FabSwingers.com forum: winks

By *rShinyKnickers OP Man
over a year ago

BARRY

I'm just curious. I'm browsing profiles and I was wondering why some people seem SO against winks! Even to the point of saying they'll block people who wink at them!!!

I get that a message is better, and some may see winks as being lazy, but are winks *really* that offensive?

I personally don't mind them, it's a nice easy way of seeing someone's profile if they like me!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

You called?

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By *rShinyKnickers OP Man
over a year ago

BARRY

HAHAH!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No drama here...i am a fan of the wink

(not the poster above!!!

....sorry!!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks don't bother me one way or another but must admit o.rarely look.at them

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By *rShinyKnickers OP Man
over a year ago

BARRY

I just find it hard to understand why some peeps are so aggressive towards them? I mean, were they abused by a rogue winker in the past or something?!?!?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Not offensive at all, just too many to deal with so bulk deleted. Messages, on the other hand, are answered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cant be bothered to check them when im not meeting like friends requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No biggie. Flattering to receive. Fun to send as a nod to a nice profile or if we fancy the person/s

Some folk get waaaaaaaaaay too wound up over something that's for the most part, just a bit of fun

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By *rShinyKnickers OP Man
over a year ago

BARRY

"No biggie. Flattering to receive. Fun to send as a nod to a nice profile or if we fancy the person/s

Some folk get waaaaaaaaaay too wound up over something that's for the most part, just a bit of fun"

this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree, love a wink.... I see it more like a gentle way of saying hi. If one is returned then always follow up with a message...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes send a wink if I like the profile but I don't really wink that often as quite a few profiles are against them

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Winks confuse me, like are you winking because your just saying hi or you want a return message as you are shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sometimes send a wink if I like the profile but I don't really wink that often as quite a few profiles are against them "

I use that as a filter. Someone that gets so wound up over a wink is not going to be the sort of person I could imagine wanting to spend time with. I'm here as a way of having fun and relaxing.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We personally don't mind winks, it's just a way of saying "we'd be interested if you are".... If the winker's profile doesn't appeal we just ignore them. On the other hand, we will always reply to a message. Plus... We've had messages before which have peaked our interest when their profile hadn't. If these people had winked, they would have missed out.

Cal

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"I sometimes send a wink if I like the profile but I don't really wink that often as quite a few profiles are against them

I use that as a filter. Someone that gets so wound up over a wink is not going to be the sort of person I could imagine wanting to spend time with. I'm here as a way of having fun and relaxing."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sometimes send a wink if I like the profile but I don't really wink that often as quite a few profiles are against them

I use that as a filter. Someone that gets so wound up over a wink is not going to be the sort of person I could imagine wanting to spend time with. I'm here as a way of having fun and relaxing."

Those types of profiles do put me off somewhat aswell as they seem way too over the top serious, I like the fun side and mutual humour, conversation and sometimes flirting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to use them in situations where I have difficulty finding the words to put in a message.

For example if a profile has very little in it.

There might be something within their limited profile that has got my attention, but if there are no profiles and/or about one line of text, there isn't much to go on and so they might get a wink. If they wink back, I might message them asking for more info, pictures etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just curious. I'm browsing profiles and I was wondering why some people seem SO against winks! Even to the point of saying they'll block people who wink at them!!!

I get that a message is better, and some may see winks as being lazy, but are winks *really* that offensive?

I personally don't mind them, it's a nice easy way of seeing someone's profile if they like me!"

I'm with you on this, I like to receive a wink every now and then (not that it happens very often)

I can sort of understand some people thinking its lazy but yeah, an instant block just because someone winked does seem a little OTT but it's their prerogative of course!

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By *rShinyKnickers OP Man
over a year ago

BARRY

Sorry...I meant "wank"....

(Way to hijack my own thread...)

But on a serious note; some very interesting responses. I'd be happy to see someone who IS completely against winking put their two penneth in, also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find a wink is very flattering and it can help to break the ice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the difference is that women, couples, TV/CD's get loads and delete them. Men get few and appreciate them. So due to guys liking them when they get them they presume a good initial communication tool (icebreaker), other don't use as they are flooded so presume others delete also.

It's a self perpetuating triangle

Personally I like and use them..... but I'm a bloke

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I like winks don't way people get annoyed about them ,you can just ignore them if you want .

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

A good wink when the fancy takes is always welcomed around these parts.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

There's no harm in a wink

Like a gentle tip of the hat in the old days

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I bulk delete them and very rarely pay attention to them.

If people would like my attention, then they can message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on my profile that I ignore them but still Women wink me,

Read the profile!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We don't look at them, we sometimes look at people who have fabbed pics but if either of those wanted to actually speak to us they would message so I guess they are just 'like your pics or profile' people

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

We always look at our winks but prefer a message.... But must admit if we see a nice profile will send a wink ... Especially if we think we are looking out of our league and want to test the water

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always look at our winks but prefer a message.... But must admit if we see a nice profile will send a wink ... Especially if we think we are looking out of our league and want to test the water"

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By *rShinyKnickers OP Man
over a year ago

BARRY

"We always look at our winks but prefer a message.... But must admit if we see a nice profile will send a wink ... Especially if we think we are looking out of our league and want to test the water

Again..this!!!!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I'm happy to receive a wink... Although I never intentionally send winks, I've always thoughy if a profile interests me enough to contact them the small investment in time it takes to draft a message is an investment I'm prepared to meke

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