FabSwingers.com forum: When does a NSA FB become a girlfriend/boyfriend?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've seen a lot of posts from people wanting an NSA regular FB but I'm struggling to understand how this works for very long. I can see how it would work if either party was already in a serious relationship, and you wanted a bit on the side, or a regular partner for the both of you to enjoy, but struggle beyond this.

Surely if two highly sexed people were attracted to one another and having regular meets for sex and social meets an emotional bond would form? Or am I just a bit emotional by not being able to see sex as sex, and an on going relationship as something else?

So, I have two questions:

1) How long have those of you in regular NSA FB arrangement been able to keep it up for?

2) How many of you have fallen for your supposed FB and ended up in a relationship, or been hurt when they try to break it off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope it doesn't have to.

You can just have sex, a bit of banter, fancy them like mad and even like them as a person, and not fall in love with them or lay any claim to being a part of their life at all outside of meets.

I did it for 8 months.

Fell for several fbs on here but got over it just as quick. Sometimes great sex can bond you i agree but you need to realise that you're only in it for the sex and fun and nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When someone says 'fall' to me it means they've fallen in love. If you can fall for someone and then when the relationship ends you get over it just as quick as you fell into it, that's not emotionally falling - like in love.

My opinion anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope it doesn't have to.

You can just have sex, a bit of banter, fancy them like mad and even like them as a person, and not fall in love with them or lay any claim to being a part of their life at all outside of meets.

I did it for 8 months.

Fell for several fbs on here but got over it just as quick. Sometimes great sex can bond you i agree but you need to realise that you're only in it for the sex and fun and nothing more."

Were you mutually exclusive fbs, or playing with others as well? I guess that would also help you get over falling for a fb.

Although I do tend to agree with the other poster about the definition of falling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were you mutually exclusive fbs, or playing with others as well? I guess that would also help you get over falling for a fb.

Although I do tend to agree with the other poster about the definition of falling. "

Had several fuck buds, so no it wasn't exclusive. One guy i didn't want to see anyone else when i was seeing him and he said he thought he'd fallen for me as well, but tbh i didn't want a relationship because i'd only been split from my ex a few months and wasn't over him.

Still not over him tbh so it'd be easy not to fall for anyone else coz my heart belongs to someone else anyway? That might be why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

longest I've met anyone off here for wad a month we met 5 times.in that time then I moved on, it's very rare I do repeat meets so I don't have time to get found of anybody

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Were you mutually exclusive fbs, or playing with others as well? I guess that would also help you get over falling for a fb.

Although I do tend to agree with the other poster about the definition of falling.

Still not over him tbh so it'd be easy not to fall for anyone else coz my heart belongs to someone else anyway? That might be why."

I see, yeah that helps explain it somewhat. Feelings can be hellish at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"longest I've met anyone off here for wad a month we met 5 times.in that time then I moved on, it's very rare I do repeat meets so I don't have time to get found of anybody "

Yeah, I don't think I could do many repeat meets before I got to fond on someone.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I had a FB for 9 years. We enjoyed each others company and the sex was awesome, but we were not suited for a relationship at all, and to be honest relationships spoils friendships and sex for me. Why introduce exclusivity, monogamy, and jealousy when you can have the good bits and spend the rest of your time doing what YOU want to do.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Never - I give the people I like a choice - you can be my friend or you can be a fuck but not both.

That's reserved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) How long have those of you in regular NSA Fab Friend arrangement been able to keep it up for?

7-8 months

2) How many of you have fallen for your supposed FB and ended up in a relationship

Not an issue as that's not what we see each other for.

3) been hurt when they try to break it off?

Try? Things change and when they do I hope I'll be the friend I'm supposed to be and be supportive.

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