a lot !! "

Damn - I have read your profile a couple of times, my hubby approves of it too - was just toying with the idea of messaging you with a view to text, then phone chat then social, then ......who knows what fun we could have had????

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By *ob55Man
over a year ago

PE13

Chatting to a couple yesterday, they wanted to meet at a hotel near them this week or never, they say in their profile they can accommodate, the hotel is in Wakefield I'm in Hull.

They asked me to book the hotel, then she explained she was bringing her hubby and her f/b but I also had to bring a gift as well a particular vibrator which she would let me watch her use it.

They have been on Fab a couple of weeks with no Veri's, then when I told them to find another desperate sod they accused me of getting cold feet

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

I was talking to a couple on here a while back and they said before we meet we would have to:

Chat on Fabs, if that went well

We will do that as long as it is limited to a few messages not days or weeks of messaging.

"Chat on Kik, if that went well

Chat on Skype, if that went well "

No never forget it lifes too short.

"Chat on the phone, if that went well "

In a few rare cases

"Then I would book a hotel close to them which I would pay for.

I wasn't happy with it but they said it's the normal procedure. "

We won't do hotel meets anymore too many dreamers use hotels.

"I know couples have to be safe and they have their pick of guys but am I the only one who thinks this is a bit too much? "

They were just trying it on, possibly getting a kick out of how desperate you were to jump through hoops.

In most circumstance we expect to have arranged a meet within 5 messages.

We are adults who are here to play not to spend hours on the computer/phone messaging etc., like a love lorn adolescent.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

People can demand whatever they like. If it doesn't suit me...next...and the world continues to turn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is exactly my thoughts on it too. I really wouldn't be interested in a guy that was keen to do anything I requested for sex.

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