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By *oungwildandfree1992 OP   Man
over a year ago

gravesend

im new to this site only been here for about 2/3 weeks, ive inboxed a number of ladies and my msgs just get deleted? im not a pushy person at all, and I always write a decent msg, ive never just put "wanna fuck" etc and I always send a face pic with my msgs. is there something im doing wrong here haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By your own admission, you've only been here for two weeks.

What exactly were you expecting?

That you'd be fighting them off with a stick?

Sorry to be the one to burst your bubble, but instashag.com this is not.

Single guys outnumber the ladies by around 10 to 1 on fab.

You'll find that most single guys wait around six months to get their first meet.

Your thread title pretty much invites a response along the lines of 'yes they do, they just don't want to meet you'

What you need to understand is that ladies, couples, and even us fellas need to find someone attractive in order to want to have sex with them.

I would suggest that so far, you haven't appealed to anyone yet.

You also need to consider that many will look at your profile before opening your message. Your profile has no public pictures on display, and this single fact alone may have many heading straight for the delete button without even opening your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's plenty of ladies that wanna meet, they just don't wanna meet you.

Patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May get lynched for this .. but age is also a factor x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't like the phrase "I'm not going to lie...." you use it twice and it suggests to me that you lie about other things???? if you were in my preferred age group that would put me off alot m x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

not going to lie... ladies on here do meet.

Look at your profile, are you really putting yourself across in the best light?

It requires patience.

Men are outnumbered on here, so you are never going to be fighting them off with a stick... but do what you can to make your profile the best it can be.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"There's plenty of ladies that wanna meet, they just don't wanna meet you "

Yet. Take time. Get to meets and socials. Be genuine. Be funny. Have a massive willy. Build a group of friends on the forums

Then find out that most ladies on here have a son your age and find out it was all for naught.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

There are loads of women who do meet, but it depends on many variables. It could be something on your profile that they didn't like, could be your age, or just that there are loads of single guys to choose from. You've only been on here for a very short time. It can take weeks or even months before meeting someone and that maybe just a social. A lot of people will just look at the profile first before reading the message. Take a look at your profile and see how you can stand out from the crowd. A forum search on similar topic may help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"May get lynched for this .. but age is also a factor x"

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

You're fairly new here so just have some patience, have fun pootling around the forums and enjoy the ride (until you get one)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also you've got no public pics, that's not doing you any favours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon men outnumber women 20-1 if not higher so make sure you stand out in a crowd, sell yourself but not in a crude way and open convos with something interesting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20:1 daddydom is that based on experience? m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting a phone number in as 1st opening message isnt good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been here two weeks. Please tell me what where your expectations for being here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"20:1 daddydom is that based on experience? m x "

Add a few more

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

When did this happen ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do wonder what peoples expectation are when they join

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos the site is saturated with men lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm not going to lie I wouldn't meet you for many reasons. Too young. No pics. Can't accommodate. Someone will though eventually....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im new to this site only been here for about 2/3 weeks, ive inboxed a number of ladies and my msgs just get deleted? im not a pushy person at all, and I always write a decent msg, ive never just put "wanna fuck" etc and I always send a face pic with my msgs. is there something im doing wrong here haha "

No just keep being nice and good things will come to you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is a sausage fest. Especially here in the states. More like a 100:1 ratio between men and women.

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By *aguarxfsCouple
over a year ago

Fleet

You should try a dating site or sex dating site... without being rude you are man looking for woman... swingers are more about couples who want to indulge and explore their boundaries.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"You should try a dating site or sex dating site... without being rude you are man looking for woman... swingers are more about couples who want to indulge and explore their boundaries."

Most of my sex meets are from couples wanting to try 3sums or repeats meets so being a single guy on here, once ones niche is found, can be a lot of fun.

Saying that, a top notch profile and messaging goes a long way.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"You should try a dating site or sex dating site... without being rude you are man looking for woman... swingers are more about couples who want to indulge and explore their boundaries."

Examples of which are..?

I think this is the only genuine place to meet people of our mindset. But happy to be disproved on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pics on profile = cico click in, click out.

You have more but require people to ask. Not many will ask, if any. We've found when we've had to ask for pics it's never been worth the bother, then there's the awkward part of telling someone you don't find them attractive. Rather see an attraction on the profile before replying to a message. As some have said many look at the profile before even opening the message and if it's an instant no, delete the message without looking.

Yours is an instant no as it stands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all honesty i havent read the responses yet .. im straight forward .. no luck yet .. i figure whether youre outright or diplomatic .. chances are the other person will either respond or not .. 1

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham


"I do wonder what peoples expectation are when they join "

They see ads for hookup sites on Internet porn saying 'horny moms, just message to fuck' and assume that's what this site is like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what peoples expectation are when they join

They see ads for hookup sites on Internet porn saying 'horny moms, just message to fuck' and assume that's what this site is like."
its not??? Right that's it profile deleted!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what peoples expectation are when they join

They see ads for hookup sites on Internet porn saying 'horny moms, just message to fuck' and assume that's what this site is like.its not??? Right that's it profile deleted!!!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should try a dating site or sex dating site... without being rude you are man looking for woman... swingers are more about couples who want to indulge and explore their boundaries."
So how about women who uses this as a sex site? I forgot its ok for them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine most people joined with the expectation that it's instashag. I'm surprised that people roll that one out. Most blokes have learnt that it's not the case but those joining new will think that. And swinging has evolved beyond couples. Bored of seeing that now too.

Back on point. Op public pics or your unlikely to get anywhere. Have patience. Contribute in the forums. Be polite and courageous when messaging. Good luck.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"You should try a dating site or sex dating site... without being rude you are man looking for woman... swingers are more about couples who want to indulge and explore their boundaries.So how about women who uses this as a sex site? I forgot its ok for them lol "

to be fair they didnt say all about swingers.

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By *aguarxfsCouple
over a year ago

Fleet

we wish you well with your quest... I would take the advise listed here tho... a few photos and a better articulated profile might help... but single males are plenty compared to the availability of single women... so patience and politeness are key...

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