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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, I hope some people on here can shed some light on this for me.

Several guys on here have " thrown their toys out of the pram" about me meeting or even chatting to other guys.

We have never discussed being the "only one" and some of them have met others inbetween meets with me so I don't see the issue.

I just find t confusing and a little weird tbh. Has anyone else expereienced this and/or can anyone shed any light on it for me?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I hope some people on here can shed some light on this for me.

Several guys on here have " thrown their toys out of the pram" about me meeting or even chatting to other guys.

We have never discussed being the "only one" and some of them have met others inbetween meets with me so I don't see the issue.

I just find t confusing and a little weird tbh. Has anyone else expereienced this and/or can anyone shed any light on it for me?

Thanks

"

They're players

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"can anyone shed any light on it for me?

"

They're jealous, entitled, dicks.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

Confusing behaviour on FabS?

Surely not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I hope some people on here can shed some light on this for me.

Several guys on here have " thrown their toys out of the pram" about me meeting or even chatting to other guys.

We have never discussed being the "only one" and some of them have met others inbetween meets with me so I don't see the issue.

I just find t confusing and a little weird tbh. Has anyone else expereienced this and/or can anyone shed any light on it for me?

Thanks

"

yeah tell them to do one

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes i've experienced it too ,i'm not sure why they do it as it doesn't seem to stop them having other meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just pure jealousy.

I had a guy have a go at me the other week because I'm looking for single men myself rather than having them come to me. He gave me a whole "if you want to find them yourself why do you do it, why do you have verifications from men if you're not meeting them" rant at me. When I told him I find it easy to find men for myself & that any verifications from men are webcam veris which I didn't ask them to write for me, he blocked me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's just pure jealousy.

I had a guy have a go at me the other week because I'm looking for single men myself rather than having them come to me. He gave me a whole "if you want to find them yourself why do you do it, why do you have verifications from men if you're not meeting them" rant at me. When I told him I find it easy to find men for myself & that any verifications from men are webcam veris which I didn't ask them to write for me, he blocked me!"

This is it!

Its good for men to have veris and not the ladies,

Ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's male privilege rearing its ugly head. I'd ignore them, it's a terrible attitude but some men are just like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think one was definitely just a player. Wanting loads of women to adore him and sit around waiting for him, like his own little harem.

The others were comments when new veris showed on my total. They had been regular meets too!

Only one survived the "why is it an issue" discussion!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

It's honestly not worth the effort of trying to work out what goes through someone else's head.

If it sets off warning bells or doesn't fit with your own methodology or plans - the delete and block buttons are useful tools. They're the best filters on the site and they're permanent.

A

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It's male privilege rearing its ugly head. I'd ignore them, it's a terrible attitude but some men are just like that. "

And plenty of women and couples too!

Being a twat is not gender specific.

A

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"It's male privilege rearing its ugly head. I'd ignore them, it's a terrible attitude but some men are just like that.

And plenty of women and couples too!

Being a twat is not gender specific.

A"

We stop contact with anyone that starts getting stroppy or possessive, no matter how long we have known them. Can't be doing with any of that nonsense

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I had one bloke throw a strop with me because I didn't tell him I was going to Chams on a Saturday night, have no idea why I should have told him as single guys can't go on a Saturday night

I block, he deletes his profile and starts a new one and I get anther stroppy message again. And so the circle continues

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Sounds like a fine collection of arseholes you have assembled, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others said it does sound like a cross between 'right' and jealousy.

Especially when he considers it fine and dandy to meet others but the reverse is not okay for you. Yay double standards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had this twice and theres a lady in this area thats famous for it ...

I don't understand it on a swinging site !

I daren't show my verifications it got that bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never sleep with crazy......simples.

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"Never sleep with crazy......simples. "

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Jealousy is a wasted emotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them straight,I belong to no one,who I fuck is my business. No exclusive relationships and don't tell me how many regular partners I should have. If they don't like it they don't have to stick around.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Tosspottery. The 'I want to keep him/her to myself' veri type. Eurgh.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We had the same with a couple who started to get weirdly possessive and demanding before the planned meet ... They got stroppy because I was browsing on Fab

The meet got cancelled sharpish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Territory marking. I've had it with a couple of ladies before. I find it best to put them straight and then keep clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's male privilege rearing its ugly head. I'd ignore them, it's a terrible attitude but some men are just like that. "

Ouch ..... I've had this from women, learned long ago to hide my veris and friends, it's not exclusively a male problem you know. Jealousy is very ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tell them straight,I belong to no one,who I fuck is my business. No exclusive relationships and don't tell me how many regular partners I should have. If they don't like it they don't have to stick around. "

Here here.

I don't see the issue. Tell these pricks to piss off.

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

They're not swingers, they're idiots.

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By *ohn_d57Man
over a year ago

Bedlington


"So, I hope some people on here can shed some light on this for me.

Several guys on here have " thrown their toys out of the pram" about me meeting or even chatting to other guys.

We have never discussed being the "only one" and some of them have met others inbetween meets with me so I don't see the issue.

I just find t confusing and a little weird tbh. Has anyone else expereienced this and/or can anyone shed any light on it for me?

Thanks

"

yes was talking with a lady on here we were getting on fine arranging a meet then out of the blue she started complaining about how many meets I'd had I asked her what she wanted as it is a swinger site she told me she wanted a F/B but not someone that meets other people

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"It's male privilege rearing its ugly head. I'd ignore them, it's a terrible attitude but some men are just like that.

And plenty of women and couples too!

Being a twat is not gender specific.

A

We stop contact with anyone that starts getting stroppy or possessive, no matter how long we have known them. Can't be doing with any of that nonsense"

Totally.

Very odd behaviour. We've had demands to take down our advertised meet because as they put it 'we're discussing our meet' when barely past the name exchanges. Another got seriously pissed off because we decided to have a break and he was expecting to meet in a months time although nothing had ever been agreed, had to listen about how annoyed he was that we wouldn't be arranging a meet for at least three months. Some folk!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are a single woman with your own life..nothing to do with them.

Still it separates the men from the boys

Her

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

What bit of "swinging" don't they get?

One of the reasons we only play in clubs is that to a large extent it depersonalises swinging. We have no strings fun with whoever we want (and who wants us) and at the the end of the evening simply walk away from it.

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