FabSwingers.com forum: What have you learned since joining Fab?

By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

Similar to my previous question I know, but with the subtle difference of not being what you learned about yourself, the last two words being key to the last similar thread, but lessons learned in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Similar to my previous question I know, but with the subtle difference of not being what you learned about yourself, the last two words being key to the last similar thread, but lessons learned in general.

That in some things I'm quite conservative even though all the people who know me would think me very broad minded x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is similar to the real world for me, The Women I like have no interest in me as I get the same reactions,

But in general there are some intelligent people on fab I learn something new every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is similar to the real world for me, The Women I like have no interest in me as I get the same reactions,

But in general there are some intelligent people on fab I learn something new every day

That there are some very judgemental people on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That you could be on here for a long time without even a wank Sorry wink ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have learned that this site is for swingers/ mainly couple ( only because there are loads of couples looking for fun ) and a few guys ! On the down side there are females who want to be paid for services .yes we report them but dosnt stop them !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I'm stunning untill I say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I went on a business course last year......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing, apart from everything that I didn't know already.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

*Don't* talk about drugs...

Like that'll stop me :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Av found out how quick people get upset if the thread they post doesn't get the response or sympathy they are looking for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I'm stunning untill I say no thanks

Ha! This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That every man on here turns into a salesman...each woman they speak to is the most beautiful, sexy, clever etc....until they meet the next woman!!!

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

That's it's full of wasters, like 99%

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

That even on a seemingly shitty day where you feel down there is always a lovely sometimes stranger out there who can put a smile back on your face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That i most definitely suffer from the curse of the single male lol

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

That people who seem confident on the outside may still actually be nervous on the inside, then again they could be a genuine good laugh and fun to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That even on a seemingly shitty day where you feel down there is always a lovely sometimes stranger out there who can put a smile back on your face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That if it looks too good to be true it usually is.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

that lotsa guys like trannys

lotsa guys like wearing ladies clothes and that most on here are all talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be careful what you wish for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That Geography is my curse. But I already knew this really

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Lincoln has very little to offer, in almost every way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive learnt that you have to put yourself out there in the scene to make the most use on fab. for eg go out to clubs, go dogging etc then you will meet people, build friendships and then you will get meets and verifications. people dont tend to trust people without seeing them in the flesh first. i use fab to stay in touch with the people i meet in person not use fab to meet people. dont get me wrong plenty of people meet on fab but in my expierience they only meet if your a couple/single female or have a VWE cock.

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By *ztec101Man
over a year ago

durham

Only that I'm a sad bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That even for a fatty I'm.awesome in bed...or against a wall or.tree or.......

Oh.and that with a bit of help I can work through my bucket list.... Even if I do seem to add 2 for every 1 I cross off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's better than the tele.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

My perception of myself is worse than others perception of me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The person u want is always miles from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tact and persistence pays and be myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That the conundrum exists that some people continue to value monogamy very highly even though the regularly have sex with others.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

That I am apparently a lot more attractive to both men and women than I thought I was. The 30-odd thousand fabs I have been given have done a lot to boost my confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I am apparently a lot more attractive to both men and women than I thought I was. The 30-odd thousand fabs I have been given have done a lot to boost my confidence."

You do have some of the best/classiest pictures on here

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By *exyangietgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

How to spot timewasters and fantasists fairly quickly! XX

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"That I am apparently a lot more attractive to both men and women than I thought I was. The 30-odd thousand fabs I have been given have done a lot to boost my confidence.

You do have some of the best/classiest pictures on here

Thank you very much

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

to spot potential drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That humour, mild sarcasm and being polite pays dividends and that many younger guys with six packs and attitude whine incessantly about not getting laid and make my day.

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By *rGoodTimeNowMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I have learned that women that complain about being stood up, insulted and generally abused don't even open the messages of men that wouldn't do any of those things

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By *rShinyKnickersMan
over a year ago

BARRY

That some poeple scare REALLY easily and aren't as liberal in their sexual interests as they say they are...

Lately, I blame 50 Shades of Shite for this...

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

That some people REALLY dont take rejection very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that I REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY LOVE SEX!!

Shocking isn't it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That some people REALLY dont take rejection very well

Haha totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dick is a lot bigger than most!

I thought I was average before joining here lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take everything with a very large pinch of salt and trust no one lol

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

"That some people REALLY dont take rejection very well

Haha totally agree with this

oh so you've noticed that too lol

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I'm gifted at pissing people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That some people REALLY dont take rejection very well

Haha totally agree with this

oh so you've noticed that too lol"

Oh yes got quite a bit of verbal last week for saying no thankyou

Surprising how a grown arsed man can act do childish lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have learned that women that complain about being stood up, insulted and generally abused don't even open the messages of men that wouldn't do any of those things

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By *rGoodTimeNowMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

[Removed by poster at 05/06/15 13:19:13]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That microwaves and lightbulbs don't mix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That whatever I put in my profile to either attract the right people or deter those I do not intend to meet makes little difference as many of those who contact me have evidently not read it.

The men I have had the best fun with were neither supremely handsome or well endowed so I have learned that looks are not everything (well I knew that already but fab has confirmed it)

That people can be very quick to judge and dismiss others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That with a woman who appreciates me for who I am and look like ? I have the confidence to excite her and make her feel hopefully the best she possibly can?

And with her have fun with other couples ? Something you hope for but never dreamt would happen !

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Had given up on finding romantic guys

FaB has loads, not just booty calls.

Single guys have such a harsh time here.

Have had my sexual adventures taken to new levels

Also the hate from some types of people,

will go unchecked and when you take action you get cyber jail.

Found myself along the way, as brain changes take hold. because of HRT,FaB has been a useful tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That it's easier for married men to get laid in real life with a fit girl than it is to get a reply off a plain girl on a swinger site lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a naughtier lil shit than I first thought

Although still yet to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That it's easier for married men to get laid in real life with a fit girl than it is to get a reply off a plain girl on a swinger site lol "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a naughtier lil shit than I first thought

Although still yet to meet

Wish you were closer!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timewasters and people can't take rejection very well get very abusive on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot more weird people in the world than I thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt that no one local messages,likes,winks or bloody shows any interest in me at all but the people that live miles ( and I mean miles) away like me and always say "if only you lived closer"...... Pattern forming here in the game they call Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt how to have confidence in myself and my image, I maybe a size 20/22 but I am confident in my skin! I've learnt how to take insults with a pinch of salt (the block button is a godsend

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I've also learnt that most of the blokes I've met / talked to & also played with like me for who I am and they wouldn't meet me if they didn't like my body !!

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

That people who swing aren't so liberal and open minded as I thought.

That there are a lot of deluded people on Fab...

That its a good source of comic relief!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a naughtier lil shit than I first thought

Although still yet to meet

Wish you were closer!!!

So do I,

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By *oon-lightWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Nice to be nice and honest and genuine and know what u want x so much easier to play and have fun x I always say it as it is for me x that's what works for me I've learnt x

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

Putting to one side the usual drivel from single guys who can't get meets, this has been most interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting to one side the usual drivel from single guys who can't get meets, this has been most interesting."

It's not about can't, some of us are just more choosier than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I'm way more reasonable, calm & sane than I thought.

also learnt about Magic Powder, Beppy tampons & Active8 gel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are desperate for sex and women and not. I have come to this conclusion based on the fact that there are many more male profiles than female and that many female profiles are actually men pretending to be women for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman, I pretty much have the pick

Also when contacted by couples, most expect you to address them as a couple but only have pics of the woman on their profile???? Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too true, lots of posts but few meets and sulky people who block you. Being my age is great but there are a few on here that won't meet but when you are in the club with them it's a different matter. Having fun though but not chat savvy, too many clicks people.

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield

That you can get blocked by so called friends after years of chattin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single woman, I pretty much have the pick

Also when contacted by couples, most expect you to address them as a couple but only have pics of the woman on their profile???? Why? "

We looked through about 50 couple profiles the other night and apart from the odd glimpse of a cock there was not a single photo of the guy. Spent about an hour looking and didn't find a single couple we felt we wanted to message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting to one side the usual drivel from single guys who can't get meets"

Not sure if this was a reference to my (he) point of finding it easier to get laid by fit girls in reality than get ignored by plain girls on here. If so, what I posted is a literal truth. I have girls in real life that would totally blow out the water anything I've seen here so far, got a date with one on Wednesday.

Anyway we neither want nor need the OPs blessing, just clarifying the point, I fully get where letsdothis500 is coming from.

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

That clubs are bloody brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To take everything that's said with a very large dose of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work far too much, easily persuaded to work extra shifts in my second job so end up too knackered to do anything on my only day off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt that people say the weirdest shit!

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By *horleytwoCouple
over a year ago

chorley

We have learnt verifications, even lots of glowing ones does not necessary make a genuine swinger....

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

"Putting to one side the usual drivel from single guys who can't get meets

Anyway we neither want nor need the OPs blessing, just clarifying the point, I fully get where letsdothis500 is coming from.

My comment was not directed at your post at all.

I am just interested in the messages and am not here to confer any blessing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Putting to one side the usual drivel from single guys who can't get meets, this has been most interesting.

It's not about can't, some of us are just more choosier than others

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Putting to one side the usual drivel from single guys who can't get meets

Anyway we neither want nor need the OPs blessing, just clarifying the point, I fully get where letsdothis500 is coming from.

The criteria applied to meeting someone from this site is probably different to that applied in real life since in real life there aren't generally hundreds of men to choose from. It's a buyer's market.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"To take everything that's said with a very large dose of salt

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By *cd and scruffCouple
over a year ago

Rochester

loads of guys prefer the idea of playing to actually turning up and playing.

it doesn't matter what you write in your profile coz most don't read it.

even with just an avatar photo we get messages saying ' you are gorgeous'

everybody assumes it is a female in the avatar. (could be, may not.)

how many straight guys are bi

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By *ordonBennett OP Man
over a year ago

dover

"Putting to one side the usual drivel from single guys who can't get meets, this has been most interesting.

It's not about can't, some of us are just more choosier than others

Good for you.

But then choosy men don't tend to whine about not getting meets as they're too busy deciding which woman or couple to meet, so I was clearly not referring to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The criteria applied to meeting someone from this site is probably different to that applied in real life since in real life there aren't generally hundreds of men to choose from. It's a buyer's market."

That's a fair point, but also the reality is that there are hundreds of ashtrays and very few vases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I'm not that lucky.

I need to lose weight and age

I'm too old

I'm too young

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key and read people's profiles.. Some people can be ignorant but who isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key and read people's profiles.. Some people can be ignorant but who isn't. "

These days**

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

that ive got a lovely bum , cock and legs and that straight guys occasionally love cock to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience is the key and read people's profiles.. Some people can be ignorant but who isn't. "
I wish people would read mine before messaging then I wouldn't have to keep pressing delete x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learned there are a lot of strange people on this forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have learned there are a lot of strange people on this forum"
on fab in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To take everything that's said with a very large dose of salt

more than a pinch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learnt that people say the weirdest shit!

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what like

I vwant to buy a hamberger lol

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield

"That I'm not that lucky.

I need to lose weight and age

I'm too old

I'm too young"

What he says lol

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Apparently I'm not as innocent as I look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To have a salt bin with me everytime I log in

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I have learned there are a lot of strange people on this forum"

and more in the rest of fab too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learnt that people say the weirdest shit!

what like

I vwant to buy a hamberger lol"

Ha ha ha ha

You said that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learnt that I haven't yet learnt everything I want to learn about sex and kinkiness!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"I have learnt that I haven't yet learnt everything I want to learn about sex and kinkiness!

this is true mind you do we EVER stop learning (fecking hope not lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that no matter how hard you try it's never enough or its trying to hard lol

But on a serious note I've come to understand that if you don't put yourself out there then it's not going to happen, take risks yourl be surprised where they lead lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That some men put the cringiest, cheesiest shite on forums cos they think it will impress the ladies

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By *rGoodTimeNowMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"that ive got a lovely bum , cock and legs and that straight guys occasionally love cock to "

Straight Guys never love cock haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wot have I learnt ?

It's full of let downs + losers

& lie ers

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By *rGoodTimeNowMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

That a woman on Fab, who has false teeth (which she has lost), prison tattoos and lives in a hostel is a desired person on Fab (yes for real). Cant imagine what it's like for the even average looking woman it has nade me realise not to expect it to come ro much and have a laugh with the decent people you do actually chat. The ratios are all out so guys dont be bathing with an electric fire because of knock backs

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By *000_6ftMan
over a year ago

Norwich

1, some people take this site far too seriously. Don't bother contacting those who do take this site seriously.

2, those with a shopping list of likes and dislikes have no hope of find someone on here. Those without any likes or dislikes will find any one on here.

3, there are a lot of webcams that don't work

4, assumptions are always wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That 10 is one tenth of 90+10

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